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... Send *indyCares a private message | | | *indyCares's profile:Hi everybody. I am an Italian woman currently living in Italy but I spent many years in England and USA. I hope my English is still decent but in case it got a little rusty, please be lenient.
My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
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Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
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A. 23 March 2012: Great update, I am glad to hear you are feeling better - told ya:).
Also glad to hear that you've got a basilar concept ,i.e. that you can't "fix " him and his actions ( and you don't have to, let that unfortunate girl he is dating go nuts tryn... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
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A. 15 March 2012: Oh good : " I was miserable a lot of the time ". OP, for such a stubborn girl like yourself :) , to admit that, in written,.... that's a big step forward . Remember these words ,OP " I WAS MISERABLE A LOT OF THE TIME ". Write them down on your ... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
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A. 15 March 2012: Oh no, I understand you are feeling low . Just, tell me : were you feeling very " high " all the time while you let this dude toy with your body and emotions ? If that's the case , it surely did not show even a bit from all your posts ! it did not ... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 15 March 2012: Oh no, I understand you are feeling low . Just, tell me : were you feeling very " high " all the time while you let this dude toy with your body and emotions ? If that's the case , it surely did not show even a bit from all your posts ! it did not ... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
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A. 14 March 2012: How very curious :
You date a guy for 9 months, and are on the verge of going to live with him... and in all this time , it never ever came in conversation stuff like, what does your dad do, what does your mom do, what your siblings do, where do t... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
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What about dental implants , or some removable false tooth ? ... Would a girl have to tell... (read in full...)
When he confessed it wasn't what I thought it would be!
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A. 13 March 2012: Yeah right.
Somebody here has an active imagination and either it is you or it's him.
I mean, I understand not flaunting your riches , having simple tastes , not wanting attract attention etc. Not all the very rich people drive customiz... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my boyfriend so he can experience the life he wants?
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The OP has sown her wild oats BEFORE entering in a committed relationship.
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Should I break up with my boyfriend so he can experience the life he wants?
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A. 13 March 2012: @ Male anon reader :
The OP has sown her wild oats BEFORE entering in a committed relationship.
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Nobody has insulted you here- we have just given you our opinions, which you had requested and which happen to be different from yours.
If this is your normal attitude in interpersonal relationships - " whoever is not with me ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my boyfriend so he can experience the life he wants?
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Because he is not the right person for you , and because he's not in love, or at least not as much as you thin... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
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A. 12 March 2012: I think yesterday you had opted for the " totally ignore" tactic .
Do you feel your determination wavering ?... If you do,why would you say is it happening ?... (read in full...)
In a breakup why do people take the cheaters side?
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Besides, the story does not quite go as you report it . Not everybody knew about Clooney's wife cheating, only 3 peop... (read in full...)
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A. 12 March 2012: No offense, but you should cut down on drink for yourself , regardless of your boyfriend and his mom.
A whole bottle of wine all by yourself ? holy moly, that 's 75 cl, which makes 6 or 7 glasses ( 11 cl each, regular bar or restaurant serv... (read in full...)
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But complaining without making changes does not help. It serves no practical purposes, it may make you a whiner but never a winner.
And when I say making changes,... (read in full...)
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A. 12 March 2012: Heck no,lol. Let enough time pass and when you bump into an ex, the most common reaction is " what was I thinking of ?! "
Well, actually, like helpquickly says, at times you may miss a person for a very long time, but it's not the same as want... (read in full...)
I pushed him for comittment and he made his excuses, now I find pictures of nude girls on his phone!
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He wants a FWB relationship and I don't think I can do that
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A. 12 March 2012: Texting ? At 30-35 ?
My advice is to stay away from any adult who believes texting is a normal, acceptable way to communicate and socialize. It's not. Once you are over 18, text should be used for quick, practical stuff only. " Being 15 mins late... (read in full...)
Should I move in with him when I turn 18? or wait?
Q. Hey there, I'm in need of some advice. I'll be 18 in June. Don't let that deceive you I'm a very put together kind of girl. I would say I'm very mature for my age but how many times do you hear teens say that? Anyways, I'm with this guy, shoc...
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He's playing me in a FWB while cheating his Gf. How do I break it off with him and mean it?
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A. 12 March 2012: And why should he ? He'd be dumb. He has found the perfect way to keep his cake and eat it too, and you want him to voluntarily stop, for the sake of what ? For not hurting your feelings ? he does not care , you can be as hurt as you like until you ... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
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A. 12 March 2012: Again, that's not how a player thinks.
It's not at all about availability of sex. In this day and age, sex is a rather accessible commodity for most everybody, it's not something you have to fight firespitting dragons for. And if it were abou... (read in full...)
He used to have Erectile Dysfunction. Why is he scared his past will stop him fathering children?
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A. 12 March 2012: It's not so strange, delayed ejaculation is not uncommon among young males.
Two reasons, one physiological the other psychological.
The first one, I suspect, that he might have been- as it is after all normal among teens,- a first class wanker. ... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 12 March 2012: Because that's not what cheaters do.
He probably IS happy with his gf- he's not leaving her, right ? In fact ,they are going to live together. But he thinks that he can be even happier if he can have his gf .. and something on the side just to l... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 11 March 2012: No unless you want to be hurt again : munched, chewed and spit out.
If you remember I told you this was likely to happen... he probably thinks that you are playing hard to get, or just mad because he stood you up. Anyway he has this smug atti... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 11 March 2012: And do you believe him ?... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 11 March 2012: Sooo predictable. What a clown. In the same breath, basically, he says he'll respect your decision- and he asks you to meet up. How's that respecting your decision ??
I hope you know how to spell : NO.
Or , even better, ignore him. ... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 11 March 2012: Patience, OP. Patience amd keep your cool. Again,- sorry for the lack of immagination,- it's just like quitting smoking. The first days or weeks are horrible, and then at some point ... you just breathe easy and you feel great -like a new ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my urges may ruin everything!
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A. 11 March 2012: I know North Africa , and North Africans, enough to say :
you know the answer. You need to keep that animal on a tight leash. Unleashing it would probably cost you more than you are willing to pay.
Many things have changed and improved for wome... (read in full...)
How can I get closure when she won't give it to me?
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A. 11 March 2012: OP, it's a bit naive expecting or demanding long explanations or justifications from the person who screwed you up. There's always a simple answer to " why did you do this to me ? " the answer is : " Because I wanted to. Because it was simple, easy ... (read in full...)
My parents don't approve of my boyfriend and I hate sneaking around but I have no other option. What should I do?
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A. 11 March 2012: Nothing, what would you want to do ?
You and this guy have only been dating 4 months and at this stage it's premature introducing him formally to them, or trying to make him part of the family.
From your post I did not get that your parents ... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 11 March 2012: Very good, OP.
You may feel sort of shitty atm, but this is like quitting smoking. It's an addiction, in your case to your illusions, and when you stop you may have withdrawal symptoms, but in time you'll feel SO glad you've stopped.
Let's ho... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 11 March 2012: Yes,picking out curtains may be a stressful process, and he needed some stress relief :)...
And...did you answer his text ? WHAT did you answer ?
Btw,OP, watch your step.. you know this is a poisonous situation for you and you've got to get your... (read in full...)
At 21, all of the good looking women are taken and all that's left are "leftovers"
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A. 10 March 2012: I had read your update, and it made me think you may be a typical case of juvenile sour grapes. Probably you feel you are not good enough for them, it's painful to handle this feeling and it's easier to pretend they are not good enough for ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but can't talk/text to me for 15 days? Is he ending things?
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A. 10 March 2012: Not even one text or call in 15 days ?...
What is he studying for that's so demanding.. is he studying for becoming the next Pope ???
I'd be skeptical . It does not sound, to me at least, as if he want to end things with you, it sounds as if he... (read in full...)
Awesome friend with benefits situation, but I want more and now I don't know if I should end it or try and move things forward..
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A. 10 March 2012: I think that an FWB who cares for you deeply is an oxymoron. If he's an FWB, he cares but not that deeply- if he cared deeply , you'd be his gf, very simple.
" When I want a girlfriend, you'll be on top of my list " to me sounds like a vari... (read in full...)
My daughter's boyfriend has been asked to take another girl to prom by his brother!
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A. 10 March 2012: I would not get too involved in this typical teenage drama. They will figure out a way to deal with it themselves. It's normal that the brother is upset for having been denied his request, and it's also normal that he takes it on your daughter. Also ... (read in full...)
At 21, all of the good looking women are taken and all that's left are "leftovers"
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A. 10 March 2012: OP, I see you are taking quite a beating on DC, and on second thought, it may not be totally deserved. I think the arrogant crap you wrote comes out mostly by your being young , insecure, inexperienced and .. scared. Of rejection, of women. Of ... (read in full...)
My mother told me if my b/f doesn't convert to our religion there's no point to be with him
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A. 10 March 2012: I don't think this has come as a big surprise, as a Muslim you must already have known that Muslim women can only marry Muslim men .
It's a hard choice and I feel for you, then again it's not really a matter of parents being close-minded or b... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has become a possessive maniac!
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A. 10 March 2012: I agree with the other Aunts and Uncle, this is not normal and not acceptable.
With one little proviso :
OF COURSE you should not be texting other people when you are with him. And not even if you were with your best friend, or with your Aun... (read in full...)
Guy is sending me mixed signals and I can't tell if he's serious or not
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A. 10 March 2012: IMO, mixed signals = no signals. If a person is really into you and wants you to take him seriously, the signals will always be loud clear and inequivocable. They absolutely won't keep you guessing and decoding,- they'd be worried that if you don't ... (read in full...)
Guy is sending me mixed signals and I can't tell if he's serious or not
Q. Hey agony aunts. I hav been seeing a guy for about two months. We are both 30 years old. At 1st I wasnt sure if I wanted to hang out with him but somehow, he kept on sending little messages on facebook until i gave him my number and we went out. (i ...
A. 10 March 2012: IMO, mixed signals = no signals. If a person is really into you and wants you to take him seriously, the signals will always be loud clear and inequivocable. They absolutely won't keep you guessing and decoding,- they'd be worried that if you don't ... (read in full...)
Art for art's sake!
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A. 10 March 2012: Insulting ?..So, if somebody would give you Botticelli's Venus or Maya Desnuda by Goya ,you'd turn them down because they portray naked women ? ....
What can I say . Necessary disclaimer : I absolutely love USA and Americans. But, this is one ... (read in full...)
At 21, all of the good looking women are taken and all that's left are "leftovers"
Q. Ive gotten to a point where no women is good enough for me to date. At 21 all of the good looking women are taken and all that's left are "leftovers". I feel I owe it to myself to find the best the world has to offer and I haven't seen it in ...
A. 10 March 2012: Nobody is "destined" to be alone. But sure that with your attitude and mindset you are engineering things to make sure that it will be so ! ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong because on our 1st official date I turned down giving oral sex?
Q. Dear Cupid, So i've been seeing this guy but not for that long. We've hung out briefly and last night he took me out on an official date. After dinner we left and went to a park to check out the view and went back to the car. He kept asking if I...
A. 9 March 2012: No, you are not wrong. And if all the guys you go out with ,end up asking you for oral sex on the first date, I suggest that you start hanging out with a different crowd, or drastically adjust your selection criteria in terms of men.
I could unde... (read in full...)
Do you stay and fight for love? Or if love has gone, should you leave?
Q. I feel like I'm falling out of love with my bf and, as this has never happened to me before, I need advice: do you stay and fight for love? Or if love has gone, should you leave? For background: we've been together 18 months, don't live toget...
A. 9 March 2012: Women who don't trust htheir husbands quite often have got husband who can't be trusted...
What does he mean, " nothing happened " ? Something DID happen. What happened is that he was sexting with a colleague, and ended up in bed with two fema... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 7 March 2012: Yes, that's a start :)
But, now there's the next step. You know what you've got to do, right ?. You have to unfriend him on Facebook ,first ,and block his other contacts to you.
Maybe it's difficult for you, but I think by now you realize ... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 6 March 2012: Good thinking ,OP. Don't look back ,look forward - make different choices, and you'll get different results. Who knows, maybe you are not cut out for FWBs - and surely you are not cut out for users and losers like your ex "friend" , you deserve ... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 6 March 2012: " seemed " to actually like you. "seemed " being the key word, obviously not all that seems is also what really is going on.
But- you got hints . Heavy hints. Reread anon female's post, OP : with all the call it quits N.1.2.,etc.
You've got your... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 6 March 2012: Yes I guess that if you have OCD that may be a big part of the problem.. Are you getting help for OCD ? Therapy ? Medications ?...
Remember anyway that if OCD impairs your control over your thoughts... you still have total control over your acti... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped talking to me since I got a boyfriend?
Q. A guy friend, at least i thought he was, has basically made an idiot out of me. I used to think he liked me and we fooled around for a while but then he got back with some ex girlfriend without telling me. He just stopped taking my calls and ignored ...
A. 6 March 2012: Yes, I remember well the "friend "- back- from -Afghanistan saga...
Let's start from the end.
I am tempted to say, -good job, you did good to break up with your bf. Staying with him, while being so massively consumed by thoughts and worries ... (read in full...)
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