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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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It creeps me out that he keeps trying things when he thinks I'm asleep!
Q. I really don't know where to begin but my boyfriend does things to me in my sleep, for example last night he wrapped my hair around his penis and started masterbating. He also puts his hand down my pj's and feels around but I don't let him achieve ...
A. 6 February 2010: Tell him you feel like you are being preyed upon. He might have a hair fetish or "I want to do stuff to my sleeping girlfriend" fetish. You only told us what he did to you one time. Only you could tell if his fetish is pathological. Like, if he ... (read in full...)
He is a horrible abusive man but I cant let go of him
Q. I can't let go of this abusive, horrible man. He has such a hold on me! I love him a lot, I don't why but I love him so deeply and I just can't let go. If he apologizes and wants me back, I just can't seem to resist. I still see more pros than cons ...
A. 6 February 2010: You can't let go of him because early on he got inside your head and programmed you into believing that he is your god, and you are nothing without him. What sociopaths do is they praise you like a goddess to keep you hooked, then devalue you like a ... (read in full...)
I'm confused over this guy who is always there for me
Q. Theres a guy who I've been friendly with for a year now since we first started College. For the past 2 months, we've started to get closer in general. Hes bought me lunch, drinks, he's sorted things out for me, we've hugged, snuggled up watching TV, ...
A. 6 February 2010: If he is a cupid member he would probably be asking why you are seeing him as a friend and nothing more. One thing that's missing is the excitement of the chase, and the sexual tension. He doesn't want to look like a jerk but at the same time you ... (read in full...)
My wife had a fling and I am worried about our marriage
Q. my wife has been talking to some guy she met at work about 10 years ago.it started on the internet and then got to the point where he started calling my house to talk to her.they hooked up about 2weeks ago when my wife said she was at her mothers.i ...
A. 6 February 2010: I bet she is saying she wants to divorce you to see his response, in the hopes that her fling would do the same. Tiger Woods told Rachel he would divorce Elin, but now is asking Elin for forgiveness. Do you know about feminine mystique? It's a ... (read in full...)
My bestfriend is into drugs and alcohol. How do I help her?
Q. Ok, so me and my ex-bestfriend i guess have been friends for a long time. Early when i first met her we were instantly friends and she was hanging around a bad group of people who like cut themselves and everything but she didnt. Her dad died l...
A. 6 February 2010: If you let her learn things the hard way it might be too late. She might get brain damage, liver damage, get arrested, get raped unconscious or die. Then you would regret you didn't do something. She is refusing to acknowledge her pain. She is not ... (read in full...)
I can't stop feeling jealous
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and everythings been fine until he signd up to facebook and now I'm obsessed with checking his posts and everything he writes on his female friends walls. Last week he went out for a work do with men and wome...
A. 6 February 2010: You have reason to worry. Now your boyfriend becomes the new dikhead. It's good to come to this forum instead of finding a nice guy to talk to. Chances are you would fall for the guy who listens to your needs. You already know he's not paying much ... (read in full...)
Why is he being like he's being? I've given him loads of chances.
Q. dated this guy for around two months then he had a few problems, family being ill and his grandpa died. i was sympathetic listened, lots of hugs. good shoulder. then didnt hear from him for a week, 2 weeks i did but only texts to explain why he ...
A. 6 February 2010: If you are still thinking about him, it means you still want to give him a chance.
Honestly, I think he is too inexperienced to be playing games. He is just as perplexed as you are. He seems interested but just didn't understand why you are that... (read in full...)
I don't like my father's inappropriate behaviour! Should I be worried?
Q. I think my father is acting really weird. I've never been too close to him and whenever he wanted to kiss or hug me like my mother does, i silently rejected him because I didn't like it. That made him angry and we started to argue about unimportant ...
A. 5 February 2010: It's not misunderstanding, not socially inept, not having fun. Just a sicko. This is going to escalate. He is shameless and manipulating. He is testing your limits. Don't be afraid to call the police on your dad. Do it before he does something ... (read in full...)
Am I sick for doing what I'm doing?
Q. My friends and me were goofing around one day near some trees in a backyard. We noticed a hole in a bend of the tree trunk and joked how it looked like a butt hole. My friend put his finger in the hole and said it felt gooey. We all did and it f...
A. 5 February 2010: Don't go back to the tree. If you get caught you will be arrested for indecent exposure, and might be put on the sexual predator list. That could give you hassle when you plan to travel internationally. You might get bitten by a bug, get splinters. ... (read in full...)
Feeling self-conscious when I'm on top during sex?
Q. I want to ask other girls out there for their opinion on feeling self-conscious when you are on top during sex? I don't know why I feel that way. I'm not a heavy girl, however I do have an issue with my stomach because I have a curved spine so...
A. 5 February 2010: Cowgirl position is one of men's favorite position. It gives them much pleasure physically and visually it's an eye candy to see gravity in action. Men feel grateful and loved when women are on top. You can never do it wrong if he knows you are ... (read in full...)
He said he was dating to teach his ex girlfriend a lesson. Where does that leave me?
Q. Hi guys. I really like this guy and we've been out a few times but he is still in touch with his GF and I recently found out that he decided to start dating as a 'payback' (according to him) to 'teach her a lesson' for some lie or other she told ...
A. 4 February 2010: You are a person he talks at, no to. He is not even your friend, but a woman hater who only cares about himself. He wants people to know he is dating you, a younger person to cover the fact he is impotent, and to show his ex that someone younger is ... (read in full...)
Mind Games or Is it really over?
Q. I met someone online 1.5 months ago. I blew him off for a week after our first conversation and apologized. I let him know I was talking to other people but nothing serious so I wanted to get to know him better. We met 3 weeks ago. He has a foot fet...
A. 4 February 2010: When chatting to potential dates online, no one has the right to tell the other to be exclusive. A guy who boasts himself about other women falling for him is tacky. He has no manner, no etiquette whatsoever. He likes the idea of the dating but has ... (read in full...)
Should I just call it quits? Or am I an idiot?
Q. In a nutshell: I've never had a relationship with a girl, but I'm now in one with someone. She's wonderful and things have been great. But I feel like it won't work and that she should just see other guys. I partially want to do this because I n...
A. 4 February 2010: This is called hurt her first so I won't hurt that bad. To do this is to accept defeat because you are saying other guys are better. How is this defending your pride? What are you going to do? Date an average girl so it would be less work?
Go to t... (read in full...)
I'm antisocial and my mom wants me to do something about it
Q. So I'm antisocial and my mom wants me to do something about it. I'm 16 and I've lived in the same place for like 8 years and I have some people I talk to at school but not out of it and I really don't mind. I don't have the same interests as anybody ...
A. 4 February 2010: Tell your mother you are happy being alone, and you would not further discuss anything else with her. Period.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend posted a pic of his private parts on line.
Q. My boyfriend posted his privates online, as his messenger picture. I don't know if I can trust him again and this really hurts. We've been together for 2.5yrs,(Sept 15th 2007) and have a 18month old son, Joseph, and I am currently 16wks pregnant. ...
A. 4 February 2010: At first I thought he posted your private parts online, so I had to read it again. I started to wonder what kind of person would do this. Sense of humor? Being sarcastic? What is his relationship with other members on MSN? Do you know them? You have ... (read in full...)
To my ex, get out of my head!
Q. i want to know why i can't stop thinking bout my ex. i just recently moved back to NC, due to the fact i am now officially married. i didnt want to move back, i wanted him to move there but he didnt want to leave his life behind, so i left my life ...
A. 4 February 2010: Sorry, no original answer here.
http://www.2knowmyself.com/relationships_breakups/falling_in_love_with_someone_you_Cant_have/how_to_get_over_someone... (read in full...)
I like this guy who keeps using me, and my teacher is furious with me! Help!
Q. One day ago i gave head to this boy i like, thinking he liked me too. Biggest mistake of my life.. im 13, he has a girlfriend, and he doesnt even like me. The worst part is that it was after school, in a hallway... More things occured, such as ...
A. 4 February 2010: She can't stand you being used by that guy. Stay away from that guy. Do that for your own sake, not for her. She shouldn't have called you whore. You are more like a victim. It is a teacher's job to ensure the well being of students. I don't blame ... (read in full...)
Why is everything I'm doing to make myself happier always so stupid?
Q. What is this indicating for my future? My boyfriend of over three years and I have been discussing marriage and babies for about a year now. And every time I tell him I want to work as well to bring in a second income and have only two or three ...
A. 3 February 2010: I myself don't like myspace and facebook because the friends online are not real, they are merely pixels on the screen. No matter what he thinks he can not call you stupid. I think having four or five kids with only one income is stupid. Can you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says the masseuse mastubated him! What do I do now?
Q. I live with my boyfriend and his parents. we've been together for two and a half years now. Yesterday he went for a massage and I jokingly said 'make sure they don't give any ''special'' treatment!' meaning sexual favours as I've heard some massage ...
A. 3 February 2010: A masseuse is under a code not to "harrass" clients, no matter how much a man could enjoy it. She could get fired from it, especially she did not ask for permission first. Some massage parlors have rooms which have intercom, and are recorded so the ... (read in full...)
The physical component of my marriage is non-existent.
Q. The physical component of my marriage is non-existent. My wife is a child abuse survivor. She is very kind and sweet and a great mother but has no respect for men. Years ago, I explained to her that her reactions to my physical ovetures caused me to ...
A. 3 February 2010: Louise Hay is a well known author and a child abuse survivor. Her book, You can heal your life, has saved people's lives. I myself find her book very inspiring. Even if it doesn't help your wife, it could definitely help you.... (read in full...)
The physical component of my marriage is non-existent.
Q. The physical component of my marriage is non-existent. My wife is a child abuse survivor. She is very kind and sweet and a great mother but has no respect for men. Years ago, I explained to her that her reactions to my physical ovetures caused me to ...
A. 3 February 2010: Everybody has chosen a path to learn lessons in life. It seems to be that her main goal in life is to survive a painful abuse. To do more than that is too much. You on the other hand, wants to connect with a woman not only sexually but spiritually. ... (read in full...)
Will she cheat on me if she cheated on her ex partner!
Q. ok guys i need your help! ive been with my girlfriend for about 7 months now, and it seems that every month that gose past i keep finding things out about her past that i dont like and sits on my head! everytime i try to talk to her about it she ...
A. 3 February 2010: You cannot do statistics on past cheaters and future behavior. To do that would be dehumanizing. There are people who quit smoking. Would they smoke again? Her lying is more like a white lie. Talking about it does not help. She is telling you not to ... (read in full...)
Who do I choose? My heart tells me John Doe, but my gut tells me my new husband!
Q. Hello all! I need a little bit of an explanation as to what I should do here. Any real advice is welcomed, please don't sugar coat or honey glaze anything. I need the truth. This entire ordeal started in September of two years ago, when...
A. 3 February 2010: If I were you, I would take some time off thinking about the two guys. You are creating an internal fight. You want to get married to forget John, you want to hook up with the John to avoid marriage. The first thing you have to deal with is why you ... (read in full...)
Body insecurities...
Q. I'm so very insecure when it comes to my body. I don't know, I think this maybe has turned into an anxiety disorder like OCD or something. I can't stop comparing myself to other women who look better, whether on the street, the mall, the beach, ...
A. 2 February 2010: If I were you I would develop a sense of humor. Focusing on your body so much is not going to help. Insecurity is unattractive. Men like women who can laugh at life. Laughter is contagious and it makes people want to be close to you. Learn to use ... (read in full...)
Friend to a boyfriend. Am I being used?
Q. I am currently dating a guy who i have known since high school and that i was friends with for a while. Hes older than me hes 24 im 19 and i know even though i am young that i am a very mature for my age. he asked me for my number while i was at w...
A. 2 February 2010: A few points I would consider is:
Does he listen to my feelings? Is he able to be empathetic with me? Could he offer valuable advice to my life? If I call him for help, would he come without hesitation? How were his relationships with his exes? How ... (read in full...)
Would it be wise to meet with him again seeing as we want different things from life?
Q. I met a guy on the weekend, drunken girly night out, first night out properly since I split with my ex 2 months ago (I've been a total hermit but also had a promotion at work so been concentrating on that). I haven't really been interested in gu...
A. 2 February 2010: When men say they don't want marriage, it can be translated into they don't want the emotional baggage attached to it, or don't fall in love with me yet. Marriage can be a wonderful thing. I met a guy who said he closed the door on love (he's 41 at ... (read in full...)
What to wear when having sex for the first time...?
Q. hello! as im sure you know, its valentines day coming up and me and my partner will be having sex for the first time! i know i want to do it so please dont tell me to make sure im ready as ive already been through all of this in my head and i am ...
A. 2 February 2010: Why don't you take a shower together? Washing each other with soap can be very sexy. I have a cherry outfit (it's pink with cherry prints and two little red plastic thingies), it's a gift from my boyfriend. Your question make me think about that. ... (read in full...)
My partner keeps changing his mind about commitment.
Q. My partner keeps changing his mind about commitment. We have been seeing each other for 7 months and have both got a child each. We live over an hour from each other but manage to spend most weekends together and a couple of nights in the week. We ...
A. 1 February 2010: The only constant thing he has been told is that committment is the right thing to do. Whether you guys would still love each other, or would he and your son get along, are unknown factors. He sounds like he would like to take a risk. He would never ... (read in full...)
Burning sensation down below...
Q. ok so im so confused because i have been having a burning feeling in my vagina for a while so i got a pee test done and said that i had a bladder infection so i got some meds for this.....so i have took all the meds and its doesnt burn when i pee ...
A. 1 February 2010: Just trust the doctor. He probably gave you antibiotics and that stuff is strong. You should be feeling better in 3 days or less. Just be careful everytime you wipe.... (read in full...)
Guess I need an understanding, what do you think, what would you do?
Q. Hey I have been friends with my guy mate jake for nearly ten years. He met me at some dance thing where he fixed me up with his cousin, But that was a joke bearly spoke or meet or anything. Instead jake would call me every night and we'd talk ab...
A. 1 February 2010: He thrives on his unstable lifestyle and hopes you are the only stable thing in his life. Guess if you got married to him he would still be in and out of your life and say "I don't want you to leave me, we've known each other forever, I don't want ... (read in full...)
She is 19, I am 16 and her boyfriend is threatened
Q. I am 16, well a month away, and she just turned 19, she lives in another state and her boyfriend told her not to talk to me cause i guess he feels threatened. He told her to tell me to lose her number. But we had a conversation and she doesnt really ...
A. 1 February 2010: If you are a good friend to her, tell her to work her relationship issues with her boyfriend. She is definitely missing something. Her boyfriend is not giving her enough attention, not listening to her enough, or something. Tell her he should be the ... (read in full...)
Is what I feel justified?
Q. My girlfriend recently tried to create non existent penis insecurities in me, though jokingly ... she also openly discusses other hot guys with her friends right in front of me and sees his pictures on facebook in front of me. But she has al...
A. 1 February 2010: If you explain your intentions to her then you become the bad guy in the relationship. It would be your fault that you two broke up. Her biggest revenge is to marry an impotent guy and that's not your concern anymore. She is probably dating you just ... (read in full...)
How do I stay strong and have faith???
Q. Well I've been going out with this guy for about a year, and we've just decided to split up because we both go to different schools and have hobbies and commitments inbetween and it's made it hard for us to be together and to be a proper couple as ...
A. 1 February 2010: Everything is possible. He may find love somewhere else or same to you. Or luckily you two get back together. You have to have faith that no matter what happens to you, you will accept it and be thankful for the beautiful experience you shared ... (read in full...)
The anecdote of perfection!
Q. Okay, so. I'm 19, shes 20. We started going out about 9 months ago, we click, we are perfectly together. So perfect, that i know its bad. We are both very close, we don't have intrest in other people, but we find, that our relationshop is perfect. ...
A. 1 February 2010: There are six primal needs in a relationship to keep it alive. 1, Certainty and comfort 2. Uncertainty and Variety 3. Significance 4. Love and Connection 5. Growth 6. Contribution.
If you plan to grow old together. There would inevitably be conf... (read in full...)
I am tired of my boyfriend being too relaxed on the weekends to go out.
Q. I have a demanding 4 year old boy and a boyfriend of 1 year. We see each other twice a week. Half of the time he calls to say his shift happens to be short that day so he could see me. The other times we call on the weekends and hope we would meet ...
A. 1 February 2010: My boyfriend's brother died. Now he has to take care of his ailing, depressed mom. But even before that he has a hidden medical problem. He is always complaining about leg pain, back pain, and how tired he is. He is always preoccupied with ... (read in full...)
How do other couples spend time together and feel connected when it's just a lazy winter day and there's really nothing to do?
Q. Puzzled by b/f's behavior. This happens a lot. We're stuck inside. B/F is surfing the web on his laptop. I sit on the couch with him, and play a video game with volume turned off. After an hour he wants to watch TV. So I turn off the game but can't ...
A. 1 February 2010: Surprise him with a sexy leopard skin outfit. Tease him and give him a massage. Sorry to say but sex is the only way couples connect and get in sync. God made your bodies in opposite polarity so you can be attracted to each other. Put it to good use ... (read in full...)
Why do I always end up just being 'the friend' when I want more than that?
Q. Why am I one of those guys that women want to be friends with but nothing more? Of my ten closest friends, nine are female. They all say I would be a great catch. I have asked them, seriously, what I could do to make myself more appealing but ...
A. 31 January 2010: Women fell for morons because secretly we want to get laid so bad but are afraid to be called sluts so we hang out with morons, then end it off as an escape plan. When you date women, make sure they know you want to sleep with them. Hint it ... (read in full...)
Going to sleep with a man I work with. How can I get over my flaws and be more confident in bed?
Q. I met this man a year ago. We work together. We find each other really attractive and have finally decided to sleep together (once). There are no long term plans, we just want to have fun together. What I want to know is how can I make sure I ...
A. 31 January 2010: Corsets and stockings always look good on any body type. Give him a bath, dim the bathroom lights and put on the candles. Give him a massage. Remember it's not all about the body. Tell him you are not too experienced, beg him to be in charge and ... (read in full...)
Broke up with my ex and he says he still loves me, but how can he if he isnt with me?
Q. Me and my ex slpit 5 months ago. he admitted he had feelings for someone else so we broke up. We had been together a year. Shortly after that he got together with this girl and they're still together now. Thing is, we've pretty much spoken every day ...
A. 31 January 2010: Do you still love him? It is normal for us to love exes. We are not machines, we are not serial killers, so we don't just switch off the love button automatically. Practically you can only be with one person at a time. Maybe next time work harder to ... (read in full...)
Bad relationship with my husbands kids! How can I change things?
Q. Several years ago I got involved with an older, married man. At the time I thought it was simply a short fling, but it developed into a relationship that eventually led to him leaving his wife. I do not feel the need to go into the 'gritty' ...
A. 31 January 2010: It takes time for them to look up to you as mother. You are not old enough to be their mother so they just look at you as someone their father sleeps with. They are young and they think all parents are perfect. They don't know what falling out of ... (read in full...)
I sort of like this guy and we kissed while drunk, but he has a girlfriend! what should I do?
Q. A few months ago I kissed a guy, we were both quite drunk, well really drunk. He goes to my college, and is in a few of my classes. It was really awkward for a while, but it's alright now. Anyway, I didn't know that he had a girlfriend, wh...
A. 31 January 2010: Back off and be glad you did nothing more than kiss. If you become his girlfriend, you don't want him to just go drink and kiss another girl. You make it sound like you have no choice but to be with him because you kissed him by "acciden... (read in full...)
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