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My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
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19 August 2014: Yeah I know : ultimately love is a mystery, not an exact science. There's always an element of sheer luck, of serendipity, of magic in it. Some times you do everything right, by the book, you are the perfect gf / wife / lover .. and you still get ...
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I don't love him. Should I leave?
Q. You shouldn't leave the one you love for the one you like. but what if i don't LOVE him? Overtime my feelings towards my boyfriend of 5 months have changed. I never really found him physically attractive, and now since we are back at school, i don...
A. 30 September 2011: That's why staying friends with an ex never works.
Friendship implies a balance and reciprocity of mutual feelings and interest.
But, you treat him as a friend,- or,maybe, more as a sounding board or a shoulder to cry on etc., and he does not... (read in full...)
She wore another guy's engagement ring for several months before we were dating, I didn't know that till just now, what do I do?
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A. 4 September 2011: I have a hard time seeing it your way, to me engaged is when you say YES ! and pick a wedding date and go meet the parents and stuff. Your wife said " I don't know " and just wore the ring a few months , probably tryng all the time to find a way to ... (read in full...)
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A. 4 September 2011: Oh I see :). Then you think that the girl was NOT making fun of you, and she actually was tryng to hit on you.... but your parents told you differently and influenced you, spoiling the fun.
Was she making fun of you, or was she into you ? is what... (read in full...)
I should feel sorry for her but I hate her and her perfect life!
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A. 4 September 2011: OP, I don't think anybody here means to accuse you or to make you feel bad about yourself, in fact they ( we ) want to help. And even IF all those posts were yours, no big deal. As long as the mods let you, you can repost 2,5,10 times, no skin off ... (read in full...)
My fiancee's promiscuous past disgusts me.
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A. 3 September 2011: Soon567, the OP does not mention either in his post or in the updates that " she blabbed it over drinks". You must know stuff that I don't. ... (read in full...)
My ex wants to meet for coffee. Good or bad idea?
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A. 3 September 2011: Andy00 's is a good sytem but perhaps a bit passive-aggressive for my tastes. I would simply, flatly tell him "Thanks but I don't think it's a good idea"- no further elaboration required. If you really feel you MUST add something, tell him " I don't ... (read in full...)
My fiancee's promiscuous past disgusts me.
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A. 3 September 2011: A totally respectable point of view.
I'd just be curious to know, then, how come you ended up engaged ( engaged ! not just going out ) with a woman that's so distant from your ideal.... (read in full...)
Should I have invited him back to my cabin??
Q. Having just returned from a cruise and had a lovely time-towards the end I became friendly with a nice man slightly older than myself (although he was friendly and chatted to everyone) however we had lunch together several times and coffee one ...
A. 3 September 2011: Don't worry, you did right. First, that the woman may be the one to initiate things sexually , is not forbidden, but is not mandatory either ! So, when you did not invite him back to your cabin, he won't have thought that you did not like him, he... (read in full...)
I still haven't had a boyfriend and was wondering if its something I'm doing?
Q. hello :)) i'm single since birth and i do not know why,i know that i'm not that head turner lady but still i'm not the super ugly one..before,there are some guys who i know that liked me,they show gestures that they like me (like i always catch ...
A. 3 September 2011: Not knowing you and your personality and circumstances, mine is necessarily a vague answer, in fact more of a wild guess. The reasons of your persisting singlehood might be many- including sheer bad luck ( let's hope it's not :) But speaking... (read in full...)
Does the problem lie with him or me?
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A. 3 September 2011: It lies with him.
If he was nervous due to the situation, it's not surprising he needed some stronger stimulus to stay hard.
But, if he is the kind of guy who can ONLY perform with the help of dirty pics or dirty talk, uhm, I don't know....... (read in full...)
A girl made a mockery of me at a party, how do I recover from this?
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A. 3 September 2011: Darling, they were DRUNK. Drunk people do not make a lot of careful,thgoughtful planning, they just do what feels like fun in the moment ( which is in general pretty lame and tacky ). They chose you- draw of luck- it could have been anybody else. ... (read in full...)
I should feel sorry for her but I hate her and her perfect life!
Q. He's got a girlfriend and he knows I like him. He said he wants to sleep with me even though he's with her like I'm some sl*t or something. She's oblivious to what he's like. She must be, he been trying to get in my pants for nearly two years behind ...
A. 3 September 2011: Wait a minute... if Moo's Mum is right, things are a bit different. Are you dating another guy now ?!Then you can't quite complain about your ex FWB, because you are sort of doing the same.
All this focus on a past lover would be still not heal... (read in full...)
She wore another guy's engagement ring for several months before we were dating, I didn't know that till just now, what do I do?
Q. My wife if nearly three years, and the mother of our 6 month old, was engaged before we were married. She was also proposed to several times. When we were dating, she told me that one serious boyfriend who proposed, she denied him and they bro...
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Is it possible to be attracted to people whose names all begin with the same letter?
Q. Hello :). Alright so here's the deal. I'm wondering if you can be attracted ("only") to a person whom names starts with a certain letter. When I was around 9-10 I had a "relationship" with a girl which name started with the letter "E" (It ...
A. 2 September 2011: I don't think so:). Probably in your country names starting with E are rather common.
If you were in Italy you'd say, "weird ! I keep being attracted to women with Maria in their name " . But it happens that maybe 30 percent of Italian women are ... (read in full...)
I should feel sorry for her but I hate her and her perfect life!
Q. He's got a girlfriend and he knows I like him. He said he wants to sleep with me even though he's with her like I'm some sl*t or something. She's oblivious to what he's like. She must be, he been trying to get in my pants for nearly two years behind ...
A. 2 September 2011: Then maybe it's time to change phone number. It would solve half of the problem.
There's still Facebook,true,and that's ,alas, a matter of will strength...treat your impulse to check on them as you would treat another addiction...pretend that you ... (read in full...)
I should feel sorry for her but I hate her and her perfect life!
Q. He's got a girlfriend and he knows I like him. He said he wants to sleep with me even though he's with her like I'm some sl*t or something. She's oblivious to what he's like. She must be, he been trying to get in my pants for nearly two years behind ...
A. 2 September 2011: Curious perspective. If someone wants you for sex only, he probably does find you phisically attractive. But not relationship material. So, IF ANY !, you might feel bad about your personality or character traits, not about your power of physical ... (read in full...)
My fiancee's promiscuous past disgusts me.
Q. Cupid, my wife to be has a promiscuous past, am having second thoughts as am a virgin.am not insecure am just disgusted with how she lived her life. Should i stay or let her down gently...
A. 2 September 2011: I totally agree with Yos. Personally I am in favour of intimate sex, but that's my preference , not an universal law. Millions of people, at some point in life, choose to have sex for fun, curiosity, loneliness, lust , for the heck of it. That ... (read in full...)
Is he not interested when I'm with my friends? And, when the time comes, how do I know for sure he doesn't have an STD?
Q. Okaay im a little bit confused might be a bit of a long question. I have a boyfriend who is slightly older than me. We met strangley and randomly, he goes to my school as me (we're both in 6th form but he is in the year above and im starting this ...
A. 2 September 2011: You saw him on Sunday, and on Thursday you are already freaking out, so yeah, I'd say you are clingy, and needy too. But of course allowances are to be made for your young age, at your age it's generally all or nothing, if someone is into you he ... (read in full...)
Why do women often settle for the nice guy over great sex?
Q. Why do women who are very in need of a solid sex life, settle for men who are not the most sexual? I have seen so many couples lately in my circle of friends where there is a definite mismatch in sex drives, or in some cases, even sexual ...
A. 2 September 2011: It's a matter of priorities.
I think nobody would turn down someone who is fantastic in bed AND also a true gentleman, a responsible,hard worker, a perspective good father, a kind,supportive companion, a fun, intelligent person etc.etc. But if a... (read in full...)
My ex wants to meet for coffee. Good or bad idea?
Q. So basically my ex and I broke up 5 months ago. He has a new girlfriend but he still wants us to be "friends". I have feelings for him still and he wants to meet for coffee. Do you think it's a bad idea?...
A. 2 September 2011: If you still have feelings for him, obviously a bad idea. ... (read in full...)
Why does he do this to me?
Q. I've been seeing a man on and off since April. He still doesn't want to be in a relationship, he's says he's not ready. I've poured my heart out to him and he means the world to me. We've slept together a few times and always have a good time ...
A. 2 September 2011: "If he cared about me, why would he ask me that ?"
Indeed. Good question.
Then, it must mean he does not care about you ( at least not that much ), right ?... (read in full...)
Ex wants to know I stopped contact
Q. my question is my boyfriend called it off but claimed he still loved me as a friend. he kept calling me but a time came when i completely stopped picking up his calls because i needed to heal from pain. and he started asking his sisters why i wa...
A. 1 September 2011: Don't call him. First, if you do you'll never get over him, how are you going to heal if you are always picking at the scabs?:)
Second, HE broke up with you, he knew he was risking losing you altogether, it's not mandatory staying friends with... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to want to spend every weekend with my boyfriend?
Q. Hi. Here is my issue. Me and my bf have been togther almost 2 years, and i feel there has always been an issue with his friends being very important to him. He works shifts so sometimes I dont get to see him much at weekends. It's not that he spends ...
A. 1 September 2011: Look,it is what it is : you have willingly and consciously chosen a guy who is very independent ,strong willed, values his friendships a lot and told you right away that he would not stay with you if you'd try to interfere with that. People do not ... (read in full...)
Does my mum have the right to take away my computer?
Q. I'm 19, I've completed a year of university and have recently decided to take a gap year and earn money because I'm not sure if higher education is for me. My mum is threatening to take away my laptop (which she gave to me when I started uni) ...
A. 1 September 2011: I think there is a bit more to the story... if your mother thinks this computer was your"downfall", probably you weren't using it moderately and occasionally and in a way compatible with the committment of higher studies. Internet can become ... (read in full...)
I want my boyfriend to get fillings before he meets my mother
Q. How do I ask my boyfriend to please get his fillings back? It's two of his front teeth. He had told me he lost them again from very bad gritting of his teeth during sleep. He had always been very cautious with his mouth until I asked him. I told him ...
A. 31 August 2011: I would not tell him anything. How would you feel if he would ask would you please shed a few pounds, or have a nose job done, etc. etc. before meeting HIS mother, because he wants you to give her a good impression ? ( the implication being that, ... (read in full...)
How do I break it off with this married man?
Q. How in the world do I break it off with the married guy im sleeping with? im tired of him texting only for sex. He doesn't have a real conversation with me anymore. The sex is so wonderful with him but I can't take not being respected anymore. He ...
A. 31 August 2011: Just do it. In a good way, in a bad way, in a so-so way... as long as you do it. What do you care about making him feel bad about his behaviour ? The important thing is that you can feel good about yours. Which surely you will as soon as you put ... (read in full...)
My FWB is dating someone else, but still wants sex with me
Q. We had a friends with benefits type thing for a while. He said it was because we live too far apart and I accepted that. Now he's dating a girl who lives near him but still wants to sleep with me. He calls me "hot" etc I feel ugly :( I'm not easy a...
A. 31 August 2011: You may not be easy in the sense of " promiscuous" but surely you have given him easy convenient access to no strings sex by getting involved into an FWB type situation- which apparently was not what YOU wanted because you wanted more.
So , even... (read in full...)
Is it possible for me to still grow taller at 19?
Q. Is it possible for me to still grow taller at 19? I'm a guy and I just turned 19 on August 3. Here's a brief history: -Dad is about 5'8 Mom is about 5'1 3/4. Brother is 22 and 6'1 1/2. Brother stopped growing around 14-16. My dad's uncle was...
A. 31 August 2011: Yes you could still grow some more in the next 12-24 months.
But it won't be a big growth spurt like in puberty, because now your body produces much less somatotropine ( growth hormone ). It would be mora a matter of some millimeters.... (read in full...)
My fiancee's promiscuous past disgusts me.
Q. Cupid, my wife to be has a promiscuous past, am having second thoughts as am a virgin.am not insecure am just disgusted with how she lived her life. Should i stay or let her down gently...
A. 31 August 2011: If you can't come to terms with her past, you should leave her .It's never a good idea marrying somebody whom you do not respect.... (read in full...)
Three kids! How do I tell my mom about him?
Q. Hiya Hope you can help me, I just need some advice. I am 31 with no children. I really want children one day. I jave recently met a wonderful guy. He adores me, I love being with him when we get the chance and I feel very happy with him. ...
A. 30 August 2011: The most sensible thing would be, I think, not to put the cart before the horses. First find out for sure how does he feel about having more children - from you. Even if he did not run a mile, it does not mean that he would be positively willing to ... (read in full...)
Are there any happy couples out there who don't have oral sex?
Q. I was just wondering if it is possible to have a happy and satisfying relationship without oral sex. So many people on this web site are complaining about their partner who refuses to go down on them. Are there people who are satisfied with their ...
A. 30 August 2011: Sure you can have a satisfying sex life also without oral sex- if you take one dish off the menu, it does not mean you go starving. So ,as long as both parties are cool with it...
I think your real question is : will I find a boyfriend who acce... (read in full...)
Can anyone explain the possible reasons for his behavior? Is he going through a crisis?
Q. A man and his wife had just moved in to manage a small volunteer group. There in the group, they met a several new friends, including me and some members of my family. They start to make good progress with the group. Very soon, he man and his wife ...
A. 29 August 2011: Ok then, let's assume that he is intentionally going out of his way to spite you. But, since you have absolutely no clue about what could have triggered this sudden turnaround, and do not mention any specific episode , accident or conversation ( ... (read in full...)
He's got me so why does he still have this other chick around?
Q. Me and this guy been messing around for some time and he admitted to me that at the beginning it was only a game but he's grown little feelings for me here and there. He does take the time out to take me out and spends his money on me But I ...
A. 29 August 2011: The same reason why he still has you around: fun, ego and love of variety. He likes to " mess around ", the more the merrier apparently ( you knew that when you met him ) so if you and the other girl are willing to mess around and stroke his ego ( ... (read in full...)
Can anyone explain the possible reasons for his behavior? Is he going through a crisis?
Q. A man and his wife had just moved in to manage a small volunteer group. There in the group, they met a several new friends, including me and some members of my family. They start to make good progress with the group. Very soon, he man and his wife ...
A. 29 August 2011: There is the definite possibility that you are overanalyzing and reading volumes into small things that do not mean particularly anything per se.. ..maybe he did not reply to your greeting because he was distracted or preoccupied, maybe he is having ... (read in full...)
He won't go against his parent's wishes for me. I don't know what I will do without him.
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I'm a 18 yr old girl in love with an 24 yr old guy. We met on a social networking site but havent met each other personally as we both stay in different cities in the same country though. Our's is a very clichèd tale but unfortun...
A. 29 August 2011: @krit: I suspect you are pulling my leg and benevolently making fun of me :) - but tks any way for the appreciation. No, I don't have all these PHDs but- the best teacher is always hands on life experience and , having a Muslim ex , and quite ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a virgin guy to want to marry a virgin girl?
Q. dear cupid, is it wrong for a virgin guy to want to marry a virgin woman with great personality,respect,trust and love? It seems when i mention this to women they think am crazy or i have insecurities....
A. 29 August 2011: It's not wrong to have preferences, it's wrong to demand that other people should share them, approve them or understand them.
In your personal life vision it makes perfect sense to be a virgin and only want to share yourself with a virgin, and ... (read in full...)
Ladies, aged less than 30, would you date a guy even if he isn't ''FUN''?
Q. Would you consider a relatively young male to be dateable even if he is a 180 degrees from the hard party bad boy persona? I am not saying that I am weak, nor that I can't stick up for myself and who I care about. I simply have no interest in ...
A. 29 August 2011: I am way over 30 but I feel qualified to answer being the mother of a guy around your age who is not a big party person.
It all depends from your- and their - idea of "fun". I'd say that many,many girls find the lifestyle you describe as fun as w... (read in full...)
Do my negative feelings mean I have a medical condition?
Q. Does anyone ever have that huge negative feeling in life? I mean what usually gets me down is the weather or if it's too cold. It makes me a little bit depressed and sad. And when that happens I find myself where I cannot even focus on work or ...
A. 29 August 2011: You may want to check with a doctor, there actually is something called SAD ( Seasonal Affective Disorder ), commonly know as winter blues, and it's a mood disorder where a depressive state or depressive symptoms are triggered by cold and bad ... (read in full...)
Not ready to let this 'camp fish' go!
Q. Dear readers, I am in need of some serious advice. I worked at this day camp for two months. It just ended on Friday, August 26. There was this guy on the first day of pre-camp that I met through another guy I knew from last summer. We'll ca...
A. 28 August 2011: Sorry, I agree with YouWish. S is a big flirt and after all he is a cheerful, carefree teenager in summer camp, surrounded by pretty , fun, friendly girls who are willing to give him lots of attention. He likes the attention, and he likes being ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has disgusting habits, will he ever stop? Everything else about him is good
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A. 28 August 2011: I agree with Tennistar88. It's sad, because it's not his fault if he has these horrible disgusting habits. But neither it's your fault- so I don't see how you could cheerfully look forward to a lifetime of kissing a toenail clippings muncher , and ... (read in full...)
I don't love him. Should I leave?
Q. You shouldn't leave the one you love for the one you like. but what if i don't LOVE him? Overtime my feelings towards my boyfriend of 5 months have changed. I never really found him physically attractive, and now since we are back at school, i don...
A. 19 August 2011: He'll get over it. He would have cried even more if he should have found out you are ashamed to be seen with him. ... (read in full...)
Is it an insult to be called "posh"?
Q. Would you consider it an insult to be called " posh " ?. I am well mannered, intelligent, kind and caring, and i usually dress smartly. So, i think that's why this person called me " posh " once. I also don't usually swear , unless i'm really angry, ...
A. 18 August 2011: Said by that kind of man ( semi- jobless drifter / moocher with no manners who drinks like a fish , swears and hangs out with rough types ) I am not so sure he meant it like a compliment , I think he meant it more like " stuck up " or " too ... (read in full...)
Eye color and affecting a prospective mate?
Q. This is just something I have observed and I want to know about guys' preferences about eye color and how that would affect a prospective partner. Even though it's inevitable that someone will accuse me of thes, I haven't closed my mind and I wo...
A. 18 August 2011: No, I don't think you don't get hit on because of your eye colour and I don't think there is anything wrong with your colours- in fact, they sound pretty attractive. You are sort of golden/tawny all over- like a lioness ! Cool.
Don't be surp... (read in full...)
How do I fix this?
Q. My boyfriends family dont have that much money (well they didnt before but do now) and my family have been always been comfortable lets say. I am use to giving and receiving big gifts at birthdays. My boyfriend has a very good job and big savings so ...
A. 18 August 2011: I don't know if there is really anything to fix except your boyfriend 's personality. I hope he has hundreds of good qualities to compensate what , IMO, is one of the worst character faults ever, i.e. being a cheapskate. Who is tight with money in ... (read in full...)
What are the chances of this working out even if we both try our best? Should I even try?
Q. I was living with my boyfriend for 18 months. We had a good, loving relationship and enjoyed each other’s company. He left because his child from previous marriage changed schools and the ex who had remarried and was pregnant again told him the ...
A. 18 August 2011: That's up to you to decide. The costs/benefits ratio. When is it that the effort becomes too much effort. Only you can know it.
If you are not motivated enough or in love enough, then yes maybe it's too complicated. If your relationship is your... (read in full...)
I want a relationship with this guy and I want my mother to accept it!
Q. Hi, I am 21 years old guy, just came out yesterday to my mother that I am bisexual and she didn`t over reacted but the thing is, she did not convinced that I am actually capable to love also guys and enjoy sexual intercourse. She thinks that thi...
A. 18 August 2011: Just let things unfold naturally and don't do anything just because you want to prove that your mother is wrong- or right.
You have to live your life, not your mother's life, so ultimately that she'd be accepting of your choices would be desi... (read in full...)
Why do people think its okay to berate women who sleep with married men?
Q. I'm so fed up reading people taking the moral high ground on every topic, especially that of married cheats and 'home wreckers' There is so much contraversy surrounding cheating at the moment on this site and I would like to express my views as...
A. 18 August 2011: And she had that option too. She is not obliged to say yes to anything that's callous/shady/ devious/morally questionable etc. etc. She can decide she does not care and will just do whatever she wants to do and up yours to everybody else - that's ... (read in full...)
Why do people think its okay to berate women who sleep with married men?
Q. I'm so fed up reading people taking the moral high ground on every topic, especially that of married cheats and 'home wreckers' There is so much contraversy surrounding cheating at the moment on this site and I would like to express my views as...
A. 18 August 2011: I get the feeling you are not married, and I wonder if you'd still write the same post if you were married and your husband had a mistress.
Would you still feel that the other woman is not doing anything wrong, not crossing any boundaries , and ... (read in full...)
I don't love him. Should I leave?
Q. You shouldn't leave the one you love for the one you like. but what if i don't LOVE him? Overtime my feelings towards my boyfriend of 5 months have changed. I never really found him physically attractive, and now since we are back at school, i don...
A. 17 August 2011: Of course . Why are you wasting this poor guy's time ? You already misled him telling him you loved him when you did not even know if it was true, now it's only fair you let him free to find someone who is better matched to him. I don't see the ... (read in full...)
He won't go against his parent's wishes for me. I don't know what I will do without him.
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I'm a 18 yr old girl in love with an 24 yr old guy. We met on a social networking site but havent met each other personally as we both stay in different cities in the same country though. Our's is a very clichèd tale but unfortun...
A. 3 July 2011: You are asking the wrong question.
The right question is not "What does he want from me ? " but, " What do I want from him ? ".
Think it over , then you decide.
Do you want a platonic penpal ? Do you want to play Romeo and Juliet for a... (read in full...)
He won't go against his parent's wishes for me. I don't know what I will do without him.
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I'm a 18 yr old girl in love with an 24 yr old guy. We met on a social networking site but havent met each other personally as we both stay in different cities in the same country though. Our's is a very clichèd tale but unfortun...
A. 26 May 2011: He wants to waste your time and make a fool out of you. He wants to have his cake and keep it too.
He may have real feelings of love for you, perhaps , ( I doubt it, because true love is not so selfish ) but he knows he is not going to marr... (read in full...)
He won't go against his parent's wishes for me. I don't know what I will do without him.
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I'm a 18 yr old girl in love with an 24 yr old guy. We met on a social networking site but havent met each other personally as we both stay in different cities in the same country though. Our's is a very clichèd tale but unfortun...
A. 23 May 2011: He is not committment phobic in general, I think- he is just being practical and sensible and knows that in these conditions he cannot commit and your relationship cannot work.
LDRs only work if they are temporary , and there is a precise , feas... (read in full...)
He won't go against his parent's wishes for me. I don't know what I will do without him.
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I'm a 18 yr old girl in love with an 24 yr old guy. We met on a social networking site but havent met each other personally as we both stay in different cities in the same country though. Our's is a very clichèd tale but unfortun...
A. 21 May 2011: It would only mean something if his parents or yours would strongly believe in Astrology , but...do they ?
Listen, leave astrology or destiny alone - our destiny is 90percent shaped by what we do, or omit to do.
He told you already- he is not goin... (read in full...)
He won't go against his parent's wishes for me. I don't know what I will do without him.
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I'm a 18 yr old girl in love with an 24 yr old guy. We met on a social networking site but havent met each other personally as we both stay in different cities in the same country though. Our's is a very clichèd tale but unfortun...
A. 5 May 2011: This guy is meesing up with your head. Maybe not on purpose, maybe just because he is so in love with you that wants to see as possible the impossible.
The fact, is , he can't marry you and he knows it very well ( And, living in India, I am surp... (read in full...)
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