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writes:Hiim a muslim girl and have a boyfriend of 4 years, which is a very big "sin" as we arent even supposed to shake hands with a member of the opposite sex. My parents arent exactly as strict as other muslim parents, who force there kids at home, and force them to wear full clothing. my parents are open minded. they even agree that i can have a love marriage. BUT not just yet. after university when im like 24!! i really cant live without my boyfriend. i love him very very much. as my parents dont exactly KNOW about him, but they assume i have a bf, and always taunt me bout him and snatch my phone to read the texts. i feel terrible. i really love him and dont want to loose him cos of my parents. i really dont know what to do :(-i think you should reply if you understand my religion...
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (4 April 2009):
 OK if honesty doesn't work, it's time for good old Dishonesty!
You are off to Uni soon so they won't see you texting all the time and spending time with him. When you are at home don't text in their presence. Keep it all low key for now. This is why University is great not only do you get a good education but you also get time away from your parents.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe thing is previusly, i told them and they went mad. they said i have to stop being with him or i will "regret it" which sounded bad as my parents have hit me previously for being rebellious. so i told them that i broke up with him. now they are getting the impression that i am still with him as they always catch me texting etc
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (4 April 2009):
It sounds like your parents are actually very understanding, tell them you have a boyfriend, even introduce him to them. I'm sure they would love to meet him.
Just because you are in a relationship now doesn't mean you have to get married now!
I think there are plenty of British Muslims in your situation and plenty with much stricter parents than yours
Just enjoy your time together and when you finish Uni you can start planning that wedding.
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