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I'm a sergeant in the British Army, so I deal with young people (mostly teens), who have all the usual dramas and long distance relationship issues.
My speciality is Medicine I've spent the last 12 years as an army medic, which means I have lots of experience in trauma (which isn't very helpful here), Sports therapy, travel medicine, and GU medicine (Sexual Health).
When I found out about this site, it seemed to be another way to help people out. But I am very straight talking, so please don't be too offended if you don't like my honest opinions.
If there is any advise you should take away from this site it is: Never do anything that you can't explain to a Paramedic and always practice safe sex. |
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| Latest articles: STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them?
This question has 5 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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19 April 2009: STI/STD what are they and how do you catch them? An STI is a sexually transmitted infection this is the "in vogue" name for what used to be called an Sexually transmitted disease (STD) This can range from pubic lice to AIDS and Hepatitis with m...
Why don't boys reply to my texts?
This question has 4 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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19 April 2009: Why don't boys reply to my texts? This is a commonly asked question at dear cupid and I understand it really isn't as important as a domestic violence question, but I feel it needs answering. Now this is just a personal opinion and if any guys ...
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How do I trust her when I know this guy wants her?
Q. I have been going out with my girlfriend for 4 years. Recently she has made friends with a guy who I think just wants to get into her pants. She wants to go and hang out with him. She says she won't let anything happen and I do trust her but she ...
A. 15 March 2009: If you are being controlling and showing her you don't trust her, you will push her into the arms of another man!... (read in full...)
I love my husband very much but have lost desire for him
Q. I met my husband years ago and we were friends for 9 years prior to starting a relationship. When we were first together we had sex all of the time, like every day. Once we moved in together of course the sex slowed down. We both have small ...
A. 15 March 2009: Maybe going away will spark something again. If you are at home all the time with the kids, in your routine it is very easy for your relationship to get stagnant.
I advise going on this break, and having some quality time relaxing and talking ... (read in full...)
We met, had sex, and now he doesn't call
Q. hi i met this guy and we talked on the fone all the time 4 a couple of months before we met, then we met up he came 2 mine we had sex. then we met up the other nite i went 2 his, its jus he dosent call or text me that often like he used 2, does he ...
A. 15 March 2009: NO HE WANTED A SHAG AND YOU GAVE HIM ONE! He got what he wanted from you now he will find another easy girl, or keep using you as a BOOTY CALL!
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She slept with me 1st night we were together, does that mean she sleeps with every guy the 1st date?
Q. So I have one more problem, well more of a question. After 7 yrs of being friends we have finally started dating. She has dated alot of guys in the past and being her roommate I got to hear alot of their sex life. She is very aventures in bed...
A. 15 March 2009: Jesus Christ man! You have known this girl for 7 years surely you will know much more about her than a group of strangers on the internet!
You'll have seen her boyfriends come and go over the years, does she strike you as the type to sleep wi... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of my g/f's best friend keeps coming on to me!
Q. I'm 22 and my girlfriend's 21. Me and my girlfriend often socialise with her best friend (who's 23) and her fiance (he's 24). For the past few weeks, whenever my girlfriend and her best friend go the bathroom if we're out anywhere, her fi...
A. 15 March 2009: I don't believe you Jeff, in fact I think you are our phantom poster!
She'd have to believe you if you had the text messages to prove it.
Why don't you take Emily's advise she gave you yesterday and go into fiction writing!... (read in full...)
How do you chose between 2 guys?
Q. I started dating this wonderful guy in may of 2007 who lived 2 hours away and he was also older than I was ,had his stuff together,2 kids like me,and went through crazy divorce. because he lived so far away we would tend to grow apart when he was ...
A. 15 March 2009: The fact that you have fallen for the new guy because you were unable to deal with a long distance relationship suggests that you stick with a guy who lives nearest to you!
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Am I unappealing?
Q. Hey-- Umm, well I'm a 15-year-old girl. I'm 5'6", 150-160 pounds. The weight is comprised of muscle, hourglass curves, and 34DD breasts, hahaha. I've read a lot about girls asking advice about their small breasts, and I've seen a fair number o...
A. 15 March 2009: You have to appreciate that the answers posted on here come from a wide range of people so people who don't like small boobs will not tell a girl who's worried about her small boobs that as it will be counter productive.
Men are strange and fick... (read in full...)
When should I start feeding my baby?
Q. When should I start feeding my baby rice, cereal and baby food? He is 2 months and 15 days right now....
A. 15 March 2009: Talk to whoever has been guiding you so far, paediatrician, midwife, health visitor, etc.
Most of the aunts here are very very good, (jessica04 and wonderingcat included) but you do have to be aware that there are also 13 year old girls post ans... (read in full...)
What are the chances I'm pregnant?
Q. Well I'm 15, and on Thursday I had the implant put in. I am still taking my pill every day, but on Saturday I had sex twice without a condom. What are the chances I'm pregnant? I don't think they are very high but I'm still kinda worried... Please I ...
A. 15 March 2009: Aww, you don't want any "not ready" comments! Well you must be old enough to know if you could be pregnant or not, and how to deal with a baby and AIDS.
So I won't bother helping you out!
If you want help, don't post arsey notes on your qu... (read in full...)
Sometimes when I joke my mother takes it seriously
Q. I am 23 and living at home with my Mum. We get on well at times but on several occasions when I kid about stuff she takes it seriously and decides to discuss the serious side of the matter. This frustrates me as she doesn't play along with the fun ...
A. 15 March 2009: You can't get annoyed at your Mum as you are 23 and still living at home!
Secondly she is just being a caring Mum with her comments, I'm guessing she is in her 40s-50s, you can't expect her to have the same sense of humour as you! I bet she'd mu... (read in full...)
Never calls me..wonder if he's cheating?
Q. Im in love with a guy who is 4 years younger then me. Im 25 and his 21. Its just 5 months since we met. His in another state schooling and im staying home. Its four months now we haven't met. He hardly calls me. Its me who always calls and reminds ...
A. 15 March 2009: So you are in a LDR where you have met once in 5 months and he doesn't call you, and you haven't seen him in 4 of those months?
Yes I think he has a girlfriend and you are his plan B, for when he is next in your state! ... (read in full...)
Maybe not girlfriend material?
Q. i,d like lot of guys over the year.and got rejected i am fat,short,with a fat round face.were glasses. they don,t like me.may be its me thats wrong i am the reason they don,t like me that way.i am not type of girl to do my nails and painted them...
A. 15 March 2009: The reason you don't have a boyfriend is because you have no self-esteem, you obviously hate the way you are and any potential guy you meet, (which from what you say isn't very often) is instantly put off because you are so negative about ... (read in full...)
The guy I like seems to fancy other girls
Q. i dont know what to do :@. the boy i like keeps saying i fancy my best friend and going in moods over it.. and keeps accusing me of fancying my cousins friend.. and Then goes moody with me. But its alright for him to say he likes me, but then ...
A. 15 March 2009: This isn't a question and doesn't make any sense at all.
Think about what you want to ask us and write it in a way us oldies will understand.
Sorry we can't help.... (read in full...)
I'm really confused about what happened
Q. Sorry again keep asking about this annoying experience ....For what you answered me...Some might think that i hide some information acccording to what one guy saying it doesnt make sense that he came to your bed ...raised your blanket erected and ...
A. 15 March 2009: Okay your question is still not clear at all, I'm guessing you are no English? This whole situation happened many years ago. I think that if his penis entered you Anus, you really would know about it, the fact that you were DRESSED makes it very ... (read in full...)
How do I forget him, it's not easy!
Q. I had this male mate i was really close to and we slept together which was a huge mistake as we now both hate each other coz of things that have been said. Anyway i found out how much of an idiot he actually is and i need to forget about him but ...
A. 14 March 2009: You just have to put up with it for now, over time you will get over him, but there is no magical switch that stops your feelings towards people.
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Pain after anal sex, how do I stop it hurting?
Q. My boyfriend and I just had anal sex and it hurt alot so we stopped. I'm having a lot of pain in that area. How do I get it to stop hurting?...
A. 14 March 2009: See a doctor and don't do it again!... (read in full...)
300 calories weekdays, 3000 cals weekend. Will I lose weight?
Q. heyx i am on this new diet where i eat 300 calories and do half and hour exersize everyday. though one day a week, i eat 3000 calories, just so i can go out and have fun and EAT once in a while!! would i lose weight from this diet? (I want to lose ...
A. 14 March 2009: Wow and we get to plug our books for free too, what a great web site!... (read in full...)
Chance of pregnancy?
Q. Someone please,help me out? (risk of pregnancy?) I'm with the most amazing person- we have been together for over 2 years now,but we have never had sex (I want to be a virgin until my marriage). However what we do is usually called 'dry sex'...
A. 14 March 2009: If his penis is out of his pants and erect put a condom on it.
Pre-cum The clear liquid that may come out of his penis before ejaculation still contains sperm and can cause pregnancy during unprotected sex.
If he actually ejaculates and t... (read in full...)
His wife is moving back in, I've got to move out but still wants to see me! What should I do?
Q. Hi, i have been dating this man for about 7 years he is married but him and his wife were separated, me and this guy did everything together i fell head over heels in love, he told me that he loved me too but the problem came in at when i moved in ...
A. 14 March 2009: Wow, this is a terrible situation to be in, maybe when you started dating a married guy you should have pushed for him to legally end his marriage.
Any guy who remains married over that period of time MUST still have feelings for his wife and... (read in full...)
How do I tell the father that I'm pregnant?
Q. I'm 18 and definitely pregnant. my mom and dad knows but the father doesn't know. how do i tell him also i used a condom but I'm sitting here pregnant?...
A. 14 March 2009: As we say on here ALL THE TIME no form of contraception is 100% safe, so unfortunately you are that 0.01% that was unlucky. The only safe sex is no sex.
But you know all that now!
The only way to tell your boyfriend is to be open and honest ... (read in full...)
Just wandering.. are guys & girls really that different?
Q. Hi Cupids! Started seeing a guy about a month ago and we have had several lovely dates and get on really well. He phoned me last 2 nights ago and said he wanted to see me - I am meeting him tomorrow again. Just wandering.. are guys and girls...
A. 14 March 2009: Girls and guys are very different, I can't stand texting all the time, there are fiddly buttons and you have to stop what you are doing and as soon as you reply to a text you get another one! After my wife has sent me 3 texts in a row I assume she ... (read in full...)
How to get over my first love
Q. hi well im 15 and just broke up with my gf well it was a mutual break up. we broke up cause we were fightin about stupid stuff and she was doun stupid stuff like drinking and smokin alot and i just dont wanna deal with that and she doesnt want to ...
A. 14 March 2009: You just have to give it time there is no quick fix. ... (read in full...)
I really like a girl that is in a long distance relationship
Q. I really like a girl that is in a long distance relationship. We are both in high school so she hardly ever sees the guy. I feel that there is a mutual interest but I do not know how to approach the situation because she seems happy with him. But,...
A. 14 March 2009: Go for it, LDRs hardly ever work, and we are forever advising girls on here to look for a guy closer to home.
If you have actually been on dates with her, she's not that serious about him. ... (read in full...)
Its not healthy for me to have this feelings for my teacher
Q. hey everbody, i know ur just about to kill anyone who wants advice about their teacher's crush. but please. hear me out. I have had really strong feelings about my teacher for the past year or so. These feelings just kind of started as an ad...
A. 14 March 2009: Type Crush or teacher, into the search facility you are right we are sick of hearing the same post from girls who just repost the same question every other day.
Also there is an article by musicalmistress which sounds exactly the same as the situ... (read in full...)
He called me the biggest slag in town!
Q. i was close mates with this lad (A), we told each other everything, then we slept together, and we didnt use protection, but afterwards, he soon chnaged, stopped talking to me, but was fine with everyone else, then we had an argument, and he called ...
A. 14 March 2009: Now sweetheart, no need to get like that.
Firstly he's treating you like this because you have behaved in what he and many other men would consider a slutty way!
Secondly YOU HAVE HAD UNPROTECTED SEX therefore the aunties here feel they have a... (read in full...)
Is this the right way to do it for the first time? Does he make sense?
Q. Hiya, im 18year's old and i met this guy through the net he's 28. he's always been straight with me from the start.we're different religons and will nt be able to get married hesn ever lead me on. now before you think fo me in a bad light i want...
A. 14 March 2009: Read this before having sex http://www.dearcupid.org/question/thinking-about-losing-your-virginity.html... (read in full...)
Who has it worse: the one being cheated on, or the one doing the cheating?
Q. Do you think that if you are the cheater and are full of remorse and regret for what you have done and love and adore your spouse dearly, could it possibly feel worse than being the one who has been cheated on? Before you ask, we were going through ...
A. 14 March 2009: In reply to Jager an emotional affair, is where you have all the feelings of a relationship and being in love with the other person, but normally because you know a physical affair is so wrong you do nothing about it!
So technically, it's worse fo... (read in full...)
He called me the biggest slag in town!
Q. i was close mates with this lad (A), we told each other everything, then we slept together, and we didnt use protection, but afterwards, he soon chnaged, stopped talking to me, but was fine with everyone else, then we had an argument, and he called ...
A. 14 March 2009: You haven't really done yourself any favours by having a chat with a guy then having unprotected sex at under 16! And I'm guessing it probably wasn't your first time by the fact that you were so casual about writing about it.
It was a bit harsh to... (read in full...)
Is it possible for my vagina to become tight again?
Q. Hiya. I'm a virgin and wondering... If i was to have sex now once evry month.. then did not have sex or anything for 5years in a row. would my vagina become "tight" or still stay loose. thanks...
A. 14 March 2009: Before loosing your virginity please read this article: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/thinking-about-losing-your-virginity.html
I think you are looking in to the whole virginity thing too much, you don't stretch that much and doing pelvic f... (read in full...)
Not use birth control pills?
Q. Someone told me that a person who hasn't had kids should not us birth control pills. is this true?...
A. 14 March 2009: No it's utter rubbish!... (read in full...)
Do guys mind/like if a girl sends them a long letter regarding feelings?
Q. Basically I really want to send a guy who is currently in a different country, an email explaining how I feel about it, in depth. I know a letter is far more personal but I just wanted to send an email, but I don't want him to be put off??? Even ...
A. 14 March 2009: A guy won't read a long e-mail, a letter he can read and come back to, he can choose when and where to read it and truely contemplate it.
A hand written letter comes form the heart and e-mail is easy to read through and edit, a hand written ... (read in full...)
He's too nice and its annoying me!!
Q. Hi, this sounds sooo stupid but its been really bugging me for so long. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 yrs and he really is the nicest person...i swear he is a saint! Nothing is never any trouble for him and he never has anything ba...
A. 12 March 2009: Ha ha ha! I think this is something you just have to put up with. There is no sense in getting angry just because he is nice, or trying to egg him on!
I think you should look up some of the abused women's posts on here and realise how lucky yo... (read in full...)
Confuse feelings for a teacher
Q. I'm just very confused right now about my feelings towards one of my teachers. At the start of the year I didn't pay much attention to him, and didn't really like him that much, but now as the school year is going by, I'm starting to develop some ...
A. 12 March 2009: Type "teacher" into the search this question gets asked about 3 times a day, you'll find a lot of good advise out there. But I haven't got time to type it up again.... (read in full...)
I can't get over my teacher! I'm obsessed with him
Q. I can't get over my teacher. You just don't know... I always dream about him! He won't get out of my head. It's hard for me to listen to him teach when all I do is stare at him. It's hard to concentrate when I'm doing my work in his class becaus...
A. 11 March 2009: You know our answers are going to be negative so why post such a long drawn out essay, we've answered this question for you before.
I tell you what, tell him him you love him and that you never want to be with anyone else and just prove us all w... (read in full...)
There's this boy I like, but does he like me?
Q. There’s this boy that I like and im not sure if he likes me. I don't want to ask him and i'm way to shy to ask him anyway. I would just like an honest opinion so I know. Here are some of the signs: He stares at me a lot from the other side...
A. 11 March 2009: You've asked this question before, hence why nobody has replied to you yet!
And with such limited information how can we tell if he likes you, why don't you ask one of his friends?... (read in full...)
I said I love her and she replied "he he". What does that mean
Q. hello guys..im 18 and i have a friend i been dating for 5months already..i really like her and love her..my parents already know her and her's too..both of her sisters like me and votes for me..we always go out on a date like everyday. we call each ...
A. 11 March 2009: So you didn't actually say "I love you" you said "lovelove" no wonder she laughed it's as bad as saying "I weely weely wuv wu!"
Don't read anything into it, if you want a serious answer tell her seriously, instead of being cutesy about it!... (read in full...)
300 calories weekdays, 3000 cals weekend. Will I lose weight?
Q. heyx i am on this new diet where i eat 300 calories and do half and hour exersize everyday. though one day a week, i eat 3000 calories, just so i can go out and have fun and EAT once in a while!! would i lose weight from this diet? (I want to lose ...
A. 11 March 2009: NO the massive changes in your metabolism would keep the weight on, you need to eat regular healthy meals and do plenty of exercise to loose weight.
1500Cals is the minimum daily calories a women should take, if you are exercising regularl... (read in full...)
Is it possible for us to be physical and get married?
Q. i am a non practising christian divorced with children and ive met a new partner who is widowed and a catholic can we have a physical relationship and get married ...
A. 11 March 2009: Yes of course you can, you may have to have a civil ceremony rather than a church wedding, as the Catholic church can be a little funny at times. But the best advise is for you both to speak to his priest for advise.... (read in full...)
I want to kiss my GF but I don't know when to do it
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a girlfriend and want to kiss her but don't know when to do so. Please Help...
A. 11 March 2009: When the time feels right!
Take her out, and when you have a lull in the conversation and there is an awkward silence, tell her she looks gorgeous and you would really like to kiss her and see what happens.... (read in full...)
New to the dating thing. Should I meet him for lunch?
Q. Help! Should I meet him for lunch? My boyfriend is in the area..and he text me this morning to meet him for lunch. He's used to buying food from the dollar menu during the week and on weekends we really splurge. He does pay for pretty much all our ...
A. 11 March 2009: Go for it!... (read in full...)
What should I do when I first meet him? Hug? Say hey?
Q. im a 18 year old guy and im planning to go on a date with a 23 year old guy, i just dont know how to approach him when i meet him? hug? just a simple hey? what should i do when i first meet him? we have been set on a blind date by our friends... b...
A. 11 March 2009: I think a hug is a perfectly normal thing to do, go with that it will break the ice a bit.... (read in full...)
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