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writes:I am 16 and i'm a virgin and my boyfriend is 15.I have, for a while now, been thinking about sex with him.I would feel embarrased talking to him about it. I know that when we've been kissing before on my bed he had an erection and was embarrased to say anything.I don't know how i could talk to him about this...What should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey, I know it's a while since this question was posted but I want to thank everyone that commented and tried to help :) One person had said to me if I'm not comfortable talking about it, then I'm not ready. At the time it's hard to believe that and you just think you might always be a little bit embarrassed, but I hope any other young girls that read this can take this from me, the girl that posted that comment was totally right, you will know when you ready, and being embarrassed or uncomfortable about even talking about sex means that you are definitely not ready! I thought it would be nice to update the people that have replied to my question to let you know I did not go through with it with this certain boy. I wasn't ready and nor was he, and we actually broke up later. I can admit I have had sex now, I am 18 now not 16 and it wasn't long before my 18th birthday that I lost my virginity, I am still with the same guy now. He is also 18 and was when we had sex for the first time. I'm still with him now, we have been together over a year and we were both virgins before. We had been together over 4 months before we did it though. I'm not sure if that is too short a wait or average or whatever. All I know is that we both felt that we were ready! And I guess that's what counts.
Oh btw there were alot of concerns with pregnancy, I was aware that sometimes contraception isn't always reliable but also I wasn't going to do anything unprotected! And we always use protection!
I can say I am glad that I waited a couple more years like a few people advised!
Thanks very much everyone!!! :)
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reader, I'mheretohelpyou  +, writes (2 June 2008):
 Sex SHOULD be discussed by the people who are doing it, duh. You don't have to wait until MARRIAGE but wait until your old enough and in LOVE.
P.S, don't have sex yet, wait two years, I bet it'll feel much better, trust me!!!
PEACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (13 March 2008):
 Wait. Wait until marriage. Many people say that they admit that they regret having lost their virginity when they were soooooo young, but very few (if any at all) say that they regret losing it when they got married! *Just a thought.*
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2008): Look 16 is still a young age. Anything BUT sex should be running threw your mind. I'm as well 16 and also have a boyfriend who is 15 turning 16. We decided to have sex. Yes,we used a condom. But, condom or not it was not a bright Idea to have sex at my age. Now I'm 16 and with a belly of 3 months. I'm not saying if you have sex your going to get pregnant no matter what. I'm just saying be sure your willing to give your teen years up and be a parent it you have sex. If not just hold on. You have all your life ahead of you. Take it from someone who is your age. Sex can wait. It's not going to run away. But, your teen years could be gone in a blink of your eyes; and I DON'T recommend you take birth control pills or an adoption unless you absolutely have to. I hoe you take my advice and just lay off the sex for at lest another two years. If your boyfriend loves you he could wait. Remember you have your entire life ahead of you. Enjoy life. It's so much more complicated when you have sex. You'll find your self to notice that ones you have sex EVERYTHING will change. Your relationship begins to be mostly about sex. And once you have it your always going to want more. I'm not going to lie; sex is good. Just not at such a young age.
P.S: Remember take it from someone your age.
=o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): i would just say do ya want sex with me then if so get some condoms and get lots so then you can make sure they aren't split and if you both want sex you go for it find a place just for you and your bf to go to to have sex in peace without your parents saying don't have sex or else
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): It's probably worth mentioning that you could be charged for that - if you're over 16 in a sexual relationship with an under 16, his parents could take it to the police. Bit silly really, but just thought I'd mention it. And it's always going to be hard to talk about sex for the first time, but hopefully you've been with him long enough to be at least partially comfortable about it. If you're just lying kissing or something, you could slowly stop, and say, "You know sex? Do you think you're ready?" In a casual way! If he says yes, go for it WITH PROTECTION. Yes, I'm going to ram it down your throat like everyone else. Believe me, its a horrible mess when you think you're pregnant accidentally. I wouldnt wish it on anyone. And if he says no.. Don't pressure him into it, whatever you do, just dont. It could hurt his feelings no end and damage your relationship severely, so you must respect his choice. Good luck :]
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (10 March 2008):
 In this arena, no words are needed.
You either lead him on to the sacrificial alter
or he comes on strongly and you don't resist or have token resistance only.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): If you're not comfortable TALKING about it, you're NOT ready to DO it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): just tell him strait out hes a guy he will say yes .....
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