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Am I gay or not?

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Question - (29 May 2010) 12 Answers - (Newest, 3 June 2010)
A male United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I recently questioned that i might be gay so i met up with a guy i met online to see if I enjoyed it. We preformed oral on each other then he preformed anal sex on me. I did cum but am still not sure if I'm gay or not?

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A male reader, AvgGuy1 United States +, writes (3 June 2010):

AvgGuy1 agony auntI would say that you are AT LEAST Bi. Although, if you can't/don't want to have sex with women - at all - then you are most definitely gay.

You're probably feeling very confused and possibly even scared. This is normal, especially for first experiences. In order to become more comfortable with yourself and the person (doesn't have to be a guy, if you're Bi) you should spend more time with your prospective connections. Get to know them... THEN become intimate (physically) with them. Additionally the more you are intimate with them the more comfortable you will become.

Good Luck.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010):

you performed oral on another man . yea your gay and dont keep second guessing yourself. if you enjoyed it with a man than thats maybe what you should continue doing.. choose which sex best suits you then stick to it. but if i may say if you wondered if your gay, then decided, than acted on it freely and relaxed :oral and anal . yeah honey you like dudes .. just be who you are and feel whats inside(as long as its not hurting others) you stop trying to conceal it.

i know its hard. but in due time youll be doin the cat walk..lol alright now

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010):

You might be bi, it's the best way t be in life!! Best of both worlds

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010):

Hunn, Your gay (: Be proud.

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A male reader, mr.lonely United Kingdom +, writes (29 May 2010):

It certainly looks like it, why do you question it?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2010):

If you're gay it means that you are attracted to the same sex. Having sex with someone same sex as you doesn't always mean if you are 100% gay.

However, if you're bi sexual it means you are attracted to the same and opposite sex.

Basically it's a question you have to ask yourself - are you attracted to the same sex or the opposite sex or both?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2010):

Well if you like women and enjoy oral and anal sex from men that makes you bisexual. If you have no interest at all in women then yes, you are gay. :)

NightFairy

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A female reader, sarahgul75 Pakistan +, writes (29 May 2010):

sarahgul75 agony aunti think you are ..otherwise you would have not functioned that comfortably with a man..it might be confusing if you function as comfortably with women..self analyse your attraction towards men or women

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A female reader, Vanessa GP South Africa +, writes (29 May 2010):

Hmmmmm... i think you're gay. Straight men don't really experiment that far with other guys. But only you know the answer. You said you came. So I'm guessing you enjoyed it :) Do you feel awkward about it? Like do you regret it? If you don't then you're def gay... enjoy!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2010):

Well, you are either gay or bi. I definitely don't think you are straight. Straight guys might be curious about other man but wouldn't go so far with experimenting. The question is, are you attracted to women? If not, then you are gay.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2010):

If you enjoyed it and you still like women your a bi that's it.

if you don't enjoy sex with women than u re gay that's the whole deal.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2010):

Well look at it this way, if a woman stood naked in front of you now, would you be turned on and want to have sex with her? If you answer no, then ask yourself what if it was a man?

Its obviously hard trying to find yourself and sometimes you have to experiment to find out, it may be that you just wanted to try it (maybe do it some more) and then see how you feel.

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