does deleting his texts and not telling me anything make my husband guilty off something
Q. Hi i have been married for 21 years my husband is a lorry driver,he started going into a cafe about three years ago for his breakfast and became friendly with the owners her husband knows mine through the lorrys as hes also a lorry driver,but his ...
A. 7 March 2012: If I were you, I'd start going to the cafe with him for breakfast! And keep going every day. If he suggests a different restaurant say no. You really LOVE their food. Tell him it'll be romantic for the two of you to have breakfast together again. If ... (read in full...)
I slept with a married man thinking he was single and now he won't explain himself!
Q. I slept with a married man he acted single but now I fell for him a he is ignoring me he doesn't email, text or anything not even to apologize to me. How do I get closure? I feel so low and guilty about this plus I like him all @ the same time. I ...
A. 7 March 2012: Forget it. He's not worth getting wrapped around the axel for. He lied. He used you. And now he's ignoring you. He's such a toad. It's not your fault he failed to tell you he was married, so don't blame yourself. On the other hand, if you actually ... (read in full...)
I want him back but he has somebody new
Q. I really miss my ex we were together for almost a year and have been broken up for a little over a month he is seeing someone what do i do just wait for an opportunity he isn't speaking to me at all right now. The break up was his idea. And i want ...
A. 7 March 2012: Maybe he broke up with you, so he could be with her. My advice it so move on sweetie. He's not looking back, and neither should you.... (read in full...)
I'm losing my confidence as my bf keeps saying I dress like a slag!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. I am 18 years old and he is more than 10 years older than me. A massive problem has arised which is my apparent "dress sense". I am constantly called a slag and a attention seeker for wearing what I see ...
A. 7 March 2012: Your boyfriend is very insecure. I wouldn't change a thing about my wardrobe and it's time you told him to back off. He has no right to tell you how to dress. He's obviously freaking out because he's afraid other men will notice you and perhaps lure ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that he's become distant to me due to it getting close to the finalisation of his divorce?
Q. Hello, Hoping I will be able to get some answers here.. I've known a guy for nearly two years on and off (we are both in our 30s). We dated a couple of years ago, however he was going through a trial separation with his wife. During these mo...
A. 17 February 2012: Not only is he going through some weighty issues right now, but he's also wondering if he should be leaping from one relationship to another. While you have been single for awhile and are ready for the challenge he may not be. And it may just feel ... (read in full...)
He's Flirt-texting another woman. Is he thinking about cheating?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been living together for over a year now but we also have a roommate, my boyfriend's best friend. (I'll call him R). Now R has had this on again/ off again relationship with a girl (I'll call her A) for months now, and ...
A. 11 February 2012: I think you are going to have to tell him that you're uncomfortable with their relationship and ask your b/f to stop being so involved in her problems. You probably shouldn't mention what you already know about their text messages but simply tell... (read in full...)
Should my spy reply to this message?
Q. I asked a male friend of mine on FB to do some snoop work for me about a potential future boyfriend. The chap who wanted to help me ended up receiving an actual message from the guy (bf) in question telling him that a little bird told him that he's ...
A. 3 February 2012: Ignore it. Definately.... (read in full...)
Can I believe her? Did she cheat on me? Where to go from here?
Q. I am currently in a 4 year relationship with my first and only girlfriend. Up until recently our relationship has been great and there's been no scares of infidelity or anything of that nature. It was a true love story, to make a long story shor...
A. 3 February 2012: She sounds very confused about alot of things and maybe doesn't really know what she wants. This is what happens when people try to keep in contact with an ex, whether it's an ex lover or an ex boyfriend. It just clutters up the future you have ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend asks me to download porn since he doesn't have a computer!
Q. is it wrong for me getting upset that my "fiancee" watches to much porn even after i had told him that it bothers me that he do, he even watches it in front of me when we get in to a argument and even asks me to download his favorites for him ...
A. 8 January 2012: No there's nothing wrong with feeling mad over the whole porn issue, and it's perfectly okay for you to decline to download his porn onto your computer just so he can continue his addiction. Why would he need so much porn when he has a live woman to ... (read in full...)
I am not overly expressive... Is this something to be concerned about in my relationship with my guy? It does concern him.
Q. I have been with my partner for over three (3) years. We are building a house together, and our lives are moving forward. He's 25, and sometimes he does feel a bit confused about his direction, career... But we talk about it. Last night, while maki...
A. 8 January 2012: To some degree, it is a bit of a concern. Your b/f obviously reads or watches some porn. In his mind (at least) sexually charged women always make noise and appear to be having a real good time. That is not entirely realistic but I will say alittle ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my fwb guy that I am pregnant?
Q. Hi everyone I really need your help I have just found out I'm pregnant by my fwb of 9 months I have asked him if we are gonna be together someday and he said yes but how am I gonna tell him I'm pregnant he has a daughter from a previous relationship ...
A. 8 January 2012: How do you really feel about this guy? Would you want him to be in your life permanently? Do you love him? Do you think he has enough substance to deserve your love and not just your sexual whims? If you answered yes to these questions, you just... (read in full...)
The elephant in the room wont go away
Q. I wrote several months ago about my husband's old secret destroying both a marraige and friendship. Friend turned out to be an uknown to me old lover who was trying to destroy my marraige over the years by saying nasty things. I was so called ...
A. 8 January 2012: A husband and wife should never be divided over friends, yours or his. They should never be divided over family such as inlaws or siblings. A husband and wife should stick together above all other relationshps, be united and watch each other's ... (read in full...)
I lack confidence due to my very think hair
Q. This is not a relationship question per se. But it is about something that has really affected my self esteem. I'm 23 years old, female, and I have extremely thin hair. It's so thin, that my ponytail is only a bit thicker than my thumb (and I have ...
A. 8 January 2012: You say you are healthy but unless your parents are suffering from this degree of hair loss I think there could be something wrong with your thyroid. It is a typical sign. I have heard of some vitamins helping with the growth of hair. Do your home... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed by my boyfriend
Q. i met my boyfriend of 8 months at my job when i started over two years ago. i was a bartender there and my (now) boyfriend would come in with his buddies for happy hour and that is how we met. unfortunately i had a very verbally abuse n...
A. 8 January 2012: Yeah, kinda tacky on his part! So have you confronted him? And what does he say for himself? What if the roles were reversed. Has there ever been anyone that pissed him off? Maybe he too has quit or been fired from a job, and how would he feel ... (read in full...)
He says I need to trust him, but I am still jhealous
Q. I need help!! I never thought of my self to be a jealous person i never realy have been that jealous over things before, but i get realy mad when my boyfriend talks to other girls especially if i think they're 'better' than me, im always checking ...
A. 8 January 2012: Jealousy is a common, somewhat normal emotion in love relationships. And men are notorious for provoking it and then blaming us for being "jealous" like it's a defective label. It's not. It's the result of broken trust and shady behavior in a rel... (read in full...)
How do I date him again when he broke up with me saying I had bad breath?
Q. I am so embarrassed! I have been seeing this guy for 2 years, last year we broke up because he was not being affectionate with me.. he then told me that i have really bad breath. I was devastated and went to the dentist and doctor to be checked out, ...
A. 3 January 2012: OMG! That is so sad! I feel horrible for you. As a woman we always obsess about our breth. I'm assuming you chewed gum, or used mints when you had to get "close" to him. But even with that, some people really do have a high sensitivity to certain ... (read in full...)
Do you really think I'm a spoilt person?
Q. Hi everybody. Happy New Year. I have a problem that's really getting to me. A few times recently I heard my older (30 yrs) brother tell my mother that I'm spoilt. I shrugged it of the first 2x I heard because I thought that it was silly to be ...
A. 1 January 2012: Let me tell you a few things...older siblings are usually jealous of their younger siblings. Parents usually become better off financially as time goes by, so it seems to reason that if you have a child at 21 when you're two struggling kids ... (read in full...)
My family calls me Dog
Q. Dear Aunts I started gaining weight past few weeks. I wanted to lose the weight as fast as possible because people were beggining to call me names. So i told my friend, and she told me that the fast way to lose the weight is to drink cola everyday...
A. 31 December 2011: Cola has nothing in it but sugar. Sugar will make you gain weight. Plus it speeds up your appetite which makes you even more hungry. Don't waste time doing this crazy diet again. It will never, never work. You need to start exercising. Ride a ... (read in full...)
Is he more than a friend?
Q. Ok, so after 4 years after my husband's death, I think I finally found a guy worth my attention. I was online doing the dating thing and stumbled across a guy who I went to high school with 20 years ago. I asked how he has been doing, and we started ...
A. 31 December 2011: Wait a little longer. What's the rush? You have a good time together. As long as he keeps coming over the question will answer itself. Don't rush. Go slow. Savor. Enjoy. Be in the moment and not projecting too far into the future. You'll know soon ... (read in full...)
The sex in our FWB relationship is bad! How do I tell him?
Q. So my best friend and I are close. But neither of us want a relationship, but we do want an aspect of a relationship. Sex. So we have sex and because as individuals we're just the same. People probably think we date because of how much we hang out ...
A. 31 December 2011: Why in the world would you want to have a FWB who's bad in bed? The whole reason you have a FWB is because they are amazing in bed!! Dump him and move on. Trust me he won't notice you're gone. That's the beauty of a FWB it can end without ... (read in full...)
How to cheer up and forget the past!
Q. Home alone on New Years Eve, am ill and feeling sorry for myself! Fighting the urge to text the ex happy new year, (he's with someone new, not sure if he knows I know) he wanted to be single?? Wtf?? Too much of a coward to say he didn't want me? ...
A. 31 December 2011: For God's sake do NOT text your ex. Clearly "I wanna be single for awhile" is code for "I met someone I'd rather be with"....he just didn't have the guts to tell you the truth. Snap out of it! I'm sure you are beautiful and smart and should not ... (read in full...)
Why does my co-worker act this way towards me?
Q. Why does this girl behaves this way? am I overreacting? ? There's this work I met at a job interview, I got the job and so did she. We all work in the same department. The thing is she's so unfriendly, I never see her smile. The only time she...
A. 31 December 2011: She obviously doesn't like you and I cannot tell you why. Maybe you remind her of someone she once dated that hurt her. Maybe she thinks you're just a happy geek she can't relate to. I have no idea, but I do wonder why you are trying to hard to ... (read in full...)
Should I try to get over my crush because of these possible deal-breakers?
Q. I am just crazy about this guy and he is a genuinely wonderful person. I've thought in the past that he may be interested in me - I don't really know, but I am trying to figure out if he is worth pursuing or not for a couple of reasons. First rea...
A. 31 December 2011: Maybe the best thing to do is ask him out. Go for coffee or dessert at a sexy little bistro and then get to know him when he's away from his audience. You may see more to him than you have before. I also think you should be honest with him about ... (read in full...)
I'm 19 years old, and my parents won't let me do anything!
Q. Hello. Thanks for having a great community like this. I hope you can help me with my problem. I'm 19, I go to college and still live at home with my parents. My parents are really strict. They treat me like I'm 5 when I'm clearly an adult. They w...
A. 31 December 2011: They don't see you as an adult because you are still living at home and still dependent on them for everything. Maybe it's time for you to move into the dorm and away from their watchful and somewhat controlling eyes. Once you've made this ... (read in full...)
Do I end the relationship? He has made his ex pregnant. We had planned our wedding for the end of this year
Q. I am in a dilemma,my boyfriend cheated on me with his ex girlfriend and now she is pregnant. The girl, my boyfriend's ex, will have the baby. This girl sent me an email detailing that my boyfriend is being horrible to her and that he doesn't ...
A. 1 May 2011: So I'm assuming your b/f admits that this baby could be his even without a paternity test. The next question you must ask yourself is this: Are you prepared to share you life, and your man with this woman and their child? Because there's no escaping ... (read in full...)
How do I catch my boyfriend cheating?
Q. My boyfriend is cheatin on me nd he is denaing it pls how cn i catch him redhanded...
A. 1 May 2011: Depends on how you think he's cheating? On line?....Or in person? If he cheats on line, you could set up a fake profile and then come on to him via email or through a website you know he frequents. You would have to become someone else while ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me not to be happy that my married lover had a baby with his wife?
Q. My lover just had another baby with his wife. I am very sad and disappointed about this. Is this normal? I love the guy so much and he loves me too. We have been together for two years and has been married for three years. I have always respected ...
A. 12 April 2011: That's what happens when you settle for being second best. He doesn't love you. He loves having sex with another woman besides his wife. When she's not in the mood, you are. And vice- versa. You are being used. Otherwise he would already be with ... (read in full...)
Are men aware of what porn does to their sex drive?
Q. With all this so easy to reach pornstuff these days and especially men of all age groups spending lots of time on pornsites, I wonder what happens to their sex drive and joy of having sex with there partners. It makes me sad to read from so many ...
A. 12 April 2011: It's a sickness, just like any other addictions like too much alcohol, drugs, gambling. They all have the ability to destroy relationships. Men are always so quick to justify their behaviors and make us look like the bad guys here. Yet if the ... (read in full...)
I'm dating married man... I don't want break up his family but I think I love him
Q. I've been in a relationship with a married man for six months, not intimate. He lives near where I live and his wife knows about me just not who I am and she has told me to leave her husband alone twice by text. He just tells me not to reply.He is ...
A. 26 March 2011: You should exercise your adult side and leave him alone. This relationship is never going to go anywhere. Not once did you say he's thinking about leaving his wife. You are stuck in this trap of being the other woman, because that's what he wants. ... (read in full...)
I want out of my marriage but don't know how or when to tell my husband
Q. I am married for 5 years, and we've been together before we got married for 9 years. we were madly in love. he is still in love with me... I know that. and he is a very nice guy. the thing is, we don't have too much in common. his ideas and thoughts ...
A. 26 March 2011: First you tell you husband you need a trial separation. Then you move out. You don't actually have to tell him about the other guy, it might be best if you don't. After a few months of living apart, you take the next step and file for divorce. You ... (read in full...)
Why do people curse during sex?
Q. Will someone please tell me why men or people in general curse during sex? When guys do it, it makes me feel like I'm hurting them or something. I've never felt the need to yell expletives during the moment...it's something I have trouble relating ...
A. 26 March 2011: Yes. Passion often yields incomprensable expressions, and swearing is just another form of verbal expression, like "Oh God, Oh god!".....this may come out sounding abrupt, but I suspect you've never really "let go" in bed. Don't be so reserved. Get ... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong for keeping the pic of a guy who means nothing to be but is associated with my holiday memories?
Q. Do you think i'm in the wrong? i have a photo of this boy i met on holiday when i went away for a week when i was younger. My bf of 4 years is telling me i should get rid of it and asked me why i kept it in the 1st place. The reason i kept it...
A. 26 March 2011: Yes and no. I think everyone is entitle to hang on to a few pictures of other romances/people they had in their past. The trick is to keep them well hidden. That means boxing them up, putting them in the attic, or storage, or safe deposit box, ... (read in full...)
He's older and a friend, but I think he likes me??
Q. So here is my dilemma...I know some of you ladies have seen this before. I have a great guy friend who I met a year ago. I fell for him right away,(hes older by 8 years which I know bugs him) but I kept my distance because of a girlfriend that lives ...
A. 26 March 2011: Here's what I think you have to consider. 1)If you find out that he's interested, where does that leave him and girlfriend. You don't want to become the new F*** buddy in between her visits. 2) If he truly enjoys his time alone, you may be setting ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says I'm needy and nag, but I'm not sure I'm that way at all!
Q. I am having a problem with my boyfriend of 8 mnths. he says i nag and am needy and am not sure if I am. From day one we have been arguing and i think what has kept the relationship is i can help him financially when he is broke or in need of rent ...
A. 26 March 2011: Men always think we're nagging them if we remind them to do something. And women always appear needy to a guy who's not that interested in them. But trust me if he really had feelings for you, he'd be all up in your game and see things completely ... (read in full...)
In love, but we keep breaking up and making up. Where is this going??
Q. My boyfriend and I keep on breaking up and making up because I find him cheating. Last time he broke up with me because i found him cheating. I love him and he also says he loves me but recently we haven't been seeing each other and when i ...
A. 20 March 2011: He has some "issues"?...I'd say so, it's called "can't be faithful to save his neck"....Why waste your time any longer? He's not going to change but his behavior will change you into a paranoid, bitter, angry, mistrusting woman and it'll be very ... (read in full...)
Bf emailing and texting other girls from past and lying about it
Q. So I've been dating my bf for 2 years. He was in nyc and I was in ca. So we did long distance. We talked and text every day. Id see him once a month at least. After the first year I said we should get engaged and he agreed but never went through w ...
A. 20 March 2011: He's a player. Luckily he's still so busy playing you haven't been able to rope him into marrying you. If I were you, I'd skip the trip to Hawaii. It will only perpetuate a life you are not going to have. And you may love his parents, but it won'... (read in full...)
I'm not attracted to my girlfriend's body. Should I leave her?
Q. Hi. I don't know what to do. Please read the whole question before cursing me and telling me what an idiot I am. You can do that after you've read the question. Well, I am not attracted to my girlfriend's body. We've been together for several mont...
A. 20 March 2011: Why not go with her to the gym. For all you know, she's just going shopping and telling you she's exercising. Plus wouldn't it be more fun to go together? In fact why not start doing other physical things together and if you're worried about her ... (read in full...)
I think she's hiding something and she says "Forget about it"
Q. I have been dating a girl for over a year now. I think she is cheating on me with someone else. They do have "some" history. I tryed talking ro uer and all she says is forget about it or just says nothings going on. I still think shes hiding ...
A. 20 March 2011: Is this just paranoia on your part, or are there lengthy unexplained absenses in her day, when she's not where she says she'll be. You haven't given us much to go on.... (read in full...)
Why is a married man asking me about marriage?
Q. I have a crush on a married man who flirts and texts..He is always asking about me and my marriage...Why?...
A. 20 March 2011: Maybe he's hoping you're unhappy and you'll be interested in an affair, but I notice he doesn't share any details about his marriage and where it's going in the future. Don't fall into the trap of being his woman on the side simply to supp... (read in full...)
Boyfriend thinks I'm crazy or have personality disorder because I won't admit I cheated! I didn't cheat!
Q. hi everyone,my boyfriend seems to think i am mad or have a personality disorder because i will not admit to cheating on him,i have never cheated and even wanted us to share a home together just so it would stop any doubts but he declined my offer ...
A. 20 March 2011: You both have a problem and I don't see this relationship ever working out. You are being a doormat and happy to settle for a man who accuses you falsely. Why would you want to live like this, always having to explain every trip to the laun... (read in full...)
Friend request after very bad break up
Q. Hello, I meet one girl some months ago. After 3 meetings nothing happened and we continued to chat because we don't live in same cities. After 2 months we meet each other and we should be 7 days together but 3rd day we broke up. It was really v...
A. 20 March 2011: No. Don't contact her again. You two are like two explosives rubbing up against each other. Even if she becomes your friend again, the problem is only going to repeat itself and next time one of you could get seriously injured or arrested. It's not ... (read in full...)
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