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... Send *indyCares a private message | | | *indyCares's profile:Hi everybody. I am an Italian woman currently living in Italy but I spent many years in England and USA. I hope my English is still decent but in case it got a little rusty, please be lenient.
My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
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Why does my dad do this?
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Teenage age differences, what's the big deal? Were me and my friends wrong back then?
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A. 5 July 2011: I think this is one of those instances where we 'll have to agree to disagree , because the perception of the issue is very much influenced by personal experiences.
I have a 21 y.o. son, he is a student and still lives with me. I would not even... (read in full...)
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But that's not the prob... (read in full...)
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Teenage age differences, what's the big deal? Were me and my friends wrong back then?
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What should I do? I'm doing things I normally wouldn't do and wouldn't agree with
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A. 4 July 2011: It's difficult to gave up something we like just out of selfless, generous impulses to do the right thing for someone else.
Then do the right thing for yourself. Don't feel bad for his wife. feel bad for YOURSELF:
What have you got here ? A... (read in full...)
Why does someone always have to ruin things?
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Anyway, if this is no concern to you, then what's the problem. If he only says the "pull my pants down " as... (read in full...)
This guy is the opposite of the type of man my parents want me to date!
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Of course your parents cannot be overjoyed, and you should not be either. It's like this guy come... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's family wont let her make her own decisions and she cant come to see me with my child!
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How do I get over my ex?
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Drastic but nece... (read in full...)
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If you are not beautiful? Beauty is so useless. Why do people give such a damn about it?
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A. 4 July 2011: Society has many faults , but not those you make it responsible for.
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Successful cheaters only, tell me your stories.
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I asked a question and don't like the answer I got!
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A. 3 July 2011: I sort of agree with your wife .
Nothing exactly wrong with what you do, and actually it does not bother her.... but it's too a clumsy and impersonal approach to sugggest her anything else that " When I 'm near a piece of ass, I grab it ".
... (read in full...)
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A. 3 July 2011: Why should it be shameful ? everybody can make mistakes, make wrong decisions. Everybody. We should not, but we do.
Making in good faith a wrong judgement call , like thinking that a certain relationship can/will last forever then it does not,... (read in full...)
He won't go against his parent's wishes for me. I don't know what I will do without him.
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A. 3 July 2011: You are asking the wrong question.
The right question is not "What does he want from me ? " but, " What do I want from him ? ".
Think it over , then you decide.
Do you want a platonic penpal ? Do you want to play Romeo and Juliet for a... (read in full...)
The sex is sooo good but no orgasms!
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A. 3 July 2011: You don't tell if you had the same problem with previous boyfriends or not.
If you have always been this way.... no biggie. There are tons of women that can't reach orgasm through penetration only. As long as you respond to other kinds of stim... (read in full...)
There was a lot of suspicious noise in the background when we spoke ...
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A. 3 July 2011: Tell me, are you always so suspicious ?.... Then, it must be difficult to live with you.
First, use your rational thinking : would she engage in sex just under the nose of all her gathered family ? And why would she carry on a conversation with... (read in full...)
How do I get my missing rib back?
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A. 3 July 2011: You don't . Actions have consequences. Regardless of motivations. Of course you did not MEAN to hurt her, you'd have been a total jerk if you had done it on purpose ! But, you have shown her a side of yourself that, right or wrong, she feels she ... (read in full...)
Why would my ex say all those things if he's over me?
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A. 3 July 2011: Your ex is wise and considerate. You are not ready for being just friends with him, and seeing him again would actually make you feel worse. In fact, if you manage to NOT stay in touch with him, you'll get over him much sooner.
It's just six week... (read in full...)
Why does my dad do this?
Q. I hate asking him for help with anything. So do my siblings. If you do ask, he turns everything around on you. He says things like "Why do I have to do EVERYTHING?" or "You'll have to wait, I'm doing everything else". "WHY am I the only person who ...
A. 2 July 2011: But, it's NOT up your parents , it's up to you.
You are responsible for directing your life in the course that canmake you happier, and luckily you work and can pay for everything you want.
If you don't do it just because your dad will grumble ... (read in full...)
Why does my dad do this?
Q. I hate asking him for help with anything. So do my siblings. If you do ask, he turns everything around on you. He says things like "Why do I have to do EVERYTHING?" or "You'll have to wait, I'm doing everything else". "WHY am I the only person who ...
A. 17 June 2011: Then don't ask him anything, or limit your request to a bare indispensable minimum. That will train you to be independent and self reliant, and won't give him the satisfaction to go on about your lazyness.
I think that without noticing you mayb... (read in full...)
He won't go against his parent's wishes for me. I don't know what I will do without him.
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I'm a 18 yr old girl in love with an 24 yr old guy. We met on a social networking site but havent met each other personally as we both stay in different cities in the same country though. Our's is a very clichèd tale but unfortun...
A. 26 May 2011: He wants to waste your time and make a fool out of you. He wants to have his cake and keep it too.
He may have real feelings of love for you, perhaps , ( I doubt it, because true love is not so selfish ) but he knows he is not going to marr... (read in full...)
He won't go against his parent's wishes for me. I don't know what I will do without him.
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I'm a 18 yr old girl in love with an 24 yr old guy. We met on a social networking site but havent met each other personally as we both stay in different cities in the same country though. Our's is a very clichèd tale but unfortun...
A. 23 May 2011: He is not committment phobic in general, I think- he is just being practical and sensible and knows that in these conditions he cannot commit and your relationship cannot work.
LDRs only work if they are temporary , and there is a precise , feas... (read in full...)
He won't go against his parent's wishes for me. I don't know what I will do without him.
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I'm a 18 yr old girl in love with an 24 yr old guy. We met on a social networking site but havent met each other personally as we both stay in different cities in the same country though. Our's is a very clichèd tale but unfortun...
A. 21 May 2011: It would only mean something if his parents or yours would strongly believe in Astrology , but...do they ?
Listen, leave astrology or destiny alone - our destiny is 90percent shaped by what we do, or omit to do.
He told you already- he is not goin... (read in full...)
He won't go against his parent's wishes for me. I don't know what I will do without him.
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I'm a 18 yr old girl in love with an 24 yr old guy. We met on a social networking site but havent met each other personally as we both stay in different cities in the same country though. Our's is a very clichèd tale but unfortun...
A. 5 May 2011: This guy is meesing up with your head. Maybe not on purpose, maybe just because he is so in love with you that wants to see as possible the impossible.
The fact, is , he can't marry you and he knows it very well ( And, living in India, I am surp... (read in full...)
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