Casual Nudity with Mother In Law
Q. This past summer, my wife, kids, and I went on vacation with my in-laws. We shared a lovely condo on the beach. Since we were at the beach, I went shirtless most of the time and typically just wore my swim shorts or athletic shorts with no underwear ...
A. 24 March 2021: Given your age, I am probably of a similar age to your MIL. I am definitely no prude but there are boundaries that people usually acknowledge as a mark of respect to others. One of those is throwing on a covering if other people are around, even if ... (read in full...)
My uncle stepped in after my father passed away. Would it be appropriate to ask him to walk me down the aisle when I marry?
Q. When I was 10 years old, my father passed away. My uncle (my dad's brother) stepped up to the plate and helped my mom, my brother and I out. My uncle was single with no kids of his own and he always spent time with my brother and I, even before my ...
A. 23 March 2021: Absolutely yes. Your uncle has no biological children of his own but has been a father figure to you and your brother since his brother died, effectively helping to raise you both. I am sure he will consider it an honor and be delighted to walk you ... (read in full...)
My fiance and I are considering become a throuple with her ex girlfriend
Q. I've been with my fiancee Becky for 8 years, we got engaged in 2018 and are getting married in 2022; it was planned for 2020 but got cancelled, first due to our work schedules from January to March, and now the coronavirus pandemic. I'm 38, my wif...
A. 20 March 2021: Why has this ex suddenly reappeared in your fiancee's life? Where was she all the years between them finishing their relationship and now, 15+ years later? She obviously managed quite well without her for all that time so that would be my first ... (read in full...)
I was brave and told a co-worker how I felt but he's sort of left me hanging
Q. I have recently bravely declared my feelings to a colleague *R whom has recently left the supermarket Morrisons company a week ago to train for a new working from home job. Me and R shared banter and bonded well. I told him one to one privatel...
A. 20 March 2021: I think you need to take the good out of this encounter and use it to move forward with your life. I believe people often come into our lives to serve a specific need. In your case, this man came into your life to support you for a short while and ... (read in full...)
My ex lover wants me to send back the vibrator he gave me as a present
Q. This is a pretty bizarre and embarrassing question, but I need someone to tell me what I should do. I dated a guy for just over a couple of months, and it was pretty intense fairly fast (this was when the pubs and bars were still open). He got me...
A. 19 March 2021: I can completely understand why you don't want to send this particular toy back and totally agree with you that his request is creepy in the extreme.
In your shoes I would handle this one of two ways: either smash up the toy and send him a pictur... (read in full...)
How can my family help my sister with an abusive mentally relationship? The police won't step in
Q. I have three sisters. One of my sisters, Victoria (not real name), who's 36, left her partner due to domestic violence (after a 1.5-year long relationship, they moved in together not long into the relationship and she only moved in with him to g...
A. 17 March 2021: My faith in the police has been eroded over many years of negative personal experience. In the UK at the moment, the police seem to have unlimited resources to arrest someone for visiting an elderly vulnerable relative but claim they don't have ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend said that he does not know what will become of us. What does this mean?
Q. Hi everyone. I am in need of some advice on how to move forward in my situation. I have been with my partner for 9 years. We split up two months ago because over the past year we have been in lockdown together (both working from home) and over t...
A. 16 March 2021: In a nutshell: (1) I doubt he has a new girlfriend and (2) he tells you he is not sure what will happen to you as a couple because he genuinely hasn't worked out yet what is best for him.
It is quite difficult to go "cold turkey" from a 9 year r... (read in full...)
Why would my new boyfriend still be talking to his old girlfriend?
Q. Hey y'all. My boyfriend of 6 weeks and I have run into some interference from his ex girlfriend of 8 years. He moved to my country and we started dating after he broke up with her. She was not in touch with him at all during those 6 weeks and then ...
A. 16 March 2021: He's still in contact because, as you have witnessed with your own eyes, they are not really "over" yet. He has jumped into bed with another female (you) to fill the void in his life but his heart is still with the old girlfriend. If the old ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend and I fought and haven't spoken in a week. His bday is coming what should I do?
Q. I quarreled with my boyfriend a week ago He asked me to call him late at night, but I couldn't because my sister was asleep So he was upset and made it a reason not to speak to me for so long.His birthday these days I don't know what to do, w...
A. 14 March 2021: Are you sure he still sees himself as your boyfriend? Perhaps the silence is his way of ending the relationship?
Or is this the way your relationship normally runs? If so, you need to decide whether this is how you want to live your life, wi... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend is lying to me again she has a history of doing so
Q. Can anyone help me with the math here because i think i'm being lied too by the woman i'm currently seeing. She text me good morning at 08.00, then another text at 08.57 asking how day was going. At 09.36 she text and said she was having bre...
A. 14 March 2021: You have to decide, once and for all, whether you trust her or not. If you do, then you have to stop going through everything she says with a fine tooth comb, trying to catch her out on a lie. If you DON'T trust her, why are you still with her? You ... (read in full...)
My wife suddenly wants an open marriage and wants me to date her friend but she doesn't want anyone else
Q. My wife Katherine wants us to have an open marriage and her reasoning for it is "most guys want another woman on the side and you'll probably have one anyway; I don't want another man on the side at all, you're the only man for me." She wants me t...
A. 13 March 2021: How sad that your wife is holding you to account for something others did to her. It is so true that, if you don't heal what hurt you, you will bleed on those who didn't cut you. I am so sorry you are in this situation.
I suspect, if you did what... (read in full...)
Should I tell his wife? I found out I was dating a married man
Q. I dated this guy who has a 13-year-old daughter for the past 18 months, he told me he was separated, thought nothing of it; his daughter likes me. Then I later find out a week ago he's still legally married to his wife; his wife's a nurse and she ...
A. 13 March 2021: I can understand this has knocked your self esteem and your faith in your own judgement. However, that is no reason to involve this man's wife and to hurt her. She is not the one who has caused your upset. Telling her will not make you feel better ... (read in full...)
Should I report my housemate to his employers?
Q. Okay everyone I know I’m being bitter but I’m just really pissed off at my housemate. Throughout this pandemic we’ve worked from home, but the thing is, he doesn’t actually do any work. He will tend to his emails in the morning for around 10 minutes ...
A. 13 March 2021: Why are you picking up his and other people's work? What would happen if you sat back and refused to do anything but your own work or your fair share of work? Without knowing what type of work you do, I don't know if that's possible. Would it bring ... (read in full...)
I don't love my live in boyfriend anymore but I can't get him to leave
Q. Hey everyone. Hoping someone can give me some advice in regards to my relationship. I'm a 32 year old woman and my boyfriend is the same age. We've been together coming up 5 years. Our relationship was on and off at the beginning. He would b...
A. 9 March 2021: Sorry but I had to laugh at the part where you wrote that he couldn't go back to his parents because he classes himself as an "independent man". On what planet is this man-child independent? You are supporting him and yourself while he lounges ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is jealous of my deceased husband. I can't take the stress
Q. I really need help and advice. My bf ( partner ) and me are almost 6 years together already. I am widow and he is divorced. His ex wife cheated on him with another man. He dont wanna get married anymore because of his divorce he lost a lots, "money ...
A. 7 March 2021: While I totally understand your desire to be a good role model to your children, what message do you think you are sending them by staying in an unhappy abusive relationship? If one of them was in your position, with a partner whose behaviour was ... (read in full...)
How to deal with elderly mom who accuses me of stealing?
Q. My mom will be 78 this year. She is in decent physical condition, but dealing with the beginning of dementia. Despite what the doctors say, she still thinks there is a physical problem with her and that there will be some surgery, some drug, or...
A. 6 March 2021: I think Code Warrior has nailed it in his reply to you. This is not the mother you have known all your life; this is the mother whose brain is slowly starting to malfunction. It is pointless trying to reason with her because she is no longer capable ... (read in full...)
My husband's lack of attention makes me feel ugly
Q. I have found that I am the one in our marriage who says abut having sex. my husband will only say once every blue moon, do you want abit tonight otherwise it is me who says about having it. we are both in our 5Os and we have it 3 times a week but...
A. 6 March 2021: You strike me as having a very "male" attitude towards sex. By that I mean that women usually need to feel loved to want sex while men tend to need sex to feel loved. You have the latter outlook. Despite having a husband who is respectful, ... (read in full...)
He's lied to me repeatedly. How do I trust him?
Q. I come from a strict but very loving Indian family. I ended up in a relationship with a white male during lockdown 2020. So since June 2020 (had spoke online for months prior) we had been communicating. August 2020, he opened he had lied to me ...
A. 6 March 2021: To help you understand what has happened here, I would like you to try something. Take a pristine clean sheet of writing paper. Put it on the table. Flawless, isn't it? Not a mark on it. Now take that piece of paper and scrunch it up as hard as you ... (read in full...)
I'm a teacher. How do I cope with young boys coming on to me and wanting to have sex?
Q. I am a teacher. Have been in this profession for over 42 years. I am bisexual and do like young boys. For the last 8 years or so I am frequently being importuned by my students to have sex with them. Earlier it used to be older boys asking me, boys ...
A. 6 March 2021: If you've been in the profession for over 42 years, you must be at least 60. What sort of world do you live in where men of your age are approached on a regular basis by young boys asking for sex? Is this about money? Are they poor and looking for ... (read in full...)
I respect my boyfriend's need for space but my anxiety gets the better of me
Q. I've been with my boyfriend a couple of years. We've lived together for half of that and have a dog that we both love. I've always struggled with insecurity and anxiety and have been let down a lot, which I'm getting counselling for but the one thin...
A. 3 March 2021: Two posts in a row where the saying "if you don't heal what hurt you, you'll bleed on people who didn't cut you" applies.
Why are you so anxious and insecure? Does your boyfriend give you reason to feel insecure? Do you trust him? Or is this all... (read in full...)
Why is he being so overly dramatic? Is this a manipulation of some sort?
Q. I have recently started seeing a guy. Both of us have been through a divorce approximately 10 years ago for each of us. I am taking things very slowly with him, but he has said several times, "Don't break my heart. Promise me you won't break my ...
A. 3 March 2021: This is one of those times when I believe it would really pay you to trust your gut instinct. It sounds like you already know that this is a manipulation tactic. It possibly stems from fear or insecurity, but this in no way excuses his behavior.
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Why doesn't my boyfriend share pictures of me on social media?
Q. I’ve been with my boyfriend since summer 19 And he is the greatest thing that ever happened to me he’s always there for me emotionally shows me love and affection, spoils me, and is my best friend. I lost my mom to cancer in October and he has never ...
A. 2 March 2021: Forgot to add, condolences on losing your mum. x
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Why doesn't my boyfriend share pictures of me on social media?
Q. I’ve been with my boyfriend since summer 19 And he is the greatest thing that ever happened to me he’s always there for me emotionally shows me love and affection, spoils me, and is my best friend. I lost my mom to cancer in October and he has never ...
A. 2 March 2021: Given all the "false happy" pictures people post on social media, I have a theory which I have often voiced, and that is that the sign of a happy relationship is no evidence of it on social media. I have been with my partner for going on 20 years ... (read in full...)
My fiance wants too much oral sex
Q. My fiance want too much oral sex. I was just getting use to giving head and then last night he actually tried f****** me in the mouth. Holding my head while he was on his knees. I was not use to this so he hollers at me for doing it wrong. I felt ...
A. 1 March 2021: Sweetheart, is this what you want for your future? Do you think you deserve to be abused in this way? Because you need to realize this IS abuse.
Your fiance is not going to change except for the worse. He is likely to become increasingly more dem... (read in full...)
Why would a colleague send me this?
Q. I am a married man. A married female colleague of mine, whom I adore, has sent me a fresh pantyliner, what does she mean by that?...
A. 1 March 2021: Whaaaaaaaaaaaat? Seriously?
Are you sure this has come from her and not that someone hasn't sent it as some sort of weird "joke"? As you say you "adore" her, perhaps this is a colleague's way of telling you they think you are a pussy?
How doe... (read in full...)
Is there anything wrong with never coming out as gay?
Q. I am a 36 years old man who is single. I have known since I was about 13 years old that I was gay. I have never been in a relationship with anyone (male or female) and I never came out of the closet. I always hear of people coming out of th...
A. 27 February 2021: Nothing wrong as such, but I have to wonder why you are asking the question. As you are 36, you have obviously lived this way up to now. Has something changed recently?
As you are not deceiving anyone (i.e. dating and pretending your sexual p... (read in full...)
My dad plans to leave my mom but doesn't want me to tell her
Q. A week ago, my dad said he needed me to come and help him with going the supermarket and shopping. I thought nothing of it, was only trying to be a good daughter. But it later turned out he wanted me to meet his girlfriend, Rachael (not her rea...
A. 27 February 2021: I'm sorry your feckless father has put you in this position. It says a lot about him as a person, none of which is admirable.
Although there are never any guarantees with relationships, there are a few things to consider here.
Firstly, ther... (read in full...)
My married friend has hit on me. I want to stay friends but don't want to be involved
Q. I have a close relationship with a work colleague, who I have known for 15 years. Over the last few years we started running together. She would mention the negatives alit about her marriage and would flirt with me. She told me that her husband had ...
A. 25 February 2021: Sadly when two people have different agendas for a relationship, it seldom works out. You see your relationship as a friendship while she sees it as potentially much more.
I was in a similar situation to you many years ago. I didn't know the mean... (read in full...)
Whats wrong with being attracted to a married man?
Q. Hi, I’m attracted to a married man. I think he likes me too. I think one can’t help or change ones attraction that just happens and sometimes they happen to be married. Divorce happens too and maybe he’s already thinking of that so why is it so ...
A. 24 February 2021: Yep, as I suspected, definitely a wind up. Stop feeding the troll, guys. ;-)
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Whats wrong with being attracted to a married man?
Q. Hi, I’m attracted to a married man. I think he likes me too. I think one can’t help or change ones attraction that just happens and sometimes they happen to be married. Divorce happens too and maybe he’s already thinking of that so why is it so ...
A. 20 February 2021: I strongly suspect you have written this as a wind up as, unless you have the morals of an alley cat, you must realize exactly what is wrong with your "way of thinking". I am, therefore, not going to waste my time on you except to say this: GET THEM ... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable and over protective in following the guidance of the midwives and my own desires.
Q. Hi all, I am pregnant with my first child and due to give birth in the next couple of months. I have decided that due to covid and the guidelines based around it ATM I do not want my newborn to have any visitors or meet anyone from the outside...
A. 17 February 2021: It's irrelevant what anyone else thinks. You know what they say about opinions? They are like backsides: everyone has one and they all stink.
This is YOUR child. However, I would suggest trying to find some middle ground with your husband ... (read in full...)
How can I let her know she has my permission to see other men and that I find it a real turn on?...
Q. A stranger asked my wife for a date. When she told me about it I was aroused. How can I let her know she has my permission to see other men and that I find it a real turn on?...
A. 17 February 2021: Let me ask you a question: how aroused will you be when your wife decides she has had enough of you pimping her out for your sexual titilation and finds herself a man for whom she is enough without having to prostitute herself for others? Still a ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex girlfriend still have a profile picture of both of us on Facebook?
Q. Hi. I broke up with my girlfriend a month ago. I have looked at her Facebook account recently and noticed that she still has several profile pictures up of both of us as a couple and friends commenting what a nice couple we are and how happy sh...
A. 17 February 2021: Maybe she is not dating anyone because she is not yet ready or willing to date so keeping pictures on her page of the two of you together is her way of keeping the guys at bay for the time being.
As it is HER page and HER life, you don't really g... (read in full...)
My future in laws don't want to follow the guidelines for Covid-19 and I am extremely vulnerable healthwise
Q. Hi, I’m really stressed about my father in law to be. He has been breaking the lockdown rules with his two daughters and their partners the whole way through this third lockdown. However, me and my fiancé have been sticking to the rules, I’ve been...
A. 16 February 2021: The most prolific casualties of this whole Covid thing have been relationships. The uncertainty and constant changes of direction where guidelines are concerned have put tremendous stress on many people and how they relate to others. So sad that, at ... (read in full...)
My husband is leaving our family for his male best friend. I'm not sure how to cope
Q. Hello there. My husband told me last night that he's in love with his best friend and the feeling's mutual and he's prepared to move to Italy to be with him. His best friend already has a wife and a daughter; he's moved out during the pandem...
A. 13 February 2021: There is a huge difference between being a "bitter and twisted" ex and allowing yourself to be walked all over. You CAN take the middle road and not do either of those things. There is absolutely no reason why your husband cannot fly back to visit ... (read in full...)
Is this appropriate conversation between a father and daughter?
Q. do you think its appropriate for dad to tell his adult daughter in her twentys that he use to change her diapers and when he gets older she can change his ...
A. 13 February 2021: "Appropriate" seems like an odd term to use in relation to such a conversation. You obviously DON'T feel it is "appropriate", otherwise you would not have written in and asked the question. I would not call it "inappropriate"; I might, however, call ... (read in full...)
Is this normal for someone who stopped speaking and just block you on one thing and keep on other stuff ?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm not really asking for help just seeing If anyone else has had this happen I was with this guy for 5 months last year who I found out he has a trust issue and holds a barrier up if he gets too close to someone Anyway cut long s...
A. 13 February 2021: What I find strange is that you are allowing him to have that degree of control over your life. Take the initiative, block HIM and move on. You say there is no going back, so tidy up the mess and move on with a clean slate. You deserve better. ... (read in full...)
My cousin is obsessed with having the perfect baby
Q. I don't know what to think... I understand that my cousin is under a unimaginable amount of stress, but her egotism is getting the best of her. Long story short, we're in our mid forties. Since she couldn't find a guy, she decided to have a child ...
A. 12 February 2021: This whole drama - because that is what is being created here - is taking its toll on you, so I have to ask, why are you so involved? I get your cousin is family, but she is also an adult and has worked out for herself what she wants in life. It may ... (read in full...)
Should I get to know him again? I was not attracted to him in the past
Q. Someone who i used to speak to has recently got in contact with me again ,when we used to be friends , he said he was attracted to me i never felt the same way . Shall i get to know him again ? i try to meet people to take my mind of things but in ...
A. 12 February 2021: So he fancies you, you don't fancy him, but you are contemplating meeting up with him because you are looking for some distraction from your hurt? Put yourself in his shoes and ask yourself how you would feel if someone did that to you. Pretty ... (read in full...)
How do I keep my distance from my brother without interfering in our kid's friendship?
Q. My brother and I stopped talking to each other about fifteen years ago. We never got along when we were kids and we have nothing in common. Growing up, when we did try to do things together, we just ended up getting into a fight. So after our last ...
A. 12 February 2021: Well, it looks like your kids - yours and your brother's - have taken matters into their own hands, regardless of what their fathers are doing. As this has already happened, I see no issue in letting it continue, especially as it doesn't look like ... (read in full...)
My ex treats me like a friend with benefits
Q. When you and your guy break up after years of being in a relationship. Why would the ex boyfriend say he wants to be friends, yet when HE wants sex then he’s all over me trying to get some and that’s ok to happen. But other times when he’s over my ...
A. 11 February 2021: Why is he doing this? Because YOU are allowing it. Simple as that. Despite the split, you are desperate to hold onto him, at any cost. If you can't love yourself enough to understand you deserve better than this, then he will carry on using you for ... (read in full...)
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