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writes:just wondered if women like big muscualar lean guys, like body builder type guys or prefer the slimmer skinny build?i ask this as i dont get much attention from women and im hoping to slim down from 225 to 205 lbs. im a muscular guy and thought if i got a bit leaner it might help improve my self esteem and maybe might get a bit more attention from girls, buts its mainly for myself.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (21 December 2009):
Women generally like men who are confident and take care of their hygiene (ie. No funny smells, clean hair/clean clothes etc.) body size is not a big issue. I am attracted to muscular tall guys at first glance, but I have dated overweight short guys too. The only thing they had in common was they were confident (didn't care what others thought of them), funny and they bathed!!!
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (21 December 2009):
 As long as a guy is weighted in reasonable proportion, I think that most women consider brawn the least. Most women do seem to be more attracted to facial good looks, personality, sense of humor and confidence in a man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): Well im still growing, in the 245+ range, 5ft10, an honestly..im getting more attention now than ever, and not in a bad way, i am quite lean at this weight, so to answer your question id say get as big as your comfortable with..but always maintain those abs;)
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reader, mai mai : D +, writes (21 December 2009):
all girls like difrent things, but me and most of my frends like someone who is not to big and muscula, but not to skinny aswell. but everyony diffrent, do whats best for you.
p.s if its wat you want then go for it, knowones stoping you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): Actually, you should do what YOU think looks great! And then the right woman for you will be the one who agrees that yes, you do look amazing, just the way you are.
See the downside to trying to fit into a body you don't really have/like yourself is that you can't keep it up forever. There will come a day when you will feel like just being yourself again, and there will be a day when you're older, and things simply wont keep in place. Being with someone who loves you for you would be great then, and not being with someone who loves a certain body type.
And to answer your question: there's a woman for each body type out there. We all like different things, I guess it depends on the individual.
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reader, Tarnished Knight  +, writes (20 December 2009):
Come on anon...build your confidence first before you build or unbuild your body. You cannot and will not find peace with others until you first find peace with yourself. When you look in the mirror embrace the fact that you are a good guy, period. Who cares what a woman wants...she may be attracted to you first based on appearances, but trust me that will fade if you are insecure and lack confidence. Ourwardly beauty fades over time...but confidence, a sense of humor and the ability to laugh....those are very attractive qualities.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2009): Depends on the type of woman, lots of women like different body shapes and i say only change yourself if you yourself really want to, do it for you not anyone else. because alot of women out there im sure like big muscular men, just like some like skinnier types. But they shouldn't really be bothered by it to much if they do like the skinnier types, it should be your personality they go for. and if they do prefer muscular men, a plus for you. whichever way it is shouldn't matter much to the women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2009): Only lose weight for your self. Women like men in all shapes and sizes. My previous bf was 17st. I was attracted to his energy and sense of humour. My latest bf is 12st and i love his laid back attitude and kindness. Both lovely men in different ways. It has nothing to do with weight or muscles.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2009): It depends on the woman. You would do better to work on your self esteem, do a course or something to improve that so that you like yourself as you are and feel more confident. There's someone out there who is going to like you just as you are.
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reader, Lovesucks1234 +, writes (20 December 2009):
 I know I like guys that are muscular.
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