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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I've started a new relationship right after my divorce. This man is 18 years my senior. He makes me feel loved and wanted. We get on well and been together for 2 years now. He's got his house and I've got mine. I stay overnight at his house 3 time a week since we started seeing each other. He gives me his house key but never ask me to move in with him. And I myself have no intention to live with him. I've dreaded that living together will spoil the relaionship. I am happy with what we are doing now. Is there anything wrong with it. Please advise.
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reader, Ask oldersister  +, writes (13 March 2008):
 If you are happy, not breaking any laws or hurting anyone, I wouldn't even give it a second thought. Why would there be anything wrong with it? I don't think that reflects how committed or not committed the two of you are. It doesn't have to be "normal" to be functional.
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reader, Paladin +, writes (13 March 2008):
 There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. You appear to have a healty relationship that is working quite well. Why mess with it. If someday you to decide to move in together fine but I have know people who have gone for many many years just like you. Just have fun and enjoy your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): Its hard to see what your question is. You are in a relationship and happy with it. You ask is there anything wrong with it? Wrong like premarital sex is wrong?
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reader, Shamandalie  +, writes (13 March 2008):
I think Annalisa is right. If you're both comfortable with it then there's nothing wrong about it. I know a 58 years old lady who is divorced and has been in a relationship with a man (about her age, alittle older I think), also divorced. Each has their own place (none of them lives with their childern, they're all married or living on their own). They stay at each other's place some nights and have each other's keys but they have no intention whatsoever to move in together. And they've been together for over 10 years now.
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (12 March 2008):
 Actually I think you found a very good idea!
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reader, Annalisa + ♥, writes (12 March 2008):
 At a certain age it gets difficult moving in with someone. People get used to routines that readjusting to someone else's can be very hard!
If you are both happy as you are, why worry?
Living together would make sense if you had children together or just felt the need to be together all the time. But if you cherish your independence, stick to it and don't worry about what other people find normal.
It's your life: as long as you are honest and can talk openly to your partner, it's your right to live it the way you want to!
God bless you and good luck!
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