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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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I sort of like this guy and we kissed while drunk, but he has a girlfriend! what should I do?
Q. A few months ago I kissed a guy, we were both quite drunk, well really drunk. He goes to my college, and is in a few of my classes. It was really awkward for a while, but it's alright now. Anyway, I didn't know that he had a girlfriend, wh...
A. 31 January 2010: Back off and be glad you did nothing more than kiss. If you become his girlfriend, you don't want him to just go drink and kiss another girl. You make it sound like you have no choice but to be with him because you kissed him by "acciden... (read in full...)
Are some people simply destined to be alone all their lives?
Q. At age 25 i have never been in a relationship and obviously still a virgin never kissed anyone and as each day passes i see myself growing older and lonlier. I suffer badly from depression and anxiety i have no self esteem at all no confiden...
A. 31 January 2010: A lot of people have herpes. I wonder, you are a virgin, so you have herpes on your lips only? Make sure your diet is more alkaline than acidic. Vegetables, fruits, and avoid bleached flour, white sugar, corn and corn syrup. Eat food with a higher ... (read in full...)
Pregnant at seventeen and need advice on how to get my boyfriend to treat me better!
Q. hi my name is chantelle and i'm 17 years old and pregnant. i need help and advice because i cant go through this alone, and my boyfriend is making things worse. my question is, what kind of talk can i have with my boyfriend to make him smarten up ...
A. 30 January 2010: Fatherless America. I should say Fatherless World. Many have gone through this alone and are doing fine, meaning being able to get through school, find a job and childcare at the same time. Some are depressed and are relying on social services... (read in full...)
How do I get over the anger I feel towards my parents?
Q. I just turned 30 and I'm still hurting from anger at my parents, and I'll always struggle with that anger. In my heart of hearts, I feel certain that they didn't want me and that they don't love me. I don't want to have to bear their surname ...
A. 30 January 2010: It is a long winter I know. Something else must have triggered the pain growing up. Your life is not working for you right now and you blame your parents for this. I am 29 I could say that I wished my childhood had been different. I had thoughts ... (read in full...)
Is true love and romance dead
Q. is true love and romance dead ? is it just becoming a myth a dream that can only exist in ones head ? humans are so horrible to each other its truly disgusting.. this world has become so dark it truly makes you think why are you still here! then ...
A. 30 January 2010: The world is a dark place if you choose to see it thay way. The media is full of violence, disasters and celebrities' mishaps because bad news sell. We ignore what's going on because we can't do anything to change it. To try to understand the world ... (read in full...)
My ex sexually assaulted me and I don't know what to do
Q. Okay, so im sorry if this gets long, and i know that im more in the wrong than any of these guys! I just really dont know what to do anymore, ive been with my amazing boyfriend Richard now, for 11 months, everythings being going great, hes so kind ...
A. 30 January 2010: You have to go to the clinic, get checked out and report a rape. I know you want all this to be a secret. The more you wait the more people suspect that you allowed Simon to do this to you. I know all this happened so fast you don't know what to ... (read in full...)
How do I get this relationship going? We are both shy!
Q. Wonder if you can give me some advice. I really like a mate of mine and i think he likes me. So do some of our friends. However he is very very very shy when it comes to this stuff and everyones said i've got to do something because although he ...
A. 30 January 2010: He would only be more confident if his relationship works out with you. And if both of you just wait and say nothing, then there is no relationship to start with. Both of you are not sure if you like each other enough to be gfs bfs. You are already ... (read in full...)
What does his behaviour mean? Does he miss me?
Q. My ex and I dated for almost 7 months until he broke up with me 3 months ago (via text messaging, very cowardly). He said that he felt like it was more of a friendship than a relationship, but he said it could be because he was moving in a month, ...
A. 27 January 2010: He is hurting as much as you are. Most guys, when they break up, flirt with other girls most immediately to avoid dealing with the pain inside. But he turned the stress inwards. Whenever a guy sees a girl being hurt, his instinct is to protect her. ... (read in full...)
Not sure how I feel, do I want the relationship to go on?
Q. I’ve been with my BF for almost 6 months. He’s a great guy and I really couldn’t ask for more. He treats me well, he respects me and he’s planning his future with me. I however often get confused. When we first started going out I left him for som...
A. 27 January 2010: I read a psychological article about how females choose masculine types to make sure they have good genes, and how we Mr. Nice to nurture ourselves emotionally. It is a dilemma and it is no surprise to see how so many young girls get impregnated by ... (read in full...)
I want certain things in the bedroom and he won't listen to me!
Q. In work I am the boss of 60 people, of which 35 are men.I've been with mu now husband since I was 17, he was my first everything.Few years before we married I met a guy who I just had sex with, he suggested that he ties me up and has sex with me, I ...
A. 26 January 2010: I didn't know I was interested in BDSM until I was 27 when I met a guy who was a little rough with me and surprisingly I was turned on. Before that I thought that BDSM stuff is just for goth people. Since you are his high school sweetheart it would ... (read in full...)
Feeling sad! I don't think my boyfriend is the one but don't want to end it either!
Q. Im in my mid twenties, living at home, have a good steady job and a boyfriend of 7 years. I am now utterly depressed. My boyfriend and I were about to fill out a form for a flat but i just broke down in tears and couldn't face doing it. Problem is, ...
A. 26 January 2010: I broke down in tears when the first day I met my teacher in college. I was asking myself whether I chose the wrong major. So what I did in college did not help me in real life. But I was glad I was a professional at something. I do no regret ... (read in full...)
My ex cheated on his pregnant girl with me!
Q. Hiya everyone, Ok i now this sounds really wrong but im best friends with my ex bf, His gf is pregnent, and went in2 hospital last yesterday to be induced anyway he got sent home as no baby, and he rang me up and asked if i could get him some foo...
A. 26 January 2010: He is using you and I hope you used protection. If you got pregnant he would be going to his ex or a new girlfriend because he got blue balls, and then call you on the phone to say I love you.
You do whatever you want to do. If there are more than... (read in full...)
Au Pair in Italy or a manager of a B and B in London..which job do I choose?
Q. Hi. I'm not sure which career to choose !. I have ahd a few offers today from families in Italy for me to go and work for them as an Au Pair, and i have also had an email from the manager of a Bed and breakfast in London asking me to phone as i ...
A. 25 January 2010: Manager of B and B. It would look better on a resume, you get to interact with a lot of people, and during free time you can date. A manager has more authority than an Au Pair.... (read in full...)
Is it true that love can grow?
Q. Met this girl at school in October. She came off a bad break up with her "first love" in July and took it really hard as lots of promises were given and what not. He broke up with her. They fought alot, etc. All in all he was insecure so I think ...
A. 25 January 2010: Her old love hasn't died yet. Her new seed is not ready yet. Seems like your justified insecurity is keeping her old flame alive. I am not saying you are doing anything wrong. You need to stay away from her until she is ready, but chances are when ... (read in full...)
I'm ready to end my affair with a married man!
Q. I have been involved in an affair with a married man that I work with for almost five years. I realized long ago that the relationship was not working for me. This man never made promises to leave his wife, but always said the right things to ...
A. 25 January 2010: You probably prayed for him to take his attention away from you and your prayer has been answered. Your affair has ended. Next time when you see your boss and co worker together just wink at them and whisper it's all good! The co worker is the one ... (read in full...)
I told him I loved him and now I feel foolish
Q. He and I have been dating for 4 months, but known each other for 5 years. We actually dated for a year, but remained friends all this time. On wednesday while we were out to dinner, I told him that I love him. He didnt say it back, but he said ...
A. 25 January 2010: An innocent admittance won't do any harm . . .
I love you has been said so many times, often at the wrong times, with ulterior motives and intentions. When you utter them all of a sudden, people don't know what to expect anymore. Don't bring up the ... (read in full...)
He meant the world to me. He kissed, ignored, then left. Why?
Q. So this guy and i have been friends for about one and half years now. Our friendship was amazing for the first year but for the past six months it's been confusing and hurtful but we always fix the problems. However, when we were friends i would ...
A. 25 January 2010: I am sorry your first kiss left you bitter memories. He is probably regretting everything right now. Either he is not ready for a relationship or he likes another girl more. It is a shame that he rather disappear than explain this to you. He ... (read in full...)
It was different for me than the horror stories...Is that ok, or is there something wrong?
Q. I just had sex for the first time last night with my boyfriend. It was great everything was perfect, I must admit I was really nervous and scared but once it happened I calmed down.from what I've heard I always believed that when you have sex for ...
A. 24 January 2010: Maybe your hymen was already broken when you were doing tough sports or something. Maybe you were really turned on and wet enough so it didn't hurt too bad. There is a wide range of first sex experiences and I would say you are very lucky. First sex ... (read in full...)
I'm not really sure what to do with my text buddy?
Q. In july i started texin this lad, it was all going well we would speak 24/7 either texin or on the phone and we were at each others house every weekend, it was just like being in a relationship but then in November i decided to tell me he didn't ...
A. 24 January 2010: Treat him as a text buddy and nothing else. I hate texting. It's a waste of time and money. The most you could do with him is say "Hi, honey," "Bye, Honey," "Want to hang out? Sure!" He is mostly in your cell phone and if he happens to see you in ... (read in full...)
Was it too early to confide to him that I'm a virgin?
Q. I am 21 year old female in college. I have been talking to this guy for the past month over our winter break through Facebook chat. On the first day back from break, he immediately texted me and asked to meet him at a bar...and we just madeout for ...
A. 24 January 2010: A sensible guy would not make a big deal out of this. You shouldn't have to bring it up. He doesn't need to know you are stressing out about this. If you bring it up in an untimely manner than he would think you are frigid and neurotic. The only ... (read in full...)
How do I stop being miserable?
Q. Hi, at this moment in time I just don't know what to do been searching for so many answers so thought i would just see if this message can save me...im 25 years old, dont like my job, have no friends, live at home and nothing is going for me. I dont ...
A. 24 January 2010: You are right. Life is pretty pointless. Even a perfect family like Tiger Woods' could not hide the fact that it is all meaningless. Read existential theory, Book of Life and Death, meditation, etc.
Realize what you are doing to your body now. You ... (read in full...)
How do I set boundaries with my married boss and work to keep them? We have already kissed...
Q. I need help....I let something happen with my boss when one night we were out after a long day out of town we were sitting in the bar having drinks and one thing lead to another. I really thought something weird was going on but thought it was just ...
A. 24 January 2010: I would not mention anything to my boss. The more you talk about it the more it's in your heads. Just stop when you cross danger zones and think about your husband and his wife both crying like babies if they both knew. Just pretend it never ... (read in full...)
LDR: where do we go from here?
Q. Just met with a woman for the second time in two months. She's from Russia, I live in Hungary. She has a 9 year old boy, she is 27 and I have a 6 year old girl, I am 40. I like her a lot. We have made love, slept in the same bed. We hold hands to...
A. 24 January 2010: She needs a dad for her son and you need a mom for your daughter. Two months is mention bfs gfs, nothing too serious yet. You need to know each other better. If you were a single mom, would you choose yourself as a mate? What makes you stand out? Of ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to commit but there "could be" a future?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for around 4 months now, i really like him and everything and he says he likes me too but doesnt want to commit to anything, so at first i was a little gutted but then i was cool with that, so we kinda slowed things down ...
A. 24 January 2010: Commit as in moving in? Getting married?
4 months is too early for one to commit. He needs to know you better as a person, your interests, and whether you two could stand each other. There is no point rushing to a relationship if things won't work... (read in full...)
I want her to have real feelings for me
Q. I am head over heels for this girl I know. We've been best friends for about 2 and a half years. She has had a lot of trouble with guys. She dated one guy who used her to get to her best friend, another who used her to brag to his friends, another ...
A. 24 January 2010: Be a jerk, treat her like $hit, don't be emotionally available, date many girls, then she would fall in love with you, with REAL feelings.
NO, just be yourself and love and real relationships would come to you. Don't make relationships more comp... (read in full...)
Can't handle girlfriend's sexual past!
Q. Alright. So I've been dating my girlfriend for 3 months. She's wonderful. I believe I'm in love with her. I'm 25, she's 21. At the beginning of our dating, I asked her how many guys she had been with. The number she told me shocked me. She said, and ...
A. 24 January 2010: You have reason to worry. Your reasons for not being able to handle her past could be:
1. You are afraid she would cheat on you?
2. Concern for STDs?
3. What other people might think about you two, like family and friends?.
4. You seemed inexp... (read in full...)
Can I love her if I don't find her sexy? How will it work without sex?
Q. ok guys there is this girl i think i love her, everything so damn great when im near her, its so fun when we are together. i feel that shes the i want to live with forever. but the problem is, i dont find her sexy at all. is this really l...
A. 23 January 2010: I call it puppy love. There is no need to think about future, she is just your friend. A relationship is not going to work without sex. How are you so sure you are not going to have sex if you two got married? Most women look sexy naked unless they ... (read in full...)
Should I ask out my best friend?
Q. i have this huge crush on my best friend and i really want to ask her out, the only problem is she knows i fancy her, what should i do?...
A. 23 January 2010: Did you develop this crush before you met her or, you became her friend, then had this crush. If you did not ask her out earlier, she already assumed you did not have the guts and would stop thinking you are boyfriend material. The problem is not ... (read in full...)
How can I help my girlfriend feel more secure?
Q. Hi I could do with a little bit of genuine advice, because Im in a bit of a pickle with regards to an issue that keeps being raised in my relationship. I am 21 years old and I have been with my girlfriend nearly 15 months. I love her so ...
A. 23 January 2010:
Your lifestyles don't match. Her neediness is pushing you away, making you avoid her, thus making her more needy.
She needs to have her own interests and not focus on you all the time. The thing missing in her life is someone who tells her she ... (read in full...)
How can I sort this all out?
Q. Sorry my question is so long but i couldnt shorten it anymore.If you need to know anything about it please ask. Me and this guy met up and liked each other.after a week he asked me to have a relationship with him which i said no because i find it ...
A. 23 January 2010: He is deceitful. You were not ready for a relationship but at the same time he says you are the one in 3 weeks. He said he would wait for you but while waiting, screwing someone else. You did not lose anything, all you lost is an illusion because ... (read in full...)
I think he could still love me to but I'm not sure because he said nothing more than friends
Q. Well.. I firstly want to thank anyone who replys to this it means a lot to me. I am in love with a boy (lets call him T) I have been since August last year. Me and T dated a lot like not as boyfriend and girlfriend but it was dates as w...
A. 23 January 2010: He basically wanted to tell you that he had a good time with you but has decided to stop and fall back on the friends level. When people reminiscent, they are thinking about the past. The dream cannoy carry on to the future because he does not feel ... (read in full...)
How can I be noticed in real life and not in people's sugar covered depiction of reality?
Q. I've always had issues getting dates and relationships for some unseen reason, the only flaw that people i know can see when i ask them to honestly tell me what my problem is, they answer that the fact that i am basically a nerd and i wear clothing ...
A. 23 January 2010: Do a Napolean Dynamite Dance at the end of school year. Sorry I am just joking!
Reality happens after college. There are no more hunks who hit nerds in the locker room. This kind of behavior is not accepted in a work place.
The clothes I don't ca... (read in full...)
My Wife's Boss wants an affair with her
Q. My wife attended her work Christmas party and her boss said he wanted to have an affair with her and other comments, such as her body it so hot he want to Fuc* her etc. I was furious and confronted her boss. He said it was all in kidding....
A. 23 January 2010: You are not over reacting. Your wife is afraid you are going to punch him in the face so she told you no worries. Before you want to get physical with him, report him to the Labor Board or something like that. What he said constituted harrassment, ... (read in full...)
I want my married lover to leave her husband for me
Q. I am having an affair with a married woman. If you are reading and feel the need to tell me to stop or find someone who is not married, you can keep your comments to yourself because I don't care. We are both crazy in love for one another. She ...
A. 23 January 2010: First of all, I understand how you feel. I don't care about how others would rate me. The majority of people here believe in working things out. I am not immoral, I just believe in getting what I want now and be happy with what I want.
Women find... (read in full...)
Read his letter and tell me..should I work this out with him?
Q. Here is a letter my "fiance" sent me.. we have a 21 month old daughter have been together for 3 years. Please read it and let me know if I should bother trying to work this out. thank you. ----(from him) So let's cut the crap. I don't ...
A. 23 January 2010: Is he Swedish? I thought Swedish people are very gentle!
Tell him he makes Swedish people look bad!
He did not accuse you of doing any thing wrong but he made you sound like a mortal sinner. You just basically had a conflict of communic... (read in full...)
She would really freak me out as a serious girlfriend...
Q. Hi, I'm 26 years old and I've been having quite a dilemma lately. Here's the story: One of my two best friends is a girl, and well... she tells me everything... she's also very sexual and relates almost everything to sex in a healthy way i gu...
A. 22 January 2010: She's trapped playing a role. She wants you to get her out of it, yet what would be left of her after she abandons this image she has perfectly crafted? Every guy likes a girl to talk dirty, but occasionally, not all the time. She makes it seem like ... (read in full...)
Starting over with the same woman
Q. so me and this girl who i dated for for about 2 years broke up with me at the beginning of this school year we are in college. now we have started talking again and we are slowly trying to work things out and start a new relationship. the reason she ...
A. 22 January 2010: Being dependent on each other is a reason to break up? And you accepted that as a reason? Obviously that's not a reason because she wanted you back.
Start over with a woman who is clear about what she wants. Your ex is playing hot and cold and is c... (read in full...)
What is this weird ex boyfriend thinking? I'm so confused!
Q. I met my ex 8 years ago.. I was 17. We dated for only 3 months. We broke up because of stupid reason. Guess we were just young. We always remained good friends. But on and off a few times. We always hugged each other to sleep whenever we were ...
A. 22 January 2010: He really loves you and is not asking you anything for return. Even though he can't be your boyfriend he still wants you to be happy. He treats you like his sister. You are expecting him to be bitter around you but instead he is being very open ... (read in full...)
Help! I have a very high sex drive and my fiance doesn't - yet he's watching porn?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for seven years. We're young- no older than 22 and We've lived together for three of the seven. A few months back i woke up randomly from having gone to sleep early and noticed pink light on the walls from t...
A. 21 January 2010: Leaving's not an option? Of course give yourself option, you don't want to get stuck. He is leaving you out. Maybe he is feeling stressed out that he could not satisfy you humongous need so he tried to turn himself into a hypersexual figure, ... (read in full...)
Am I investing my time for it all to end anyway???
Q. I am in love beyond what I ever thought possible. I was once married (for almost 10 years), and left that relationship a hollow (cynical) man. I spent a lot of time learning about myself, my needs, and ultimately what I wanted. At about the time...
A. 21 January 2010: I never used birth control before but I hear that it could dampen a woman's sex drive. Every woman is different and some say the pills enhances sex drive. I would suggest to get her off the pills to see if the libido comes back. If you love her you ... (read in full...)
I don't tell my boyfriend about my problems as I don't want him to think I cannot handle things!
Q. I miss my boyfriend a lot when he goes back to school. He occassionally comes back on the weekend, but I just feel so distant from him even though we try to talk at least once a day. I support him as much as I can so I don't let on to how much I m...
A. 21 January 2010: You are being considerate towards your boyfriend. You can tell him things in a way that's not demanding of a solution, but just a report of the day because you need a listener. Honestly girls are better listeners. It's okay to tell him you miss him, ... (read in full...)
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