Am I an odd girl for not trying girl on girl sex at least once?
Q. Am I odd? I`m a 28 year old girl and never experimented with girls. 80% of the straight girls I grew up with and girls in school and even married girls I know tried this at least once. I mean more than just kissing. Is this common for girls to try ...
A. 26 June 2008: No you are not odd. If it's not your thing, don't worry about it. I think it's mostly hype, the ultimate bad girl behavior and for some reason it drives men wild. God only knows why, it doesn't do a thing for us girls when we see two men making ... (read in full...)
Am I destined to a life of sexual frustration?
Q. hi all i am 34 years old and i am so sexually frustrated alot as to be honest, my husband does not satisfy me sexually (we rarely have sex) but i cant help but think, is this the way i am going to feel for the rest of my life, being sexual fru...
A. 26 June 2008: Buy him books on how to please a woman, watch sexy videos, invest in some nice lingerie -- you may even try couples sex counseling. There is nothing more frustrating than not being satisfied in bed, and women are more sexual than our society allows ... (read in full...)
What should I do about having found naked pictures of her ex?
Q. What should I do about naked photos of her ex-boyfriend? Here is some background information: My girlfriend and I have been dating for 1.5 years and are getting ready to move-in together. We "joke around" about getting married and it doesn't s...
A. 25 June 2008: I vote for option #3. Once you've moved in together find the CD and help it find it's way into the nearest dumpster, preferably not one near your house or apartment and make sure you break the CD in two before placing it in the dumpster. After ... (read in full...)
Can exes be best friends? I'm a bit bothered by this...
Q. Hey all, quick question for anyone listening, Do you think that its ok for ex's to be best friends? my new gf is bestfriends with her ex and it just makes me uneasy, she assures me that its all over between then but i still cant help but be bothered ...
A. 28 May 2008: Personally it's never a good idea and you should be a bit suspicious. Normally when a romantic relationship ends, it's very painful for one or both parties involved. At best, some people will learn to rise above the pain eventually and be cordial ... (read in full...)
How do you know if he came inside you?
Q. how do you know if the guy you had sex with came into you?? we only did it for bout 5 to 7 mintues at the most...and he put it in.. i just dont know if he came or not he told me he didnt but i dont know if he was just lying to me. How will I know if ...
A. 28 May 2008: Usually after a guy cums inside you, you are much wetter than you were before. Even a bit gushy. But even if he didn't fully cum, he may have spilled just a bit of pre-cum and that can still be enough to get you pregnant. My advise is ask a ... (read in full...)
How can I play this one cool and have some fun?
Q. My BF had oral sex with another gal. He thinks I don't know about it and yet he's acting guilty. I think I'm gonna have some fun with this instead of falling apart like most women would do. This oral sex happened at work. I need lots of ...
A. 28 May 2008: You could always order the most expensive item on the menu the next time he takes you out for dinner, then flirt your ass off with the cute waiter. You could talk him into buying you an expensive outfit, or a nice piece of jewelry. You mind as well ... (read in full...)
Is it appropriate for a married man to be in touch with an ex from long before?
Q. is it appropriate for a married man to still be calling an ex from 15 years ago?...
A. 29 April 2008: No good can come out of it.... (read in full...)
This girl keeps contacting my husband! How can I get it to stop?
Q. Me and my husband have been married for 6 years and this year i found out that he had been talking to a girl for about 6 months. He says nothing hapened and so does she, but now she wont stop calling him and i am scared that as soon as i let my ...
A. 29 April 2008: You can't, but he can. If she hasn't stopped contacting him it's because she's getting mixed messages from you husband, whom I suspect is still giving her the green light. Only he can pull the plug. That is if he really wants to.... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can deal with a yeast infection without medicine??
Q. ok well i think i might have yeast infection but i dont wont to tell my dad. What are some ways i can get rid of it without a doctors medicine??....
A. 26 February 2008: You can try drinking alot of cranberry juice, but usually it takes an antibiotic to cure one. And you can do serious damage to your reproductive organs if you leave one untreated. Go do a free clinic, or see your physician and get checked out. ... (read in full...)
We rowed like we never have before after his ex called...was I so wrong in what I said??
Q. Please help me. When I first met my boyfriend I'd known of him for 6 years, working together in a mental health hospital. I had originally asked him out over email before I left my job. Then after I'd been seeing him for 3 months, I found out that...
A. 26 February 2008: Yes you over-reacted big time. So step back and let's review this more clearly. First of all, remember she contacted him. It wasn't the other way around. Secondly, he's already indicated that when he's gone over there in the past, he's taken back ... (read in full...)
I saw a flirty txt on his phone and now he won't let me see his phone bill...are guys just like that??
Q. hi, my fiance changed careers at the start of the year and has to train for 5 months. He doesnt come home at night until after 9 every night apart from Fri and Sat. When I approached the subject of setting a date for the wedding for a year and a ha...
A. 26 February 2008: I think he's definately hiding something and since you confronted him over the last thing you found, he's using it against you, making you into the bad guy here, while ignorning his own behavior. If you plan on marrying this guy, you'd better plan ... (read in full...)
Why does a man just cut contact with you?
Q. why? what makes a man cut contact with you unexpectedly even after youve asked why they are ignoring you and yet still they ignore you. why? even when you havent done anything wrong. does it take a certain type of a man to not consider your feelings ...
A. 26 February 2008: I suspect he met someone else and he's focusing on that relationship now. You don't say if you were seeing this man when he cut contact with you, or if he's an ex and you've remained friends since the break-up. But either way, he's probably ... (read in full...)
She went back to her abusive ex. How do I get her back?
Q. I met this girl on the internet. She is 28 divorced and has two boys. When i met her she said she came out of a abisive relationship that she was in for 4 yrs. I am 40 and have a son. I know i took some of the retionship for granted because she said ...
A. 26 February 2008: I think you're better off without her. Sounds like she was deceiving you all along and once you started questioning her secretive behavior and mysterious texts, she bailed out on the relationship and went back to her ex, which I suspect is the ... (read in full...)
My girl had a lot of contact with her ex when we first started, I don't know if it has continued
Q. Do you think it is possible for a person to love 2 people at the same time? My girlfriend of a few months seems to have had alot of contact with her ex when we were first seeing each other. She is the one who pursued me, not the other way around. ...
A. 14 February 2008: Ask her. Hopefully she'll be honest. And you should be prepared to hear the truth without freaking out. You didn't say how long they were together, or how long they had been apart when she started seeing you. These are also factors. I went ... (read in full...)
Should I go out with my ugly friend or hold out for someone better looking?
Q. my good friend bought me a valentines card and asked me out. i think hes ugly and am a bit embarresed by him but hes also sweet, funny and likes me for who i am on the inside. should i go out with him or wait for my ideal boy who would have my level ...
A. 14 February 2008: Nah, don't waste his time or yours. You'll just get his hopes up and then it'll be even more painful when you find someone else and move on. Thank him and be sincere about it, but don't let it go any further. Just keep him as a friend. He ... (read in full...)
I just dumped him for the 5th time in 4 years! Do guys act this crappy on purpose?
Q. I met an old flame a month ago in a club and he texted me to see if we could meet up again. I played hard to get because he has messed me about in the past. Anyway I gave in and let him come round. We just chatted, he said he had changed and we were ...
A. 14 February 2008: He sounds flighty. Some guys don't know what they want, they blow hot and cold and leave you confused. I also think dearkelja was right -- he's committment phobic. I wouldn't give him the time of day ever again. He hasn't changed. But you sure ... (read in full...)
Am I a stalker or what?
Q. I met this guy in December, had a great time (you know what I mean), and then he texts me, I meet up with him a one night. Then, we meet in a town half way, theres roses there (which I didnt notice at first), and the whole time is great. Now, I've ...
A. 14 February 2008: No, you're in love. A stalker would be driving by his house several times a day, or hiding in the parking lot where he works just to see him walk out, calling him all the time, or always constantly planting yourself where the two of you will bump ... (read in full...)
Should I live my life based on horoscopes?
Q. i want to go out with this boy who is realy funny and i think he likes me as a friend, but i dont know weather to ask him out because my horoscopes in a magazine say we shouldnt go out. what should i do???...
A. 6 February 2008: Stop reading the horoscopes and start living your life. The best decisions come from your heart and your head. Don't believe that other crap. There's not a thing to it. If you like this guy, by all means, try it out and see what happens. Good ... (read in full...)
I am controlling...how do I stop being this way
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 14 months now. We've never really had problems, but he's good looking, and a lot of girls fancy him. He's just generally a friendly guy, and that's why I love him, but I'm afraid it comes across as ...
A. 6 February 2008: You say you are "controlling" but you also say your b/f doesn't seem to mind it. So maybe you're not as controlling as you think you are -- you're just being smart to recognize what's going on around you with these other chicks. You may never be ... (read in full...)
I have some growing up to do...so how do you go from a spoiled child to acting like a responsible adult?
Q. My boyfriend and I seem to always get along and spend a lot of time with each other. Last night out of the blue he told me that he loved me and didn't want to break up with me, but lately he had something on his mind. He was worried because we ...
A. 24 January 2008: Great relationships are built on compromise. You've heard the old saying, "learn to pick your battles"...you should look at some of the arguments you and your b/f have and decide if you can just give in (let him win) a few in the future. There are ... (read in full...)
Her allergies are getting to me and it's affecting our relationship!
Q. My girlfriend has recently been diagnosed as being allergic . . . to nearly everything. In fact, when she asked the doctor for a list of everything she is allergic too, his answer was it would be easier to give her a list of what she isnt allergic ...
A. 22 January 2008: Hmmm, last time I checked being allergic to things like wheat flour, dustmites, or other irritants has nothing to do with your g/f jumping your butt for not folding the towels correctly, or in your case washing up. What I would ask is this: Does ... (read in full...)
I have some growing up to do...so how do you go from a spoiled child to acting like a responsible adult?
Q. My boyfriend and I seem to always get along and spend a lot of time with each other. Last night out of the blue he told me that he loved me and didn't want to break up with me, but lately he had something on his mind. He was worried because we ...
A. 22 January 2008: The best thing you can do for yourself is to move out of your parents house (if you haven't already) get your own apartment, get a job (okay, get the job first) pay your bills on time, don't ask for help from Mom & Dad, don't ask your b/f to float ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 4 yrs was e-mailing other girls online, is that considered cheating?
Q. I recently found out that my boyfriend of 4 yrs was e mailing other girls online behind my back. I confronted him about this and he apologized, saying that he doesnt know what he was doing and it was a mistake. He says he never met any of these ...
A. 22 January 2008: I would try to forgive him, but keep an eye on him for awhile and I wouldn't rush down the isle just yet. I'm wondering if you are his first girlfriend. If so, he may still feel like he has some exploring to do before he ties the knot with anyone. ... (read in full...)
I am controlling...how do I stop being this way
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 14 months now. We've never really had problems, but he's good looking, and a lot of girls fancy him. He's just generally a friendly guy, and that's why I love him, but I'm afraid it comes across as ...
A. 22 January 2008: Let's be real here. I don't agree with anon-e-mouse. You may trust him....but there's always going to be a concern that eventually your friendly guy will have a hard time saying no to a come on by a prettier-than-you girl. Now I realize you're ... (read in full...)
Is he dating these other women (some are prostitutes) or... is he just helping them financially, like he claims?
Q. I was dating for 1month a man who is almost double my age. I really loved him and i think he does too. But the problem is a lot of women calls him and he try to answer them by saying he is with his GF. and i told him to ask them all not to call... i ...
A. 22 January 2008: Did he actually tell you they were prostitutes, or are you just making an assumption? If they are indeed prostitutes, I can assure you he has used them for sex at one time or another. Most prostitutes are in the business to support their drug ... (read in full...)
He was abusive so I finally broke up with him! Would he have changed?
Q. I never flat out told my ex that I was going to break up with him if he kept on being abusive. But, after trying to break up with him many times I finally did. Throughout our relationship and even after I told him that it was because he was ...
A. 22 January 2008: I can totally relate to your plight! I have been with my b/f for 3 years, all of which time I have put up with his verbal abuse. He is hot-headed, loses his temper easily and often, and yells at me, calls me names, says things like "Shut the f*** ... (read in full...)
She only tolerates the missionary position, saying almost all others hurt. Can this be corrected?
Q. My girlfriend and I have regular sex, averaging once a day. When we do, she prefers a very strict missionary position. She says she has comfort/sensitivity issues and it hurts her in almost every other position. Are there any women who have felt ...
A. 16 January 2008: It could that you are well endowed in the nether region and if so, yes most positions will be out of the question. My ex husband was quite large and generally sex was uncomfortable except in the missionary position, which was boring for both of us. ... (read in full...)
We want to move in together, but he won't fix up his house to sell it, is there a bigger probem here?
Q. My boyfriend (28) and I (29) have been together for 3 years and have talked seriously about selling our own houses and buying a house together. I've been looking at the market and we decided he'd put his house on the market this spring to kick the ...
A. 16 January 2008: Some men are born procrastinators. He may not have the funds to put into his house and he may not be good at doing fix up jobs like that either. He'd rather avoid the problem, than reveal his weaknesses. If the goal is to move in together, then ... (read in full...)
Will my jealousy ruin my relationship?
Q. I am an extremely jealous person, I'll admit it. I have been dating my boyfriend for a while now and I got a "great" idea to get him a dog for Valentine's Day. Now, he is already talking about all of the time he's going to spend with it and I'm ...
A. 16 January 2008: Some of it I suspect you will outgrow with time. But for now, try to bond with the dog, so it feels more like "our baby" than "his dog". Try going along when he takes the dog on outings and maybe this will help you see it as part of your family ... (read in full...)
How can I find someone who wants more than a drunken fumble??
Q. I'm getting a bit fed up of meeting girls and nothing actually becoming of it, how do i know when a girl is actually interested and wants a bit more than a drunken fumble? How can i meet some one that i can have some good times with, i just see...
A. 13 January 2008: Stop going to bars to meet women. There's other places. You could join a book club, take up a dance class, art, pottery, guitar. You name it, you will find women there doing the same thing and you'll be less likely to be used after they've had ... (read in full...)
What can you do when you just can't get over your ex??
Q. Okay. So I'm getting over him, or trying. But there are some things that are making it impossible. One: I see him almost every day at the gym (he works there, and yes, working out does make you feel better post-break up, but not when he tries to...
A. 13 January 2008: Well you could be bold and simply ask him point blank the next time he calls, "Hey do you want to get back together again or what?"....he'll then do one of two things, he'll say yes which is why he's been calling you. Or he'll suddenly remember he ... (read in full...)
Can I have womens opinions on how to deal with my ex please??
Q. Its been a little over a month since my ex broke up with me. Yea, I still love her and want her back. But the pain is going away finally. I am going out and having fun. She is with a new guy too. But the thing is I don't think she expects me to move ...
A. 13 January 2008: Well I don't know if you broke up or she did. I also don't know how long you were together. And I don't know what issues she had that you'd like to see change. Really the only way is to simply tell her, but first you need to ask her why she's ... (read in full...)
His ex is making me self-conscious and driving me insane.
Q. My boyfriend have been dating for almost a year and a half. It has been a good relationship and he is probably my first real true love in life and he swears that I am the only one for him and he could not live without me. I've grown very insecure...
A. 13 January 2008: I don't think your b/f is over his ex, regardless of what he tells you. If they were together for 5 yrs. and then he got involved with you just 4-5 months after their break up, you are what they call "the rebound girl". That doesn't mean it can't ... (read in full...)
After my ex's explosive reaction I thought we'd never speak again (I suspect her of hypomania), but recently she's been calling, being friendly. Why?
Q. I recently broke up with my girlfriend when she didn't call me for 2wks and didn't come see me on Thanksgiving when she came home from school. I also told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania. I bro...
A. 13 January 2008: Well, I'm glad your exercising some wisdom where she is concerned. Regardless of her tone of voice when she made these comments, I don't think she'll hesitate to seek revenge on you down the road if you allow yourself to remain close enough for her ... (read in full...)
Why is I seen as so acceptable for boys to masturbate but not girls?
Q. why is i seen as so acceptable for boys to masturbate but not girls?...
A. 11 January 2008: That is an excellent question! And I believe the answer lies somewhere in the ignorace of our society to understand a woman's sexuality or believe that she actually likes sex (and orgasms with masterbation)! Men may lust after a bad girl, but they ... (read in full...)
I always "freeze" when having to take the conclusive steps to end my marriage, because of the abuses. What to do about the indecisiveness?
Q. I really need help to make a very big decision - that is to leave my husband. I am 35 - no children. What I guess I am asking is why I have deliberated over it for so long when the evidence that we are not right for each other is so obvious. I ha...
A. 11 January 2008: I believe you are suffering from the fear of the unknown. Although your husband is emotionally abusive you have someone to come home to at night; a known environment which is to some people, better than the big "unknown" of being alone. It takes ... (read in full...)
How can I be happy again?
Q. Hi everyone. I've had a bit of a bad day: Today I felt chest pains as I woke up in the morning (people have informed me this is a sign of stress). Then later in college I began to feel very sharp pains when I sat up straight. I found out yester...
A. 10 January 2008: Oh Andy, I feel your plight!...One of the things we women are famous for doing when we're feeling low like this, is to have a make-over if you will. Take a good look in the mirror. Is it time for a new hair cut? A new hairstyle that will bring ... (read in full...)
After my ex's explosive reaction I thought we'd never speak again (I suspect her of hypomania), but recently she's been calling, being friendly. Why?
Q. I recently broke up with my girlfriend when she didn't call me for 2wks and didn't come see me on Thanksgiving when she came home from school. I also told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania. I bro...
A. 10 January 2008: You are a nobel man. My hat is off to you. But go cautiously into your new frontier. I never said you should tell her to "f*** off"..... But I am all too familiar with the type of woman you have described in your original post and I can tell you, ... (read in full...)
After my ex's explosive reaction I thought we'd never speak again (I suspect her of hypomania), but recently she's been calling, being friendly. Why?
Q. I recently broke up with my girlfriend when she didn't call me for 2wks and didn't come see me on Thanksgiving when she came home from school. I also told her of my suspicions that she may have a mild bi-polar disorder called hypomania. I bro...
A. 9 January 2008: I have no idea, but I think you need to stop being available to her. She does have problems and fails to recognize her own bizarre behavior. Don't answer your phone next time, and avoid her from here on out. She either has this disorder as you ... (read in full...)
My soon-to-be wife has unrespectful teenage children. The situation straightens for only a few days every time I try to correct it.
Q. I need some advise from anyone who will provide so that its coming from others besides me. My question is.... My soon to be wife has two children. They talk to her with no respect..they yell at her...backtalk, and if she tells them no, they question ...
A. 9 January 2008: Your wife has no backbone when it comes to dealing with her kids and as a result they are walking all over her. I suspect their father was the discplinary in the household before they got divorced and she was nothing more than a talking head. And ... (read in full...)
How do I get counselling without my parents knowing about it?
Q. hi after the sexual attacks that have happened to me in my past, and the names my parents shouted and called me weni told them really upset me and i will never tell them anything again. i now have my father in particular but along with the rest of ...
A. 9 January 2008: Talk to your school, there should be a guidance counselor, or some other form of counselor available to students who go there. She/He may be able to help you or refer you to someone who can. You must stop abusing yourself, that is not the answer. ... (read in full...)
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