I am really in love with my male teacher. should I date him?
Q. i am really in love with my male teacher. should i date him?...
A. 19 June 2021: Short answer: no way in hell.
Long answer: given your total lack of information, I suspect this may just be a wind up because you already know how most aunts and uncles on this site will react so you are having a bit of fun with us.
However... (read in full...)
The pandemic has made me question my marriage and ponder divorce
Q. Since March of last year I have been full-time telecommuting. My spouse is unemployed and has been for a few years now although she always worked before. She quit her job because it was stressful to her and I make so much more money than she does...
A. 16 June 2021: While I can totally understand all the points you are making, have you actually sat your wife down and asked her, gently and sensitively, why she acts as she does? I ask this because, to me, she sounds like she may be suffering with her mental ... (read in full...)
I'm shocked at how blinded I was by online man I gave money to
Q. Hi and thank you!! So I'm dating a man who unfortunately is consumed with money ots money this, money that. Huge turn off to me. Sure we all need it but it doesn't consume me. Seems hes always broke always needing something. I need groce...
A. 16 June 2021: Asking him not to contact you is a bit of a cop-out. You need to block him to ensure there is no way he CAN contact you.
It is quite obvious he is a scammer. How dare he verbally abuse you because you don't have the money he wants you to send him... (read in full...)
I am furious at my boyfriend's female friend!
Q. So I have been with my partner 3 years now. Over that time he has had a friend of the opposite sex. That he had known for years but not seen in person in a long time, think social like 3x in the time he has known her, long before he met me. My gut f...
A. 16 June 2021: Your boyfriend has been very straight with you and removed her from both your lives. Why would you want to make contact with her and bring her back into your lives? I can totally understand your need to stick it to her but, really, he has already ... (read in full...)
My husband can't get his ex out of our lives and wants me to play matchmaker
Q. I've been married to my husband for 7 years now, met him in March 2014 when he was 36. No kids, we live an OK existence, not mega-rich but not in major financial struggles even with covid. A bit wealtheir than middle-class, but not living in a ...
A. 12 June 2021: "My husband told me he's conflicted about how to deal with Nelson without upsetting both of us."
What the hell? YOU are his wife. YOU should be his first priority. YOU should be his No 1 concern.
Also, just because he has "done favours" f... (read in full...)
My Sister's Need For Online Sexual Validation Is Worrying Me, HELP!
Q. My younger sister and I both live at home with our aging parents (we both work, though, and are just doing it to save money). We were both also raised Muslim, though I am not even Muslim any more and our parents, family are OK with this. Like, my ...
A. 12 June 2021: While I can totally understand your concerns (I would be the same if this was my sister), she is an adult and, presumably, of sound mind, hence can behave as she wishes, damaging as it could be. There is obviously a deep hurt or emptiness somewhere ... (read in full...)
I bought a house abroad and now I'm worried I made a bad decision
Q. I am a. 53 year old woman who split from my long-term partner a few years ago. Without going into detail my life has been very tough, there is no 'family wealth' and I spent most of my life caring for others whilst trying to make some headway ...
A. 12 June 2021: I can totally understand you falling in love with Tuscany. I have visited friends out there a couple of times and totally loved the place.
The only thing I would say is that life moves at a very different pace out there in comparison to, say, Eng... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is still communicating with the women he cheated on me with
Q. Hello and thanks So my bf and I have been together about 3 years. In the beginning he was cheating and I found out and he apologized and I had to regain my trust in him. Unfortunately he was an Instagram account and hes got the woman he cheated...
A. 11 June 2021: Only you can decide whether this is a "big deal". Only you can decide where your boundaries are. Only you can decide how you allow people to treat you. Only you can decide how much respect you expect from people.
Everyone is different. Everyone... (read in full...)
Was he role playing or is he really bothered by this new guy at work?
Q. I’ve been having sex with this guy I work with. We’ve slept together on and off for a few years but the last time before now was 2 years ago and we started working at the same place 7 months ago. When I first started working there, we weren’t ...
A. 11 June 2021: Just a suggestion: find yourself a real relationship with someone who wants to be with you and only you, then you won't have time (or feel the need) to big yourself up and write nonsense. You'll be busy doing what you should be doing: living your ... (read in full...)
I need to understand why I cheated on my boyfriend when I'm so against cheating
Q. 2 days ago I cheated on my boyfriend with his best friend. I know relationships are never perfect, and ours isn’t either, we’ve had so many ups and downs, but we always work through them. we never give up on each other. he’s fucked up and he ...
A. 7 June 2021: To discover who someone really is, you need to watch their actions, not their words. Words are cheap and, if not backed up by actions, mean absolutely zilch. Always remember that.
You SAY you love your boyfriend but then offer yourself up to an... (read in full...)
I am always mentally abused in relationships. Is it me?
Q. Dear cupid I am married to my current husband for 2 years and dated him 4 years prior. This is my second marriage and his first My first marriage was abusive marriage, so we divorced and my ex-husband still tried to reach out to me and wan...
A. 4 June 2021: I doubt your husbands magically turned into abusers after marriage to you. That leaves two possible scenarios:
1. There were warning signs of abuse before you married each one but you chose to ignore them and get married regardless, or
2. You ... (read in full...)
How to approach women in this day and age?
Q. Hey guys, was hoping for some advice. Preferably advice from anyone living in the UK for various reasons of which I’ll get to, but of course any advice would be appreciated. Basically I’m single for the first time in my adult life. I was with...
A. 3 June 2021: Stop overthinking it. Don't view women just as potential girlfriends but rather as potential friends. Once you are at that point, it is far easier to ask them out for a date.
Don't be afraid to admit you have little experience of dating. You have... (read in full...)
Was he role playing or is he really bothered by this new guy at work?
Q. I’ve been having sex with this guy I work with. We’ve slept together on and off for a few years but the last time before now was 2 years ago and we started working at the same place 7 months ago. When I first started working there, we weren’t ...
A. 3 June 2021: Why do you refer to him as "my guy" when he clearly is only interested in you for booty calls? By hooking up with you occasionally, he is keeping you on a back burner while offering you no commitment or love, just sex as and when he feels horny and ... (read in full...)
Did I miss my chance with him because I didn't speak up?
Q. I am so confused and hurt right now. I was texting and chatting with a guy I have known for a long time during lockdown . Wee started flirted and phoned each other he called me his, "wifey" was very forward when he was drinking mostly over text wit...
A. 3 June 2021: Should you ask him why what? Why he had a bit of fun with you during lockdown but decided against taking it further? Why, in the end, he only saw you as a friend? Why he met someone else he preferred?
No, don't give him the satisfaction. Take a d... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hurts me unintentionally during sex
Q. I have known this guy for a while, and I am happy. We have what i think is a normal sex life, but He sometimes hurts me unintentually when we make love. I know that he likes us to make love alot and I like it too but sometimes I have to ask him to ...
A. 1 June 2021: What do you mean when you write you don't want to "anger him again"? Are you scared of him? Has he hurt you in the past? Are you sure the bruises he inflicts on you are "accidental"? What sort of bruising are we talking about here? Is it, as I ... (read in full...)
I am very angry at my boyfriend for staring at some random woman's ass!! I am having a hard time getting over this
Q. I am so ANGRY right now! My boyfriend and I have issues with trust. We went for our first couple's counselling appointment today. While in the waiting room, this blonde woman came out to get a drink of water at the cooler. I think she was one of the ...
A. 29 May 2021: You say you are a beautiful woman with no self esteem issues, but I would seriously question the latter. I suspect you suffer from an external locus of identity. You measure your self worth against external factors such as your physical appearance ... (read in full...)
My father hired a private investigator and is convinced I'm gay and having an affair
Q. My wife told me she'd received an angry phone call from my dad at 8am yesterday accusing me of cheating and having a gay relationship, and she doesn't believe a word of it. Apparently dad had hired a private investigator to follow me because he'd ...
A. 29 May 2021: Wow! Just wow! I am shocked (not to mention furious) that your father feels he has some right to hire a PI and to attempt to wreck your marriage! What the hell is wrong with him? Even if he believed you were cheating on your wife, surely the ... (read in full...)
My sister broke up with her boyfriend for a new guy and now I don't want to talk to her
Q. My sister 33 left her bf of 6 years in December. She didn't tell me they were having problems until after the breakup. Then she suddenly met someone else and was saying how happy she is. Her ex did so much for her so I stopped talking to her after ...
A. 29 May 2021: Do you actually have a question for us? I can't see one in your post. All I see is that you are jealous of your younger sister and have, rather self-righteously, decided to "punish" her for not living her life as you live yours.
You met her ex a... (read in full...)
She says she likes me and we have so much in common but it's the age gap
Q. I had one of the best nights of my life with a beautiful woman last week and I’d really love to take things further with her and start a relationship but whilst she said she really likes me the age gap between us seems to bother her a lot. The thing ...
A. 29 May 2021: I don't think you are being delusional at all. However, your stumbling block is how SHE feels, not how YOU feel.
I think you need to sit down with her and discuss this at length. Don't start the conversation with the one-track goal of changing... (read in full...)
Let him be a real Dad to our daughter
Q. Hi all, I have a daughter with an ex boyfriend, our daughter was fostered by my cousin. Our daughter is eleven this month, she is fully aware of who her real parents are and speaks to us regularly. Since about six months old her foster parents have ...
A. 28 May 2021: Sorry, I really cannot understand your post. WHO exactly is putting these restrictions on your daughter's father? You say you, she and her foster parents have no objections, so who is putting these obstacles in his way to being with his daughter? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is very clingy
Q. My new bf is really clingy. I'm 33 and he's 29 and I adore him but he is always needing to be touching me somehow, or hugging or kissing and k find it really overwhelming. I tell him and he gets upset or offended as if I don't like him when I say ...
A. 28 May 2021: When people speak of abusive relationships, they are usually referring to things like being shouted at or physically hurt. However, a complete refusal to respect a partner's wishes and boundaries is, in my opinion, just as abusive and no less ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is addicted to sex
Q. So thanks so much for all the help with this problem in advance. I have been in a long term relationship of 8 years , like every couple we have our quarrels but we see them through and remain committed to our relationship. However I am starting...
A. 27 May 2021: When it comes to relationships, and especially sex, I hate to use terms like "normal" because everyone is an individual and what is "normal" is one person is not to another.
The crucial factor here is that you are not happy or comforta... (read in full...)
Are my parents right to take such drastic action to stop me drinking underage ?
Q. are my parents right to take such drastic action to stop me drinking alcohol underage ? in the past couple of weeks i have been coming home drunk ( NOT ON SCHOOL NIGHTS )my parents said they are worried and unless i stop drinking they will have to ...
A. 24 May 2021: I'm pretty sure you left a post or two a while back along similar lines, accusing your parents of being too harsh. A quick search on your username also throws up similar posts from today and a couple of weeks ago about your parents being harsh on ... (read in full...)
I'm losing trust in my family. Everything is left up to me
Q. I am 55 and look after 2 disabled parents and sister. I always feel like i am not doing enough. Brothers do help but everything is organised and does not always work. Like Monday to Friday i do whatever i need too for my parents. Have no family of ...
A. 24 May 2021: Have you actually discussed this situation with your brothers, or do you just let it all fester and keep quiet? Sadly I have seen this similar situation in families before, where there is one person who does a lot more giving than the others. As ... (read in full...)
Is his behavior normal? Or suspicious?
Q. Pretty much looking for opinions please. Would you think someone would go to the pub (till 1am), go home on their own and stay awake for a further 4 hours? This is after consuming a lot of vodka and have work at 9am. For a bit of backgrou...
A. 24 May 2021: Whatever the explanation for his strange behaviour (and yes, I agree it IS odd), you obviously don't trust him so why are you still hanging onto this relationship, especially as he can't even decide if he wants to be with you or not? I suspect his ... (read in full...)
My sweet boyfriend has turned into a really unpleasant man
Q. Hello thanks for your comments and advice in advance! So me and my bf have been together 3 years. At the beginning he was so sweet, caring, loving and thoughtful. This last year has been like a nightmare. Thankfully I didn't accept his propo...
A. 24 May 2021: You are finding it difficult to end the relationship because you are still under the illusion that, underneath that cheating, abusive and manipulative character is the old sweet, kind, caring boyfriend you fell for. You need to understand the ... (read in full...)
My son received inappropriate photos from a classmate. How to proceed?
Q. My son, John, who's 16, told me yesterday he received two inappropriate photos from a classmate. Here in Canada, schools in our area are doing remote learning. We don't know when in-person classes will resume. My son showed me a WhatsApp he...
A. 24 May 2021: In your shoes I would, first and foremost, make sure these photographs are actually coming from "Steve". This could be a "prank" from someone else. Don't go wading in without absolute proof. I would phone the number the photographs came from (off a ... (read in full...)
He's the one who has cheated yet he doesn't trust me
Q. Hello, dear cupid, I want to know something about my boyfriend's behaviour. I've been dating him since the past five years it's a long distance relationship,we met in a youth conference, he asked my number and after that we started chatting and ...
A. 24 May 2021: Sweetheart, if he is speaking to you in this abusive manner already, how do you think he will treat you if you are ever together for real? He is giving you a taste of what life will be like with him and you should be hearing loud sirens blaring and ... (read in full...)
Is the issue myself or does the world just think I'm not worth it?
Q. Hey, 23 soon to be 24 in about 3 weeks, lady wondering why on this moss and water covered rock why no males my age seem interested in me. From looking online, to putting myself on dating sites and just existing sometimes offline, no one seems to ...
A. 22 May 2021: Without knowing anything about you apart from what you have shared in your short post, there is no way any of us can realistically advise you on relationships, including finding one.
The only thing I would say is that you need to stop this ins... (read in full...)
Wife has a day planned with her friends that I want no part of
Q. My wife is planning a big family day out in the next few weeks with all of her friends and our/their kids but I really don’t want to go. I can tell she’ll give me grief if I tell her though because it’ll be our first proper day out since the end of ...
A. 20 May 2021: If it's the transport which she really wants, then why not offer to drop her off and pick her up afterwards so she can still have a drink and enjoy herself with her friends, but you won't have to endure the outing? ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't want me to get a dog. Is this petty? Or controlling?
Q. Hi guys and gals So for the past 5 years I have been in a relationship with a man who has massive anxiety issues, ocd , depression and has control issues to which be has admitted. Before I start I should mention, we are not engaged , we do ...
A. 20 May 2021: What sort of a relationship is this where, after 5 years "together", you only see each other once a week for 4 hours? Is it just to meet up for sex? (Sorry, I have to ask.) Why have you allowed this man to exercise control over your life for so ... (read in full...)
Advice on how to deal with people with different communication style.
Q. Dear Cupid, I've struggled for a long time with people who have a different communication style. Just to help you understand my own communication style, I often respond to messages, and try and do it quickly so as not to inconvenience others, I feel ...
A. 18 May 2021: Op, having just read through your numerous responses (because I've not had time to check this site for a couple of days), I am starting to get a better understanding of why people may not wish to get into correspondence with you. You seem to get off ... (read in full...)
Why Is This Couple Rude To Me Every Time I See Them?
Q. I live in a small town where everyone bumps into each other often. Twice recently, a random miserable couple I do not know has been extremely rude about me loudly for no reason as I have been minding my own business! About a month ago, I was walki...
A. 16 May 2021: Let me be perfectly frank with you. What they think about you is none of your business, or even down to anything you may have done. It is all about THEM. For some unknown reason, they have decided to pick on you when they see you. Ignore them. They ... (read in full...)
What if a guy cups your face in his hand?
Q. How relevant is it if a guy cups your face in his hand? Does that mean he has deep and loving feelings towards you? Or is that a side of physical attraction? Was he thinking about a kiss? I am talking about taking one hand and gently cupping a...
A. 16 May 2021: Does this guy have a wife/girlfriend/significant other? What about you? Are you in a relationship with someone else? If the answer to either of those questions is affirmative, then the answer to YOUR question is "it was inappropriate".
If, o... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing getting married when I still have such strong feelings for my ex?
Q. I am female and i had been dating a guy for about 3 years before leaving him and meeting someone else after. We were engaged, supposedly, but after a few months of our engagement he told me he might not be able to go through with it any time soon, ...
A. 16 May 2021: Your fiance sounds like a good bloke. Set him free to find someone who loves him and him alone, which is what everyone deserves. He deserves so much better than to be your Plan B. Having experienced the hurt of being with someone who is not 100% ... (read in full...)
Advice on how to deal with people with different communication style.
Q. Dear Cupid, I've struggled for a long time with people who have a different communication style. Just to help you understand my own communication style, I often respond to messages, and try and do it quickly so as not to inconvenience others, I feel ...
A. 16 May 2021: A couple of questions: do you work and do you have any "regular" responsibilities (by that I mean things you have to do and which take priority over "communications")? I ask because, reading your post, I could not help building a mental picture of ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's career hasn't taken off and I don't want to feel like he's taking it out on me
Q. hi everyone, hope you're all well! I'm having some trouble in my relationship with my boyfriend and would really appreciate some advice.. I met my bf in a house share and we got on really well. It's been a couple of years now and we've fi...
A. 15 May 2021: So you haven't even had "an honest conversation" with him about this unpleasant and uncomfortable situation? Why? For most people, that would be the first thing to do.
You are already getting a taste of what life with him will be like when thi... (read in full...)
Is it okay to talk to an ex while dating other girls
Q. Hello, I have a question about whether it's okay to talk to an ex while dating other girls (but not boyfriend and girlfriend). Here is the story: I had just recently broken up with my ex whom I had been dating for a few years. We broke up due to ...
A. 15 May 2021: I find it interesting that you didn't feel you should tell the girl you were dating the truth as you were not in a "committed" relationship. What else would you feel it was ok to lie to her about? At what point did you think it would be appropriate ... (read in full...)
My fiance expects me to help his mother financially. I don't want this to continue
Q. Hello and thanks! So my fiancee and I have been together for 4 years. He expects that I help his mom monthly. She is always needing something. bill's, food, clothes this that. I seen a recent picture of her with nice gold earrings and a t...
A. 14 May 2021: You are being scammed. Walk away. You can do better. And no, his mother is definitely not your responsibility. If HE wants to send her money, then HE can earn it, not expect someone else to give it him. He doesn't have issues UNDERSTANDING; he has ... (read in full...)
My 17 year old song met up and had sex with a male prostitute. We don't know how to handle this
Q. My son, Carl, is 17, and told me a few days ago he had a confession; he'd slept with a male prostitute a year ago (in February), not long after his birthday. He admitted he'd paid the guy $250 (well, technically it was two payments of $125...
A. 14 May 2021: I think it is a great shame that, despite your son trusting you sufficiently to open up about what he has done, your reaction is one of anger and a wish to punish him. Take a deep breath and think this through calmly. I am hoping it is just concern ... (read in full...)
He's broken up with me 5 times in 2 years. Should I continue to see him?
Q. Hi I need some advice about a relationship I am a widow, my husband died 8 years ago and two years ago I met a lovely man and fell in love. But he has finished our relationship 5 times so far and caused me a lot of heartache. The last time it ...
A. 14 May 2021: I firmly believe the universe sends us people to teach us lessons. If we refuse to learn the lesson they were sent to teach us, they (or someone similar) will keep coming back into our lives until such time as we learn the lesson.
He's finished... (read in full...)
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