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... Send *indyCares a private message | | | *indyCares's profile:Hi everybody. I am an Italian woman currently living in Italy but I spent many years in England and USA. I hope my English is still decent but in case it got a little rusty, please be lenient.
My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
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Guy I like broke up with me after seeing blood from my period during sex. What can I do??
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Supposed this guy is particularly squeamish, or even has religious interdiction re. sex durings periods... he may have felt "tricked " into having sex and that... (read in full...)
Am I abusive to my bf?
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A. 30 June 2011: Yes, obviously it is the wrong way. Think what it would happen if everybody expressed their frustration like you do . The dry cleaner did not do a perfect job.... whack. My cappuccino is lukewarm, not piping hot as I wanted... thump.
G... (read in full...)
Looks or personality?
Q. Hello, would you say looks is more important than personality? I have had this boy who has been asking me out for the last week or so, i didnt no what to say because to me he is not very good looking at all, and looks realy matters to me! But his ...
A. 30 June 2011: I do not quite agree with the other Aunts. While it's wrong and foolish to start a relationship only based on physical attraction and nothing else, eventually you can't go on just based on personality ,in lack of any chemistry. True, some times ... (read in full...)
He bought a car instead of traveling to see me...
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A. 30 June 2011: I think too along the lines of idoneitagain.
No, it's not so terrible that he has bought a car. Sure, you should be his priority, but not at the cost of having a decent quality of life. Maybe he'll use his car to go to work , too, or he can cons... (read in full...)
I really liked my waitress and want to ask her out
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A. 29 June 2011: Next week will be fine, Monday or Tuesday...
But please do relax :) This is just a date, not the planning of D-Day Normandy landings in World War II !... (read in full...)
Should I risk quitting my government job for a boyfriend who I haven't ever met in person?
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A. 29 June 2011: I don't think you'll have to do anything, to me this is just more bullshit and drama to keep you hooked.
He is unemployed and has no money. He is on probation, which means he'll have to report regularly to his probation officer. How many chan... (read in full...)
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A. 29 June 2011: @ natasia : I admire your pluck, but I find that your answer is a bit too optimistic, it sounds like you and the OP aren't really talking about the same thing.
Hyperemesis means literally " excess of vomit ", so , if you did not vomit ... you did ... (read in full...)
It seems she is looser, could she be cheating?
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A. 29 June 2011: I say you must be a lucky guy. If you have time to worry about something like this, obviously you don't have any more pressing or serious concerns in your life.... (read in full...)
Does it sound like my BF cheated on me?
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A. 29 June 2011: Yes it does !
But even without all the details, think : why a random girl should invent a story like this ?
What for ? Does she hate you, does she hate your BF, is she a certified loony ? No ? .. Then, she has no reason to lie. ... (read in full...)
Please helppp! should I try to save my relationship or ended?
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A. 29 June 2011: It could be that you freaked out in front of his coldness, and you have started nagging and pestering him with calls and demans, which gives him the excuse for withdrawing evenmore. When you push, he pulls.
But, basically, I think it's an excu... (read in full...)
I split with my husband 3 months ago due to him cheating on me but I cant seem to move on and it still hurts so bad...
Q. Why can't I move on, why is the pain still so raw? I split with my husband 3 months ago due to him cheating on me. I want to be able to move on, I want to smile again so why can't I. I still love him and wish I didn't because he as changed so much ...
A. 29 June 2011: OP, it's only 3 months. Give yourself time. I know that when you are in pain 3 months semm like an eternity, but... it has to be expected, I can't think it could be in another way. This was your HUSBAND, the man you were planning to spend the rest ... (read in full...)
Why did he have to push me away while filling out his personal details in the form?
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A. 29 June 2011: You are so overthinking that.
Probably he keeps his license in his car because that's where you need to have it if the police pulls you over. And you don't need to stuff your wallet with papers ,it's inconvenient. So, he has his driving lice... (read in full...)
I really liked my waitress and want to ask her out
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Is he starting arguments to break up?
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He really wants another baby, but I'm scared of getting sick again
Q. Dear Ageny aunts, I have been married for about four years and have a two-year old baby girl. I had hypremesis gravadirium throughout my first pregnancy and I have been to hell and back. Now my husband wants another baby, I'm scared to death of...
A. 28 June 2011: I know what you are talking about, because I had hyperemesis too, and it's not fun. I actually LOST 18 pounts in the first 3 months of pregnancy . While I honestly can't say that was the reason why my son is an only child ( eventually you get ... (read in full...)
My confidence has gone after dating a man way out of my league!
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A. 28 June 2011: I think maybe you had a confidence problem even before him, otherwise you'd have been surely not elated at the idea of being with a men that , frankly, sounds rather superficial and obnoxious, and most of all TELLS you in your face that you can't ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me to 'hibernate' but still cares about me... what should I do?
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A. 28 June 2011: It depends.
" Sort of depressed " is nothing like " clinically depressed " and it sounds just that kind of vague statement that people make when they want to do what they want to do without being accountable to other people.
Clini... (read in full...)
Should I confront my former friend about the comments he made about me online?
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A. 28 June 2011: I'd let it go. Don't give him the satisfaction to know that his comments cut so deep.
Also, tbh, I'd say , it depends from the provocation- the gravity of the lie ,in this case.
If you have lied about something relevant, i.e. somethin... (read in full...)
I really liked my waitress and want to ask her out
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A. 28 June 2011: Right,stay positive,anyway, it's not by worrying that you can speed up the outcome. So, either send her a card, like Freeme suggests, and let to her the initiative to contact you , or just wait about a week to give her space to attend her personal ... (read in full...)
Is it reasonable that my boyfriend wants me to cut contact with my abusive ex?
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A. 28 June 2011: Of course it's reasonable, pardon me, but the one who is not reasonable seems to be you. Why do you want to keep in touch with your ex, to begin with- surely not because of his lovable personality. Why did you get over him hitting you, that's ... (read in full...)
Why do people try to block out the past with relationships?
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Is there any hope for me to fix this?
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A. 28 June 2011: You got engaged to a 17 y.o. girl. In Europe, she wouldnot even be old enough to drive !, and in the rest of the world she is not old enough to vote, sign a legally binding contract, adopt a child,get a crredit card ...even get a tattoo.
Do you ... (read in full...)
Is there any hope for this relationship or is Gambling Addiction the real problem?
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A. 27 June 2011: Darling I wish YOU would see that things were in fact very bad.
What, your parents kindly suggest he should finish the home business according to plans... and he nearly has a heart attack, throws a tantrum and feels offended and unloved ?...... (read in full...)
Is there any hope for this relationship or is Gambling Addiction the real problem?
Q. My boyfriend and I recently broke up over some confusing circumstances. Background : We had been together just over a year, I am 28 he is almost 24. After first meeting we were together practically 24/7 and we were very happy. 7 Months into the ...
A. 27 June 2011: No, I don't think is that. I think it's much simpler, it's how yourself suspect and mention in your post.
When he realized he was expected to get a job, pay his way, and give up part of his free time and comfy habits- the deal was not so conv... (read in full...)
Is there any hope for this relationship or is Gambling Addiction the real problem?
Q. My boyfriend and I recently broke up over some confusing circumstances. Background : We had been together just over a year, I am 28 he is almost 24. After first meeting we were together practically 24/7 and we were very happy. 7 Months into the ...
A. 26 June 2011: A gambling Jehova's Witness ? now I 've heard them all.
What happened is that you made a very lucky escape and you got rid of a free loader who would have bleeded you dry ( you, and your parents ) while living with you like an house pet : no sex,... (read in full...)
Should I risk quitting my government job for a boyfriend who I haven't ever met in person?
Q. Dear Aunts, I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 18 months now. We met online on facebook and started it out by being friends. I know it kinda makes no sense coz we live a world apart and never seen each other in person before. B...
A. 26 June 2011: Unemployed ? probation ? fraud ? does not want to talk about money ?" love is all you need " ?.....
And you are still wondering what should you do ?...
The noise of alarm bells ringing is deafening, what more does it take for you to hear ?...
Al... (read in full...)
Should I risk quitting my government job for a boyfriend who I haven't ever met in person?
Q. Dear Aunts, I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 18 months now. We met online on facebook and started it out by being friends. I know it kinda makes no sense coz we live a world apart and never seen each other in person before. B...
A. 25 June 2011: No, it does not " kind of makes no sense ", this is totally insane and it's the equivalent of playing Russian roulette. You want to live a good steady job,to follow to the other end of the world a perfect stranger whom you haven't even ever met... (read in full...)
I really liked my waitress and want to ask her out
Q. For my birthday yesterday we (mates and I) went to the 7 Diner, which is a place local to me 10 mins drive from here. The waitress was called Anna, and she was beautiful. She came over with a birthday cake later and sang Happy Birthday to me, and ...
A. 24 June 2011: Do you really have to ask her to Otford ?
I'll skip that at the least at the first date.
First, she might think you have "intentions" , i.e. you want to convince her go back to your place.
Then, there's a problem with logistics, maybe you'd... (read in full...)
How do I avoid dating a serial dater in the future?
Q. When you date someone it takes maybe a year for them to show their true selves. Everything in the beginning is just then putting on their good side, so they can get laid. I miss they way my ex was at the beginning of teh relatiosnhip, not the actu...
A. 21 June 2011: That's a strange way of seeing it.
You are loyal and honest because YOU are a loyal and honest person, regardless if other people has been ,or will be loyal and honest to you.
If you are not a thief, you don't steel. Even if you have been pic... (read in full...)
Why does my dad do this?
Q. I hate asking him for help with anything. So do my siblings. If you do ask, he turns everything around on you. He says things like "Why do I have to do EVERYTHING?" or "You'll have to wait, I'm doing everything else". "WHY am I the only person who ...
A. 17 June 2011: Then don't ask him anything, or limit your request to a bare indispensable minimum. That will train you to be independent and self reliant, and won't give him the satisfaction to go on about your lazyness.
I think that without noticing you mayb... (read in full...)
I really liked my waitress and want to ask her out
Q. For my birthday yesterday we (mates and I) went to the 7 Diner, which is a place local to me 10 mins drive from here. The waitress was called Anna, and she was beautiful. She came over with a birthday cake later and sang Happy Birthday to me, and ...
A. 15 June 2011: I agree with k c100 that the letter might have not been the smartest move, maybe Anna does not want all her coworkers to know who 's asking her out , maybe she likes to keep her dating life private.
Anyway, what is done is done. Sure, you can ... (read in full...)
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