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I'm a sergeant in the British Army, so I deal with young people (mostly teens), who have all the usual dramas and long distance relationship issues.
My speciality is Medicine I've spent the last 12 years as an army medic, which means I have lots of experience in trauma (which isn't very helpful here), Sports therapy, travel medicine, and GU medicine (Sexual Health).
When I found out about this site, it seemed to be another way to help people out. But I am very straight talking, so please don't be too offended if you don't like my honest opinions.
If there is any advise you should take away from this site it is: Never do anything that you can't explain to a Paramedic and always practice safe sex. |
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| Latest articles: STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them?
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19 April 2009: STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them? An STI is a sexually transmitted infection this is the "in vogue" name for what used to be called an Sexually transmitted disease (STD) This can range from pubic lice to AIDS and Hepatitis with m...
Why don't boys reply to my texts?
This question has 4 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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19 April 2009: Why don't boys reply to my texts? This is a commonly asked question at dear cupid and I understand it really isn't as important as a domestic violence question, but I feel it needs answering. Now this is just a personal opinion and if any guys ...
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I sent a fake picture to my boyfriend and now he has cancelled his flights to come and see me!
Q. my boy friend has cancelled his flight today!!! simply because i told him that the picture i sent to him was not of me but belong to someone else,since he wants to meet in person by the weekend, and i have to tell him the truth. he was upset with...
A. 9 April 2009: As a man, I would do exactly the same thing he has done, for the following reasons:
1, You are a liar
2, You obviously have something to be ashamed about your appearance and sound a bit mental.
3, Boys relay on looks more than you think so e... (read in full...)
Being too harsh on my ex girlfriend?
Q. I dumped my GF last year and we were on and off since then. I told her i would consider getting back with her if she lost weight she is a size 14-16 but good looking i must say, I prefer size 12. I just dumped her again recently and she's angry...
A. 9 April 2009: Firstly I have noticed no men have commentened on your post yet so I though I would be the first to give you a males oppinion... You are a twat! Are you honestly 50? Really?
Mate you need to get over yourself, is this post just a wind up to get ... (read in full...)
I'm freaking out! My best mate grabbed my penis at the urinals!
Q. okay this was a really awkward moment,and im totaly freaked out!! okay me and my best bud "M" went to the movies and it was kool... after the movie was done we both had to take a piss so we went to the mens room, and we were using the urinals-...
A. 6 April 2009: The girls here are right(ish), but I think you need to make it clear to him that what he did was not acceptable EVER!
If he were straight he wouldn't just shove his hand up a girls skirt, and if my best mate grabbed me like that he would find him... (read in full...)
First time sex. Next step?
Q. Okay, heres the story, me and boyfriend of 7 months have decided to sleep together and I am a virgin, he isn't, my question is once you know we have slept together, what do you do, my mate says you should go to the toilet, why? I just thought ...
A. 6 April 2009: Well it all depends on what you want to do next and whatever comes naturally. Maybe your mate goes to the toilet to clean up a bit.
More importantly is what he does before you have sex... Put a condom on.... (read in full...)
How do I grow taller? I want to be a model!
Q. i am in a major major problem.. i am 20 years old n i am bout 5 feet 6 inches..i want to grow taller atleast one inch or two..what could i do to grow taller other than operating..please let me know its very important since a very prestigious mode...
A. 6 April 2009: Stand in manure, try some kind of medieval rack device, go to the interview in the morning as you are an inch taller when you first wake up.
Or just go along and see if that inch makes any difference at all.... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my college professor!
Q. I'm an 18 year old catholic girl living in England, which means i can't have sex before marriage and nor should i agree with extra marital affairs. Usually i would stick to this because i am quite devout, but i have found myself falling for my Poli...
A. 6 April 2009: Another Teenage girl telling us what not to write!
If you don't want honest answers why post the question?
Basically you should follow your true gut feeling (The one that says this is wrong), it is not fair on him or his family if you start mes... (read in full...)
Music fans question
Q. Hey guys... A music question here! This is going to sound really silly lol, but... My first relationship went really wrong, i was emotionally abused and the guy i was with told me things like no guy would ever love me etc... and along with...
A. 5 April 2009: Try Cradle of filth, track 4, it sounds horrible but is actually quite beautiful.... (read in full...)
How do I turn my sex buddy into my boyfriend?
Q. I'm sort of seeing this guy at the moment, it started out as a 1 night stand back in January but recently we seem to be making a habit of meeting in the pub for a few drinks and then going back to his house. I guess you could call us 'sex buddies'. ...
A. 5 April 2009: So you'll have sex with him but won't ask him out, Because you don't want to be too direct?
Wow you have done the most intimate personal thing humans can do, but you are scared to ask him out!
You have to talk to him and if he doesn't want to ... (read in full...)
Did my aunt's boyfriend rape me or did I betray her trust?
Q. Just over 2 months ago I was at a party at my aunt's house. Everyone had left before 1 o'clock in the morning but I was sleeping over. My little cousin was asleep upstairs and my auntie had been drinking so she went to her bed and left me and her ...
A. 5 April 2009: OK this does sound like Rape to me. You said NO and he did it anyway, you were drunk, stoned and underage this is very much rape, even if you said yes it would still be rape.
You need to tell your Aunt, and the police, I'm sure you don't want thi... (read in full...)
How can I lose weight fast without losing my boobs?
Q. Help! How can I lose weight fast without losing my boobs? Hi I'm 13 and a size 10 dress size, I'm 8.4 stone im a 36DD and I'm happy with my boobs so I don't want to make them any smaller. I feel self-conscious about my weight, im not massivly ...
A. 5 April 2009: Are you talking about a UK size 10? If you are and have 36DD breasts then there is no way you need to loose weight, (although these figures don't actually add up).
Please stop being so silly!... (read in full...)
15 and addicted to porn!
Q. I need help with my porn addiction, I have been looking at it for I don't know how long. I have tried to stop but I can't, I am Addicted. I need any help I can get....
A. 5 April 2009: You're not addicted you are a young teenager with access to the internet.
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Is it weird to stick something in my anus?
Q. I am a 22 year old male and I have heard that when you masturbate and stick your finger or something up your anus that is acts as a G spot for men. Is this true? And will this hurt my anus or prostate. And can this even cause Prostate Cancer? My ...
A. 5 April 2009: 1, It is true, the male G spot is the prostate gland (up your bum and slightly forward with a finger will do it)
2, It may hurt a little
3, NO it will not cause cancer unless you use a uranium rod
4, It has it's risks, bowl perforation,... (read in full...)
Advice needed. Does he love me or is he just wanting to get inside my knickers?
Q. I need to know if he really loves me and doesn't just want to get in my pants. After he fingered me and I gave him a hand-job he wants to do a little more. So do you think he really loves me or not. Hope you can help...
A. 5 April 2009: How can we tell if he loves you when the only information you give us is that he has fingered you?
Seriously sweetheart that's not very helpful is it?
Going from your very short not very informative question I think he wants to get in your k... (read in full...)
Foreign girls verses the local girls.
Q. Where I live the guys mostly like foreign girls and not the local girls. Where does that leave the local girls? If guys only want the foreign girls....
A. 5 April 2009: This happens everywhere you go! And it's good otherwise, everywhere will be as inbred as Norfolk and you don't want that.
Go travelling then you are the interesting outsider with a novel accent and not a boring local girl who knows everyone... (read in full...)
What do guys prefer...?
Q. Do guys only go for gorgeous looking girls and not plain looking girls?...
A. 5 April 2009: Everybody has different tastes and there will be someone that is attracted to you, the question is do all girls go after gorgeous guys, in which case what if a plain guy likes a plain girl?
Maybe the plain girls are the ones setting their st... (read in full...)
Can giving head cause a throat infection?
Q. I'm really sick, I have a throat infection and I gave my boyfriend head this week. Is it possible that giving head can cause a throat infection. I know he's clean for std's, but I'm not sure since urine passes through there, it might cause a throat ...
A. 5 April 2009: It doesn't have to be an STI any bacteria (Germs) found in his pants, will end up on his penis which will be in your mouth and throat after giving him a blow job, as your throat is a very sensitive area when it comes to infection your immune system ... (read in full...)
What do you do when all of a sudden your best friend for so long tells you he's gay???
Q. Oh man!!- im still in shock!! what do you do when all of a sudden your best friend for so long tells you he's gay??? Well that's what happened do me, i knew "D" since kindergarten, so it's been 8 years-we're really close friends and ...
A. 5 April 2009: Well at least you don't have to worry about him liking the girls you like! Don't do anything differently, he hasn't changed.... (read in full...)
My ex b/f lost his virginity just after we broke up
Q. Okay, I Broke up with my Boyfriend a few months ago. I'm not sure if i still have feelings for him. But he lost his virginity right after we broke up. So does that mean he's lying or he had no feelings for me. I don't know whether im hurt he done it ...
A. 5 April 2009: You dumped him! Remember. If you hadn't dumped him (I'm guessing he may have wanted sex with you), he wouldn't have felt bad about himself and needed an ego boost by sleeping with the first tart that would put out.
At least now you know dumping ... (read in full...)
He is not ready for engagement!!!
Q. i met my boyfriend through a friend nearly two years ago. he had been in a carnival in America a yr prior to me meeting him and had married an American girl with a 2 yr old son. they married in court and he then moved in with her he knew her 3 mont...
A. 5 April 2009: He's rushed into things before and doesn't want to do make the same mistake again, give him time, it's not like you've been waiting 5 years or anything.
Enjoy your time together, after all you are living together so the next step is more of a for... (read in full...)
I was 18 weeks pregnant at the age of 15 !
Q. im 15 and i was 18 weeks pregnant i decided to have a abortion because i was scared to tell my mom and was scared of what people at school would say to me if i kept the baby but now im am so sad because i took a life :'( and i keep thinking ab...
A. 5 April 2009: It is one of the things that goes with Abortion unfortunately.
But think about in a few years when you are educated have money and the ability to support a child. That is the life you want a child to have, not a teenage age girl struggli... (read in full...)
What do I do on a Prom date? What should I expect?
Q. I need help!!! I just asked a girl to prom (she said yes) and I don't know what to do now. Is it weird to go to prom on a single date? Because it seems like everyone group dates for prom. My date and I are both sophomores and I couldn't find...
A. 5 April 2009: Ah right thank you I have never figured out the whole freshman, sophmore, things.
Firstly do you like this girl as more than just a friend you are taking to the prom?
If you do, then it is not weird to go alone, I think hanging out all day is a... (read in full...)
19 yo F and feel inexperienced. Do men like hair or no hair down there?
Q. I'm 19 and in a new-ish relationship. We're getting more serious and i really like him a lot, so want to go further sexually with him. I'd like some advice on what to do with my pubic hair. What do you guys prefer? I am afraid to ask him, b...
A. 5 April 2009: I like my girls educated! So more importantly than a bit of hair down there read this before you decide to have sex: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/thinking-about-losing-your-virginity.html... (read in full...)
Next step: how do I give him a BJ?
Q. ok... well me and my boyfriend we are ready for the next step. he has already fingered me and i have given him a hand-job. we have talked about me giving him a blow job and i need to know how to do it....
A. 5 April 2009: Use protection and wait till you are older!... (read in full...)
One night stand problems!
Q. This is going to sound really really bad, but I really need some advice. I go to college and the other week Ii had a one night stand with this guy. I always thought he was good looking, but never really liked him, but I was really really drunk an...
A. 5 April 2009: OK when you go out you really need to drink less, if you loose you inhibitions when you are drunk and regret it the following morning, it is time to think if going binge drinking is a good idea!
Also go and get an STI and pregnancy test done, as... (read in full...)
PORN raises its ugly head again!
Q. I found porn on my boyfriends computer and it made me feel really betrayed and uncomfortable, I don't usually have a problem with that kind of thing, but he told me he doesn't watch it now. I don't know if I'm just being over dramatic which he says ...
A. 5 April 2009: This question has been asked so often take a look at this http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-cant-men-understand-how-women-feel-about.html it has lots and lots of different views on the whole porn issue.... (read in full...)
Text cheating husband and the drama continues
Q. Me AGAIN with the text cheating husband. New developments......we have had a horrible weekend. He has always refused to show me June/July's phone bill to 'clear' his name but I said if we've ANY chance of trying again he must bring them home from ...
A. 5 April 2009: Anonymous at least I took my time to read it, and to bother registering with the site. But I see you have taken your time to read and post some helpful advise here to counter my nastiness.
... (read in full...)
We are "together" without the titles!
Q. I was set up with a guy (by my dad of all people) and we hit it off immediately. Now, 8 months later we are still "together without the titles" and he always says he is not looking for anything serious. However, we have sex. I feel like we're just ...
A. 5 April 2009: You are NOT together you are having casual sex with him, as he has put it he is "seeing/dating" you, how many other girls is he "seeing/dating/not ready for a relationship with"?
I think you need to stop the sex and see if he hangs around o... (read in full...)
$30.00 too much?
Q. just a quick question. its one of my friends birthdays in a couple of days, i don't see him very often but speak to him every day so i'm going to send him his present. i've got him a book and some silly things for his car and was going to send him ...
A. 5 April 2009: I think I'm going to get myself a few internet girlfriends and tell them different dates of birth I could get a nice regular income out of this.
I honestly think you should send him the gifts as that shows thought, caring and consider... (read in full...)
Text cheating husband and the drama continues
Q. Me AGAIN with the text cheating husband. New developments......we have had a horrible weekend. He has always refused to show me June/July's phone bill to 'clear' his name but I said if we've ANY chance of trying again he must bring them home from ...
A. 5 April 2009: You are right you are not asking for advise, so I have read through this very long text with no paragraphs, just for you to say I don't want advise.
Thanks there's 10 minutes of my life I will never get back!... (read in full...)
Questions about eating and diet.
Q. I have recently been doing a health promotion campaign on body image, which focuses on anorexia, bulimia and obesity. I have mainly focused on bulimia and have researched a lot about it. I have been on a diet since the end of xmas and have lost 2 s...
A. 5 April 2009: So what you are telling us is, basically, you are an IDIOT!
This will get much MUCH worse! You already have a severe eating disorder this is not a get fit quick scheme it is already Bulimia.... (read in full...)
How much zinc to kill body odor?
Q. I am a 15 year old girl who is pretty fit and healthy, but my body odour can get kind of bad sometimes. I shower everyday, use soap, shave, use anti-perspirant blah blah blah, but I heard that zinc can help a lot in reducing B.O. so we got some zinc ...
A. 5 April 2009: The current RDA of Zinc is 7mg for women and 9.5mg for men, higher doses are sometimes given under DOCTORS advise only.
Too much Zinc can impair immunity, lower HDL (good cholesterol) Some say that too much zinc can cause Alzheimer's (althoug... (read in full...)
Will they still operate?
Q. I'm having an operation tomorrow, and i'm feeling really ill. my temperature is 39 degrees celcius, i'm feverish and achy, will i still be able to go ahead with it or will the doctors refuse to operate, how can i make myself better...
A. 5 April 2009: Go to your appointment, they will do a set of observations and ask about your current health. The surgeon will then make a decision whether it is safe to operate or not.
But by the sound of your symptoms I would guess not for now.... (read in full...)
Oral sex, pregnancy, fingering ??
Q. Can u get preganant thru fingering because we have had oral sex me n me bf but not sex and i am 15 days late on my period? Please tell me the truth I am so scared am 15I don't want to be pregnant spesh when my bf is 17 and I don't want him to be ...
A. 5 April 2009: You can only get pregnant from fingering if he has seman or precum on his fingers. If he did then YES you could be pregnant.
You can also get STIs from fingering and oral sex, so do it safely. ... (read in full...)
What do I do on a Prom date? What should I expect?
Q. I need help!!! I just asked a girl to prom (she said yes) and I don't know what to do now. Is it weird to go to prom on a single date? Because it seems like everyone group dates for prom. My date and I are both sophomores and I couldn't find...
A. 5 April 2009: Sorry I'm being really dim here but what is a SOPHOMORE?
... (read in full...)
Follow up: Aspiring drama actor .. what do I do now?
Q. I did it with her..we were rehearings after the show..guess what she is happy to have done it with me? What do I do now? read my previous post below to get a view of her? http://www.dearcup...
A. 5 April 2009: That was very professional of you, Nice to see you can draw the line between acting a reality!
No director will ever want you to work them again if you go around destroying peoples marriages.
You need to do the right thing here and quit that sh... (read in full...)
How can improve my chances for getting a job?
Q. I've never felt so low. i cant get a thing right with my girlfriend, i cant get a job, The only place I can see my life going is living on the streets. I just want to be happy but I can't see it happening. I Just want to know how to make things ...
A. 5 April 2009: Sorry my research wasn't very helpful, but to be fair I just typed apprenticeships in to Google. Did you bother to look into anything else?... (read in full...)
I want a handsome younger boyfriend!
Q. how to get a younger handsome boyfreind when fat,ugly and short and in yours 30s+. is it hard to get a handsome younger boyfreind...
A. 4 April 2009: Stop being so self conscious, and go to a gym.
Join clubs and groups where you can meet people with similar interests or even try online dating.... (read in full...)
I don't think my parents will want me to marry till I'm 24 but what if I lose him?
Q. Hi im a muslim girl and have a boyfriend of 4 years, which is a very big "sin" as we arent even supposed to shake hands with a member of the opposite sex. My parents arent exactly as strict as other muslim parents, who force there kids at ho...
A. 4 April 2009: OK if honesty doesn't work, it's time for good old Dishonesty!
You are off to Uni soon so they won't see you texting all the time and spending time with him. When you are at home don't text in their presence. Keep it all low key for now. This is ... (read in full...)
How do I get a boyfriend? I'm nearly 14 and want one!
Q. Ok well, Im 13 turning 14. Im in 7th grade, when I really should be in 8th but I went in school late. I have never had a real boyfriend. And when I do tell guys I like them, they don't like me back. My mom says its just because guys arent into girls ...
A. 4 April 2009: Just give it some time sweetheart, guys your age and a little older will get to that point in adolescence soon and you will have to fight them off.... (read in full...)
How do you give a handjob?
Q. im about to give my first handjob, my boyfriend really wants one. But i dont know how?!?! please help me!!!!...
A. 4 April 2009: Get your boyfriend to guide you, I'm sure he knows what he likes by now!... (read in full...)
I don't think my parents will want me to marry till I'm 24 but what if I lose him?
Q. Hi im a muslim girl and have a boyfriend of 4 years, which is a very big "sin" as we arent even supposed to shake hands with a member of the opposite sex. My parents arent exactly as strict as other muslim parents, who force there kids at ho...
A. 4 April 2009: It sounds like your parents are actually very understanding, tell them you have a boyfriend, even introduce him to them. I'm sure they would love to meet him.
Just because you are in a relationship now doesn't mean you have to get married ... (read in full...)
How can improve my chances for getting a job?
Q. I've never felt so low. i cant get a thing right with my girlfriend, i cant get a job, The only place I can see my life going is living on the streets. I just want to be happy but I can't see it happening. I Just want to know how to make things ...
A. 4 April 2009: I just put apprenticeship into Google and came up with this: http://www.apprenticeships.org.uk/
Dude you really need to start using your head it's really not that difficult, if you can ask a question on DearCupid you can type a phrase into goo... (read in full...)
How can improve my chances for getting a job?
Q. I've never felt so low. i cant get a thing right with my girlfriend, i cant get a job, The only place I can see my life going is living on the streets. I just want to be happy but I can't see it happening. I Just want to know how to make things ...
A. 4 April 2009: Apply for everything, go to the job centre, join the Army (Very last resort)... (read in full...)
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