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... Send *indyCares a private message | | | *indyCares's profile:Hi everybody. I am an Italian woman currently living in Italy but I spent many years in England and USA. I hope my English is still decent but in case it got a little rusty, please be lenient.
My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
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A. 7 September 2011: Fault is a big word and I would not use it, but I suspect you may be one of those nice guys that in all their well meant niceness are all about " me me me ". A bit like the old joke with the Boy Scout, who helps the old lady cross the street ... (read in full...)
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A. 7 September 2011: Please define " nice " a bit more accurately.
What do you mean by " nice "- that you are polite ? that you don't do heavy drugs ? That you have never been in jail ? That you don't cheat ?...
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A. 7 September 2011: Humour is often a way to express thoughts which would not be socially or personally acceptable.
So yes, his hints may mean he would not mind making you pregnant . But, look at the context. You have been only dating 3 months, basically you don'... (read in full...)
Why is my mom so upset about the way my husband and I treat each other?
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A. 7 September 2011: And yes, naturally, there's also what Chigirl says.
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A. 7 September 2011: Yes, I think she was just super nice. " Circumstances" even the harshest and most punitive ones, never deter people if there is enough attraction ,enough spark. I know women who date guys who are in jail, or terminally ill, or live thousands of ... (read in full...)
He wants to have sex but I think I'm too young, what should I do?
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A. 7 September 2011: I don't complain about your age , it's the judicial system of your country which does. You are way under age according to the law.
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A. 7 September 2011: Because he thinks HE deserves better and wants to get rid of you diplomatically. ... (read in full...)
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A. 6 September 2011: Because your dad is a male, and he may like , at least at a fantasy level, being told that he can rule his subjects as he pleases ( when even real life kings can't do that anymore ,lol- they all have democracies and constitutions and public ... (read in full...)
An insight about loneliness and relationships
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A. 6 September 2011: Good article, interesting perspective , excellent insight and...since I know the background story a little better, allow me : consider yourself hugged, Shawncaff. You are getting stronger and stronger and I am proud of you.
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Boyfriend bringing a houseguest to my home
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Do we all need space?
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A. 6 September 2011: Difficult to answer this question out of a precise context.
If your question just means : should couples spend ALL their free time together, my answer is no.
I think we all need space , many people are overcommitted and overstretched these da... (read in full...)
My girlfriend was raped before I met her and she can't get over it. Is it fair to leave her?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 10 years. She was raped at some point before I met her. I found this out in the last year. Initially, we had a good sex life, but within two years it became nonexistent. She just cannot be intimate with...
A. 6 September 2011: No. You can, and have to, be understanding and compassionate all you want, but eventually you are human too and you have the right to seek a partner that will fulfill you both physically and emotionally.
Maybe it would be different if she had trie... (read in full...)
I'm gay, my wife says I can look not touch and my b/f won't be with me unless I'm single!
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A. 6 September 2011: It's not all about you.
Think about how stuck and deceived your wife is being married to a man that does not love her, does not desire her and does not respect her enough to tell her the truth ( I suppose she must have grounds to think you are ... (read in full...)
Why does my BF have my name listed as "Christopher" on his phone? Could he be cheating on me?
Q. I just discovered that my boyfriend has me listed in his phone by a male name - Christopher, when clearly that is not my name. My name doesn't even start with the letter C. This is sooooooo very strange, and I was not happy about this. I asked ...
A. 6 September 2011: Yes he is cheating. At least, I can't think of any other reason for having to list you under a male alias.... (read in full...)
Is 30 too old to date? Will I never find the right one and where should I look?
Q. I've been in a relationship for almost 6 years and I've never been able to talk to him. He "listens" which means not saying anything then maybe I get some cliche statements. I crave connection to him. We can do things, and accomplish a lot around ...
A. 6 September 2011: 30 is not too old for dating, it may be perhaps a bit old for clubbing, at least as your main or only social scene, and is surely too old to cling nails and teeth to some alcoholic and weed addict for the sake of his diy skills .
You must be terr... (read in full...)
What the hell went so horribly wrong with us? Was I just a second fiddle to the drama between my BF and his ex?
Q. Hi Everybody, Im Dennise, im new here, my first post, it took me about two hours to write this because i keep stopping to get a hold of myself, so if something doesnt make sense, work with me here. Ok so here is the deal: I met Eric a year and...
A. 6 September 2011: He had JUST broken a 4 years relationship... sorry ,it sounds like your story was sort of a rebound. He did not give himself the time to elaborate the loss and move on, or to find out if he really missed the ex and wanted to make it work with her, ... (read in full...)
Is going on a work retreat acceptable without a spouse?
Q. Hi - Thank you for taking the time to read my post. My husband’s work has an annual retreat for 4 days and it has been stated, “Spouses are not welcome.” Would this bother anyone else? My husband and I are having a lot of issues as is - this ...
A. 6 September 2011: I just read your update . Pushed to the ground ? Kicked ??
Physically abused, then. And you worry about the retreat ? Sorry but IMO when violence enters the pic you are not "having problems ", you are done, you've hit the point of no return. It's... (read in full...)
Ladies: Why would someone not want a boyfriend? Doesn't every girl want to be loved by someone and have a guy that they can call there own?
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A. 6 September 2011: Or, answer her with Bob Dylan's words, lol :
it ain't no use in callin out my name ,gal
like you never did before
it ain't no use in calling out my name, gal
I can't hear you anymore
I ain't saying you trated me unkind
you could done... (read in full...)
Ladies: Why would someone not want a boyfriend? Doesn't every girl want to be loved by someone and have a guy that they can call there own?
Q. This is a question to the females of DC.... Now, a while back I was very interested in a girl, we had been friends for a little while and I told her that I wanted to be more than that - however, she told me that she didn't want a bf, so I was pre...
A. 6 September 2011: So is she contacting you again ?
I can offer you 3 guesses :
- she feels a bit guilty for having hurt you and by showing friendliness she quiets her conscience
- she's getting tired of her current bf and wants to know if you'd be available as... (read in full...)
Ladies: Why would someone not want a boyfriend? Doesn't every girl want to be loved by someone and have a guy that they can call there own?
Q. This is a question to the females of DC.... Now, a while back I was very interested in a girl, we had been friends for a little while and I told her that I wanted to be more than that - however, she told me that she didn't want a bf, so I was pre...
A. 6 September 2011: Ah slightly different then. Then, she WAS definitely feeding you a line, an old time-honoured one.
You are the female equivalent of all those candid female souls that write to DC every day : " He always calls me for sex- .. this must mean he l... (read in full...)
He has cheated on me.What's a girl to do? he asked me "so what are we?" what did he mean by that?
Q. Ok im not sure where to start.. all im going to say is i have no idea what the hell im doing. and im 15 that would make sense for that reason huh. Anyways awhile back in Feburary this year i met this guy(22yrs old) online, yeah i know, anyways ...
A. 5 September 2011: Sweetheart, I can imagine that at 15 you don't have that much life experience, but saying HE has not got the sense god promised a goose is the pot calling the kettle black.
You hook up on line with a perfect stranger ( caution caution ) He is 22 !... (read in full...)
He says I'm immature and selfish. Am I being unreasonable by being upset that his family exclude me from family events but invite his ex?
Q. Hi. I have been involved with my boyfriend for 13 years now and we have one child. He has been divorced for the past 14 years. The problem is his ex wife. My boyfriend has refused to marry me in the past citing his family doesn't like me. Aft...
A. 5 September 2011: Apparently your bf's family is very disrespectful toward you, no doubt about that... yet sorry but I can't help feeling there's more to the story. You mention wrong foot and burned bridges : HOW wrong was the foot ? HOW burned the bridges ?...
H... (read in full...)
Ladies: Why would someone not want a boyfriend? Doesn't every girl want to be loved by someone and have a guy that they can call there own?
Q. This is a question to the females of DC.... Now, a while back I was very interested in a girl, we had been friends for a little while and I told her that I wanted to be more than that - however, she told me that she didn't want a bf, so I was pre...
A. 5 September 2011: They want a guy they can call their own, but it can't be any guy, even any nice guy- they want someone they can fall truly in love with, or at least like A LOT. If there's around nobody striking their fancy or noticeably stirring up something , ... (read in full...)
We had sex while I have my period, is he disgusted with me now? And can I get pregnant when I was on my period?
Q. I had unprotected sex with my guy during the first day of my period .he's very afraid of blood and got turned of in the middle of it and then started acting weird. i didn't want to do it either but we are on a long dist. relationship and i feel he's ...
A. 5 September 2011: There is nothing " horrific " about sex during periods. Some men are squeamish about blood , and that's ok, obviously they should not be forced to go against their inclinations.
But sex involves anyway body fluids and secretions and other inti... (read in full...)
Is going on a work retreat acceptable without a spouse?
Q. Hi - Thank you for taking the time to read my post. My husband’s work has an annual retreat for 4 days and it has been stated, “Spouses are not welcome.” Would this bother anyone else? My husband and I are having a lot of issues as is - this ...
A. 4 September 2011: It's not his fault, if his company says " Spouses not welcome " what's he supposed to do ? Well, I suppose he could skip the retreat and of course they would not fire him for that. But, you never know- that may rub his boss the wrong way and mak... (read in full...)
Texting male friends constantly while we were watching a movie, should I be okay with this?
Q. So I met this girl, we hit it off And started seeing eachother. One of the things we talked about was how her last boyfriend was very controling, wouldn't let her have male friends, go out to the bar with her girlfriends And so forth. Well I don't ...
A. 4 September 2011: No it's not : that's unbelievably rude ! Jealousy or control have got nothing to do with it, it's simply a matter of good manners and respect. If she's like that, fasten your seat belt, you are in for a bumpy ride....... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and the new house
Q. Hi guys, please let me know what you think about this... recently, I told my gf that I'm working (painting, getting furniture, etc) on the house I bought recently so she did not have to worry about anything when we get married, she would just mov...
A. 4 September 2011: .. but a woman does not like to just up and move in a fully furnished house which she did not help decorating, as if it were an hotel room !
Did you involve her in any way ? Are you choosing the paint colours and the forniture items TOGETHER ? Ar... (read in full...)
Why not cheat? I am interested in all your ideas and suggestions please
Q. I have been married over 10 years. Before marriage had a very active sex life. As soon as we were married, it became less, and less and kept getting less until it was 3 years. I brought it up to him, then we went to counseling, then I brought it u...
A. 4 September 2011: An excellent reason. You are husband and wife only in name. In practice you are just friends, or roomies.... (read in full...)
Should I worry that my boyfriend wants to go to work related events without me?
Q. Hi all. My bf of two years is not keen on me going to work do's with him, this includes parties at people's houses. Halloween last year there was one at someone's house and although he didnt go, he made it clear that he did not want me to go. He ...
A. 4 September 2011: Hi OP, you see, past sins cast long shadows at times, it is not fair but that's how it is. If there has been some outing which ended up in disaster , he may be still skittish .
Keep doing what you are doing (drinking in moderation and bein... (read in full...)
She wore another guy's engagement ring for several months before we were dating, I didn't know that till just now, what do I do?
Q. My wife if nearly three years, and the mother of our 6 month old, was engaged before we were married. She was also proposed to several times. When we were dating, she told me that one serious boyfriend who proposed, she denied him and they bro...
A. 4 September 2011: I have a hard time seeing it your way, to me engaged is when you say YES ! and pick a wedding date and go meet the parents and stuff. Your wife said " I don't know " and just wore the ring a few months , probably tryng all the time to find a way to ... (read in full...)
A girl made a mockery of me at a party, how do I recover from this?
Q. Tonight I attended a party my cousin was holding. There were a few members of the family there, but it was mostly friends of my cousin. Anyway, there were a lot of drunk people there, while I was acting as designated driver for my parents. I figured ...
A. 4 September 2011: Oh I see :). Then you think that the girl was NOT making fun of you, and she actually was tryng to hit on you.... but your parents told you differently and influenced you, spoiling the fun.
Was she making fun of you, or was she into you ? is what... (read in full...)
Should I worry that my boyfriend wants to go to work related events without me?
Q. Hi all. My bf of two years is not keen on me going to work do's with him, this includes parties at people's houses. Halloween last year there was one at someone's house and although he didnt go, he made it clear that he did not want me to go. He ...
A. 4 September 2011: OP, I may be getting you confused with another lady- in which case I apologize- but the mention of a Halloween party sparked some vague recollections.
I think you already posted about this situation, only in your previous post or posts,you had ... (read in full...)
Why not cheat? I am interested in all your ideas and suggestions please
Q. I have been married over 10 years. Before marriage had a very active sex life. As soon as we were married, it became less, and less and kept getting less until it was 3 years. I brought it up to him, then we went to counseling, then I brought it u...
A. 4 September 2011: Why not simply divorcing, then.
It would have been more of a dilemma if you had written : I still love my husband with all my heart, but we don't have sex anymore, what shall I do ?.
But it sounds like you are not particularly worried about lo... (read in full...)
Why is he so committed and so confident that our LDR can last the distance until we can be together?
Q. I'm in an LDR relationship which has gone on for about two years. We have met and want to see each other again. Problem is, there is a huge distance between us, and it will be another four years perhaps even longer until we can live closer to e...
A. 4 September 2011: His optimism and determination may be refreshing but IMO they are misguided. It's not a matter of being cynical, but of being rational. With very few serendipitous exceptions, things do not fall magical into place by themselves , you need to have ... (read in full...)
After ignoring me shall I give him another chance? or just chill out?
Q. Last weekend I went out for some drinks with a guy,he is 4 years younger than me so I was a little uncertain whether I wanted to or not. He insisted that he was looking for a relationship and seemed nice enough,so I went. Things really went well I ...
A. 4 September 2011: He does not act as if he is really interested, and most of all it does not sound as if he is interested in a relationship with you.
( Regardless of what he said- people say whatever is convenient... )
I think he is interested ... as long as you d... (read in full...)
He ignores me and lied to me, yet I want him! Why does he keep me around if not interested?
Q. i have been talking to a guy for a year and some months, before in the beginning he was so caring and sweet , always wanting to see me, and of course i was kind of stand off ish to him. when i decieded i really cared deeply for him, he turned ...
A. 4 September 2011: He keeps you around because you are convenient. You are a " just in case ". He can get sex from you, and entertainment if there's nothing better going on,and ego strokes- without having to make an effort or to give you what you want in change. It's ... (read in full...)
I should feel sorry for her but I hate her and her perfect life!
Q. He's got a girlfriend and he knows I like him. He said he wants to sleep with me even though he's with her like I'm some sl*t or something. She's oblivious to what he's like. She must be, he been trying to get in my pants for nearly two years behind ...
A. 4 September 2011: OP, I don't think anybody here means to accuse you or to make you feel bad about yourself, in fact they ( we ) want to help. And even IF all those posts were yours, no big deal. As long as the mods let you, you can repost 2,5,10 times, no skin off ... (read in full...)
My fiancee's promiscuous past disgusts me.
Q. Cupid, my wife to be has a promiscuous past, am having second thoughts as am a virgin.am not insecure am just disgusted with how she lived her life. Should i stay or let her down gently...
A. 3 September 2011: Soon567, the OP does not mention either in his post or in the updates that " she blabbed it over drinks". You must know stuff that I don't. ... (read in full...)
My ex wants to meet for coffee. Good or bad idea?
Q. So basically my ex and I broke up 5 months ago. He has a new girlfriend but he still wants us to be "friends". I have feelings for him still and he wants to meet for coffee. Do you think it's a bad idea?...
A. 3 September 2011: Andy00 's is a good sytem but perhaps a bit passive-aggressive for my tastes. I would simply, flatly tell him "Thanks but I don't think it's a good idea"- no further elaboration required. If you really feel you MUST add something, tell him " I don't ... (read in full...)
My fiancee's promiscuous past disgusts me.
Q. Cupid, my wife to be has a promiscuous past, am having second thoughts as am a virgin.am not insecure am just disgusted with how she lived her life. Should i stay or let her down gently...
A. 3 September 2011: A totally respectable point of view.
I'd just be curious to know, then, how come you ended up engaged ( engaged ! not just going out ) with a woman that's so distant from your ideal.... (read in full...)
A girl made a mockery of me at a party, how do I recover from this?
Q. Tonight I attended a party my cousin was holding. There were a few members of the family there, but it was mostly friends of my cousin. Anyway, there were a lot of drunk people there, while I was acting as designated driver for my parents. I figured ...
A. 3 September 2011: Darling, they were DRUNK. Drunk people do not make a lot of careful,thgoughtful planning, they just do what feels like fun in the moment ( which is in general pretty lame and tacky ). They chose you- draw of luck- it could have been anybody else. ... (read in full...)
I should feel sorry for her but I hate her and her perfect life!
Q. He's got a girlfriend and he knows I like him. He said he wants to sleep with me even though he's with her like I'm some sl*t or something. She's oblivious to what he's like. She must be, he been trying to get in my pants for nearly two years behind ...
A. 3 September 2011: Wait a minute... if Moo's Mum is right, things are a bit different. Are you dating another guy now ?!Then you can't quite complain about your ex FWB, because you are sort of doing the same.
All this focus on a past lover would be still not heal... (read in full...)
She wore another guy's engagement ring for several months before we were dating, I didn't know that till just now, what do I do?
Q. My wife if nearly three years, and the mother of our 6 month old, was engaged before we were married. She was also proposed to several times. When we were dating, she told me that one serious boyfriend who proposed, she denied him and they bro...
A. 2 September 2011: I don't mean it in a sarcastic way, I am serious : I think you are stressed out because of grad school. Combined with the new baby....lots of pressures in your life so maybe you are tense and you blow out of any reasonable proportion an irrelevant ... (read in full...)
I should feel sorry for her but I hate her and her perfect life!
Q. He's got a girlfriend and he knows I like him. He said he wants to sleep with me even though he's with her like I'm some sl*t or something. She's oblivious to what he's like. She must be, he been trying to get in my pants for nearly two years behind ...
A. 2 September 2011: Then maybe it's time to change phone number. It would solve half of the problem.
There's still Facebook,true,and that's ,alas, a matter of will strength...treat your impulse to check on them as you would treat another addiction...pretend that you ... (read in full...)
I should feel sorry for her but I hate her and her perfect life!
Q. He's got a girlfriend and he knows I like him. He said he wants to sleep with me even though he's with her like I'm some sl*t or something. She's oblivious to what he's like. She must be, he been trying to get in my pants for nearly two years behind ...
A. 2 September 2011: Curious perspective. If someone wants you for sex only, he probably does find you phisically attractive. But not relationship material. So, IF ANY !, you might feel bad about your personality or character traits, not about your power of physical ... (read in full...)
My fiancee's promiscuous past disgusts me.
Q. Cupid, my wife to be has a promiscuous past, am having second thoughts as am a virgin.am not insecure am just disgusted with how she lived her life. Should i stay or let her down gently...
A. 2 September 2011: I totally agree with Yos. Personally I am in favour of intimate sex, but that's my preference , not an universal law. Millions of people, at some point in life, choose to have sex for fun, curiosity, loneliness, lust , for the heck of it. That ... (read in full...)
My ex wants to meet for coffee. Good or bad idea?
Q. So basically my ex and I broke up 5 months ago. He has a new girlfriend but he still wants us to be "friends". I have feelings for him still and he wants to meet for coffee. Do you think it's a bad idea?...
A. 2 September 2011: If you still have feelings for him, obviously a bad idea. ... (read in full...)
My fiancee's promiscuous past disgusts me.
Q. Cupid, my wife to be has a promiscuous past, am having second thoughts as am a virgin.am not insecure am just disgusted with how she lived her life. Should i stay or let her down gently...
A. 31 August 2011: If you can't come to terms with her past, you should leave her .It's never a good idea marrying somebody whom you do not respect.... (read in full...)
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