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I'm a sergeant in the British Army, so I deal with young people (mostly teens), who have all the usual dramas and long distance relationship issues.
My speciality is Medicine I've spent the last 12 years as an army medic, which means I have lots of experience in trauma (which isn't very helpful here), Sports therapy, travel medicine, and GU medicine (Sexual Health).
When I found out about this site, it seemed to be another way to help people out. But I am very straight talking, so please don't be too offended if you don't like my honest opinions.
If there is any advise you should take away from this site it is: Never do anything that you can't explain to a Paramedic and always practice safe sex. |
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19 April 2009: STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them? An STI is a sexually transmitted infection this is the "in vogue" name for what used to be called an Sexually transmitted disease (STD) This can range from pubic lice to AIDS and Hepatitis with m...
Why don't boys reply to my texts?
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19 April 2009: Why don't boys reply to my texts? This is a commonly asked question at dear cupid and I understand it really isn't as important as a domestic violence question, but I feel it needs answering. Now this is just a personal opinion and if any guys ...
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Weight problems affecting my love life
Q. Im struggling with my love life because im overweight but im dieting and so far I've lost 2 stone i now weigh 14 stone. and all my friends starve themselves and i wanna know if i should try and if i should how can i do it? x...
A. 11 April 2009: Starvation doesn't work, your friends are foolish!
You have done so well by dieting and the weight you have lost will stay off. Any weight lost on a starvation diet will go back on very rapidly. Also by starving yourself you will cause problems... (read in full...)
To call/write or not to call/write
Q. Hello, I feel to old to be asking a question like this, but here goes... On Wednesday evening I was at an exhibition opening in my home city (in Italy), I have recently broken up with my boyfriend and this particular evening I was finally feeling ...
A. 11 April 2009: I think you should back the text message up with an e-mail, if he still fails to reply, well then I think it would be best to leave it at that.
The fact that he has given you his catalogue, e-mail address and phone number does suggest to me that ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating?? He texts her 40+ times a day!
Q. I have been married 22 years. As of Feb, I discovered my husband was texting a woman at work up to 40 times a day and more. They text back and forth but they work in the same building. I asked him about it and he said they were just friends. He also...
A. 11 April 2009: After 22 years of marriage you know your husband better than anyone else, I fear only your instinct can help here we can not pass judgement or give valuable advise, based on a few paragraphs, when you have so many years knowledge of his attitude and ... (read in full...)
Hypothetical question: What happens if the guy wears two condoms?
Q. ok so i was just wondering what happens if the guy wears two condoms??? i'm not at all planing to have sex im just wondering .. but wouldn't one just slip off or wouldn't they just break due to the fact that they're both rubber and wouldn't the ...
A. 11 April 2009: The "Double bagging" or wearing two condoms is a myth as you have rightly pointed out they can slip off or split due to friction, condoms are much more effective if just one is put on correctly.
Try the Durex website for some very informat... (read in full...)
I look better in pictures! What if he doesn't like me?
Q. met someone online. weve talked way too much and i like the sound of him, but im worried about meeting in real life. what if i dont like him. and more importantly, what if he doesnt like me? i look much better in pictures lol. what should i do?...
A. 11 April 2009: You know when you choose pictures to send to him, how about choosing some of the ones you don't like, and don't photoshop them either!
It's a gamble you have to take when meeting someone for the first time, I'm sure he has only sent you his favo... (read in full...)
Question on G-spot and fingering
Q. okay my boyfriend is kinda self-conscious about his eh, performance when he fingers me. and he does very good but he never hits my G-Spot and has never expressed an interest to do so. But i really want him to because when i finger myself if feels re...
A. 11 April 2009: As Satindesire says also when he is fingering you tell him where to move his finger so you enjoy it more.
Boys don't hit puberty and know instictivly what to do, we need guidance too, I'm sure you don't give the best hand job either, so take tim... (read in full...)
How do you make friends when you don't fit it?
Q. how do make friends.because i have no friends.people can be snobby to me.i don,t know how to have fun either.i never had a friends in school or collage or at sport.i don,t have great appearance either. 28 years old and i can,t fit in with people i...
A. 11 April 2009: Are you still living in the town you grew up in? If you are find a job somewhere else, move away and start from scratch.
Go to university join some societies that interest you, you are not the only "social missfit" in the world or even in Ireland!... (read in full...)
Did he cheat or was he just incredibly naieve?
Q. My husband and I live in separate countries due to work committments, we have no kids. About 6 months ago a woman called my house (in the UK) to ask for my husband. I asked who her she was and she claimed she was having an affair with my husband ...
A. 11 April 2009: He sounds genuine to me, this strange girl does sound like she has some deep seated psychological issues. It is easy to get a UK landline phone number if she knows his UK address which is also very easy to find out. Mobile numbers however are much ... (read in full...)
Abusive bf? Or too loving?
Q. Okay...so ill start off saying im 17 and my bf is 20. so I'm not sure what this is considered...but ive been dating this guy for 10months off and on. and i know im not the peachiest person...but ok maybe last night i had this coming. we broke up(a...
A. 11 April 2009: This is very abusive behaviour, tell the police, your parents, his parents anyone, just do not let it happen again EVER!
You live in America for gods sake "the land of the free" you live in a democratic country with a good police force, laws and... (read in full...)
I don't know how to tell my chat friend that I love her.
Q. Its like am in love with this girl, she is 18 and am 18 she is living far away from me but in same country. We both met in a chat site. I call her on phone most time, she told me about her self and I told her mine, the way I hear her voice on phon...
A. 11 April 2009: Next time you talk to her just say "I think I'm falling in love with you" and just see what she says.... (read in full...)
Run away cousins ...
Q. I really need some help. Basically, I have fallen in love with my first cousin and we were going out for about 3 months, until my parents found out and made us split up. They told me I couldn't see him again until I was 16... Is it a bad idea...
A. 10 April 2009: It is a very VERY bad idea! But I really respect your parents (so should you)!... (read in full...)
Can 2 people truly be happy with eachother forever?
Q. this is a simple question and there is prbly no right answer. can two people truly be happy with each other forever?...
A. 10 April 2009: Yes, but I think you have to spend time finding the one person who can make you happy forever.... (read in full...)
Troubled army wife. Should I stay or should I go?
Q. I am having a lot or touble dealing with my husband being in the Army. It was not a part of the plan when we were planning out lives together. Now we have two kids and I am home alone all the time. I just get so frustered, and he doesn't even ...
A. 10 April 2009: Unfortunately it is all too often the case that it is the Army or your family.
I think you need to tell him one final time: Army or you! and when he chooses the Army it is time for you to leave him.... (read in full...)
How do beer goggles work?
Q. is their a scientific reason why people look better looking when your druink ? Or is it just our minds playing tricks on us ? x...
A. 10 April 2009: Excellent link TasteofIndia!... (read in full...)
Will a girl stop taking care of her body when they get into a relationship?
Q. I know this sounds really shallow, but I'm scared that if I ever get in a serious relationship with a girl she'll stop taking care of her body. And then in a few years she won't look pretty any more she'll just look fat. Is there a way to make sure ...
A. 10 April 2009: It's people like you who cause girls to have eating disorders and body obsession problems.
If you want a girlfriend who will stay in shape, join a gym and meet a nice girl there. You must not be hypocritical if you want a girl who keeps putting ... (read in full...)
Did he lose his phone? Just not interested?
Q. Im at the end of my teather here! Ok basically I have been talking with this guy for ages now, and hes lovely and made it quite clear he likes me, he got me a gift for xmas, we talk almost everyday etc etc Anyway we went to a party together and end...
A. 10 April 2009: This 8 minute call that you didn't make... Did anyone else have access to your phone? Could anyone have made a prank call in that time? Or is there a chance he over heard you saying something dodgy at the party... Talking about him to your mates, ... (read in full...)
How can he talk to me this way in front of his g/f?
Q. Hi guys im a bit stuck hear,i split with my ex last year but have stayed friends, anyway we where sleeping together still after 4 months after spliting, anyway he now has a gf and she works nites, so whenever shes not with hi, he flirts with me, ...
A. 10 April 2009: He knows you still like him and he is playing mind games with you, he loves the attention he gets from you, and knows he can string you along and flirt with you and if he said the right thing you would jump in to bed with him.
He probably does hav... (read in full...)
Should I tell my parents? I think I'm pregnant
Q. Hi, I'm 15 and think I'm pregnant. I don't know what to do. Should i tell my mom and dad? I need advice before i do anything. I've had sex 1 time but he pulled out and we used a condom. I told him we shouldn't do it anymore unless we're really ...
A. 10 April 2009: Yes see a doctor and if he says you are pregnant, you must tell your parents.... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant, or is it just stress?
Q. About three weeks ago me and my bf had sex and he wanted to see what it felt like without a condom. So we didn't go all the way but he did go in. Lately I've has extreme nausea, i'm always tired, my boobs are really sensitive, and i pee a lot more ...
A. 10 April 2009: Have you ever wondered what it feels like to take a bath in a vat of acid? You should try it, don't worry about the risk of your skin melting!
Of course you can be pregnant, go and do a test, and I hope that your boyfriend will stand by you what... (read in full...)
Any ideas for something special for my girlfriend this Easter?
Q. Hi, I'm 15 and I'm in love with my girlfriend and i know I'm so young but i know i love her cause every time i seen her my heart starts beating really fast and i just know. anyway we've been going out for 3 years cents yesterday and i just got back...
A. 10 April 2009: Take her out, cooking can go wrong.... (read in full...)
I don't know how to tell my chat friend that I love her.
Q. Its like am in love with this girl, she is 18 and am 18 she is living far away from me but in same country. We both met in a chat site. I call her on phone most time, she told me about her self and I told her mine, the way I hear her voice on phon...
A. 10 April 2009: You can tell her how you feel. As you have said you are imagining being with her, you are imagining what she looks like, and how she will act around you. In fact apart from the fact you have spoken to her she is a completely imaginary girlfriend. ... (read in full...)
Shouldn't DC be a judge-free zone?
Q. I've noticed that a lot of people have posted questions on this site asking about anal sex [how to do it/tips/tricks etc]. And last time I checked this was a site designed to give people advice and and information about relationships and and ...
A. 10 April 2009: This is why anonymous posters should not be allowed: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/sad-lonely-and-dying-inside.html ... (read in full...)
Am I being that bad to my ex GF?
Q. I posted on here before and came back to get some more advice. I dumped my GF last year and we were on and off since then. I told her i would consider getting back with her if she lost weight she is a size 14-16 but good looking i must say, I prefer ...
A. 10 April 2009: Again get help, it is not uncommon for members of the Armed Forces and Emergency Services to burn out and that sounds exactly what is happening to you.
Having a burnout is not a slight on your character and it has happened to some of my closest ... (read in full...)
Is it alright to not like anyone?
Q. Hey y'all waz up? I jus need to know is it alright to not like anyone? And LOVE not been with anyone? Cause my parents and a lot of other people say that there is something REALLY wrong with me...ex.... So I just need to know is it weird or ...
A. 10 April 2009: I think Emily has a point here, bOyCrAzY;}
And do you mean your parents think there is something wrong with you, etcetera (Etc) or do you mean your parents think there is something wrong with your ex-girlfriend (Ex)?
If you don't like anyon... (read in full...)
Why am I attracted to girls who are similar to my first love?
Q. It's interesting that ever since I broke off from my first love a year ago, every girl I was attracted to since shared some similar features to her -- slim, similar figure; tall height; brunette hair -- and a few times, even in shy personality. ...
A. 10 April 2009: Because she is your type, we all have a "TYPE" of person we are attracted to.
Don't worry about it.... (read in full...)
Shouldn't DC be a judge-free zone?
Q. I've noticed that a lot of people have posted questions on this site asking about anal sex [how to do it/tips/tricks etc]. And last time I checked this was a site designed to give people advice and and information about relationships and and ...
A. 10 April 2009: Thank you for proving my point... by having an account we can at least see her past history of advice, and see the ratings she has been given. With out this past history our other anonymous poster would not have been able to check out the history.
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Is it ok to sleep with him?
Q. I like this guy (described in http://www.dearcupid.org/question/does-it-seem-like-he-is-going-to.html), and he has been respecting my opinions. By respect, I mean he wanted to do things but as soon as I asked him to stop he would. I now won’t let ...
A. 10 April 2009: You are 22 not 12! You are a woman, an adult, come on it is fine to kiss someone you are not going out with, dating to some people is the same as being "in a relationship" he is not dating anyone else, and is dating you, I think you are wanting him ... (read in full...)
Fake or real friends or both on face book?
Q. i joined face book i think it was idea for me .because no write to you unless you have television or something. i joined face book a month and no body has added me as friend.there one guy who has been tv he has 191 friends.all because hes been tv t...
A. 10 April 2009: I disagree with syferFire adding people randomly is not a good idea unless you back it up with some kind of covering email.
I will always e-mail a random friends requester and unless they e-mail me back with a good reason for wanting to be my fr... (read in full...)
Is it ok to sleep with him?
Q. I like this guy (described in http://www.dearcupid.org/question/does-it-seem-like-he-is-going-to.html), and he has been respecting my opinions. By respect, I mean he wanted to do things but as soon as I asked him to stop he would. I now won’t let ...
A. 10 April 2009: Thanks Bobbles! I have to agree with what you have put here too.... (read in full...)
Is it ok to sleep with him?
Q. I like this guy (described in http://www.dearcupid.org/question/does-it-seem-like-he-is-going-to.html), and he has been respecting my opinions. By respect, I mean he wanted to do things but as soon as I asked him to stop he would. I now won’t let ...
A. 10 April 2009: I have read both your posts and I think he doesn't know if you like him enough to ask you out, you seem to be enjoying his attention and you are using him to fill all your emotional needs.
I think you have given very mixed signals and from the... (read in full...)
Fake or real friends or both on face book?
Q. i joined face book i think it was idea for me .because no write to you unless you have television or something. i joined face book a month and no body has added me as friend.there one guy who has been tv he has 191 friends.all because hes been tv t...
A. 10 April 2009: All my facebook friends are real friends, people I know from real life, I don't add random people as I use facebook as a means of staying in touch with people.
Due to my job I move around often and meet new people who I add to facebook once I c... (read in full...)
Sexually abused by my brother... what do I do for the best?
Q. Hi, I'm Heli and I'm 13. I was sexually abused when I was younger, by my brother who is 3 to four years my senior. I have told a few people about what happened, but I've never told them who it was who did it to me, because I still live with my ...
A. 9 April 2009: How old is your brother now?... (read in full...)
Shouldn't DC be a judge-free zone?
Q. I've noticed that a lot of people have posted questions on this site asking about anal sex [how to do it/tips/tricks etc]. And last time I checked this was a site designed to give people advice and and information about relationships and and ...
A. 9 April 2009: Sorry folks I know you don't want a pissing contest here, I would e-mail our anonymous poster but the lack of profile means I can't do that. LOL
It only takes 30 seconds to register, why hide yourself away, look at my profile and tell me what per... (read in full...)
Am I being that bad to my ex GF?
Q. I posted on here before and came back to get some more advice. I dumped my GF last year and we were on and off since then. I told her i would consider getting back with her if she lost weight she is a size 14-16 but good looking i must say, I prefer ...
A. 9 April 2009: Yes you really are THAT bad! Your family say this, we have all said the same thing. The way you talk suggests that you have some deep seated problems, that we can not help you with here, please admit you have a problem and seek professional help ... (read in full...)
Can you take the morning pill 2X in one cycle?
Q. i was told that u can get pregnant by pre come so wen i had a 1 nite stand i thought i ought to take the morning after pill,evern though tthe bloke didnt come.two days after i took it i slept with some 1 else and he did come inside me,i didnt take ...
A. 9 April 2009: I'm pretty sure the morning after pill will do just as it says on the box if taken correctly. I am much more worried at the fact you are having unprotected one night stands.
The whole fact that you are having unprotected sex with 2 differen... (read in full...)
Am I being that bad to my ex GF?
Q. I posted on here before and came back to get some more advice. I dumped my GF last year and we were on and off since then. I told her i would consider getting back with her if she lost weight she is a size 14-16 but good looking i must say, I prefer ...
A. 9 April 2009: You mean this post: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/being-too-harsh-on-my-ex-girlfriend.html
You'll see my answer there and it has stayed the same!
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Shouldn't DC be a judge-free zone?
Q. I've noticed that a lot of people have posted questions on this site asking about anal sex [how to do it/tips/tricks etc]. And last time I checked this was a site designed to give people advice and and information about relationships and and ...
A. 9 April 2009: Kissxmexagainx, there is the other classic post: the Anonymous poster, always ready to put their two pennies worth in but don't bother with an account so they can not be held accountable to their answers, don't have a profile so you can't tell the ... (read in full...)
Too soon to get engaged?
Q. Is it too soon to get engaged after dating for less than a year.... like 6 or 7 months? I know that she is the one. I feel it with every fiber of my being, and she feels the same way. We have deep conversations about our future together. It woul...
A. 9 April 2009: If you know she is the one, why do you need to rush into engagement? A long engagement is probably worse than waiting to get engaged then actually planning a wedding.
I don't understand the rush to get engaged if you both know you are right fo... (read in full...)
My little brother.
Q. My brother is two years younger than me and has just started dating girls. I find it so sweet but he has just started dating this ugly cow and who doesn't treat him right. Me and my best friend have been talking and have found out that my best frie...
A. 9 April 2009: You don't, your brother should make his own choices!
Tell him in passing that this other girl thinks he's nice but don't go trying to break people up because he'll end up resenting you for it in the long run. Let the relationship run it's course a... (read in full...)
Shouldn't DC be a judge-free zone?
Q. I've noticed that a lot of people have posted questions on this site asking about anal sex [how to do it/tips/tricks etc]. And last time I checked this was a site designed to give people advice and and information about relationships and and ...
A. 9 April 2009: I totally agree with you. However, if you post a question on the internet you are asking for opinions and advice from people from so many beliefs and cultures, you can't expect people to fluff up their answers to be what you want to hear, you have ... (read in full...)
I sent a fake picture to my boyfriend and now he has cancelled his flights to come and see me!
Q. my boy friend has cancelled his flight today!!! simply because i told him that the picture i sent to him was not of me but belong to someone else,since he wants to meet in person by the weekend, and i have to tell him the truth. he was upset with...
A. 9 April 2009: As a man, I would do exactly the same thing he has done, for the following reasons:
1, You are a liar
2, You obviously have something to be ashamed about your appearance and sound a bit mental.
3, Boys relay on looks more than you think so e... (read in full...)
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