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writes: my boyfriend is going on a two week bike trip in the summer... which is a long time.. their last destination is to spend one or two days at a bike rally.. I don't feel completely comfortable with a boyfriend being in that type of environment where girls go crazy and there is a lot of nudity.He says if I want, I can fly down for those few days.. I'm tempted to do so.. but is this pathetic to do? or could it be a fun few day trip??.. I can even plan to get there a day earlier than them to settle in and fly back 2 nights later... Is this too much? I don't think it's right to go to a place like that without your significant other... Reply to this Question
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reader, TaylorChu  +, writes (13 March 2008):
 The issue at hand is trust. Are you not trusting him in how he can handle himself around adults or are you not trusting the supposed women that might try to flirt with him? You need to trust your man. You also must realize that because two people are a couple DOESNT mean they must spend every waking moment together or go on trips together each and every time. Each person is an individual and each person needs time to themselves and to enjoy their hobbies. Now if the hobby becomes an addiction and time with love ones/ family members is nil THATS when there is an issue. Let him do what he loves and come back and tell you all about it. By him offering the idea of you meeting him there shows he cares about your concerns and has nothing to hide. This is also him extending his passion to you. Just remember though if you keep thinking that every woman is going to jump your man then you will constantly stay in a paranoid state and your relationship will die from lack of trust and that is the glue in all relationships if you ask me.
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reader, desirewhitefire  +, writes (13 March 2008):
 There's no need for you to tag along. If you go, you're pretty much saying, "I don't trust you." If you feel that you really need to go, then you need to break up. No one can be in a relationship with someone and not trust them.
My husband goes to a strip club once in a while with his buddies. It absolutely does not bother me. He tells me where he's going, and when he'll be home. The clubs he goes to are a little upscale, though, and not full nudity. It's more like a gentleman's club. Do I tag along with him? No. I trust him, and he has never done anything to break that trust. Unless your boyfriend has done something to make you doubt him, you need to stay home and mind your own business.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (13 March 2008):
 I think that you need to trust him more. When I first read the title of your question I thought you meant that he was going out clubbin' or something.
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