His family forced him to divorce me and now he regrets it
Q. I recently got divorced after being with my husband for 12 years and we have 2 daughters. The oldest is mine as it is not his child, we only had 1 child married. My problem and question is this.We were having problems in our marriage and just fell ...
A. 3 August 2007: Of course he's doing everything you dreamed of. His family thinks they've won since they succeeded in causing him to file for divorce from you. And he's just letting them think that because that way he thinks he's keeping everyone happy -- you're ... (read in full...)
I need to get my mind off him!!!
Q. hi i am 14 and i recently went to a football match and i really like one of the footballers i saw playing (it was a pre season match) i cant stop thinking about him although i have only seen him twice (i saw him in his car on the way home ) he is 21 ...
A. 1 August 2007: Congratulations! You got your first crush/infactuation on a much, too much older guy. It's okay. Just know that it isn't going to go anywhere. It's like when I was 14 and I had crushes on all the rock stars at every concert. Like any of them ... (read in full...)
am i wasting my time????
Q. hey ...i broke up with an ex a while ago(+/-2months)...and it really hurt..i didnt feel it was over ....but she claimed she needed time alone..oh well it killed me but i slowly started to get over the initial pain...but never stopped loving her... ...
A. 1 August 2007: Take it slowly. She may have been like you said, drunk and scared. Time will tell. I hope it works out.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a suspicious mark on his neck; could it have been a girl, is he fibbing?
Q. it may be nothing but a few days ago i saw three different marks on my boyfriend's neck and collar bone and he says that two of them are bruises from where a shelf fell on him and the other one is a pinch mark when he was drunk (rather silly thing ...
A. 31 July 2007: I'm guessing there's more going on here than you are detailing. Has he been acting suspicious otherwise? Is there a new girl at work that he's been flirting with? These are all questions only you can answer. I'd say at face value, you are jumping ... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend may have cheated on me. Here are the signs...
Q. Okay, I'm worried about a cheating significant other, too. I have trust issues in general, but the thing is my current girl (fiance, actually) who I have been with for two years now almost has this close male friend. They've been friends since hi...
A. 30 July 2007: I think she's cheating and she's covering her tracks pretty damn well. But let's just say, everything is a big coincidence and it's exactly as she has described. If she weren't such good friends with a guy she used to have sex with, you probably ... (read in full...)
Concerned about three-some!
Q. Ive been dating my g/f for about 6 months now, and shes pressuring me to have a threesome with one of her friends. The third person is a female, and it should be my fantasy to have it, but i extremly dislike the idea. i love her very much and i ...
A. 30 July 2007: Whatever you do -- don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with, I don't care how much you love this girl! If it feels wrong, it will be wrong for you. I don't know how many of these posts I've seen, where the guy gives in, has the threesome, ... (read in full...)
What do I tell my son about his father?
Q. im a young mum, very young mum. i had my baby 3yrs ago, but when i first told the father i was pregnant he just left me on my own, saying its my problem - not his! i think that was really rude of him to leave his unborn-child like that! but the p...
A. 30 July 2007: Whatever you do, don't tell your son his father didn't want him. Words like that stick in a child's mind and can do years of damage to their self esteem. Simply tell him that you were both very young, and his father was not ready for the ... (read in full...)
Help! I have a huge crush on a man I cant have!
Q. Ok..I have a huge crush on a man I cant have! Im nearly 20 and hes 39..Hes so nice I like him loads!! But the only problem is hes just got back in with his ex,who I know cos shes my dads friend.They all go out together,I joined them saturday.I ...
A. 30 July 2007: It's okay to date slightly older men, I'm not sure I'd go for one quite this much older though. I would also NOT pursue a man who is already in a relationship with someone. It'll just be a big mess and you will embarrass your family to death. ... (read in full...)
Do I leave my wife for another woman?
Q. Hello. I could do with a bit of advice.First of all ive been with my girlfriend for 10 years since we was kids im now 27. we have 2 children girl of 5 and boy of 1. i love my children very much.Im an electrical engineer and do ok for us.Now me an...
A. 30 July 2007: Every long-term relationship has the potential to grow stale when you don't work to keep things fun and exciting between the two of you. Especially when kids are involved because parenting does tend to zap your sexual energy and make you feel ... (read in full...)
am i wasting my time????
Q. hey ...i broke up with an ex a while ago(+/-2months)...and it really hurt..i didnt feel it was over ....but she claimed she needed time alone..oh well it killed me but i slowly started to get over the initial pain...but never stopped loving her... ...
A. 30 July 2007: Well why did you break up with her silly? Maybe you should look at that and determine if it's possible to revive the relationship. Have your feelings change? Has she had time "alone" and realizes she wants you back? My advise is to talk to her ... (read in full...)
His family forced him to divorce me and now he regrets it
Q. I recently got divorced after being with my husband for 12 years and we have 2 daughters. The oldest is mine as it is not his child, we only had 1 child married. My problem and question is this.We were having problems in our marriage and just fell ...
A. 30 July 2007: Yes, I think he gave in to the pressure his family put on him, and went through with the divorce, but it sounds like he still has feelings for you. How sad that he let them manipulate him like that. I don't understand why he's not man enough to ... (read in full...)
He had me drop him off a block from his jobsite --is he embarrassed to be seen with me?
Q. Is he embarassed by me? I have been seeing this guy for a few weeks now, we aren't exclusive and really just mess around. He calls me while he is at the bar, but never invites me out. That I can understand we don't have to be around each other all ...
A. 27 July 2007: I think he's married. Do your homework. Either ask him straight up (and hope he tells you the truth) or do a little digging. His actions aren't normal.... (read in full...)
I have developed a need to be with my husband all the time. I miss him even when he goes to work!
Q. Ok some of you may think this isn't a problem but really it is. I'm missing my husband even when i'm just at work and its getting worse and worse. It all started when i went on a school trip to this activites place which was for 5 days(i'm a teacher ...
A. 27 July 2007: Honey, you're suffering from identity crisis. You have none. You identify yourself solely as his wife. What about you? What hobbies do you enjoy doing? What interests you? It's time for you to think about yourself as an individual. You can ... (read in full...)
I seem to like the pain.
Q. Can't get over my ex?! It's been exactly 7 or 8 months since the break up but it seems like yesterday. I keep his emails and the letters he wrote, i re-read them and listen 2 sad music, i keep telling myself that it's wrong that i'm just hurting...
A. 27 July 2007: It's time to perform an exorcism. Stand up tall, take a deep breath and get to work removing all the pictures you have of your ex. You don't have to throw them away, but please put them in a box, tape up the box and put it on the top shelf of your ... (read in full...)
It all seemed like a wonderful dream, now it's turning into a nightmare.
Q. Did I overreact? I've been with my boyfriend for seven weeks but because he lives quite far away we've only seen each other seven times. When we do meet it's only for a night and a bit of the morning as our work shifts clash. He told me he loved me ...
A. 7 July 2007: You did the right thing sister! Don't comprommise yourself and settle for less. You are smart for setting the ground rules early on in this relationship and giving him the chance to take it or leave it. If he comes around again, still interested ... (read in full...)
I love my husband even though we've had our bad times but I feel I've missed out on other parts of my life.
Q. I've been married 5 years and got together when I was only 16, I love my husband even though we've had our bad times but I feel I've missed out on other parts of my life. I know I'm being selfish but I can't shake this feeling that there's more to ...
A. 7 July 2007: I took a cue from Danielpew and read your link as well. First of all, if you do still love your husband have you considered (or would he consider) marriage counseling? Abusive behavior should never be tolerated and must be stopped. If he's not ... (read in full...)
It all seemed like a wonderful dream, now it's turning into a nightmare.
Q. Did I overreact? I've been with my boyfriend for seven weeks but because he lives quite far away we've only seen each other seven times. When we do meet it's only for a night and a bit of the morning as our work shifts clash. He told me he loved me ...
A. 6 July 2007: I don't know that it's so much a difference in culture or it has to do with the way he was raised. My current b/f was raised by an abusive father, his mother was passive and did nothing to intervene when their Dad was screaming and hitting the ... (read in full...)
I find it very hard to trust him on the internet.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years, but I find it very hard to trust him on the internet... We met each other on a dating site 2years ago and I left my partner to be with him. Things were going well, but I have a bad case of p...
A. 6 July 2007: You didn't really fall for that one did you? That's the oldest lie in the internet-dating-site books -- he let his friend use his picture on a dating site. Come on. Nobody does that. He put himself out there. He just didn't want you to know it. ... (read in full...)
I love them both and don't know what to do about it!
Q. Well I have a dilemma!!! It started say two weeks ago. My ex-boyfriend's best freiend told me that my ex-boyfriend still loved me and wanted to be with me. I didn't believe until I heard it for myself. Well me and my exboyfriend had a phone ...
A. 6 July 2007: You both have to agree to sit down with your current mates and have "the talk" and then gracefully extract yourself from those relationships first, before you continue sneaking around behind their backs anymore. It'll hurt. It'll be painful but it ... (read in full...)
How do I know if I really love him or if it is just a convenient way for me to have a house and live closer to my job.
Q. I have been with my other for 5 years. We now have a kid together. I have left my boyfriend on 3 different occasions in the past years. We are being civil now since the last break in March - how do I know if I really love him or if it is just a ...
A. 6 July 2007: Go to the counseling appointment. It will help you sort out what's best for you and your kids. They never tell you what to do of course, but in talking with someone who can be objective and non-partial, you will usually find the answer on your own. ... (read in full...)
I love my husband even though we've had our bad times but I feel I've missed out on other parts of my life.
Q. I've been married 5 years and got together when I was only 16, I love my husband even though we've had our bad times but I feel I've missed out on other parts of my life. I know I'm being selfish but I can't shake this feeling that there's more to ...
A. 6 July 2007: What I think you're battling is the fact that you married very young. You went from being somebody's daughter, to being somebody's wife without ever having any time in between to figure out who you are and what you wanted in life. I did the same ... (read in full...)
He wanted a divorce before we met. I've fallen for him, but I'm not sure what to do!
Q. I've known this guy for about 5 months now, we work together and he caught my eye straight away! Ever since day one we got along like a house on fire. Just before christmas we went out for a drink with work and he walked me home, he then confessed ...
A. 28 June 2007: Do nothing. The ball is in his court. Wait and see if he goes ahead and files for divorce like he said he's planning to do. You can continue to be his friend, but I wouldn't take it any further because you could end up getting very hurt if he ... (read in full...)
On MSN we're mates, but she laughs at me with her other friends!
Q. Right, I have this friend - Me and her often get along great and we have a good chatter and laugh on msn! However, I get the feeling she's embarrassed to be my mate because often I see her sat with another of her mates and they're laughing at me, ...
A. 28 June 2007: How sad that she is two-faced like that. I suspect she's only pretending to be your friend so she can scoop up information from you on a personal level, and then blab it to her cool friends so they can all have a good laugh at your expense. ... (read in full...)
After walking by me, he stared and made eye contact. Does he like me?
Q. When a fella walks past you and makes a point of not looking at you but then when hes furthur away stares (without fail), and makes eye contact odes that mean he likes you?...
A. 10 January 2007: Not necesssarily. Could be that he thought you were someone else. Could be that he was simply curious about you and wanted to look. Doesn't mean anything automatically unless it continues and other things ensue. You didn't really give enough ... (read in full...)
He wanted a divorce before we met. I've fallen for him, but I'm not sure what to do!
Q. I've known this guy for about 5 months now, we work together and he caught my eye straight away! Ever since day one we got along like a house on fire. Just before christmas we went out for a drink with work and he walked me home, he then confessed ...
A. 10 January 2007: There's nothing you can do. The ball is in his court. If in fact, he was already planning to exit his marriage, let him continue with those plans. And when the ink has dried on his divorce papers, you will be waiting in the wings. Until then, be ... (read in full...)
What are the benefits of marriage and does it actually affect a relationship?
Q. Does the relationship change when you get married? I've been with my partner for 7 years now, of which we've lived together for 4 years. We're not considering children at this point in time and I don't know if we ever will. I'm in my mid-twenties ...
A. 10 January 2007: I think it's all in the frame of mind you have. Some couples feel more committed to each other after taking their vows. It's so easy to walk out the door when you're living together. You pack up your stuff and you go. There's no legal documen... (read in full...)
How can I stop my insecurites over his porn viewing, even to the extent I cant bare him seeing women on the TV!
Q. Im driving myself insane and probably ruining my relationship in the process! HELP! Ive posted on here before about my struggle to deal with finding that my boyf of nearly 4 yrs masturbates occasionally over page 3 girls and that I found a small ...
A. 9 January 2007: You didn't really say how often your b/f looks at porn so it's hard to know if this is an addiction. It might be helpful if he masterbated when you weren't around. There's only a few things more devastating than walking in on your man when he's ... (read in full...)
Should I text my ex I've been sleeping with?
Q. My ex and i split 8mths ago. We've slept together twice since. He came for dinner a week ago and text to saw it was lovely. I've not spoken to him since. He left my place of work on thurs. Doubt i'll see him again. We saw each other and neither said ...
A. 9 January 2007: Never let your pride stand in the way of saying what's on your mind. Text him, tell him you love him and you'll miss him. I hate it when women get hung up in the game of, who's going to blink first. Just do it. Think of it this way -- if he ... (read in full...)
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