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My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
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A. 24 October 2012: Your gf is physically abusive, and you can't stay in a physically abusive relationship, period.
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A. 24 October 2012: As other posters have stated, I am not so sure that you can legally have sex with a 16 y.o., - check first, a pissed off parent could put you into no end of big trouble.
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Seco... (read in full...)
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He scre... (read in full...)
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A. 23 October 2012: ...and talking an issue to death, without ever doing anything practical about it, is seldom anything but a total waste of time, whether in person, or by text.
I don't agree with ultimatums either, but, to have issued one, she must be at the end of h... (read in full...)
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It would be a bit strange if she'd ask you out for other things that she can do with her bf ( dinner, dancing, etc.... (read in full...)
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Moreover, personally I think that the... (read in full...)
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Now, I won't even say " once a cheater always a cheater " ( even if I happen to believe just that ), but the problem is that... (read in full...)
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A. 22 October 2012: Well, if she is always too busy for you and/ or does not feel the same, chances are she won't be too hurt by your decision. She may be even relieved for all you know. Often people don't want just to come out and say " it's over " , they just start ... (read in full...)
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A. 22 October 2012: This may sound like a platitude, yet it works : ignore them. They do it precisely because they get a reaction out of you, you get mad or flustered or something.
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Do I listen to some of my friends who say don't date her? Or do I just go ahead and ask her out?
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A. 21 October 2012: I got a bit confused with the alphabet soup, but basically I think the only possible advice is : do what you want. If you want to ask her out, ask her out. You are living your own life, not your friends' life. You have to make yourself happy, ... (read in full...)
He's never pushed for sex. So is he just not into me? Or is he not over his ex yet? How do I respond?
Q. Hello, So I know the answer really... He's just not that into you, move on, but as a lady in my mid 30's I still feel the need to ask Pathetic really So I meet this guy in a bar, he's funny, smart, sexy I like him a lot. We see each oth...
A. 21 October 2012: "Too bad, I really like you but I don't think we are on the same page " - then, bye and NEXT as Janniepeg suggests.
Of course it is just foe sex and recreation, he told you !: " I don't want anything serious ". He has not been pushing for sex,... (read in full...)
I am a loner and enjoy solo activities. BUT, based on your thoughts, ... Do people date loners? Or do they retreat from dating loners and why?
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A. 21 October 2012: I don't see why not . Indeed, before reading your question I had never suspected that this could be construed as a problem .
I am like you- not shy , not uneasy in large groups or parties, social when required, but basically I like spen... (read in full...)
Should I have Had An Invitation?
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A. 20 October 2012: Maybe they had a very small wedding with just close family members ?...Being that for her it was the second wedding, it make sense that perhaps they did not have a big social do including all friends and acquaintances..... (read in full...)
Was it wrong for me to finally object? His binge drinking and his obstinant attitude to trying to address his eczema has me fed up.
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Love really can conquer all. A story of taking a chance and finding true love. Thanks DearCupid.org
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He's not interested in providing for me if he passes away. Is he being selfish?
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A. 19 October 2012: Perhaps, beyond any moral or emotional stance, i.e. what "feels " like the right thing.... the most practical thing to do would be to check accurately the Administration of Estates Act 1925 .
In UK there are very detailed laws regarding inhe... (read in full...)
Married six weeks and now he has left me to live in another country? What can I do? No warning. No idea why.
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A. 18 October 2012: How well did you know this guy before marryig him ? if he is your Canadian boy-next-door you have gone to school with , I really have no explanation ,other that he has become mentally ill .
But if he was some charming stranger, about whose past... (read in full...)
Is this what married life is like?
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A. 18 October 2012: I go one step further than Honeypie and,as for me, not only I don't understand why you stay married , I don't even understand why you married this woman in the first place. I remember not only your recent postings , but also those before ,from ... (read in full...)
Seems she likes me. I like her too, but I don't want a Gf, not yet. Plus I suck at talking to girls. Any tips on what to do please?
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A. 18 October 2012: I am afraid you are the only one who can really know it's best .
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A. 18 October 2012: I think you are having unrealistic expectations, in fact to tell you the truth I am surprised that your family and friends still want to TALK to you.
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Is this younger man interested in me or am I imagining things?
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A. 18 October 2012: Exactly, NEXT . That's the right attitude.
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How can I get over someone I still love? And did I make a terrible mistake?
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A. 17 October 2012: Sure it makes sense- and it sounds like a good plan to me. If you are willing to immediately start looking for a job in her area, and taking it even if it's a downgrading for you.. frankly I don't see what she could object about that.
I also... (read in full...)
How can I get over someone I still love? And did I make a terrible mistake?
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A. 17 October 2012: Sorry I am a bit confused about something.
You say that you hinted that now you'd be willing to take a bad job to get you living together asap - and you also say that you would not become unemployed voluntarily.
I don't understand well, wh... (read in full...)
How can I get over someone I still love? And did I make a terrible mistake?
Q. Hi all Ive been with my partner for four years now- its been a distance relationship..seeing each other weekends only and it has not always an easy thing. But we have had amazing times. Neither of us were willing to give up good jobs that w...
A. 17 October 2012: No, I don't think it was a mistake. A two hours commute is an unbelievable sacrifice ( heck, I would not do that to feed my starving babies, if I had starving babies ! ) and she can't ask you to do this kind of sacrifice , or you volunteer to do ... (read in full...)
Advice on how to stop worrying over someone's sexual past?
Q. Okay so for those of you who are going to say "get over it" or "the past is the past" please dont bother. For the rest of you here is the problem. I am a virgin, i have only ever kissed(by kissed i mean a peck that lasted 1 second) a girl before, ...
A. 17 October 2012: OP, first of all let's be clear about something : at 16-17 , you haven't waited for " so long ", you haven't waited diddly squat, also considering that ,in most States of your country, age of sexual consent is 18 and if you'd have sex now you'd go ... (read in full...)
GF doesn't like her engagement ring, what do I do?
Q. I recently proposed to my girlfriend who said yes. Our wedding is in March and she just finally told me that she doesn't like her ring because people don't know it's an engagement ring when they see it and it won't match her dress and clothes. It's ...
A. 17 October 2012: OP, while there's no law that says an engagement ring must be white, and while a blue sapphire was good enough for the Princess of Wales, right ?,... that's not the point , the point is that your fiancee wanted something that screamed, that yelled ... (read in full...)
He's not interested in providing for me if he passes away. Is he being selfish?
Q. Hi I remarried in May this year, we both have grown up kids,I have 4 he has 2, He owns our house,and is buying another house to rent out, we have no life insurance, and Im worried that if he dies before me, I will have nothing,he always said his...
A. 16 October 2012: He is being a normal dad, who has been working all his life in the intent to provide for his own children and guarantee their economical future.
Your children have a father too, and he is the one who is supposed to do likewise for the futu... (read in full...)
Advice on how to stop worrying over someone's sexual past?
Q. Okay so for those of you who are going to say "get over it" or "the past is the past" please dont bother. For the rest of you here is the problem. I am a virgin, i have only ever kissed(by kissed i mean a peck that lasted 1 second) a girl before, ...
A. 16 October 2012: You have already received very good advice, and personally I am the worst person ever to advise about RJ because I start an authomatic eye roll as soon as I read a post about it, I just can't relate, frankly it seems to me the biggest mental ... (read in full...)
GF doesn't like her engagement ring, what do I do?
Q. I recently proposed to my girlfriend who said yes. Our wedding is in March and she just finally told me that she doesn't like her ring because people don't know it's an engagement ring when they see it and it won't match her dress and clothes. It's ...
A. 16 October 2012: The girl is coming off as bratty and looking real bad, so I want to try being the devil's advocate and champion her cause.. even if I see it's sort of a desperate endeavour :)
While personally I think I would not have had the nerve to ask for ... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear to women that I am NOT interested in dating right now?
Q. I'm scarred by a bad breakup. Now, I have a NASTY impression of the dating world. I have 2 questions. First, how do I give the signal to girls in general, that I'm NOT in the mood to date, so that they can look for someone that'll actually be ...
A. 23 September 2012: Thanks OP and.. just go with your guts .
Dating is not necessarily as complicated and fraught with danger and heartbreak as you make it , but if you do not feel like inviting/getting invited, asking out / being asked out , that's perfectly fine... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear to women that I am NOT interested in dating right now?
Q. I'm scarred by a bad breakup. Now, I have a NASTY impression of the dating world. I have 2 questions. First, how do I give the signal to girls in general, that I'm NOT in the mood to date, so that they can look for someone that'll actually be ...
A. 23 September 2012: OP, you are getting me all confused .
But, do you want to go out on dates, or do you NOT want to go out on dates, and focus on your studies instead ?
Do you want to ask girls out ( and kiss them and what not ) or do you NOT want etc.etc.... (read in full...)
Is this younger man interested in me or am I imagining things?
Q. Well I am in a little dilemma. I work with this really cool, nice man (he is 32) and I am 42. I know age difference ei. well dilemma is that recently I noticed that he gives me this looks and big smiles often and always compliments me. He usually ...
A. 20 September 2012: I think you are really overthinking this. For some reason of his, this is clearly a no go and he is unavailable to get closer. Don't feel bad about it, but also please don't feel you have to do something special to change the situation.
Just be y... (read in full...)
Is this younger man interested in me or am I imagining things?
Q. Well I am in a little dilemma. I work with this really cool, nice man (he is 32) and I am 42. I know age difference ei. well dilemma is that recently I noticed that he gives me this looks and big smiles often and always compliments me. He usually ...
A. 17 September 2012: He does not sound particularly interested, IMO. And if he has already a girlfriend, if he is interested in you, that's surely not for a relationship.
You may have read too much into a normal friendliness, or he may be just of one those natu... (read in full...)
How do I make it clear to women that I am NOT interested in dating right now?
Q. I'm scarred by a bad breakup. Now, I have a NASTY impression of the dating world. I have 2 questions. First, how do I give the signal to girls in general, that I'm NOT in the mood to date, so that they can look for someone that'll actually be ...
A. 13 September 2012: I am perplexed. No offence, I am totally willing to believe that you are attractive, nice, intelligent and full of qualities, but, unless you are a rockstar or a tycoon or anyway someone quite exceptional , I don't think you'll have much of a ... (read in full...)
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