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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid,I am really interested in this guy but he now wants nothing to do with me. It all started when we were getting to know one another. Everything was going fine...we did get intimate with one another but we didn't have sex. Anyways it was about two months when we were getting to know one another. However, during that time period he was hot and cold towards me. He would e-mail me telling me that he didn't like me like that but when he would see me he would get all emotional with me. He was also very bitter towards me. He did tell me that he was in two major relationships...one girl was his fiance and that she was sleeping around on him. The other female just liked one of his best friends so both times he was hurt. We were argueing on facebook about how he was hurting me because he would get hot and cold towards me. Then the next thing I know we are no longer friends and he tells me that we are not cool. He tells me about my maturity level and that I should understand...what is there to understand? What is he thinking? Do you think he still likes me or does he hate me? Did I do anything wrong?Confused
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (12 March 2008):
 You're maturity level is not low-his is. Find someone who appreciates you.
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reader, SmashedBrain  +, writes (12 March 2008):
Ok, and you are wondering this because...why? Listen, you do not want a guy who from the start comes in to a relationship with BAGGAGE and could possiblie be using you as the rebound. He needs time to himself to heal himself. You can't do it for him and would be better off for the bother of you to not force a relationship while he is already in a fragile state of mind. He is uncertain about everything and why add that to your life. There's other men out there who are ready and willing, no doubt. Invest time with them.
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reader, Paladin +, writes (12 March 2008):
 I don't think you did anything wrong other falling for a loser. think about he talks to you about maturity and yet he is the one in the middle of two strange relationships. You say that he is cold to you when you are apart but somewhat romantic when your together. You also said that you haven't had sex with him. I may be wrong but it almost seems like he might only be interested in a sexual relationship and he may be playing with your emotions just to get you in the sack. I suggest you forget about this guy and find someone who will respect you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): No honey you didn't do anything wrong - he did for stringing you along like he did. The only wrong thing you did was like him.He's just not ready for a relationship and after everything thats gone on in his life he would be better off having some time on his own instead for a while instead of getting into a new relationship.Move on and just forget about this guy, he's too mixed up to know what he really wants in his life. Don't bother contacting him or replying to him until he sorts himself out.
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (12 March 2008):
 He sounds like a right prat. ITS HIM THAT SHOULD GROW UP!!!!
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