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... Send *indyCares a private message | | | *indyCares's profile:Hi everybody. I am an Italian woman currently living in Italy but I spent many years in England and USA. I hope my English is still decent but in case it got a little rusty, please be lenient.
My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
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Should I just have sex with him since I may never see him again?
Q. He is 29 and I am 30. I fell in love with him for the past one month and I thought he was too, but now I am not sure if he feels love or lust for me.He wanted animalistic sex(no kiss, doggy style) and I refused. I deliberately but not openly avoided ...
A. 26 July 2011: He cares ?! He cares about getting laid, that's for sure.
As horny goes,he is definitely horny. Which not necessarily will make him a lover to remember.
You are both adults and there 's nothing wrong in having a sexual fling if you are both sin... (read in full...)
What gives women the right to judge men for having been to prostitutes?
Q. Every time a man complains about a woman's sexual past he gets told he has no right to talk about it. But a lot of women will judge a man if they hear that he has slept with a prostitute. It's hypocrisy. If the past can't be held against one ...
A. 26 July 2011: Precisely , OP. No good comparing reds with blues because we should first unquestionably agree about what's the inherent degree of immorality of each colour , - and if we come from very different backgrounds, religions,geographic areas ... (read in full...)
Should I just have sex with him since I may never see him again?
Q. He is 29 and I am 30. I fell in love with him for the past one month and I thought he was too, but now I am not sure if he feels love or lust for me.He wanted animalistic sex(no kiss, doggy style) and I refused. I deliberately but not openly avoided ...
A. 26 July 2011: No no NO ! Your hormons are singing like Ulysses' sirens and it's difficult to resist their melody, I imagine:)... but , that's going to be such a botched job and a let down.
You are a virgin. You want to have a good memory about your first time... (read in full...)
Am being silly because his friends kiss each other on the cheeks? This makes me uncomfortable!
Q. hello i am here once again, as i always do if i have a problem and know you agony aunts and uncles put my mind at rest, how would you take this, me and my man of 2 year go out with a couple of other couples, so they is six of us that go out, have a ...
A. 26 July 2011: Yes, frankly it is silly, - paranoid in fact.
I dislike too this cheek-pecking habit- that where I live, in Italy, is a frenzy, everybody is constantly kissing everybody ,you'd really go nuts if you were here. In fact, I hate it. I like to main... (read in full...)
Do women look too ?
Q. A question that will ignite a debate, we men although may have the most beautiful wife/girlfriend but we keep on looking at other women, we don't get enough! although we may be having the best woman...Are women like us in nature, do they look at men ...
A. 26 July 2011: Of course I look, it's very normal. Looking at beautiful objects is a great source of enjoyment.
I look at beautiful artwork in museums. I look at shop windows full of splendid jewels that I don't mean to buy, at wonderful houses wher... (read in full...)
Why can't a man take me further than my bed?
Q. Just because I have huge boobs, a small waist and so I have been told a pretty face, can't a man take me further than my bed????I want a partner not just sex.What is their problem or is it mine????...
A. 26 July 2011: Ah... dating sites. That explains a lot.
Dating sites are not the road to perdition, are worth a try ( without too many expectations ) and very occasionally people can find relationships through them.
But the majority of people who's on there... (read in full...)
Have you ever left someone even though you loved them deeply, since you just had different beliefs?
Q. I come from a big family. We were very close but I feel a little far from them now. My boyfriend was an only child. There is a birthday at least every 2 months in the family, and especially if it's the kids we like to have a party. There are also...
A. 25 July 2011: You did pick up your own family over him. And it was the right choice, in fact a mandatory choice. Family vs controlling,abusive,manipulative bf ? Family wins hand down.
Stay strong. You did the right thing.... (read in full...)
Living around London. Where can BF and I go for a quick getaway?
Q. I'm a little bit stressed at the moment and i've asked my bf to take me away, I just mean away from my house for the day (sadly come home in the evening /early hours of the morning lol) because things are rough at the moment and my mum wont let me ...
A. 25 July 2011: Cambridge ? Windsor ? Hampton Court ?
But you don't even need to get away to recharge your batteries. Guys you live in London ! "Who is tired of London is tired of life ". You can't ever end visiting London or knowing it better, there's alwa... (read in full...)
Pressure over lending money to my fiance, please help!
Q. Hi, I need advice. Basically I am engaged (have been for a year now). I am working part time at my dad’s shop and generally trying to make money for the future. My girlfriend has been unemployed for about 2 years, she has tried her best to get a job ...
A. 25 July 2011: Wow ! Sho she dumped you over 600 pounds? ... Well, at least this shows you clearly which are her priorities.
1)money
2)horses
3)leisure
4) always having things go her way or else
.................... (read in full...)
What gives women the right to judge men for having been to prostitutes?
Q. Every time a man complains about a woman's sexual past he gets told he has no right to talk about it. But a lot of women will judge a man if they hear that he has slept with a prostitute. It's hypocrisy. If the past can't be held against one ...
A. 25 July 2011: OP, I am not sure I get what you mean. Who are those millions of men who don't have realistic access to non mercenary sexual experiences ?.. Unless we are talking about people working in some remote minerary district, with 500 males for every ... (read in full...)
How can I give her the message I don't want to be friends?
Q. I have this friend, lets call her E, that went off the deep end this year. It wasn't drugs/alcohol or anything like that. She turned into a total dork and just stopped being a good friend. She would freak out over small things and then when someone ...
A. 25 July 2011: Yeah I get it. You can't hang out with her on her B-day, and tell her : hey,it was great to see you, Happy Birthday, oh, and btw : I hate you :).
Again, the blunt option, and the diplomatic one .
Blunt : you pick up the phone NOW, or way befo... (read in full...)
Pressure over lending money to my fiance, please help!
Q. Hi, I need advice. Basically I am engaged (have been for a year now). I am working part time at my dad’s shop and generally trying to make money for the future. My girlfriend has been unemployed for about 2 years, she has tried her best to get a job ...
A. 25 July 2011: Sorry but this is slightly comic: she is unemployed, and wants to borrow money for an expensive hobby as horseback riding from her only partially employed boyfriend ?
I am surprised you'd ever consider this loan, has anybody ever heard abou... (read in full...)
Is there any way this could go wrong?
Q. There is this guy who works at this store that i used to visit three times a week for half a year because of my work. It was obvious that we were both attracted to each other, just too shy to do anything about it. You know how sometimes the way the ...
A. 25 July 2011: If you need a job, and if you would apply anyway even without the guy working there, go ahead.
But if the only or main reason you'd apply there is the boy, don't. Haven't you thought that he may have been attracted to you and not acted upon it, ... (read in full...)
What gives women the right to judge men for having been to prostitutes?
Q. Every time a man complains about a woman's sexual past he gets told he has no right to talk about it. But a lot of women will judge a man if they hear that he has slept with a prostitute. It's hypocrisy. If the past can't be held against one ...
A. 25 July 2011: I don't think it's a fair comparison.
Men who have issues with their wife's or gf's sexual past in general - note, I say in general - have , to same extent, a sexual past too. They have had sexual experiences too, even if in a smaller quan... (read in full...)
How can I give her the message I don't want to be friends?
Q. I have this friend, lets call her E, that went off the deep end this year. It wasn't drugs/alcohol or anything like that. She turned into a total dork and just stopped being a good friend. She would freak out over small things and then when someone ...
A. 25 July 2011: Uhm, I am a bit suspicious too. If the problem is that you don't want to be friends with her because she has been acting rude and inconsiderate- then don't be friends with her, problem solved. Nobody can force you to be her friend, and if she says ... (read in full...)
I have no self-confidence and always let people use me....can you help?
Q. I need help, im so depressed i cant see any hope of getting out of this depression. I've always let guys use me. I've helped with money, everything but because of a lack of confidence and self esteem i have always come out badly. The last guy left...
A. 25 July 2011: Shawncaff 's advices are excellent and to them I only have to add this :
- you don't want to see a doctor, but you must. Some situations necessarily call for professional help. I don't particularly want to go to the dentist, but I can't dril... (read in full...)
I just want to understand why is he happy and I'm miserable?
Q. For a year I was with a man that I was absolutely in love with. From the beginning there were red flags such as an occasional night of drugs, a recent divorce, little white lies. But then we talked, moved in together, and things seemed to be ...
A. 25 July 2011: You should Move On with a capital M. Some time we get fascinated with the workings of people's minds... when these people do not even have a mind of their own. Like in his case- this man has a cocaine addiction, his addiction is doing is thinking ... (read in full...)
Qeustions for the guys ...do you prefer bigger women ?
Q. Qeustion for the men. What do you think about bigger women ? Would you ever date one, or do you prefer smaller women, do you find bigger women attractive or do find slim women more attractive ? I ask this because well im trying to start dating and ...
A. 25 July 2011: Size 10-12 ? That's all? Then you are only too big to appear on Vogue covers, but perfectly normal for everyday's life.
Maybe it has to do with your age bracket , 13-15. At this age boys haven't had the time/ developped the self confidence for ... (read in full...)
Opinion on a girl who has made out with 13 guys before age 18?
Q. Guys, in complete an utter honesty. If you were seeing an 18 year old girl and she told you she's got with (kissed) about 13 guys, none of whom she was in a relationship with. What would your opinion on her be? And would you want her to tell you ...
A. 25 July 2011: 13 kisses at 18 ? Not so terrible :) In Italy there's a very old popular saying :"Kisses don't leave holes "...meaning you can kiss all you want..as long as you keep your legs closed. If this was good for rural Italians in the 19th century, -I ... (read in full...)
I want to tell him how I feel...but I don't want to scare him...please help!
Q. Okay so I don't really know where to start, I've been seeing this guy for about two months now, we've known each other longer than that, but it's only been two months that we're actually "dating", or should I say, having sex ... I would love it if ...
A. 24 July 2011: Ah sweetie... I am afraid that you are so wasting your first love on someone who does not know what to do with it. 16, and already involuntarily stuck in an FWB situation. FWBs only work if both parties are on the same page and want the same thing ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend who used to be a slut is now a prude in bed!
Q. My gf used to be a slut and was used by many men in the past as an object, which in turn lowered her self esteem even more. when i met her she was sexually open but now she has worked through her issues with self esteem is truely a bit of a prude in ...
A. 24 July 2011: If we want to get technical, "slut" has been used since around 1420 - slutte in Middle English - to mean " dirty, slovenly WOMAN " . Then it passed to mean "kitchen maid " or "scullery girl " ( I guess kitchens were not that clean at the time ) ... (read in full...)
I believe a relationship means doing things together, so why does he instead spend time partying and drinking with his friends?
Q. Hey everyone, I posted a question a while ago for advice on my LDR with my boyfriend. As i've already been helped with that, I want to ask for help with the next issue i'm facing. For a boyfriend that has shown signs of being more committed to alc...
A. 24 July 2011: Ok, this is a dumb question, but...
- if you think a couple should do things together, and he obviously does not
- if you think the way he is acting is horrible
- if he has a record of breking promises, ditching you for his friends, neglecting y... (read in full...)
Affective Sexuality: Whatever happened to it?
Q. The story begins with a guy and a girl falling in love on their first date. Everything went perfect. They both click the first time they laid their eyes on each other, and they're hoping to "get it on" tonight. However, they found out that they're ...
A. 24 July 2011: You give for granted that your perception of reality is THE reality. While in fact it may be coherent with the limited segment of human experienece you have been able to observe in your environment, and not apply in other places, or social groups, ... (read in full...)
Qeustions for the guys ...do you prefer bigger women ?
Q. Qeustion for the men. What do you think about bigger women ? Would you ever date one, or do you prefer smaller women, do you find bigger women attractive or do find slim women more attractive ? I ask this because well im trying to start dating and ...
A. 24 July 2011: I am a woman too but I'd like to put in my two cents.
Yes, that could be part of the problem ; bigger women have their admirers too, but mainstream current tastes prevalently favour slimmer bodies. No point in whining about how men are shal... (read in full...)
Why can't a man take me further than my bed?
Q. Just because I have huge boobs, a small waist and so I have been told a pretty face, can't a man take me further than my bed????I want a partner not just sex.What is their problem or is it mine????...
A. 24 July 2011: It is yours. Apparently, they just have to ask you and you go yessir. Why ? You can tell, sorry darling, I'll only will have sex with you when the relationship is more established,or when I'll be sure about our mutual feelings, or.. .you got the ... (read in full...)
My family wants me to dump my BF b/c he is a Veg. How do I handle this?
Q. Dear, Cupid, My mom wants me to break up with my boyfriend because he is a vegitarian. I don't mind making meatless meals at all. I don't miss meat and he does not care if I cook and eat meat when I want to do so. It is not like he pressures ...
A. 24 July 2011: Just ignore it, your mother's objections are so futile that don't even deserve discussion.
Why should you change him and his habits if he does not want to change you and your habits. If he 's not imposing his eating style on you, I really don'... (read in full...)
He is one of the best people I have ever met and I don't want to lose him from my life...what can I do?
Q. Last winter, I hooked with one of my friends. We went to high school together, he is 2 years older though. So we werent great friends, we just ran into each other occasionally. I ended up leaving for school again right after this, but we kept in ...
A. 24 July 2011: He is not interested in money. Right. Who needs money when you can bum a free ride on someone else's car and camp on her couch for the duration ? You don't need to worry about being jobless and pennyless, because the girl has a soft spot for you ... (read in full...)
How can I overcome my nerves about drunken sex?
Q. Basically I have a problem with drunken sex. So here's the story. I was out Friday night at a party and my cousion brings her friends down and this stunning girl but about 5 years older than me. I have a pretty good wing man though who can usually ...
A. 24 July 2011: So you never think about how much you are drinking ?...
Well, START thinking then ! Thinking is not against the law, - under age drinking is. May I remind you that in UK at 16 and 17 you are only supposed to drink in public with a table meal , an... (read in full...)
I can't figure out how far I am along in my pregnancy
Q. Okay so.....please help people of dearcupid. I simply want opinions. I am about 15 1/ 2weeks pregnant (or so they say, every doc has given me a different date and when they told me how far along I was it was impossible) I was with someone ...
A. 23 July 2011: They do calculate by the baby's size, but size relevation is quite precise and accurate only when based on ultrasonography taken between 8th and 13th weeks. ... (read in full...)
Raunchy pics and dirty talk...Was he just using me? And should I confront him?
Q. hi i am 21 years old and recently i met a 31 year old guy online. we got talking and i liked him. for a month we talked almost every day for a few hours however, we weren't able to arrange a meeting because he lived a good distance away. but we s...
A. 23 July 2011: There's nothing wrong in wanting to try something new, but same, as ( hopefully ) you'd be prudent in real life , like- hopefully, you would not follow home someone you just met and whom you don't know anything about, you have to be prudent- and ... (read in full...)
I can't figure out how far I am along in my pregnancy
Q. Okay so.....please help people of dearcupid. I simply want opinions. I am about 15 1/ 2weeks pregnant (or so they say, every doc has given me a different date and when they told me how far along I was it was impossible) I was with someone ...
A. 23 July 2011: Due date is calculated 40 weeks after the first day of your last period, that's why they "add " two weeks . Now, if it is the scan (ecography ) which says you are 15 and a half weeks today ,
this should mean that you have conceived 13 a... (read in full...)
I feel like my skin is awful and I can't let anyone see it without makeup
Q. Okay I've never talked to anyone about this before, here it goes. It's weird.. So, I hate letting people see me in natural lighting. Like out side and stuff, or even in a really well lite room. I hate my skin, my complexion is horrible. I have...
A. 23 July 2011: Did you see a dermatologist ?
You don't mention that so I assume you did not, and you really should.Home remedies will only go so far if your acne comes from chronic hormonal inbalances or other internal causes- you'll need prescription meds. See ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he love me anymore? I just want to help him and see him succeed...
Q. I dated an amazing man for a year who treated me like such a queen. We lived together and had planned our entire life together. A couple months ago he began having crazy mood swings and would get so angry so easy. I found out he has been doing ...
A. 23 July 2011: He does not love you anymore because when you fall in love with cocaine eventually you find out there's no significant amount of love left for human beings. Do you know thay call it " the selfish drug "? Constant use changes your thought process ... (read in full...)
Married couples - question for you: Let's talk finances
Q. Newlyweds, how do you manage your finances. In the 20th century I see a lot of couples having seperate account plus a joint account. If you are doing this, was this discussed prior to marriage? What percentage of your income is personal account and ...
A. 23 July 2011: I think it's ok to keep your personal account private .. but as for not making your spouse jealous, well, I don't know if it is a great reason. Is not he/she supposed to be happy that you are financially successful /comfortable ? ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to become attached to this child inside me
Q. Please help me people. I'm 4 months pregnant and this whole time I've been up and down. But lately I'm really feeling resentful to this thing in my stomach and don't know what to do. I'm not with the father we really can't stand each other. That's ...
A. 23 July 2011: Excellent suggestion by Marieclaire, and don't put pressure on yourself trying to bond by a set date. It just happens, some times at birth, or after 3 months ,or 6... I don't know when. It just happens. One day, you are just there changing his/her ... (read in full...)
Why are so many women so selfish? Even the great ones we love dearly!
Q. MY question is why do women expect us men to give them everything and anything they want that makes them happy, but they won't give us the simplest thing to make us happy; a blow job!? We go to all sorts of lengths, taking an interest in your...
A. 23 July 2011: OP, ..ah but then you have upped the ante quite a bit from your previous post.
It's not just that you feel deprived of oral attentions and you want your wife to perform your favourite sexual act. You want her to like it. To DESIRE it, in fact- to p... (read in full...)
My girfriend doesn't respect her parents. Ethically, how can I get her to see this is wrong?
Q. I was born outside USA and so notice some cultural differences in how my girlfriend relates to her parents. I have had an American girlfriend for the last 2 years. We seem to have been hitting the spot ever since we got off to a good start. But I do...
A. 23 July 2011: No. More than unethical , it's presumptous .
First, like you say, there are cultural differences that you probably don't grasp , what you see as wrong or disrespectful may not be that in their culture,
Second, parent-child dynamics are very per... (read in full...)
He said he had a great time with me, yet he ignored me for nearly two months. Why contact me now?!
Q. Any insight as to what is going on in this guy's head would be fantastic. I'm pretty confused. In early April, I was an active member on a dating site. A guy messaged me and we began chatting rather frequently. After a few weeks of messaging bac...
A. 23 July 2011: Honey, you met him on a dating site. Now, I've got nothing against dating sites and I don't believe they only host perverts and lunatics, but I think girls your age have misconceptions about how they work. Most people, regardless of what they ... (read in full...)
Am I just being insecure?
Q. I've been told that in order for a relationship to remain healthy, one must let their SO hang out with their friends without having a problem with it. Totally understandable and that's how my boyfriend is with me. Just in advance, neither of us ha...
A. 23 July 2011: Ego. You feel ,maybe not too clearly, "How come ? Here I am, willing, free and available,....and he can give up time spent with lovable , adorable me in favour of some crummy friends ? Should not he WANT to be with me as much as humanly possible ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I know about the porn he watches?
Q. My bf is 25 and we have sex once a month! last time I had it was 6 weeks ago. and he was drunk. it was perfect though. but the first 3 intercourses (when we just started dating)were unsuccessful, I mean he couldnt come at all. and he just stopped. I ...
A. 22 July 2011: OP, no no please ,no apologies needed, as already said to Betty Boop, I took no offence, I just found amusing that you'd put "older woman " right on par with "bestiality " - btw, not that I find amusing your whole predicament, which is in ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I know about the porn he watches?
Q. My bf is 25 and we have sex once a month! last time I had it was 6 weeks ago. and he was drunk. it was perfect though. but the first 3 intercourses (when we just started dating)were unsuccessful, I mean he couldnt come at all. and he just stopped. I ...
A. 22 July 2011: @BettyBoup : thanks BB, you are really a sweetheart for wanting to reassure me ,lol. Don't worry, I did not take any offence for the OP's comments , I was just a tad amused ,because it is TRUE that most young women think that sex is like ... (read in full...)
Is it normal not to want sex? And to prefer a relationship without it?
Q. To be short and blunt, sex doesn't interest me at all. I thought it did but it was just me being hung up on being a virgin. Once I got past this barrier, sex just doesn't appeal to me. Is this normal and is there any way to have a relationship ...
A. 22 July 2011: It depends from what " normal " means.
If you mean in a statistical sense, then it's surely not normal, nor usual; a wide majority of people is , at different levels, interested in sex .
If you mean it as " not pathological " I don't think an... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on how to lose weight? 100lbs seems so overwhelming!
Q. Hi all. This is more a self-esteem/relationship with myself kinda deal. I'm currently 220 lbs and at only 5'4", I'm a big girl. It sucks and I hate it. I was actually one of those girls you called anorexic back in elementary school because I was so ...
A. 22 July 2011: The first would be please do not try to loose 100 pounds in one year in view of your wedding. You'd wreak havoc on your thyroid gland, would probably fall into depression and would fill yourself with stretch marks. Rome was not built in one day- ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I know about the porn he watches?
Q. My bf is 25 and we have sex once a month! last time I had it was 6 weeks ago. and he was drunk. it was perfect though. but the first 3 intercourses (when we just started dating)were unsuccessful, I mean he couldnt come at all. and he just stopped. I ...
A. 22 July 2011: Ahem.. being myself a mature, curvy lady with a requited preference for younger partners, I have some objections to being filed under the same category as incest, animals and other sideshow freak sex. But OK, fair enough, when I was your age I ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to become attached to this child inside me
Q. Please help me people. I'm 4 months pregnant and this whole time I've been up and down. But lately I'm really feeling resentful to this thing in my stomach and don't know what to do. I'm not with the father we really can't stand each other. That's ...
A. 22 July 2011: Honey , welcome to the wonderful world of pregnancy :) What you feel may be scary but it's far from unusual. Your hormons are all over the place, you are young and inexperienced and worried, you are a single mom, maybe you don't feel too well ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend who used to be a slut is now a prude in bed!
Q. My gf used to be a slut and was used by many men in the past as an object, which in turn lowered her self esteem even more. when i met her she was sexually open but now she has worked through her issues with self esteem is truely a bit of a prude in ...
A. 22 July 2011: Maybe she does not want the man she loves to think of her or define her his "slut" girlfriend. Maybe in her mind - and obviously in yours too- those sexual acts she used to do are typical of being a slut, which now she does not identify with ... (read in full...)
Why are so many women so selfish? Even the great ones we love dearly!
Q. MY question is why do women expect us men to give them everything and anything they want that makes them happy, but they won't give us the simplest thing to make us happy; a blow job!? We go to all sorts of lengths, taking an interest in your...
A. 21 July 2011: OP, in the context you have provided in your follow up - then it can't be that bad ,can it ?
I'd say you have two courses of action.
- always remember what you told us : she is your wife, she loves you, she is beautiful, she takes good care of ... (read in full...)
Have you ever left someone even though you loved them deeply, since you just had different beliefs?
Q. I come from a big family. We were very close but I feel a little far from them now. My boyfriend was an only child. There is a birthday at least every 2 months in the family, and especially if it's the kids we like to have a party. There are also...
A. 20 July 2011: That's a cinch,darling.
Just tell your parents that you had to break up because your ex wanted to prevent you from attending family events and wanted to make you choose between him and your family.... and they'll be making a bonfire with his ... (read in full...)
Why are so many women so selfish? Even the great ones we love dearly!
Q. MY question is why do women expect us men to give them everything and anything they want that makes them happy, but they won't give us the simplest thing to make us happy; a blow job!? We go to all sorts of lengths, taking an interest in your...
A. 20 July 2011: That's a way of seeing things that frankly I can't relate to. Personally I think nobody should do or be asked to do what sexually turns them off. "Straining" "effort" and "sacrifice " should stay out of the bedroom, and people should be very car... (read in full...)
Have you ever left someone even though you loved them deeply, since you just had different beliefs?
Q. I come from a big family. We were very close but I feel a little far from them now. My boyfriend was an only child. There is a birthday at least every 2 months in the family, and especially if it's the kids we like to have a party. There are also...
A. 18 July 2011: Don't go find excuses for him.
"That's the way he grew up ". Oh really ? Did he grow up thinking it's Ok to dictate other people whom they can see ,how close should they be to their family , what his girlfriend can eat ?... Where did he grow up, ... (read in full...)
Have you ever left someone even though you loved them deeply, since you just had different beliefs?
Q. I come from a big family. We were very close but I feel a little far from them now. My boyfriend was an only child. There is a birthday at least every 2 months in the family, and especially if it's the kids we like to have a party. There are also...
A. 18 July 2011: Your bf is a bully .
I sort of see where is coming from, I am not much into family gatherings myself, and I had a SO who had seven (!)siblings who were forever getting married,having birthdays and celebrating together everything , even the purc... (read in full...)
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