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What qualifies me to help others well it isn't any certificates it is 39 years of life that has has given me so many very hard lessons and ways to deal with them. From a school age I was always the person people would come to for advice . I have suffered so much in my life and the battles I have face have shown me how to help others who need advice guidance. I never judge anyone I feel no anger towards people and have learnt to deal with life's roller coaster . I'm a straight forward woman and will ask questions to give the best advice I can. I am a single mother of 3 beautiful children and have battled for my children's needs.

I am very open to all experiences sexual , life everything and have had alot of years experiencing these. I look forward to helping you with what ever you need and please don't feel shy because if you don't ask you will never know

Love and happiness is what I wish for you all x x x x

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Would you say I'm bi? Confused? Gay?

Q.   Hello, I am nealy 20 years old. For the last 2 years I haven't been very sexually active (3 partners, which I have only been with once). Anyway, my reason being is I find the thought of sleeping with men quite disgusting, it hurts me physical...

A.   1 May 2012: I think your confused because you feel being in a gay relationship is not the normal. Being with a man is what most women have been bought up to see as what there future holds.. You don't enjoy sex with men and don't find men attractive that's fine ... (read in full...)

He said he didnt want a girlfriend but he still hits on me, how do I deal with this?

Q.   I am 14 years old and I have only been in 1 month long relationship. I like this guy and he used to like me. A while ago he suddenly changed his mind and I still love him as much as i did before. He hits on me and has been since we met and we have ...

A.   1 May 2012: Hun your 14 don't stress about this men tend to mature later then women . You need to let this go and just be a 14 year old let him play his games and keep that in your mind that it is just games he is playing ..... (read in full...)

My co-worker who I was attracted to uses me for her own benefit and I've had enough! How do I deal with her?

Q.   A bit distressed about a situation I got myself in. I'm lesbian and was attracted to this bisexual woman bc of her outward beauty....knowing her now she's spoiled, selfish, and irresponsible. I never intended to date her, just get to know her. I've ...

A.   1 May 2012: If she asks for anything else just say no sorry I think we need to keep our distance from anything outside of work.. If she goes off at you just end the conversation and get busy with work... Keep any argument she wants to start out of your work ... (read in full...)

What makes you stay or leave in a relationship?

Q.   Hi all, what makes you want to stay or leave in a relationship? Do you do pros and cons? I am at crossroads. I do not feel my newly live in boyfriend is pulling his weight in this relationship. I do not feel appreciated as much as I should be. I t...

A.   1 May 2012: All I can say is you only live once and to be unhappy is not the way to live..if you feel that your relationship is all give from you and just take from him and you feel you have tried everything to make things work and it's not better then your ... (read in full...)

I know the cheating is wrong, but I don't know how to stop

Q.   i am married for almost 2 years with the man i really love and spend the rest of my life with. as time goes by, i felt rejected to him everytime i want to have sex with him. either he is tired from work and he has a habit of having a hard time to ...

A.   29 April 2012: Short and sweet ok here goes...if you really truly love your husband you wouldn't be doing this to him. Sex is just a added bonus in any relationship and for you to go somewhere else for it behind your husbands back is such a lack of respect towards ... (read in full...)

What are the signs a guy loves you?

Q.   what are the sign that a boy loves you ......

A.   29 April 2012: The respect they show you the way they miss you the way they hold you the way they touch you the way he speaks about you the way he lights up when your around the way he longs to be with you when your not around the affection he shows you alone and ... (read in full...)

Sending the wrong signals?

Q.   Okay so ive seen this guy around my school and i use to not like him because i though he was cocky or whatever, lets call him JA. My friend needed a ride and JA was with him and some other friends of mine. Well JA was trying to get with me the whole ...

A.   29 April 2012: Yeah look he was the one throwing himself at you and I'm proud of you for not giving him what he wanted well done hun. As for his behavior now well it's very strange but maybe it's because you haven't giving in to him so he's had enough or mayb... (read in full...)

Why doesn't he talk to me yet he smiles when his friend talk about me?

Q.   There's a guy that I met at school who is known to be really reserved. By reserved, I mean...well he only talks when he wants to talk if you catch my drift. Like you could call his name a gazillion times and if he doesn't wanna talk to you he's not ...

A.   29 April 2012: Totally agree with aunt honesty you can rack your brain for ever trying to work him out and listen to everyone else but you will never know he truth until you ask him face to face... (read in full...)

We're due to marry in November but I'm stressed about these issues

Q.   I am supposed to be getting married in november. Me and my fiance have been together for almost 2years. We have had our differeces about many things but I am afraid that she will give up on me one day. The reasons are that I don't approve of the way ...

A.   29 April 2012: If she dresses in clothes you think are too tight, too revealing, well all I can say is that if she looks good feel proud that she is your gal. It's a huge compliment when you notice men looking at her and she is with you if she doesn't flirt wi... (read in full...)

When and how do I fight to get him back?

Q.   My boyfriend ended our relationship 2 days ago. He said it was because there can't be any future for us (he is from another country). He said he doesn't want to waste my time because I deserve someone who will take care of me. I am not looking for a ...

A.   29 April 2012: If you enjoy the time with him then tell him your not after a permanent relationship and just enjoy the time your with him... But if you have feelings for him cut the cord and move on Hun or you will get hurt. I give the guy some credit for being ... (read in full...)

I love him and his cousin!

Q.   i am seventeen and i amdating a nineteen year old boy,he loves me and i love him but i fell for his cousin eric and i dont know what to do,i love both so much and i know i sound dumb cuz i'm so young but i know what love is and i just need a little ...

A.   28 April 2012: If your with the one guy first take a step back and think who you really want be honest you can't have both and your messing with a family not cool... Don't play the guys off between each other it's one or the other either way someone will get hurt ... (read in full...)

I found he did some "swinging" two years into our dating... and not from him. How should I feel?

Q.   Dear Cupid, I'm in an exclusive relationship going on two years. We both own our homes. He is divorced and my husband passed away. He never would give me much information on why they divorced and claimed he never cheated on her, they just gre...

A.   28 April 2012: If there is doubt and distrust in our mind turn away and leave him to it protect yourself sounds to me like he is playing you and her wanting the best of both worlds be careful put yourself first for once... (read in full...)

I don't want to be perceived as the awkward kid, I want to fit in!

Q.   I feel like I have done wrong by a lot of people, and in doing so, I feel I have let myself down. I know I am a teenager and I have a lot of time to get my head around it all but for a long time now, I have been trying to figure out why I had so...

A.   28 April 2012: All I can say is now you realize the person you were being isn't who you are so show everyone who you really are be confident and start at a fresh beginning. Your grades are going to suffer if your worrying about what people think of you all the ... (read in full...)

Getting married but all I can do is think of my ex

Q.   Hi, thanks for reading this. I am a mother of 1 in my 30's Getting married next year but all I can think about is my ex!! We were together 10 years ago for 8 years and haven't seen each other much since! Our parents are friends and we have a fe...

A.   28 April 2012: Don't get married until you sort your feelings out towards your ex. If you have any love for your fiancé you will tell him how your feeling and sort yourself out because it's not fair to drag him down and hurt him because your confused Do the ... (read in full...)

Should I tell him about my pregnancy? He does not want a baby!

Q.   Ok to start off yes I know how stupid I was, but it happened and I can't change it now. This guy and I had been on about 2 dates at the time. we had sex and the thing I never expected to happen...happened. I got pregnant. The issue is, he talks ...

A.   28 April 2012: Ok he is the one who does not want to wear a condom so it is something you obviously agreed on .. In saying that you need to tell him so he can be held responsiable for his actions weather whe wants the baby or not is only your concern as you can't ... (read in full...)

I tried shaving private area with a razor but it grows back too fast. What else can I try?

Q.   i feel really self conscious when it comes to shaving down there. i love it to be completely smooth so use a razor, but after a day or 2 it starts to grow back and feels really prickley. however its not long enough to shave without hurting and ...

A.   28 April 2012: Ok let it grow a bit and go for either lazer hair removal or waxing... (read in full...)

How can I start a meaningful conversation to gain his support (and interest) about my pregnancy?

Q.   Hey, so I need some help to communicate better with my bf about our pregnancy as I feel he doesn't care, which leaves me wondering if I should go it alone :( I'm 11 weeks pregnant now, we have our first scan next week. We've been together 2 years...

A.   28 April 2012: Everyone reacts differently to such big news especially when it wasn't planned... Now your only very early into this stop thinking so much and start enjoying your body and it's changes if you feel he won't find you attractive tell him this your ... (read in full...)

She gets upset with me when I talk about what I mind in our relationship!

Q.   I have a problem with what appears to me to be minimal care and concern about different matters in my relationship. I talk openly with my fiance about things that occur in our relationship but almost every time I do she gets upset with me, or she ...

A.   28 April 2012: Some people go straight into defense mode when something negitive is said towards them or there part in something .. Try and talk to her in a different way directing the concerns at yourself but still getting your message across eg.. I'm feeling ... (read in full...)

Am I just being blinded by love?

Q.   I have been with my girlfriend for 4 months now and I do genuinely love her but a couple months ago she got really drunk on a night out with her friends and ending up dancing and kissing another guy AND they exchanged numbers. Realising what she had ...

A.   28 April 2012: It's not you being blinded by love it's you being blinded by jealousy .. She got drunk ok we all do silly things when drunk but she did the right thing and said do not contact me again..... Her friends are guys I'm sure she had them as friends when... (read in full...)

Why can't I date a black guy?

Q.   I've been dating my boyfriend for a month now. Put simply, I'm white and he's black. My dad insists that he's not racist, but he seems funny about it. He says there are risks involved in society. At the end of the day I really like my boyfriend, I ...

A.   28 April 2012: Just give your father time they were raised in a different era when it wasn't as normal to date white on black be patient with your dad and let him see how happy you both are he will come around as soon as he sees his little girl happy and her man ... (read in full...)

Is he really interested in me? Or am I just another conquest? And inexperienced too

Q.   i've been seeing someone who is way more experienced than me sexually and most of his past girls have been very experienced and are into casual sex. it makes me feel like i'm just another conquest and i am curious if he is interested in me just beca...

A.   23 April 2012: If you feel that already then walk away huni you know your not competing but if you get vibe from him later... (read in full...)

It hurts when I have sex!

Q.   I am 22 years old and it really really hurts every time I have sex with my boyfriend. We've been together for 2.5 years and its beginning to affect our relationship because he hates hurting me. Its gradually started hurting more and more since w...

A.   23 April 2012: Go to the dr ask for a urine test. For chlamydia this is a silent std and can be dormant in either partner for years this can only be found from a urine test if positive you and your partner take tablets no sex for 3 weeks then good to go.l if you ... (read in full...)

How do I know he loves me when he doesn't call?

Q.   How do i know he loves me when he don't even bother to call me. He says he love,but i do the calling always and each time i call he always tell me he has no money to buy credit. Please readers advice me. Did he really love me and how do i know he ...

A.   23 April 2012: The best you can do is do not call him do not contact him and see how long it takes him to contact you... (read in full...)

I love my friend but he is married!

Q.   Hello, I'm in love with my friend and he loves me as well madly! The problem lurks in the fact that he's married !! First of all, regard the fact that we are muslims while analyzing our story ( as for the traditions, customs, etc..) Las...

A.   23 April 2012: I'm having the same problem except my guy has girl friend and just found out she is pregnant so were having the same problem but I have decided on what I'm doing I think you should do the same.. Now he is going to say everything and anything to ... (read in full...)

What are the top reasons for cheating?

Q.   hello, thanks for ansewering me... i appreciate all advices. one question. Why girls/woman cheat? What are top reasons? Thank you....

A.   23 April 2012: Not enough excitement in the relationship Partner not willing to be open to suggestions Bad relationship Fighting feeling unloved is a big 1 Partner not making the other feel that they are sexy to the partner Sex life boring Some women do it... (read in full...)

How do I get over this worry? I keep thinking he cheated on me with those girls

Q.   Hello I wonder If anyone has been in my situation or could give me some advice what to do? I have been with my boyfriend for about 7 months now and at the start of our relationship he was out all the time and once he stayed at a girls house ...

A.   23 April 2012: Hi there if you can't let your negative thoughts out of your head you will lose him.. Trust is what you have to have if there is to much doubt it will never work or you will push him to another if he feels he is getting accused for it all the time... (read in full...)

My ex is now married and I'm having a hard time actually moving on with my life

Q.   Hey all, so I used to write on here a while back when my ex and I broke up. Basically the gist is that she started dating a new guy like a few days after ending it with me. I pretty much assumed that she had feelings for him and wanted to be with ...

A.   23 April 2012: Ok Hun I'm going to tell you a few things about myself you will understand why as we go further on. I have 3 children I had a failed 4 year relationship with my eldests dad , I met a great guy 1 year after we ended up having 2 more children got ... (read in full...)

Should I not be selfish and try to be more accomodating or should I tell him feel manipulated and used?

Q.   Dating has reached the relationship stage and I'm learning a few things about this guy. He was really nice and fun initially and I get along well with his 14 year old son who lives with him. It just seems to me lately he has such a sense of entit...

A.   23 April 2012: Hun your not his girlfriend your his driver, baby sitter. Storage unit ect Get in your car pick his stuff up from your place drop it at his say by to his son and get in your car drive away and don't look back.. Your not here for his needs your her... (read in full...)

I was confused and acted rather coldly and now he doesn't want to go further in the relationship

Q.   Hi, I'm 21 years old and I've been sort of seeing a guy for about a month and a half now and it's been going extremely slowly. We go on walks or study dates and most of the time we kiss at the end. I'm a very confident person, but around this guy I ...

A.   23 April 2012: I'm sorry but if he actually cared for you and wasn't just after sex then he would be more understanding and understand not be cold and rude. He has shown his true colors he only wanted sex from you that's all There is no reason at all for you ... (read in full...)

B/f didn't watch porn before he met me. Why does he watch it now?

Q.   My boyfriend didnt watch porn before he met me. I've been together for 3 years. However, I discovered that a few months ago, he watched porn and looked at sexual parts on naked women bodies to get arousal and to masturbated.We have sex regularly and ...

A.   23 April 2012: Oh huni it's natural there is no harm in watching porn and no shame in him getting himself off . He is curious let him watch them you watch them together enjoy it and get excited together .. If you give him a hard time about watching them and say ... (read in full...)

I was confused and acted rather coldly and now he doesn't want to go further in the relationship

Q.   Hi, I'm 21 years old and I've been sort of seeing a guy for about a month and a half now and it's been going extremely slowly. We go on walks or study dates and most of the time we kiss at the end. I'm a very confident person, but around this guy I ...

A.   23 April 2012: Be completley honest with him if you really want to push for another try... But if he really respected you he would be the way he is acting and would be more patient and understanding when you told him you had things on your mind. It's really n... (read in full...)

Should I not be selfish and try to be more accomodating or should I tell him feel manipulated and used?

Q.   Dating has reached the relationship stage and I'm learning a few things about this guy. He was really nice and fun initially and I get along well with his 14 year old son who lives with him. It just seems to me lately he has such a sense of entit...

A.   23 April 2012: Hun you have helped him do this to you because you are a sweetheart and want to make him happy but it is all one sided your the one giving and doing he is just taking. When you do everything it just gets expected from you after a while and that... (read in full...)

It feels like my best friend is slipping away

Q.   Have you ever been scared to lose your best friend? Theyre like your other half. They understand u and everything your going through. You guys have been through the ups and downs. Well lately i feel like my best friend is slipping away. We used to ...

A.   23 April 2012: Hun if you are that worried go and see her and tell her how your feeling express how you want to do what ever it takes to help her and that you feel like your loosing her... You said she has had a real hard time and maybe she is having trouble talk... (read in full...)

Do I have a chance with my English teacher?

Q.   Hi! I'm 14 years old, I'm a lesbian, and I deeply and honestly feel like I am in love with my English teacher. Now I know, I know you will say it's a "crush" or I'm just "infatuated" with her but I really feel this is love. At my school, we have ...

A.   23 April 2012: Because you are memorized with her every little thing she does you feel it's something more And it's hard to know if she is actually doing all that you say or it's you saying it maybe a bit over the top. Either way you know it is illegal and she ... (read in full...)

I think that's his way of breaking up?? So I move on for good?

Q.   I am in need to vent. My ex-bf and I have been having some issues. We've been on and off for a while. He initiated the first two and I initiated the last one. I initiated because I was just so tired of him not responding to me and just wishing he ...

A.   23 April 2012: You have the right attitude Hun as long as know who you are then walk away with your head high knowing it wasn't you it was him. You broke it off because he wasn't treating you right god for you I say you are strong and know what you disreve. Keep ... (read in full...)

Is he politely saying no to my feelings?

Q.   Dear lovely aunts. I am sooo in love with a guy I have known as a class-mate/friend for 4years. Recently, I realise we are flirting a lot more..I guess because I am kinda hitting on him. By nature he is a lot more flirtatious.Now this is the ...

A.   23 April 2012: Aww Hun you are in a spot.. From what you have said he is testing the waters to see how far he can go with you.. It's so hard for you because you like him so much but this is a big problem the more you show that you like him the more he will use ... (read in full...)

My husband doesn't like my mom living with us and she can't live alone

Q.   My 84 year old mom has lived with my husband and I for the last 22 months - my husband had agreed for her to move in but now he has a change of mind. The only time my husband ever speaks to my mom is when he bids her the time of day. He doesn't ...

A.   23 April 2012: Has your husband ever given any reason as to why he will not be around her have they had a altercation that he holds a grudge towards her for? Has he always been this way towards your mother? Does he have the same reaction to any other elderl... (read in full...)

My best friend's boyfriend is being ambiguous with me!

Q.   I don't know what is happening with my friend's boyfriend, two years ago there was a snow storm and he happened to be stranded in my city, although he lives and works in another one, so I had to put him up for the night. It was weird because he ...

A.   23 April 2012: Hun I'm going through the same thing don't meet up with him stay away he wants you and his girl he is a male they want it all and he will say what you want to hear to get what he wants. Just remember he is thinking of him and him only... (read in full...)

I feel jealous that my partner pays so much attention to our attractive friend

Q.   I am very embarrassed to ask for advice over this, because I hate to admit to being jealous. This is about my boyfriend of 4 and a half years and my friend. I think he has actual feelings for her. Me and my boyfriend moved to a new area 3 ...

A.   23 April 2012: No matter how you say it he is going to go on the defense you know why because it's a true fact... No man should show such disrespect towards his partner and no friends would bask in it all and leave you to the side .. You need to realize that he ... (read in full...)

I feel like I lost a friend for the wrong reason! Is it my fault?

Q.   Hello guys I hope you all are doing well As for me I could be doing better I had just official lost a friend today In my eyes, it was for no good reason So my question is Did I handle this situation the right way. I felt I could have han...

A.   23 April 2012: Your hurt and I understand but keep your cool don't lower yourself to the rest hold your head high just be you. He has handled this badly but you are both kids and other kids at school have a huge impact on others especially when you and him are ... (read in full...)

I feel jealous that my partner pays so much attention to our attractive friend

Q.   I am very embarrassed to ask for advice over this, because I hate to admit to being jealous. This is about my boyfriend of 4 and a half years and my friend. I think he has actual feelings for her. Me and my boyfriend moved to a new area 3 ...

A.   22 April 2012: Ok I'm going to stop you there where your say she has better job no kids bla bla stop making excuses for your partner he is a ass and is continuing to treat you like your nothing and hang off her he is a ass and is messing with you making you second ... (read in full...)

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