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My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
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I am tired of living with a dog I don't want and a wife I don't trust.
Q. I live in a small 2 bedroom condo with my handicapped wife and our two girls, 8 and 5. We run a business out of our home as well. Needless to say, the place is crowded and life for me is restrictive. For years my wife has asked if she could get...
A. 9 April 2012: OP, thank you for the appreciation, but, for the sake of fairness, I have to say that I understand why SVF and Honeypie see the matter the way they see it.
Your update DOES change the way you presented your situation, and the info you omit... (read in full...)
I am tired of living with a dog I don't want and a wife I don't trust.
Q. I live in a small 2 bedroom condo with my handicapped wife and our two girls, 8 and 5. We run a business out of our home as well. Needless to say, the place is crowded and life for me is restrictive. For years my wife has asked if she could get...
A. 8 April 2012: Oh so it was not really about the dog to begin with . It was power- or lack of the same. I believe that you are not sponging off her, it still remains that she owns the house , the business, the car, everything, your chances come from her, and if ... (read in full...)
Why aren't men more loyal "til death do us part"?
Q. I know that Shakespeare writes that man always has "one foot on shore and one on sea," although he says it more poetically, and he continues that women must say, "Hey nonny, nonny!" and try to accept man's nature. However, not to disagree with the ...
A. 27 March 2012: I don't think it's true. Maybe it was at the time of the bard, when women did not have really much choice other than hanging in there, whether they were happy or not. So it might have been more survival than loyalty.
Nowadays, I can't see that... (read in full...)
Why is my ex from 10 years ago sending me porn links?
Q. Hmmm, I need some help to understand why my ex bf has started sending me emails with links to porn videos?? We were together when we were 17-20, like nearly 10 years ago! I split up with him because I felt we'd grown apart. Haven't seen each ...
A. 27 March 2012: That's weird!, your ex starts out of the blue sending you porn links and explicit sexual comments ( i.e. he's crossing , with no invitation, any possible boundaries of
good taste and respect ) and your reaction is not blocking him right away... (read in full...)
How can I make my parents and grandpa see that I need to have my phone?
Q. My parents just took my cell phone. Its spring break! I cant talk to any of my firends. Im going to my grandpas house tomorrow. He says I dont spend enough time with him when im there. None of my friends live near by, he dosnt have internet, and no ...
A. 27 March 2012: I have a suggestion for you, way back from the stone age, it helped me and my dynosaurs friends to pass the time when we there weren't any good graffiti to watch on the cave walls.
BOOKS. Bring along lots of books, ( if you can't buy them... (read in full...)
B/f asked for a break when I told him he acts childish
Q. So my boyfriend asked for a break when I told him that sometimes I feel like he's acting childish and that I feel even older than him. He is 27 and I'm 19. When I told him that, he said all the comfortableness around me is gone; as if he can't be ...
A. 27 March 2012: I agree with both the previous posters, in the sense that I doubt he broke up just because of one single criticism, he should be supertouchy ! maybe he was already not "feeling it" for other reasons ?
The other thing is, if he starts being spon... (read in full...)
Are there really signs that you are meant to be with someone?
Q. are the really signs that you are meant to be with someone? Reading dating and relationship sites, one might think that the biggest relationship problem today is: there is not enough love between couples and as a result it’s just impossible to ...
A. 27 March 2012: No, it means you have very dysfunctional ideas about love and relationships. It means you 'd benefit from working with a good Cognitive Behavioural Therapist to get rid of your warped perceptions, and to rid yourself of what you call love but ... (read in full...)
Is there anything that can make up for a sub-optimal sized penis?
Q. If you are a woman who can have vaginal orgasms during penetrative sex (not g-spot orgasms), can you please tell me whether there is anything at all about a man that can make up for a sub-optimal sized penis during penetrative sex? E.g. for an av...
A. 26 March 2012: @ Eyeswideopen : Yes, and you see what happens when you are not around ? We get sub-optimal penises.... (read in full...)
Is there anything that can make up for a sub-optimal sized penis?
Q. If you are a woman who can have vaginal orgasms during penetrative sex (not g-spot orgasms), can you please tell me whether there is anything at all about a man that can make up for a sub-optimal sized penis during penetrative sex? E.g. for an av...
A. 26 March 2012: OP, you have decided rather arbitrarily what is the optimal size for a penis, 7.5 to 8, so the rest is in your opinion, sub-optimal.
I think this idea comes from watching porn, because in real life , 5 to 6 , is absolutely , statistically aver... (read in full...)
I messed up and my girlfriend broke up with me, how can I turn this around? I need her back!
Q. I lost someone dear to me. My girlfriend. I messed up and she saw where I had flirted with other girls on facebook. I lied and said it wasn't me. The truth came out. We broke up, and exchanged violent words. Man have I messed up! I want her, so bad ...
A. 26 March 2012: @Hurtbutstronger : YouWish does not need a paladin to defend her, she's perfectly capable to stand her ground on her own, but , since I would have said the very same exact words , I want to say : YouWish GAVE advice. Her advice is a ) that when ... (read in full...)
My ex is like my security blanket. Should I move on or try again with him?
Q. I am devastated because I can't make the final decision to let go and move forward from my ex. We were together for 5 years and I broke up with him last year. We didn't cut ties and still kept talking and seeing each other. However there was no ...
A. 26 March 2012: Move on. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. You haven't changed, he has not changed , if you get back together for the 4th time, you'll just end up breaking up for the 4th time.
If y... (read in full...)
Men..what do you want? Women..what turns your guy on?
Q. okay guys. i need to know what really turns u on. i want to get my bf really hard n to want me. okay we are pretty adventuris in the bedroom. we have done everything i can think of including anal and threesome. we've done lap dance, strip tease; now ...
A. 26 March 2012: Why don't you just ask HIM ? Sexual turn ons are so different and personal, what's hot for a guy it's not for another. If you show up with a dominatrix outfit and a whip in your hand, you may make guy A wild with desire, while guy B may run for the ... (read in full...)
Why do I still feel everything is ok with us even though he cheated and we broke up?
Q. my boyfriend of 17 months broke up last thursday we have a 8 month old together. we always had problems in our relationship fighting,drama ect. we have broke up 10 but each time we always find our selves back together. like as if something more was ...
A. 26 March 2012: Maybe because of lack of imagination, or lack of self esteem, or both: you can't figure in your mind how it would be living a solid,functional, mature relationship with no drama and no petty fights , and you don't feel you can get one, so you ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has become way too skinny and his eating habits are driving me nuts!
Q. This may seem like a silly question, but it's something that's really starting to get to me severely. My boyfriend and I recently moved in together. We had lived together once before but his job moved away so we ended up back with our parents...
A. 25 March 2012: If he's 6'1 and 164 pounds, no way he's skinny or underweight. He's slim and fit- perfect. And, when you lie down, everybody's hip bones protrude ! You may like bigger frames ( tbh, though, I find strange that you found him more attractive when he ... (read in full...)
How can I convince someone I love that I don't intend to look elsewhere, as he thinks I will?
Q. Please can you you help me out with a really difficult situation. I have a friend that i have been inn love with from school since I was 14yrs. He now works for me a a manager in a domestic care business. We work together closely on our own 40 hours ...
A. 25 March 2012: I think he's found the perfect excuse for keeping his cake and eating it too. He'll stay put with his girlfriend and will come to you for occasional rolls in the hay - and if you object , he'll turn the blame on you , " he can't be sure you won't ... (read in full...)
Is looseness a sign of cheating?
Q. Okay I'm a young male around 18-21. My girlfriend lately has been very distance and when.we do have sex she feels loser. Is this a sign she is cheating?...
A. 24 March 2012: Vaginas " adjust " in the sense that they are extremely elastic organs, how do you think otherwise a baby's head could pass through there without breaking everything to smithereens ?... But, precisely because they are , at least in young women, ... (read in full...)
Have I missed out by not having sexual experiences with any guy other than my boyfriend?
Q. I lost my virginity a bit later than most and have been with that boy ever since which is four years. I can see myself marrying him one day but I have one problem. He's slept with other girls before me and I feel a bit weird thinking I could marry ...
A. 24 March 2012: I think you have been very lucky.
Imagine going shopping and finding, in the first shoe shop you visit , THE perfect pair of shoes, perfect for you at least : right size, right fit, right price and they look great on your feet. Would you feel... (read in full...)
I wanted to extend an olive branch but was confronted with the truth instead!
Q. What are the chances of a relationship ever working out for the long term if the person is an alcoholic and after breaking off a long term relationship continues to become seriously involved with one woman after another. My ex left me after 7 ...
A. 24 March 2012: Don't be so quick to dismiss so lightly the " move on " suggestion, at your age and experience you should not let yourself be in the grip of an obsession, and an illusion, because that's what it is. You can't help what you feel, perhaps, but you ... (read in full...)
Should I go to her baby shower?
Q. So my brothers ex girlfiend is pregnant. Me and her have been friends since high school we stopped talking for a while when I went to college but when I came back we just picked up where we left off. Now ive lost a best friend because of her b/c she ...
A. 24 March 2012: Yes, way too much drama and gossiping, drop the friend and don't attend the baby shower.
But, noblesse oblige : send a gift anyway ( the unborn baby has no faults in that !)... (read in full...)
People give me nasty looks, so when they get one back they don't like it! Why is this?
Q. I dont get it, People are rude to me give me nasty looks but then when i do it to them they dont like it. Well what do you expect? What you put out you will get back? If your nice people will be nice back. Why are people like that if they dont ...
A. 23 March 2012: Because maybe they weren't giving you nasty looks to begin with, therefore they are taken aback seeing a stranger acting hostile to them without any provocation ?...
Why all this people should be giving you nasty looks ? Why would they even both... (read in full...)
Was I wrong in suggesting that my girlfriend should use botox? She just flipped when I said it
Q. I know this will make me sound like not a nice person (to some), when in reality I like to think I am decent, and am pretty diplomatic. Thing is, my gf of 3 years is aging badly. I love her to distraction, and that love is more about her lovely...
A. 23 March 2012: Just curious : what about YOUR face, OP ? You are 51-to 59, did you retain the healthy freshness and glow of your youth ? Are you wrinkle free, no crow's feet ,no sagging at all ? And what about your pecs, and abs ? do they still look like a ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I'm afraid of committment in general or if I'm afraid to commit to my boyfriend
Q. I don't know if I'm afraid of committment in general or if I'm afraid to commit to my boyfriend. We've been together for just over two years and although I've had little doubts about our future I always managed to work it out (nothing bad on his ...
A. 23 March 2012: This is a wild guess, but I'd say you are afraid of committing to him.
This is a bit like the " I am not ready for a relationship " thing, if you hear that , it only means they are not ready for a relationship with YOU.
I think that " fear of ... (read in full...)
Too call or not to call a man after 3 dates?
Q. I met a guy out, and he got my card. He emailed a few days later and asked me out. Our first date went well (touching of the knee, arm, etc). He asked for my phone number but he didn't call until 5 days later. When he did call, he asked me out ...
A. 23 March 2012: I agree that , at least in theory, there's no protocol and the " let the man do the chasing " alllows for numerous exceptions.
After all, the best way to get what you want, is being proactive and go and get it.
The problem is, what you want and... (read in full...)
My ex has been telling people that I use her for sex!
Q. Hello. I am feeling very guilty at the moment. I'm going to try and keep this short. I broke up with my ex about 6 months ago, this was due to her being abusive towards me, she would hit me and emotionally treat me bad. I loved her very much and...
A. 23 March 2012: Yes, it's bad . And you HAVE been using her. I agree that it takes two to tango, and that she instigated the "reunions", it's also true that you had sex with her fully knowing that they were only moments of weakness not leading to reinstate the ... (read in full...)
Is it weird to send him sexy pics of me after not having spoken in a long time?
Q. I was dating a great guy but he moved away and he was really disappointed about the distance as it interferes with us continuing things. And we haven't spoken in 2 months. Last time I spoke to him, when he was already moved and settled, he sent me a ...
A. 23 March 2012: Bad idea , very unsafe since you don't know the guy terribly well . These pics could crop up all over the net where and when you least expect it.
Plus, it sounds pretty desperate to me. You want to get some reaction out of him, and you think that... (read in full...)
The guy I'm attracted to had sex with a co-worker who's twice my age. I get sick just thinking about it
Q. Alright, so there's this guy... We met, and instantly were attracted to each other. Because of work schedules, we never got to really spend time together. He would occasionally drop in on me at work, and we would constantly text/message/communicate. ...
A. 23 March 2012: You weren't a couple, weren't even casually dating- there was just a still latent attraction, but as he was attracted to you, he was also attracted- at least physically- to other women. He had no obligations to tell you the details of his sex life ... (read in full...)
My husband has an obsession with my butt.
Q. This question is for ladies only. I am new to the internet. I come from a culture where girls are not educated about sexuality. I never had any sexual encounter with a man before my wedding. A few months after my marriage,my husband left country to ...
A. 23 March 2012: Skinny jeans and tight pants....in Pakistan ?! Where's your salwar kameez ?.... ... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 23 March 2012: Great update, I am glad to hear you are feeling better - told ya:).
Also glad to hear that you've got a basilar concept ,i.e. that you can't "fix " him and his actions ( and you don't have to, let that unfortunate girl he is dating go nuts tryn... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 15 March 2012: Oh good : " I was miserable a lot of the time ". OP, for such a stubborn girl like yourself :) , to admit that, in written,.... that's a big step forward . Remember these words ,OP " I WAS MISERABLE A LOT OF THE TIME ". Write them down on your ... (read in full...)
Ex said I was the best girlfriend he ever had but wasnt attracted to me! Why on earth was he with me for a year if this is true?
Q. My ex told a friend that i was the best girlfriend he ever had but he wasn't attracted to me? What does this mean and if he felt like this, why were we together for a year?...
A. 15 March 2012: Everything is possible , but do YOU would want him back knowing that he wasn't/isn't completely attracted to you ?... (read in full...)
Ex said I was the best girlfriend he ever had but wasnt attracted to me! Why on earth was he with me for a year if this is true?
Q. My ex told a friend that i was the best girlfriend he ever had but he wasn't attracted to me? What does this mean and if he felt like this, why were we together for a year?...
A. 15 March 2012: I think what he said it's rather self explanatory, he liked you as a person, and appreciated you as a partner because of your qualities and behaviour, but did not feel a lot of chemistry physically.
Why did he stay one year nevertheless, well... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 15 March 2012: Oh no, I understand you are feeling low . Just, tell me : were you feeling very " high " all the time while you let this dude toy with your body and emotions ? If that's the case , it surely did not show even a bit from all your posts ! it did not ... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 15 March 2012: Oh no, I understand you are feeling low . Just, tell me : were you feeling very " high " all the time while you let this dude toy with your body and emotions ? If that's the case , it surely did not show even a bit from all your posts ! it did not ... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 15 March 2012: Of course you can cope,give yourself some credit. Now you are just throwing tantrums. You " coped " for all your life before you met this guy. And don't tell me : yes but he was the best thing it ever happened to me, because you know it's not true. ... (read in full...)
I am tired of living with a dog I don't want and a wife I don't trust.
Q. I live in a small 2 bedroom condo with my handicapped wife and our two girls, 8 and 5. We run a business out of our home as well. Needless to say, the place is crowded and life for me is restrictive. For years my wife has asked if she could get...
A. 15 March 2012: Sorry, my mistake. I see that your kid is already walking the dog herself. So, half of the problem is solved. You've only got to teach her to handle her responsibilities, including waking up at an adequate time, and that's after all part of any ... (read in full...)
I am tired of living with a dog I don't want and a wife I don't trust.
Q. I live in a small 2 bedroom condo with my handicapped wife and our two girls, 8 and 5. We run a business out of our home as well. Needless to say, the place is crowded and life for me is restrictive. For years my wife has asked if she could get...
A. 15 March 2012: No, it's not sensible breaking a marriage over a doggie.
You have been onemanupshipped and you resent that, which is understandable, but think about the kids , I am sure you don't want to deprive them of their beloved dog, and neither of thei... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that we don't speak so much when we're apart?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 months now (i know its not long) and I'm starting to feel really insecure about it. This is because at the beginning he text me all the time and always looked out for me to make sure I was okay, now when we ...
A. 15 March 2012: Sorry, I am sure it's a generational thing, and I must be at fault , but I can't help thinking that this constant need for contact and reassurance via text ( not only yours,issues like yours pop up frequently on DC ) is bizarre and sort of ... (read in full...)
If your partner watches porn is it natural to get turned off and start looking elsewhere?
Q. My partner watches porn and masturbates. I have found that this has turned me off of him both sexually and emotionally. My question is this: If it is just natural for men to look at other women and have urges towards them, is it just as...
A. 14 March 2012: No. The response to how we consider the exercise and display of sexuality is totally learned and cultural, not natural.
Many women hate porn ( in fact , they hate their men watching porn ) because they feel in competition with the porn stars, a co... (read in full...)
Mixed feelings about my friend after she gave me tainted drugs.....
Q. I can't see objectively outside of my situation and need advice. I am in grad school and I was with someone I thought was my best friend. this is NOT my typical lifestyle, but I had a couple sips of a beer and I took a puff of pot, and immediately ...
A. 14 March 2012: The problem may be that it was a good batch ,in fact- too good. Purer, with an higher THC content than you are used to, and it hit you faster and harder.
I suppose it's quite possible too to lace MJ with PCP, but 1 ) the effects would be diff... (read in full...)
Do women just naturally need or want less from their marriages as they get older?
Q. Do women in their mid-40's just naturally start reverting back to who they were before marriage? My wife and I have been togethernfor many years. It was always me and her, the two of us together, no matter what. However, now that our kids are a l...
A. 14 March 2012: It sounds to me you may have a too claustrophobic ,codependent vision of marriage and coupledom in general.
Obviously I have no idea if your wife is thinking of cheating on you,or if she is making a point to purposely kick you out of her life... (read in full...)
Can 13 year-olds find a lasting relationship, or is this just puppy love?
Q. Ok... know a lot of you will disagree with my view on this but oh well...I'm 13, and I have a boyfriend of 8 months, we really get along and we have almost everything in common, he told me he loved me and I told him I loved him too but then i felt ...
A. 14 March 2012: The odds are totally against you, Op, but, at 13, what do you care ?
Only a person in maybe a million wins the lottery, but if you don't even buy the ticket to begin with, then you are sure you are not going to win. Buy your ticket now, and don'... (read in full...)
When he confessed it wasn't what I thought it would be!
Q. I am 24 and I met this genuinely loving guy at a charity organisation which helps disabled children get into sport. Anyway, we started dating 9 months ago and he has asked me to move in with him. I agreed and am in the process of packing my stuff. ...
A. 14 March 2012: How very curious :
You date a guy for 9 months, and are on the verge of going to live with him... and in all this time , it never ever came in conversation stuff like, what does your dad do, what does your mom do, what your siblings do, where do t... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 14 March 2012: Because he is not interested in wasting time communicating with you , unless you put out.
... (read in full...)
When he confessed it wasn't what I thought it would be!
Q. I am 24 and I met this genuinely loving guy at a charity organisation which helps disabled children get into sport. Anyway, we started dating 9 months ago and he has asked me to move in with him. I agreed and am in the process of packing my stuff. ...
A. 13 March 2012: Yeah right.
Somebody here has an active imagination and either it is you or it's him.
I mean, I understand not flaunting your riches , having simple tastes , not wanting attract attention etc. Not all the very rich people drive customiz... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 12 March 2012: I think yesterday you had opted for the " totally ignore" tactic .
Do you feel your determination wavering ?... If you do,why would you say is it happening ?... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 12 March 2012: Again, that's not how a player thinks.
It's not at all about availability of sex. In this day and age, sex is a rather accessible commodity for most everybody, it's not something you have to fight firespitting dragons for. And if it were abou... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 12 March 2012: Because that's not what cheaters do.
He probably IS happy with his gf- he's not leaving her, right ? In fact ,they are going to live together. But he thinks that he can be even happier if he can have his gf .. and something on the side just to l... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 11 March 2012: No unless you want to be hurt again : munched, chewed and spit out.
If you remember I told you this was likely to happen... he probably thinks that you are playing hard to get, or just mad because he stood you up. Anyway he has this smug atti... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 11 March 2012: And do you believe him ?... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 11 March 2012: Sooo predictable. What a clown. In the same breath, basically, he says he'll respect your decision- and he asks you to meet up. How's that respecting your decision ??
I hope you know how to spell : NO.
Or , even better, ignore him. ... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 11 March 2012: Patience, OP. Patience amd keep your cool. Again,- sorry for the lack of immagination,- it's just like quitting smoking. The first days or weeks are horrible, and then at some point ... you just breathe easy and you feel great -like a new ... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 11 March 2012: Very good, OP.
You may feel sort of shitty atm, but this is like quitting smoking. It's an addiction, in your case to your illusions, and when you stop you may have withdrawal symptoms, but in time you'll feel SO glad you've stopped.
Let's ho... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 11 March 2012: Yes,picking out curtains may be a stressful process, and he needed some stress relief :)...
And...did you answer his text ? WHAT did you answer ?
Btw,OP, watch your step.. you know this is a poisonous situation for you and you've got to get your... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 7 March 2012: Yes, that's a start :)
But, now there's the next step. You know what you've got to do, right ?. You have to unfriend him on Facebook ,first ,and block his other contacts to you.
Maybe it's difficult for you, but I think by now you realize ... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 6 March 2012: Good thinking ,OP. Don't look back ,look forward - make different choices, and you'll get different results. Who knows, maybe you are not cut out for FWBs - and surely you are not cut out for users and losers like your ex "friend" , you deserve ... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 6 March 2012: " seemed " to actually like you. "seemed " being the key word, obviously not all that seems is also what really is going on.
But- you got hints . Heavy hints. Reread anon female's post, OP : with all the call it quits N.1.2.,etc.
You've got your... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 6 March 2012: Yes I guess that if you have OCD that may be a big part of the problem.. Are you getting help for OCD ? Therapy ? Medications ?...
Remember anyway that if OCD impairs your control over your thoughts... you still have total control over your acti... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 6 March 2012: Yes, I remember well the "friend "- back- from -Afghanistan saga...
Let's start from the end.
I am tempted to say, -good job, you did good to break up with your bf. Staying with him, while being so massively consumed by thoughts and worries ... (read in full...)
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