Like what
she writes?
... Add *indyCares to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *indyCares a private message | | | *indyCares's profile:Hi everybody. I am an Italian woman currently living in Italy but I spent many years in England and USA. I hope my English is still decent but in case it got a little rusty, please be lenient.
My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
Ciao
Cindy |
|
| Latest articles: Devastation in Italy
This question has 2 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
26 August 2016: This has got nothing to do with romance or relationships or love- maybe with love for our fellow human beings, i.e. solidariety and compassion , so I hope that the mods will publish this regardless. On August 24th a devastating eartquak...
Ten best ways for a woman to be given her walking papers.
This question has 7 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
19 August 2014: Yeah I know : ultimately love is a mystery, not an exact science. There's always an element of sheer luck, of serendipity, of magic in it. Some times you do everything right, by the book, you are the perfect gf / wife / lover .. and you still get ...
|
Are women losing their skills in "traditional" roles?
Q. Are women losing skills in roles they traditionally did like cooking and housekeeping? If so, what skills are they gaining instead? Let me first say that I love my wife, but I was shocked at how little she is able to do. She is an excellent ...
A. 17 April 2012: 12 times what your wife makes ? Problem solved, then. Supposing that your wife earns just a little, say 600 a month ?- your income combined is still about 8000 monthly. Call the company to install the damn water heater, and free your weekend for ... (read in full...)
Are women losing their skills in "traditional" roles?
Q. Are women losing skills in roles they traditionally did like cooking and housekeeping? If so, what skills are they gaining instead? Let me first say that I love my wife, but I was shocked at how little she is able to do. She is an excellent ...
A. 16 April 2012: @ anon reader of April 16 th: yes, but, anon reader, can't you see the EVIDENT difference between your case and the OP's. ?
You LIKE what you do, you do it effortlessly,voluntarily, with pride and joy, and you believe it's important. The OP's... (read in full...)
Are women losing their skills in "traditional" roles?
Q. Are women losing skills in roles they traditionally did like cooking and housekeeping? If so, what skills are they gaining instead? Let me first say that I love my wife, but I was shocked at how little she is able to do. She is an excellent ...
A. 15 April 2012: OP, it's strictly a matter of points of view. I think that it's a terribly sad way of living, instead, if you have to come home after a long working day and use your free time for puttering around the house doing menial,boring ,repetitive, mind ... (read in full...)
Why does a girl become so cruel to a guy who loves her?
Q. Why does a girl become so cruel to a guy who loves her? There's this girl at work that I have a crush on. She and I were very close, just as friends. But recently she found out that I had feelings for her the whole time, and now she is behaving ...
A. 15 April 2012: Maybe it's not fair, or rational, but she MIGHT feel deceived. Obviously she is a good looking girl ,used to get attention because of superficial things as her looks and charm,... and with you, she thought you could see her as a person, and you ... (read in full...)
Why does a girl become so cruel to a guy who loves her?
Q. Why does a girl become so cruel to a guy who loves her? There's this girl at work that I have a crush on. She and I were very close, just as friends. But recently she found out that I had feelings for her the whole time, and now she is behaving ...
A. 15 April 2012: Some times you've got to be cruel to be kind. She does not want to lead you on and illude you. She does not want you to get more attached than you already are.
And frankly she can also be a tad annoyed and irritated with you. She let herself get ... (read in full...)
Why does a girl become so cruel to a guy who loves her?
Q. Why does a girl become so cruel to a guy who loves her? There's this girl at work that I have a crush on. She and I were very close, just as friends. But recently she found out that I had feelings for her the whole time, and now she is behaving ...
A. 15 April 2012: Some times you've got to be cruel to be kind. She does not want to lead you on and illude you. She does not want you to get more attached than you already are.
And frankly she can also be a tad annoyed and irritated with you. She let herself get ... (read in full...)
Translations please of guy-speak? Not sure what my Bf is implying.
Q. Guys, what does it mean when a guy says you are amazing as a girlfriend, but when you try to be pretty you are stunning but when you don't try your blehh? What does this mean in guy speak?...
A. 15 April 2012: I concur with the other Aunts. It means that you are only good enough for him when you are all dolled up, otherwise you don't make the grade. And it means you need another BF.... (read in full...)
Regret of not dating someone and then see her date around casually
Q. Sorry for posting on this forum again, but I have been struggling badly with this issue for 5 months now. I broke up with my first and only girlfriend in Jan 2011. The reason was that I am Indian (living in US) and she is american, and my...
A. 15 April 2012: Don't be so sure. Just a week of reading Dear Cupid's posts would disabuse you of this notion that " American girls don't feel used if they are dumped after few weeks ". Many of them clearly DO. Of course , it depends , if a relationship is ... (read in full...)
Guys, are women with big boobs more 'valuable' than the rest of us?
Q. I was talking to my BF and he said that he was more inclined to treat a woman with big boobs with more care, respect and spoil her than a woman with smaller boobs. Of course I have a small B cup, and I asked him why he was with me. He said that I ...
A. 14 April 2012: Funny , I am a woman with big breasts and I have,in a sense, the opposite perception , about " care and respect ".
When I was your age ( and much older too;luckily, even if time does take a toll, some of us escape the grim predictions of Cerb... (read in full...)
Regret of not dating someone and then see her date around casually
Q. Sorry for posting on this forum again, but I have been struggling badly with this issue for 5 months now. I broke up with my first and only girlfriend in Jan 2011. The reason was that I am Indian (living in US) and she is american, and my...
A. 14 April 2012: US culture and sexual habits in US are much more varied and multifaceted than you believe, and what is acceptable or not, common or uncommon varies a lot according to the individuals, their personalities ,ideas and upbringing.
SOME girls will... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a gay guy! He acts straight and flirts with me!
Q. Okay, hey! So this story is pretty crazy and I'm not sure where to start, but here goes! I started falling in love with this boy... He was a very good friend, probably a best friend, and now he really is my best friend. I'd just come out of a lon...
A. 14 April 2012: I'll only be nasty about one thing : the expressions " I am 15 " and " I was drunk " don't even belong in the same sentence, and if I were your parents and caught you in this kind of shenanigans , I'd keep you under lock and key until you reach ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of being expected to act a certain way because of my skin color. Is it wrong to be attracted to a different culture?
Q. Hi, I am fifteen years old and black Ever since I was small I have always been into asian culture(Mainly Korean and Japanese)I watched anime all my life(my favorite was Dragon Ball Z) so I think that's how it got started and as I got older I star...
A. 14 April 2012: My 14 y.o. niece is into that Japanese subculture and mangas and cosplay and stuff ( luckily not into Aegyo , as far I know )- and she is Swiss :).
Don't worry . Most parents find difficult to relate to their kids' passions and quirks, and ... (read in full...)
Found out he was married, he eventually left his wife and claims to want me.....but could this ever work out after everything that happened?
Q. Hi, I was in a relationship with my boyfriend for four months when he arrived at my house in the middle of the day to tell me that he was married and that his wife had just found out about out relationship. I'm not squeeky clean in this situatio...
A. 14 April 2012: OP, yes , I know that divorce is not instant coffee, you can't have it ready in a matter of seconds.
What I meant is, are they at least LEGALLY separated ? Are they still in the talking / discussing / defining things stage , or did they alre... (read in full...)
Regret of not dating someone and then see her date around casually
Q. Sorry for posting on this forum again, but I have been struggling badly with this issue for 5 months now. I broke up with my first and only girlfriend in Jan 2011. The reason was that I am Indian (living in US) and she is american, and my...
A. 14 April 2012: Op, this is not about the first girl, or the second girl , this is about you. You have to make up your mind , and decide what you want and WHO you are.
Do you identify with your conservative culture and traditions ? Is it important to you that... (read in full...)
How do you know when someone really has integrity?
Q. I believe people should do what they say or promise to do unless something unavoidable prevents it, from the big stuff to the small stuff. I try to do this and I try to be considerate. How come people can just, with apparently little discomfo...
A. 14 April 2012: I don't think you are too rigid or that you necessarily need to downgrade your expectations , if certain things are important to you. You just believe in things like being punctual, being consistent, being considerate , being reliable ( I do too. ... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to let me pay for his vacation?
Q. I have a boyfriend who I want to go on vacation with. My brother and his girlfriend have been asked to come with us, and it's all looking good so far. We're planning on catching a last-minute flight to save on money, as last minute flights are real...
A. 13 April 2012: No don't ask him. You complain about him not being good at budgeting, and then you undermine when he does the one thing that 's wise and mature when dealing with money ( not that I am always so wise and mature myself, tbh ) : NOT buying things when ... (read in full...)
Are women losing their skills in "traditional" roles?
Q. Are women losing skills in roles they traditionally did like cooking and housekeeping? If so, what skills are they gaining instead? Let me first say that I love my wife, but I was shocked at how little she is able to do. She is an excellent ...
A. 13 April 2012: OP, some skills are surely getting lost, but generally what gets lost is what is not so relevant, indispensable or functional any more.
One hundred years ago people were surely way more adept around horses, they knew how to feed them and brus... (read in full...)
Was I right to not let him kiss me?
Q. I think me and my grind nearly kissed. He's a guy and I don't think either of us are the other ones type at all, he's certainly not mine. We aren't romantically compatible because we both want very different things from a relationship, but recently, ...
A. 13 April 2012: You were right and I am surprised you even doubt yourself, do you feel obliged to kiss any guy just because he's close by and you are alone together ? Even if you don't really want to ? ....
Who cares about what "so many people"" do, "so many... (read in full...)
How can I have a relationship when I don't trust women?
Q. All I have in this world is my balls and my word. And I don't trust women. I am not saying they're all bad. I just think when the times get tough, they disappear. And when the times are good, they love you. Am I wrong? With an attitude like this, ...
A. 13 April 2012: I think it all depends from what you mean by " things getting tough ". It's very vague and mysterious. How tough, tough why and in which way ?...
Tough like, arguing every day about every little thing ? Or like, you being in a funk and reso... (read in full...)
How can I get my daughter's BF to move out?
Q. My daughter is 18 and her boyfriend is 23. He has had many problems and it resulted in a felony when he was only 19 or 20. They had their own place and recently we all moved in together. He doesn't work and she pays for everything. He seems to think ...
A. 13 April 2012: You tell him " See that wood rectangle with a metal knob in the middle ? It's called a door. You push it open, move a few steps forward, then close the door firmly behind your back and keep walking. Good, exactly like this. Well done. See ya ! ... (read in full...)
He knows he can't be with me because of his religion, so why show me affection?
Q. I have a friend who I really care for. But later I found myself developing feelings for him. We know each other from long time ago and we both went trough the same situations. I confront him the other day and I told him what I am feeling. I told h...
A. 13 April 2012: I don't quite understand your question. Muslims too are allowed to have feelings and to express affection and care for people of different religions in non sexual ways..One can care about a person - and not plan to date her,f..k her or marry ... (read in full...)
Are women losing their skills in "traditional" roles?
Q. Are women losing skills in roles they traditionally did like cooking and housekeeping? If so, what skills are they gaining instead? Let me first say that I love my wife, but I was shocked at how little she is able to do. She is an excellent ...
A. 13 April 2012: Hopefully, they are acquiring the skills to get themselves decently paid jobs, and be able to afford hiring somebody for cleaning ! ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend liked a picture of another girl on facebook, then lied to me about it after I confronted him!
Q. Today I was on facebook when it came up on my newsfeed that my boyfriend "liked" a photo of some girl who went to his school. I clicked on it more than once so it was definitely him and I definitely wasnt seeing things. I texted him telling him that...
A. 13 April 2012: I don't think you are right. And I am afraid that if according to your exacting standards liking a picture is inacceptable within a relationship,... you will have quite some trouble maintaining this relationship and the future ones to.
If you keep... (read in full...)
She has thin hair and I'm worried that she might go bald!
Q. So I've been dating this lovely girl for 2 months now. she's so wonderful and i absolutely adore her. But there's one small,superficial issue that i hate myself for caring so much about. The girl's got some thin hair and i can see some of her ...
A. 12 April 2012: Send her to see a doctor. An endocrinologist, or a dermatologist . It's not normal to have bald spots at 16 !
Except for rare cases of idiopathic alopecia ( baldness with no specific case ) it's generally a symptom of something else going on. From... (read in full...)
My mother started a fight and hit me in front on my 2 year old son!
Q. I have never had a good relatinoship with my mother. Myself and my 2 sisters have never got on with her. She is a very difficult and manipulative person and likes to pick fights. Last week we had an argument about something as usual. However, ...
A. 12 April 2012: You lashed out and pushed your mom... because she hadn't bought a birthday present for your child ??
Don't get me wrong, from her reaction she does sound like a mentally unbalanced person, or at least the ideal candidate for a Jerry Springer epis... (read in full...)
Found out he was married, he eventually left his wife and claims to want me.....but could this ever work out after everything that happened?
Q. Hi, I was in a relationship with my boyfriend for four months when he arrived at my house in the middle of the day to tell me that he was married and that his wife had just found out about out relationship. I'm not squeeky clean in this situatio...
A. 12 April 2012: You are not a pariah, but if you care about social acceptance I would not be so prompt to play the naivety and inexperience card.
That was good until you caught him cheating on his wife, which you did not know he had.
And then ? after you kne... (read in full...)
Fiance owes too much money to ex and expects me to pay. How much is too much?
Q. Problems..... My fiancee (50) has just been served with a bill of $30,000 that he owed his ex on their divorce some 9 years ago. Due to ill health and circumstances he has not paid her and now she is peruing it.Their son of 15, visits in holidays ...
A. 12 April 2012: 30.000 USD ? On top of basically supporting him and paying his child support ?
Holy cripes ! If you really have to pay for a man, with this kind of money, you could close a deal with some 25 y.o. boytoy surfer !!
Don't tell me you are goin... (read in full...)
Can't deal with your lover's sexual past? Why not leave her / him if they have different morals to you?
Q. Hi guys AND girls, I've read a lot on DC about retroactive jealousy, or "his / her sexual past", and people having problems with it. Some very smart people here have made some very good suggestions on how to deal with it. The thing is, that i...
A. 12 April 2012: If RJ was so normal, healthy, and genetically predetermined in males, I guess by now I would have met RJ sufferers IRL and been on the receiving hand of their compulsions.
Never happened to me.
That this may have been because no men ever rea... (read in full...)
Event Etiquette Help Please! Husbands event vs. Baby shower?
Q. I'm in a slight bind here. Looking for some wisdom regarding event etiquette. Ok, which event should i attend? My fiance and I area marrying in September. Part of the premarital requirement is going through the sacrament of confirmation which ...
A. 12 April 2012: Technically speaking you would be obliged to attend the FIRST invitation you accepted , the baby shower, as you promised. It's surely not your friend's fault if your bf gets his dates mixed up and does not keep proper track of his social ... (read in full...)
Does it sound likes these 2 rommates were more than just roommates?
Q. Hi. Knowing these facts about someone, would you believe they had sex (between a male and a female): First off, the let's say person A, is a usually a very honest person, hates condoning bad behaviour or mindsets and is shown everyday t...
A. 12 April 2012: Oh people can be led on for loooong period of times, if the person leading them on is clever, and if they want to close their eyes in front of evidence.
What personally I would have a big issue with, is Person A calling herself a sincere and mora... (read in full...)
Virgin, left husband, now dating but not sure how men will react to my virginity
Q. This is a unique situation I am in. Married for 10 years. Never consummated my marriage with my husband. I am still a virgin. We are now separated and heading for divorce. This was not the primary reason for us splitting. There were other issues ...
A. 11 April 2012: Dear Op, the very last thing you need is a powerful man to take you by sheer force !
What you describe sounds just like " vaginismus ". It's a conditions in which involuntary contractions of the pubococcygeus muscle are activated, which caus... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is horribly selfish in bed!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a while now and I dread having sex! Previously sex consisted of him pushing my head between his legs. He would lie there groaning while I gave him oral. He would rub his hand up and down my back, eventually when my ...
A. 11 April 2012: Tell him !
Quite a few guys aren't that good at picking up hints or guessing stuff, and with them romance has to take a backside to precision, you have to pretend you are reading him an Ikea instructions booklet " Insert piece A into cavi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is horribly selfish in bed!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a while now and I dread having sex! Previously sex consisted of him pushing my head between his legs. He would lie there groaning while I gave him oral. He would rub his hand up and down my back, eventually when my ...
A. 11 April 2012: Tell him !
Quite a few guys aren't that good at picking up hints or guessing stuff, and with them romance has to take a backside to precision, you have to pretend you are reading him an Ikea instructions booklet " Insert piece A into cavi... (read in full...)
Married lover has developed fantasies of us getting caught in the act
Q. My married lover lately has mentioned these fantasies where we are caught in the act by her (female) roommate, that roommate's boyfriend, or even her husband. Sometimes we act them out and she gets very, very turned on. She will cum for me (hard...
A. 11 April 2012: I think it's better to leave it a fantasy anyway.
It would probably be such an anticlimax if it did happen !
Because, what do you think it would happen in practice ? I'll tell you. 9 and a half timesm out of 10, her roommate or the roomie '... (read in full...)
Is it weird not to like kissing in public?
Q. I would like to know if it's weird that I don't like to kiss my girlfriend in front of others. I have no problem with kissing in general. Im not ashamed of her or anything I just feel weird, ya know?...
A. 11 April 2012: God bless you,my friend !, I live in an area of my city that's full of schools and students , so basically you can't move without bumping into some young couple rapturously making out in the middle of the sidewalk :).
I am not a prude, I swea... (read in full...)
Friend pushed me away after we had sex for the first time.
Q. You know how it is, you invite one of my best friends over. You study. A cup of freshly made brew turns into cuddles, cuddles turn into kisses, kisses turn into...well, a night of wild sex with no sleep. I had a crush on this girl for the past 2 y...
A. 11 April 2012: If you are a real friend ( which is doubtful ) stay that : a friend, not a FWB. And let HER decide the physical and emotional distance she wants to keep now. Apparently, she does need or want that kind of situation,( very wisely ) until she is ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me because he saw me talk to another guy! How do I show him it was just a conversation and that I only love him?
Q. hi dear uncle and aunts, im now in a lot of trouble and my rlationship is now on a verge of breakup. yesterday my bf sees me talking to another guy and broke up in anger .he is neither receiving my call nor coming online .he abused me and said you ...
A. 11 April 2012: I know this is not the advice you wanted to hear, but I would not do ANYTHING to bring him back in my life, in fact I'd congratulate myself for having escaped an inevitable relationship disaster. How can any relationship go on, based on this ... (read in full...)
Found out he was married, he eventually left his wife and claims to want me.....but could this ever work out after everything that happened?
Q. Hi, I was in a relationship with my boyfriend for four months when he arrived at my house in the middle of the day to tell me that he was married and that his wife had just found out about out relationship. I'm not squeeky clean in this situatio...
A. 11 April 2012: I don't think so. This was not a little white lie, like, he's late for a date , " why are you late " " I was stuck in traffic " - and instead he had wasted time playing with videogames. He lied about being married , he totally misrepresented ... (read in full...)
Will he ever change or should I just give up?
Q. my partner of 2.5 years and I booked a holiday recently, I previously took him away and paid for everything, he is non working and his mum always gives him money as he lies constantly to her to get her to feel sorry and give him funds. he is 40 and ...
A. 11 April 2012: Are you nuts ?
Well, with all due respect, apparently yes.
Drugs, drinking, violent, does not work, stingy, scrounger, a career as an exploiter of women...and, you are still with him, remind me why exactly ?!
Will he ever change ? Hell no. It'... (read in full...)
Is it just sex or more?
Q. i have been having sex with a guy for about 2yrs now.. in the begining he and i was jst hooking up... 2yrs later... i am soo much in love... i dont think he feels the same way. he probably likes me... or does he jst like having sex with me. he ...
A. 10 April 2012: He was putting you back to your proper place ( in his view ).
He meant " Oh for fuck's sake, you know that I have no time and no patience for your emotional bellyaching, and I don't give a damn about your " feelings " and all this mushy stuf... (read in full...)
Why did he leave me when things were going so well?
Q. My ex boyfriend and I were in a long distance relationship for over 2 months but still saw each other every weekend and talked lots during the day by txt, phone, facebook and were really close and happy. He treated me like a princess and I treated ...
A. 10 April 2012: It only lasted 2 months- and long distance too. Let it go and move on, now the wound is fresh and moving on seems so difficult, but it's not.
The guy seems to have his own issues, but ,even if he hadn't, what happened I think it's pretty comm... (read in full...)
Questions about getting breast transplants
Q. I have a few questions for the ladies. I am seriously considering breast implants. I am 46 years old and about three years ago, I lost a good 40-50 pounds, got back in shape again and have become a gym rat and regularly swim and have turned most...
A. 10 April 2012: Uhm. Consult a good , reputable plastic surgeon who will give you an expert, unbiased opinion ( yes, hard to believe :) but there actually are good surgeons that will only operate if it's good for you ,and not just for their pockets ).
The prob... (read in full...)
Questions about getting breast transplants
Q. I have a few questions for the ladies. I am seriously considering breast implants. I am 46 years old and about three years ago, I lost a good 40-50 pounds, got back in shape again and have become a gym rat and regularly swim and have turned most...
A. 10 April 2012: Uhm. Consult a good , reputable plastic surgeon who will give you an expert, unbiased opinion ( yes, hard to believe :) but there actually are good surgeons that will only operate if it's good for you ,and not just for their pockets ).
The prob... (read in full...)
Can it be harmful to have sex during a period?
Q. So..me and my girlfriend had sex while she was on her period. ( please don't judge) I was wondering if this was bad in any kind of way? Like can it harm our bodies and stuff like that. Thank You...
A. 10 April 2012: Judge ? Bad ? ... This must be another American hang up. It's totally normal, not some unusual fetish.
( Yes, a few people won't have sex during a menstrual period - same as other people won't perform oral, or won't French kiss, etc.etc. Pers... (read in full...)
Boyfriend will not have sex because I have a teenager in the house
Q. hi my bf of 2 years, Steve, finds it difficult to relax and be intimate with me because my teenage son lives at home and rarely goes out. This got worse last year and our sex life decreased so much so that we havent had sex for six months now. I...
A. 10 April 2012: I think he has a good excuse ( having your teenage son sleeping next door could surely cramp his style , in fact I am surprised it does not cramp yours ) but, that's what it is, - an excuse. Because he avoids intimacy also when your son is not ... (read in full...)
He doesn't believe in living together before marriage
Q. I have been in a relationship for a year now. Things are pretty great between us and I am considering living together but he seems to disagree. Both of us currently work part time and live at home, whilst saving up for a deposit. However, usually ...
A. 10 April 2012: Apparently right now, with two part time jobs, you could not even afford to live on your own, or it would be a big stretch, so it makes perfect sense to wait until you are more settled.
But it sounds that you are disappointed because he's not ... (read in full...)
Is it just sex or more?
Q. i have been having sex with a guy for about 2yrs now.. in the begining he and i was jst hooking up... 2yrs later... i am soo much in love... i dont think he feels the same way. he probably likes me... or does he jst like having sex with me. he ...
A. 9 April 2012: What's wrong with you , it's that you let such a dickhead treat you like a doormat. Men don't respect women who don't respect themselves. It's foolish to expect this situation will change , first, because, as you say, if something was to change ... (read in full...)
Can't deal with your lover's sexual past? Why not leave her / him if they have different morals to you?
Q. Hi guys AND girls, I've read a lot on DC about retroactive jealousy, or "his / her sexual past", and people having problems with it. Some very smart people here have made some very good suggestions on how to deal with it. The thing is, that i...
A. 8 April 2012: @anon male reader :of course you can date whomever you want. By all means. You SHOULD date women who share your sexual values,you SHOULD look for a partner who shares your personal beliefs.
What you should NOT do, is what most RJ sufferers do :... (read in full...)
| *indyCares's friends
These are mutual friends, so *indyCares has
added them and they have added *indyCares!
|
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png){kind=small}
