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I want to get married soon but don't know how to tell my mum

Q.   How do I tell my mum I want to get married soon? So I've been seeing my bf for a year now. He's really sweet and totally into me and wants us to get married in a few years soon. I love him and we make each other happy. He's now ready a...

A.   19 August 2014: I agree with your mum. Graduate and get a good job first. If you really want to marry your boyfriend then you would have been proud enough to have told he already. Don't rush your life, being married is no magic wand to happiness.... (read in full...)

Is this retroactive jealousy or is it abuse?

Q.   I'm not sure whether my boyfriend is suffering from retroactive jealousy or is actually a bad and possibly abusive person, what do you think? Story - we are 25 and 28, about the same number of partners (+1 for me), neither of us feels insecure, ...

A.   29 June 2014: If people haven't experienced first hand what you are dealing with then its hard to be really helpful. As a male I have been where your boyfriend is and after many years still hurt when I think about it, but like all pain, time does deminish... (read in full...)

Sex/Intercourse with a partner versus Head/Fellatio with a partner? Why can't I orgasm from the latter and prefer Intercourse instead?

Q.   So is something wrong with me that I can't seem to come from getting head? I've only ever gotten it from my girlfriend (she's my first) and I never come from it, I got close once but generally it doesn't feel as good as sex. Is this normal? I me...

A.   27 April 2014: I agree totally. But think of this. I am sure you enjoy giving your girlfriend orgasms with fingers, tongue, etc (at least I hope you do), well it's the same for her. Some women just don't like it, but if your girlfriend wants to do this then you ... (read in full...)

I don't believe him when he says he won't seek sex elsewhere when I'm recovering from childbirth!

Q.   hi all i am seven months pregnant with my first baby. she wasn't planned but my boyfriend and i were over overjoyed. my boyfriend and i have been together for 5 years and are deeply in love. we've always had a great sex life and since i've be...

A.   20 April 2014: Ah pregnant sex, brings back many happy memories! I know it's hard to relax when you can find so many things to worry about, but the reality of getting a new baby, you will discover, is not how you get enough sex but how you will get enough sleep!! ... (read in full...)

I have a fantasy, but is it too 'out there' to share with her?

Q.   I have a strong desire to cum in my girlfriend's long hair, but I know it will be really messy and difficult to get out. How can I bring this fantasy up to my girlfriend? Do you think she will think I'm weird? If you are a woman would you allow a ...

A.   15 January 2014: The thing that makes fantasy fun is that it is in your head, sometimes acting it out is not half as good as you would imagine. How do you plan to fullfil this desire? Get her to sit patiently whilst you masturbate on her head? That sounds romantic. ... (read in full...)

How do I inform my friends and family that I'm now a vegan?

Q.   Basically I converted to veganism 2 months ago because i nolonger want to contribute to the violence towards animals, with the bonus of improving my health and being one step closer to saving the planet. Now i've keep this a secret from ever...

A.   23 December 2013: Why do you need to tell people? The only people you need to tell are the ones that cook food for you, and that's if they don't know you. Maybe reversing your motives would make it easier to explain? I am very happy cooking vegan food because it's ... (read in full...)

I feel a stab of pain because all my firsts wont be his firsts!

Q.   This might sounds a trivial problem or I might sound ridiculously jealous to some people but I could really do with honest advice from people on how to deal with my feelings. Im in my first relationship with someone that already has a child...

A.   23 July 2013: No you are not being ridiculous , and the fact that you are trying to understand and explain your emotions shows you care about what you are doing. They say that love can overcome anything, and maybe sometimes there can be enough love to do that, ... (read in full...)

Married for 32 years and she's never given me oral sex. Will I die never knowing what it's like?

Q.   I am 56 yrs old, sitting here late at night ready to cry - in that I have known my wife (55) for 35 yrs., married for 32, with 3 grown children and 2 grandchildren - and through all these years, she has never given me oral sex. I made some subtle ...

A.   22 July 2013: OP, I think you have been taken in by modern behaviour! This is not a big deal, but yes I guess it's nice to find out you haven't missed anything. Do you give you wife oral sex? If so then next time introduce some chocolate sauce and at the right ... (read in full...)

He's controlling. He says no more sex until I get a job. Is it wrong for him to give me ultimatums for not having a job?

Q.   Ive been dating a older man for almost 3 years now. im 21 and he's 44. Get ready i could tell stories all day of all the s^^t iv'e been thru with and because him. I love him very much still but not as in love with him as i was before. im s...

A.   6 June 2013: If you have a home you can go back to then go there. Go back to school and get yourself a job so you can be independent and then meet a guy you can and be on equal terms with. This guy is using you and it going nowhere. The longer you put off doing ... (read in full...)

Is it common that I can't orgasm? I'm only 18

Q.   Hi people. I am 18, I want to know if it is common for a woman not to be able to orgasm at my age? Or feel that cumming sensation without helping my self during sex? My boyfriend says it's weird and it hasn't happened with any of his ex's. It's ...

A.   6 June 2013: No there is nothing wrong, except maybe you have a boyfriend who hasn't learnt or understood much about women. It doesn't help that he talks about and compares you to his exes (how many are there? How old is he?) maybe it's time to wonder if there ... (read in full...)

I had sex with one person, but I think I want to wait until I'm married now.

Q.   My original plan that I had for myself my whole life was to wait until I was married to have sex (not for religious reasons, I'm just traditional). I'll try to make a long story short: last year I met a guy and fell in love quick. I thought we had ...

A.   5 June 2013: You have a dilemma, if you hope to marry a guy who values the meaning of sex then he may well feel very undervalued by your choices not to be intimate with him whilst you could with a guy you didn't really know. If your future husband has had some ... (read in full...)

I like a guy but I've slept with his friend in the past, before I knew him. I've been honest and told him but what do I do now?

Q.   Hi everyone! So I have a bit of a situation on my hands and could really use some help and advice with this. So, for the past year I was living and working in France and recently came home a couple of weeks ago. While I was out there, ...

A.   4 June 2013: I'm afraid that's the way many ( young ) guys think. A girl who has been f**ked by a mate isn't worth much more than casual sex. He may get over it in 20 years or so but for now it's probably best to write him off.... (read in full...)

I love my wife but am sexually frustrated!

Q.   Been married for 09 years. Living in a conservative society, but independent. Sex doesn't feel great anymore. Used to be crazy like rabbits first year into marriage, but faded with time to the extent now i'm thinking about an extramarital affair ...

A.   4 June 2013: Welcome to the club. I think most guys would choose to be rabbits till the day they died if it was an option. Life and kids bring you to your situation and its not until you're there that you realise the hole you are in. If you don't fix it you... (read in full...)

My boyfriend originally thought I would be his one night stand! This bothers me!

Q.   My boyfriend and I had a very wierd start to our relationship,he thought I would be his one night stand but we never had sex,we eventually started hanging out more and became exclusive! I never met him with an intention of sleeping but he did and ...

A.   29 May 2013: I would think your boyfriend should have more of an issue with the fact that YOU didn't find him attractive enough to want to have sex with him. (Especially if you have with others). When a guy sees a good looking girl do you think his first thought ... (read in full...)

Feel dizzy/faint when touch vagina?

Q.   Hi. So just some background info.. I just turned 18, I'm not a virgin, I've had sex a few times but it was really painful each time so I kind of have avoided having sex since then. A couple of years ago, I tried putting in a tampon, and I pu...

A.   29 May 2013: It sounds like you are having a stress/shock reaction to pain or potential pain. You probably have nothing wrong but need to relax. Try lying on your bed to masturbate like most people, this also needs your best sexy thoughts and your vagina will ... (read in full...)

Should I have phone sex when I don't think we'll ever meet?

Q.   I met a guy online who appears to like me, but only wants to have phone sex with me and although we live in different states, I don't think we'll ever meet. What are the chances of our ever getting together?...

A.   29 May 2013: Well if you enjoy phone sex with strangers go ahead. He is basically masturbating so I doubt anything you say will make him jump in his car to find you. He may be recording or broadcasting you on a college network so better not give any pers... (read in full...)

My girlfriend only wants to have sex when she is drunk

Q.   My girlfriend of 5 years only wants to have sex when she is drunk, also she always want me to come fast and don't touch her again till next time. I been working a lot on fore play, getting down on her, learning about what makes her feel better, ...

A.   29 May 2013: Well what does she have to say about the situation? The first thing is to be comfortable and so close that you can talk about anything and you can explain your desire to give her more pleasure and she can tell you what she is feeling. Certainly what... (read in full...)

I don't know if I've had an orgasm. What does it feel like?

Q.   Hey, I'm just going to get right down to what I want to ask. I just recently lost my virginity and before any of you very nice agony aunts ask if I used protection and all that. I did, that was the first thing I made sure we had, it was a whim, bu...

A.   27 May 2013: The best comparison I've heard is to a sneeze. After you have sneezed you don't wonder, did I sneeze? and an orgasm is just the same but more fun. I don't remember my first sneeze but I certainly remember my first orgasm, both, on my own, with a ... (read in full...)

How do I get over my girlfriend's past?

Q.   My girlfriend (20) and I (19) go to the same college, and have been together for the past couple months. It's been, for the most part, an excellent relationship. We care for each other a great deal; heck, I think I'm in love with her. And, for the ...

A.   16 May 2013: Most young women start having sex younger than guys because they are attracted to, or get the attention of, older guys that are more experienced, maybe pushy, and the girl often feels more used and taken advantage of than any feeling of something ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's drink was spiked and the woman he woke up with now says she is pregnant!

Q.   Help me, please. My boyfriend of a year just told me that about a month ago, he went to this girl's house to help her with her abusive ex. He didn't have a way home, so he sat down and she asked him if he wanted anything to drink. I guess it was ...

A.   12 May 2013: Sorry OP but the info you have given does not make much sense. Its quite possible for a woman to wake up and not be sure what happened the night before but for a guy... I dont think so. His story is pure hollywood, ie fiction. If he got her preg... (read in full...)

I don't want our relationship to end because my boyfriend is talking to the slut of the town!

Q.   I'm not sure if I have made the right decision here. I told my boyfriend of two years that I think we should take a break. I did this because I was really upset about this girl he talks to always hitting on him and coming onto him. I felt unco...

A.   11 May 2013: You say you dont want her to win but you just let her. Women always hit on taken guys. I think for one they are jealous that someone else is having a relationship and two it is fun for some to try and break up anothers friendship. It sounds like... (read in full...)

Why do so many girls have sex so early in life and become promiscuous when many don't even orgasm through sex?

Q.   I'd like to hear here from girls how often they reach orgasm during sex.the reason why I'm asking is because I've read on internet that only 30% or girls/woman reach orgasm, this makes me a bit confused because girls are having sex more then in past ...

A.   10 May 2013: Most young women who have sex and end up "sleeping around" as you put it do so because they are courted by older guys who are primarily after sex. The girl is in love, wants to be grown up and lets the guy do what he wants. This often repeats itself ... (read in full...)

Who can I talk to about the visions that I have? Some of them scare me!

Q.   Sometimes I have visions but the hook me up because some of them come true most of them have him come to pass yet but I get the feeling up to going to come true. Who should I tell about my visions?And why? Sometimes these visions scare me I don't ...

A.   6 May 2013: A lot of things in life are pretty easy to predict, particularly if its people around you. Rest assured you are not being controlled by an alien being. Everything you dream is a mixed up product of your subconcious. You usually over do negative... (read in full...)

Does he think I'm The One?!

Q.   I told my boyfriend last night that I thought he was The One! We're together about 7 months. Anyway, he replied: "good". Did he just say that to shut me up? Or does he think the same of me!? He's not the very best at being sensitive and emotional ...

A.   3 May 2013: Well it depends how you said it!! If someone said that to me there would definitely be a touch of irony in my reply, or maybe just sarcasm! You just THINK he might be the one? Did you really say that? You are not sure? He must feel great ab... (read in full...)

Need advice! Is he genuinely interested or just wants sex or some action?

Q.   This a guy I met at a party who's going to the same school as me next year, and we started talking on facebook. We would talk for 3~7 hours a night and we have really entertaining conversations. I can't tell what his intentions are, and I'd really ...

A.   2 May 2013: Most young guys only want sex. Some will make a good effort at pretending to have a relationship to ensure regular sex, until they are bored. A relationship is best started with a whole lot of love and if this is the case then questions about when... (read in full...)

I still haven't talked to him about us being in a relationship, it's just like we chill and have sex. So my question for you guys, should I talk to him about how I feel?

Q.   I have been talking to this guy for a few months now. And the first time we officially chilled was on Christmas day. When we chilled, we did have sex. But before we chilled, it wasn't established what either of us were looking foe (like a ...

A.   2 May 2013: Just suggest you go to a movie, and dinner together. The outcome will give you an indication as to whether its even worth discussing feelings. Good luck.... (read in full...)

Planning to adopt a child and want to give them a name

Q.   I'm a single woman and I'm starting the adoption process. Being a single parent doesn't bother me because I don't need a man to complete me and I was raised by a single father and I always knew I was loved unconditionally - I didn't need a mum ...

A.   30 April 2013: OP there are a lot more reasons for wanting a child than the name you call it. There are also many couples that cant have children that probably deserve a young adopted child more. Also its very possible that later you meet someone and change your ... (read in full...)

I feel hurt by his remarks -- am I wrong?

Q.   I'm slightly upset and I should not know if I should be. It was my boyfriends birthday. I was laid off, but I had saved some money for this occasion. He knows this, and he is aware of my financial situation. Firstly, he wanted something v...

A.   28 April 2013: To be honest I think you are both suffering some miscommunication here. We all like to show how much we care for our partner but hopefully the reality is that we already know and an expensive gift is not necessary. You both sound stressed over this ... (read in full...)

I'm conflicted. Since I'm a virgin is it unreasonable to want to find a girl who is a virgin to date?

Q.   I don't really know how to approach this topic eloquently, so here's it in a nutshell: I'm extremely conflicted right now about sex. I'm 22 years old and have never had a girlfriend, and am still a virgin (obviously). I've never even kissed a gi...

A.   28 April 2013: The way of the world is that its pretty common for guys to marry women 5 or 10 years younger. Put that way way you future wife may still be in grade school and certainly a virgin! However, reading this thread and your replies has made me wonder if ... (read in full...)

I'm 30 weeks pregnant. How do I get my husband back in bed with me? He's been looking at sexy pictures of girls instead.

Q.   My husband and I have been married for 2 1/2 years now. I am also 30 weeks pregnant. I have only gained 18 pounds so I feel a little silly moping, but I could really use some words of encouragement. My fears began when our love making sessions...

A.   26 April 2013: Poor you. Some guys are just freaked by the whole pregnancy thing, even though they caused it! Explain to your husband that he csnt hurt the baby, and in fact he might enjoy the extra tightness. Explain to him in which ever way feels best that you ... (read in full...)

I'm conflicted. Since I'm a virgin is it unreasonable to want to find a girl who is a virgin to date?

Q.   I don't really know how to approach this topic eloquently, so here's it in a nutshell: I'm extremely conflicted right now about sex. I'm 22 years old and have never had a girlfriend, and am still a virgin (obviously). I've never even kissed a gi...

A.   26 April 2013: Well despite what you think there are many women your age who haven't had sex yet. Some just havent met the right guy, and some dont want to risk the problems that sex can bring until they are married. You may fall in love with someone and forget ... (read in full...)

Why is he ignoring me? Did he get mad at me for not sleeping with him?

Q.   There is this guy in my class who I had never spoken to until last Friday (I am very quiet in class). Last Friday, I somehow ended up talking to him and we went to eat after school. At night, I ended up at a small party with my friends and he w...

A.   26 April 2013: Just concentrate on your studies rather than how you might have bruised this jerks ego because he didnt get to bed you on the first date. Dont even waste your breathe talking to him. And good for you for sticking to what you know is the best way to ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend wants me to experiment with a woman?

Q.   I've been in a relationship for seven months and it's been great for the most part. He recently told me that he thinks every woman should have a sexual experience with another woman, especially if they're in college like myself. He doesn't want to ...

A.   26 April 2013: If you are happy witb him and like him then you need to put him straight, very firmly. Either he is a selfish controlling freak or he is just childish and naive and has probably watched far too much porn. Tell him his fantasies are best kept inside ... (read in full...)

I created a fake ad on Craigslist to see if my boyfriend would make contact. He did, now what do I do?

Q.   A little background info first: my boyfriend and I have been together for a little over 2 years. He always told me I was his first love and I'm the first girl he's even considered marriage with and so on. His family has even told me I'm the first ...

A.   23 April 2013: OP I think your boyfriend has a feeling he needs to catch up on things he thinks hes missed. Have you told him your history? Did you have casual hookups? Something is driving him to do this but I am afraid I agree with the others. He is certainly ... (read in full...)

Anyone else with experience of Psoriasis?

Q.   Hi everyone i am 26 and just found out i have psoriasis does anyone else have this problem and do you know any natural treatments didn't know where else to ask thank you...

A.   21 April 2013: Searching the web will provide a lot of info. Basically you can reduce the chance of outbreaks by getting very healthy. One cause, they may well be others, is an immune system weakness so eating well to strengthen this is good. Find out the good and ... (read in full...)

I'm afraid my insecurities are interfering in the bedroom

Q.   Hello everyone, I’m in need for some advice. I would like to be sexy for my husband… but I have no idea how to. I don’t think I am sexy or have to looks to be considered sexy. I love my husband and I love sex with him. But I’m scared. I have always ...

A.   19 April 2013: Firstly OP what guys look at in porn has little to do with the woman they want to be with. Porn is just a sex stimulus. So stop looking for non existent reasons to feel bad about yourself. Now about being sexy in bed. Well for me the best turn on... (read in full...)

Has taking the hormone balancing pills done this to me? Have I gradually killed my sex drive this way?

Q.   This isn't a relationship problem, but I'm curious about it anyway. Back when I was 18, I started taking a women's hormone balancer. I did this because I always felt I had more body hair than I should, my chest was underdeveloped, and I had an ...

A.   19 April 2013: Were these prescibed or were they from elsewhere? If you are under the care of a doctor talk to him or her. If you are self medicating stop and give your body a chance to balance itself. Teenage sex drive is not the same as being turned on by... (read in full...)

I'm depressed. I had an abortion 2 years ago and still haven't gotten over it

Q.   Two years ago I had an abortion. I don't agree with abortions, and I didn't want to at the time but my parents wanted me to and my boyfriend at the time was cheating on me with my friend. I really regret what I did, there isn't a day that goes by ...

A.   19 April 2013: You sound depressed and from all of us who have been there we know how hard it is to do the stuff that people say you should do. I think it is worse when the cause is clearly something you cant change. There are two things that I will add from my ... (read in full...)

BF told me today "You'd better not come back home until after 6pm" I pay rent & it's MY home too!

Q.   Background info: My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We moved in together for the first time last August. We attend the same college(as full time students) which is only a few minutes walk from our apartment. So, as the title say...

A.   17 April 2013: Please find someone to help you before you get badly hurt. If you can find disks memory chips etc where video and photos might be then do your best to delete or bettrr still just take them and go to the police and explain his threats. Find someone ... (read in full...)

Should I consider going to the same college/sixth form as my boyfriend next year?

Q.   Should I consider going to the same college/sixth form as my boyfriend next year? Okay so me and him have been going out a year exactly, we love each other to bits. But now I'm starting to see ahead, I want to be with him for a long time yet, and...

A.   17 April 2013: I really think the best thing is for you to both find the best college for each of you. Maybe compromise a little bit so you dont end up at opposite ends of the country. Most relationships dont survive seperation but if you want it to yours will. ... (read in full...)

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