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... Send *anniepeg a private message | | | *anniepeg's profile:I am 34, married a second time. My son is 9 years old and 2 cats. He keeps me busy. My hobbies are movies, recreational games like xbox games, darts, badminton and dear cupid of course. I used to play the piano but stopped. I have been here for 6 years. Every year I see myself change. Every day is a surprise, an opportunity for growth while some days are just coasting along wondering what the point is. My relationship views are a mix of traditional values and modern, open minded ones. I still believe in long term monogamy as it feels right to me. Other than that I feel there are too many rules in a relationship that I would like to get rid of. Dearcupid is a source of my learning about relationships. I am too young to form a conclusion of what love is. I guess I will grow old with this site.
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I keep looking at other women!
Q. Hey people ive got a problem, i currently have a girlfriend but every time im with her, i subconsciously look at other women's behinds or breasts?! i know its a bad thing but i dont do it on purpose! weve been together for about months now a...
A. 27 February 2010: It's only wrong when your girlfriend catches you drooling over them. Otherwise, looking at women satisfies your curiosity. It's healthy too. A woman's body is beautiful and soothing. You don't spend 24 hours a day looking at your girlfriend and she ... (read in full...)
Sex before marriage Part II
Q. I recently asked a question about being intimate with my boyfriend, but keeping my virginity at the same time (http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-want-to-keep-my-virginity-until-i.html)and got a lot of really insightful responses. (Thanks 2 all who ...
A. 27 February 2010: What you said is very true, but marriage has little to do with being in love. A lot of people marry for practical reasons, like when they graduate, get a good job, have enough money to buy a house or a car. A person's attitude towards life has a ... (read in full...)
Did she use me just to get pregnant? How do I stop the fighting?
Q. hi me and my girl friend have been trying to have a kid her more than me and i almost feel like now that she is pregnant she got what she wants and is always taking me for granted i always been cooking and trying to make her feel good even when she ...
A. 27 February 2010: She probably heard too many horror stories of pregnant teens being left alone so she is raging a war against males. Since you are a nice guy you became an easy target. It is a learned behavior. She is proving everyone that see, we don't neet males, ... (read in full...)
My friend is pregnant again, and I don't want to have to help financially again
Q. I'm probably going to get alot of backlash with what i'm about to write so I want you to read this post properly. I have been mates with this girl for about 10 years. In that time she has has 2 children that were accidents 1 of which I'm god...
A. 27 February 2010: No, you are going to be applauded for your behavior. If you really want to lose a friend, let them "borrow" money from you. You don't have to buy you title as a godmother. You won't be a good godmother if you allow their mother to be irresponsible.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is studying too hard, how can I get him to talk dirty to me?
Q. i m in a comitted relationship.well my bf is a bit frustated because his parents constantly scold him.the reason is bad performance in acaedemics.stdying hard,as well as devoting a bit time to me.but i am bit sad because he has lost interst in ...
A. 27 February 2010: As a girlfriend you should tell him to concentrate on his studies and reward him with naughty kisses when he gets good grades. He will be happier when his parents stop bugging him and hopefully his sexual desires will come back. At his age he will ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of crying over him. What do I do?
Q. at nights is the hardest n im tired of cryin. there is this guy im in love with. he liked mi first but when he liked me i didnt return the feelings then when i liked him i jus didnt wanna date him. but we admitted to liking each other. ive seen him ...
A. 27 February 2010: You fell in love with a player. Players are charming. Honestly, a guy who says he wants to wait till marriage for sex is either too timid, or fake. I am not attracted to guys who say this at all. You are fighting with your mind and body. A more ... (read in full...)
We split up because he doesn't know what he wants, so should I stick around to find out or leave now?
Q. Im about one month pregnant me and my boyfriend are still living together but we broke up because he doesnt know what he wants. when his ex found out about me a year ago she started to call him more and more maybe because she didnt want him with my ...
A. 27 February 2010: Guys who have issues with girlfriends getting pregnant make me mad. I understand the first one could be unplanned, but 5 kids? Either use a condom or not do it at all? You should leave now and stop hoping he would come back, or miss you.... (read in full...)
I want to keep my virginity until I am married, but my current boyfriend wants to get intimate. How do I deal with this?
Q. I recently started getting "serious" with a guy I like and we are pretty happy, except I'm really nervous about one thing: sex. I'm still a virgin and no, this is not my 1st relationship-the problem is that my last one ended because the guy was ...
A. 27 February 2010: If you have to resort to dearcupid for your answer, your faith is getting shaky. Don't you think so? The guys tell you forget about religious dogma. The girls tell you don't do it because they had been hurt. In the heat of the moment could you still ... (read in full...)
We broke up but I want her back. Do her actions enforce that she feels the same?
Q. my ex gilrfriend and i were together 2 years when we broke up do to fighting for like a month. we were fighting do to stress in our seperate lives and our relationship as acouple. but we didnt brakeup over or during a fight we brokeup on goodterms ...
A. 25 February 2010: Stress alone cannot break two people apart, only if you let your emotions escalate and blame each other for feeling worse. Whenever one of you raises your voice, your must remind each other it's unnecessary. You are in a serious relationship and can ... (read in full...)
Does he really need time to think, or should I just move on and date someone else?
Q. Once again. Another question. I'm very confused about what to do right now. It is a complicating situation. I have written about the same guy and relationship a couple times in the last few days. I guess to fill in up to current situation, dating 2 ...
A. 25 February 2010: I think you should give him a chance. For some guys, falling in love can be a scary thing because they feel like they are losing control. The relationship will be stronger if he knows you are patient with him. The ones that you don't have to wait ... (read in full...)
I don't understand my boyfriend's behaviour.
Q. (Mod note: Titled by poster) hello! i am in a distance relationship for almost one year and half. we met each other 2 times. once he came to me and than i went to his place. as we are not the same nationality. after i came back from his place i just...
A. 25 February 2010: He doesn't want the burden of being the only thing that could make you happy, either online or in person. He wants you to appreciate what you have that's accessible to you, and not miss him so much. He feels powerless when he can't be near you to ... (read in full...)
He's not sure if I'm "the one yet" but I'm sure - and ready for marriage.
Q. My boyfriend (28) and I (24), have been together for almost 3 years. We have not had any major issues, or separated within that time. Aside from the few pet peeves, we get along very well. I have expressed to him that I am ready for marria...
A. 25 February 2010: I think you should slowly detach yourself from him and only focus on the positive things in the relationship. Realize you are the one making yourself miserable. He's probably feeling your depression right now and if he can't make you happy while ... (read in full...)
What does female ejaculate taste like?
Q. just wondering but what does female ejaculate taste like? i mean i can go down on my girlfriend and the taatse wont bother me but somwtimees after fingerin and eating her i will go back down and the tatse will be unbarable lol why?...
A. 24 February 2010: It tastes like egg white. When it's mixed with semen it turns very bitter.... (read in full...)
How can I make him more into me?
Q. DEAR CUPID! There's a guy at work I have been messing around with secretly for a little bit now. The thing is, he doesn't want anything serious and my problem is that I know this but still really like him... I think about him all the time .... I ...
A. 23 February 2010: When he says he doesn't want anything serious, he really means he doesn't want drama, a needy girlfriend, and loss of his private life. A lot of guys say this when you trigger the relationship stress button in them. Then they go hook up with another ... (read in full...)
The man I had an affair with has called me 8 months after it ended, should I call him back?
Q. I need help! the guy i was having an affair wtih for the pass 3 years called me last night. We haven't spoken in almost 8 months. I don't know if I should call him back! What to do what to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...
A. 23 February 2010: Whenever I see the caller ID on my phone and realized it's someone from several months ago. I think to myself, EEEEWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW, what do you want from me? Words I could think of, desperation, loneliness, bored. He must have broken up with someone ... (read in full...)
Can't find the right one! Am I too picky?
Q. I have trouble relating to a lot of girls......so I am 20 Years old and to put it bluntly most girls 18-20 aren't exactly the brightest ones around my parts. I have gone through my "partying" phaze and all of that and yea of course I still party ...
A. 23 February 2010: The laid back girls are probably staying home and reading, wondering where they could find you. Girls 18-20 are the way they are to fit in. They are not smarter or dumber than the last generation. Just don't go out with girls with substance abuse. ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and I want to get laid! Where can I find a girl?
Q. I just turned 20 and I'm still a virgin. I desperately need a girl in and out of the bedroom especially in the bedroom. I live in Boston. I don't go to school and I'm too young to go to the clubs or bars. i don't really know anyone that ...
A. 23 February 2010: Go look up boston.craigslist.org and look under w4m in the casual encounters. You will be surprised how many girls want it as much as you do. Good luck. Some will say I would do 20 kisses for a certain job, those are escorts. But most are just girls ... (read in full...)
How do I end a relationship with my ex? Do I want to end it?
Q. I'm 29 and was with my girlfriend for 7 years. We lived together for two years and fell out, and split up. My girlfriend moved 150 miles and in the mean time, we've continued to see each other for the occasional weekends, but it didn't feel we were ...
A. 22 February 2010: Unless you will move 150 miles to be with her, or she comes back to your city, there is no future for you two. Depends on the reason for the move, either it's a job or a college, it's only temporary. But if she moved with the pure mindset of needing ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends attitude has changed since I told him I loved him
Q. helle my prob that there were a guy how loved me ; i guess ; he was nice to me , he took care of me and everything that i ever wish but i didn't love him i actualy taught that i hate him ; intel one day he totaly change he stop calling me akin me ...
A. 22 February 2010: You have to get to know him a little better. There are many words to express like in English in various degrees. There is like you, like you like you, fancy you, crush on you, dig you, crazy about you, fallin in love with you, and finally love you. ... (read in full...)
I think he is about to propose and I find I am doubting my long term love for him
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 6 years and lately have been having serious doubts and wondering if I should break up with him. We have had problems in the past due to his dishonesty and he has betrayed my trust and hurt me deeply several ...
A. 21 February 2010: Men and women are on a different timeline when it comes to relationships. I think what you are feeling is that you waited for him to commit when he wasn't ready. You felt rejected and took it personally. You shut off part of yourself to protect and ... (read in full...)
Does money guarantee happiness
Q. Do you think finical situation will cause happiness or unhappiness? Are well off couples are happier than poor couples? Do their marriage will have less troubles? Are rich families kids happier than poor families kids? Do they get in trouble less,...
A. 21 February 2010: My family was rich but overbearring. I became clinically depressed at 16 because I had no social skills, didn't ask for help and didn't know what questions to ask. I had my life planned out, my words scripted to say in front of my extended family. ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my best friend, my ex husband? Or move across the country with my current boyfriend?
Q. I have a very complex issue, and im sorry in advance for this long story, but I need help. From the beginning: I married at 17 , had 3 kids by age 24 and an alcholic husband. In 2004 I met some one online who I ended up leaving my husband for , an...
A. 21 February 2010: Your boyfriend is doing a lot to please you. One more thing he needs to show you is his fun side and his lover side. Allow him to be your 3 in 1 guy: The friend, the lover, and the dad and make sure you reciprocate on all three facets of a ... (read in full...)
A few to get your teeth into...
Q. Hello guys. I've been with my boyfriend for a year, it's all been well and good so far apart from two factors which are really getting to me. My boyfrined has a real issue with family. He just can't grasp it because he never really had one....
A. 21 February 2010: Every time you mention your parents, he's been reminded the loss of an intact family, and the betrayal of his mother. He's afraid you are going to judge him because some closed minded people think that children from a broken family are somehow ... (read in full...)
He wants to come first, over my child
Q. I am a single mom with a 4 year old son. My boyfriend has a small issue of me not putting my son to bed before 9pm, so that we could have sex. We don't live together, we live 15 minutes apart. The thing is that he sometimes gets tired at 8pm and he ...
A. 20 February 2010: Today I was about to drop off my son at the babysitter. I called my boyfriend and ask if he could pick us up. He said sorry he couldn't because the water guy will come between 1pm to 6pm to fix his basement. He had to be home. He told me to drop my ... (read in full...)
I am reconciling with my ex. Should I tell her I shared her secret with a friend?
Q. Hey, I broke up with my ex girlfreind about a month ago. My ex (who i still care for deeply and love very much) was sexually abused as a child by her father. This has affected her in certain ways in her adult life and made relationships very ...
A. 20 February 2010: Your ex is stressing you out and you need someone to talk to. What you're doing was you were confiding in a friend to feel better, but not spreading rumors about how messed up she is. There is no reason to feel guilty at all. She is not aware that ... (read in full...)
Pregnant with second child to a drunken abuser
Q. i am 25 with my partner almost five years. he is 42.we have a 3 year old little girl which he is very good to. im 7 months pregnant again with his second child.but things have always been on and off with us. he has a drink problem. he can be off it ...
A. 19 February 2010: We can't help you call the police. You have to do it. His behavior will be worse when the baby comes out. Contact your guardian angels. They will tell you when's the right time to call. ... (read in full...)
She is away in a foreign country and I'm scared she is cheating.
Q. Firstly, a bit of background about my SO and how we met: I visited China about 1 year ago and met a nice tour guide. At the time she told me she was living with her cousin (later I found out she was still living with her ex but they weren't getting ...
A. 19 February 2010: I travel a lot, so I know that tour guides always end up someone's mate in a foreign country. Finding husbands based on where they live is shallow. I honestly think that Australia is the best country to live, besides Canada. She probably thinks that ... (read in full...)
I want to share my bed, but don't want it to come off as I planned it this way.
Q. Right, this may seem like a slightly trival question but basically I've got a couple of mates coming over this weekend to stay at my 1 bedroom flat. One is a bloke and the other is a girl. The girl and I have had this thing for a while and there's ...
A. 17 February 2010: Get an airbed.... (read in full...)
She has a broken heart, can anyone help me find the glue to reconstruct it again?
Q. Ok here I go this will take a little well it all started right b4 christmas, I was going Christmas shopping and I saw this girl we seen each other we hadn't talked or anything for about 3yrs I wanted to date her back then when I was 15 then which ...
A. 17 February 2010: Tell her to stop drinking and going to parties, not because you are possessive and insecure, but for her health reasons. Alcohol doesn't take away your pain. There are counsellors in school. Encourage her to get good grades and think for her future ... (read in full...)
Broke up... what's for me now?
Q. Hi again i have recently posted about my situation. My girlfriend and i have been dating for two years, until recently she told me that she wanted to be able to have fun and be social. She stated that she wants to be single. before this she had been ...
A. 17 February 2010: What's now? You broke up. You did the right thing. Accept that as a final decision. If getting drunk and making a fool out of yourself is considered fun and social, you might want to consider why you still want to be with her.
Not so sure abou... (read in full...)
How can I get her to focus on me more?
Q. Hello, I need some advice about my situation. There is this older woman I am good friends with. We ended up having sex a while back. She told me that she really likes me but the situation is complicated. What she meant was her and her ex-boyfriend...
A. 17 February 2010: Whether you call her or not, she wants you in her life. That says something about her relationship with her ex, something is missing. If you are with the right person, you feel complete. Maybe she's staying with him for financial reasons. You are ... (read in full...)
Nervous about having sex for the first time with my new guy....
Q. I'm meeting this guy again on Friday and the way things are going I think we might end up having sex. The problem is I'm generally quite tight. My ex-boyfriend used to comment on it, and it didn't bother him because I loosened up after a while but ...
A. 16 February 2010: Wetness turns guys on. It's equivalent to a guy being hard. It's a natural lubricant. In fact you need it.... (read in full...)
He has asked me to marry him after all his revelations, I have no idea what to do!
Q. About 4 months ago, the man I had been with for about 4 or 5 months, sent me a text message and told me that he had met someone else...yes, a TEXT message! At the time, he had been out of state for about 2 month for his job, but we continued our ...
A. 16 February 2010: He is saying to you matter of factly, now I have done enough screwing, I am ready to get married. Screw him! I seriously don't understand why no argument is going on. He proposed to you just to make you stay. Maybe he got drunk. If I were you I ... (read in full...)
I am pregnant to a foreigner who I don't hardly know!!!
Q. Dear Cupid please help let me know opinion, your experience, view to help me have all the picture. I am white girl form central europe, my parents were always trying to lead my life the way they wanted. Yes I was the best student etc, model,...
A. 16 February 2010: Get to know the Brazilian guy better. If he doesn't want to be in you and your child's life, he's missing out big time in life experience. It's not hard to date again. Most people in their 30s and 40s are parents. It's life and we make mistakes. 40 ... (read in full...)
I need your help! Should I tell him how I feel or is he not interested?
Q. Argh this is long but I really would appreciate some outside opinions. I'm a 16 year old, pretty sensible girl. About a month ago my bf of 9 months broke up with me. It was hard on me as I was expecting us to have sex soon as we both wanted to b...
A. 16 February 2010: He is not interested. What he said to you may take forever to decipher. But the fact that he didn't back up his statement with "can I see you later?", "would you go out on a date with me" means that he's nothing more than a mentor to you. He has let ... (read in full...)
How can I get her to focus on me more?
Q. Hello, I need some advice about my situation. There is this older woman I am good friends with. We ended up having sex a while back. She told me that she really likes me but the situation is complicated. What she meant was her and her ex-boyfriend...
A. 16 February 2010: I think she's a mess. Maybe the only way she could focus on you is when she's called to commit to a relationship. Her ex and you are both victims. I don't see you two as real good friends. I won't let a friend sit for 2 hours while talking on the ... (read in full...)
Am I a fool to stay with this guy?
Q. I'm feeling very confused and unsure about what to do in my relationship. We have been together on and off for 5 years in may. We live together and had a wedding booked for last may but it never happened as i left him due to us arguing so much abou...
A. 15 February 2010: Couples don't just break up about money issues. Money is important. You are letting outside forces dictate the direction of your relationship. I don't see enough positive qualities such as compatability, cheerfulness to deal with life, hope for ... (read in full...)
Why is this happening to us?
Q. Hello, I'm kinda frustrated and so my Gf, when she gives me a handjob and a blowjob, and after I Cum, I got frustrated and Mad and I sooo need a space from her, and I'm kinda about to leave her, and she starts crying and etc and the next day, we'...
A. 15 February 2010: You lost control and she felt used. Part of being a man is to be in control. She was doing nothing wrong and was shocked by what's supposed to be a normal body function. When you are about to cum tell her to stop. Rest for a few minutes. If your ... (read in full...)
Did he like my surprise hug because we are just friends, or did he like it because he 'likes' me?
Q. How would you know that your best friend liked your surprise hug or liked it because he likes you? I've been wanting to know if he liked me more than a friend for a long time. my crush was blushing a lot more. I walked bye him and his back was ...
A. 15 February 2010: I read your post last time but didn't answer because I couldn't tell from the information you gave me. Then he was being rough to you right? What you intend to do was break the ice but you took him out of his comfort zone. Right now you are using ... (read in full...)
He's married, but I love him!!!
Q. He's married, but I love him.... I don't really know what to expect back from everyone but I just need an impersonal sounding board. My frinds all say the same thing, he's married, he cheated on his wife so you can't trust him. But here's the deal...
A. 15 February 2010: I am not outraged by that guy. When people get married they agree to love and cherish each other, that includes showing affection and being gentle with each other. We are always hopeful when we see someone new. Since you don't see him that much you ... (read in full...)
How does one stop being so full on in the early days of a relationship?
Q. Bit of an obvious question but wanted some opinions. How does one stop being so full on in the early days of a relationship? ...
A. 14 February 2010: When we find a potential soulmate, it feels like time stops. You enter into a moment. There is linear time, and circular time. You need both to progress in life. Linear time gives you structure and pattern to follow. Circular time gives you meaning ... (read in full...)
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