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writes:im a 29 year old male going to turn 30 next month. i am indian american born and raised in NJ. i have never kissed, dated,..still a virgin. i am not shy when it comes to approaching. i have been approaching women since the age of 18. i have approached all types of woman but still no luck. my friends are in the same boat. they lost there virginity in there teens but cant even get a number. i approach women in malls, food markets, lounge, bar, clubs but nothing. when i turned 26 i decided to start a journal to see what is going on. from 2006 to 2007 i had approached over 600 girls alone in that year. i only got one number, which turned out to be blockbuster. i get compliments on my dressing style all the time so its not that. i dont know if its NJ or is it just me. i get women staring at me, smiling, sometimes there friends tell me that my friend likes you. i introduce myself and next u know, they have a boyfriend. i approach women indirectly, sometimes directly. i am not going to vegas, dont worry. any tips would be appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2009): I'd agree with others...0 for 600...I think it's time to change your approach. You obviously have the confidence to approach women, could it be you're projecting too much (arrogance)?
Try a dating site. If you have female friends, ask them their opinion. And if sex is your primary goal, there are always escorts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2009): A common interest may help. For example,If you enjoy tennis get involved in a group that plays tennis. Or reading, go to the library. On line gaming...perhaps communicate via email and if you seem to click, ask her out. A date doing something you both enjoy may help relax the stress of dating.
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reader, DLover  +, writes (11 July 2009):
75% of people are already matched with someone, so the solution is to go on a dating web site.
0 out of something here too (20 yo). You are projecting failure, not sucess, on them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): why not join a dating site/agency. i believe anything and everything happens there, so maybe you will get lucky? don't you think you are being forceful when you "approach" women. what do you want from these women? sex only? then why not use a prostitute? just be safe, practice safe sex. oh, and don't try to be so desperate when you approach these women, don't try the cliche pick up lines.
but i think your best bet is online dating services. ry them , your singleton day may soon be over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): i am 28 years old female virgin and i never even got my first kiss.so you situations is not so bad.i am lonely too.my ma said i was born old spinster she might be right sad
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reader, madlyinloveandconfused +, writes (1 July 2009):
okay 0/600 is a pretty miserable statistic. i'm sure you're a smart, handsome man, with plenty to offer. i'm indian american myself, so i can commiserate in that often people of other ethnicities don't, 'see us like in that way.' however, since you live in NJ, there are plenty of indian women to choose from, so it should be a bit easier. you just need to stop thinking about you you're unlucky in love, and start being the wonderful person that you are. women appreciate eccentricities in men, more then men think they do. perhaps try joining a dating website? that way you can kind of pick and choose whom you want to attempt a relationship w/, as oppose to being rejected b/c of some bs on the spot excuse. everyone on these sites is there to find someone special, so they are obviously single! good luck!
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (1 July 2009):
 Wow. Whatever you're doing stop doing it. 0/600 is quite a streak. My guess is that subconsciously you are projecting to these ladies that you expect them to reject you and so they will.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): In one year, you approached 600 women, and none of them gave you their number. You may need to re-evaluate an approach that has a 0-from-600 hit rate. Either bite the bullet and visit a prostitute, or embrace some sort of rabid fundamentalist religion that worships virginity as the ultimate virtue. I don't mean to be frivolous. But having made it to the end of your 20's without getting laid (despite wanting to), you neeed to take on board the possibility that your 30's (and 40's 50's etc.) may turn out to be the same. 'Involuntary celibacy'. Look it up. It's an unfortunate but pretty common condition these days, especially among men, in which getting laid is just impossible, no matter how nice you are or how hard you try. There's no reason to believe it's any more common now than it ever was before (it was probably far more common in the past) - but because media, movies, TV etc constantly bombard you with a daily barrage of gorgeous women, and the general implication that everybody on Earth is banging one another's brains out, it's pretty hard to deal with for modern men (and, no doubt, women). With luck, you'll break your drought. But if not, you need to start appreciating all the other things that give you pleasure in life, whether it's music or movies or sport or art or books and all the magic these things have to offer, your relationships with friends and family, the magic of the sunset out your window, etc. Really hope you get laid. But if not, there's more to life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2009): I know how you feel. i am a 27 year old single mom. I guess its because of my kids, but i keep hoping my prince charming will appear. i have no luck so far. so when ever you get an answer please let me know. its not just NJ its NC also. good luck
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