Friend request after very bad break up
Q. Hello, I meet one girl some months ago. After 3 meetings nothing happened and we continued to chat because we don't live in same cities. After 2 months we meet each other and we should be 7 days together but 3rd day we broke up. It was really v...
A. 20 March 2011: No. Don't contact her again. You two are like two explosives rubbing up against each other. Even if she becomes your friend again, the problem is only going to repeat itself and next time one of you could get seriously injured or arrested. It's not ... (read in full...)
Verbally abusive husband-confused wife
Q. I have been married for 16 years now and have 5 kids with my husband. I am really confused. We have always fought but in the last few years my husband has changed. He has become more controlling, not about friends but treating me like I am a kid. ...
A. 20 March 2011: Maybe he's had a mini-stroke. Sometimes the first thing that's noticed after a small stroke is a change in their personality. Even he may not know it happened. Have his doctor run some tests tell him to check for that, and possibly bi-polar ... (read in full...)
Is flirting online a form of cheating?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two years. Our arguments have always been about him flirting with women on Facebook or MySpace. Is that considered cheating if hes flirting online and he tells women he's single? ...
A. 25 February 2011: If he's pretending to be single when in fact he's involved in a relationship with you, then yes it is a form a cheating in my opinion.... (read in full...)
How can I heighten my sexual experience with my mate?
Q. I'm interested in heightening my sexual experience with my mate. I've done the porn thing with him and while that satisfies my immediate need and his, it doesn't take me where I want to go. I want to be so high on the orgasm that nothing else ...
A. 25 February 2011: I think alot has to do with the chemistry you both bring to the relationship and if you both have the same sexual style. I once dated a bass player for a band, and we were sexually matched from the moment we began our affair. We had amazing sex. But ... (read in full...)
Someone told me he cheated and there was a condom wrapper on the floor.
Q. I am going crazy out of my mind. I have been scared to ask anyone for their unbiased opinion because I fear that I may come off as a nutcase, but here goes nothing... In April 2009, I began dating a guy who I'd known since I was 9. We were separ...
A. 28 September 2010: Wait and see if it happens again or if he does other weird things that don't add up. Next time he goes missing in action, you could just pay him a "surprise" visit to see if there's another woman there. Make it a late night call but don't let him ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this emotional pain?
Q. My girlfriend recently left me for another guy and I just realized how alone and pain I'm in. The worst part is that I don't have a lot of friends either. Is there anything I can do to alleviate my severe emotional pain?...
A. 28 September 2010: Stay busy. Keep in touch with your family. Do some volunteer work (helping others has an amazing "healing" affect on people). Pray. Take some classes. Take up a hobby. Guard your thoughts and just remember it takes time to get over a break up but ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of getting pushed aside. Why is my self-confidence so low?
Q. I'm some what of a nice guy. Im a lover not a fighter. For me, all my life it seems as though I have no back bone. Im friendly, but at times im rude. My friends somewhat take advantage. They thing they are better than me. What should I change about ...
A. 28 September 2010: Confidence like anything else, takes training and practice and changing the image you have of yourself, which in turns changes how others see you as well. Read some books on building confidence and see if you can learn the particular traits that ... (read in full...)
I don't know how he feels and I don't want to make a fool of myself
Q. Hello I do not know how i got myself here but it is a bit late to complain. We didn't started as fwb, we liked each other and we made everything in our hands to be together. We travel to see each other (we live in different countries) and h...
A. 28 September 2010: I think you should cut the ties with this man. I know it will be hard but you have already become a FWB and nothing more because you said it yourself, that there will never be anything permanent between you. If you continue to see him it'll just be ... (read in full...)
Reasons for vanished sexual drive?
Q. Is this possible,that a previously highly sexual man,just stops having sexual desire all together? Not for me,his wife, or any other woman/? Can someone have no sexual feelings altogether? Or it is just covering some issues? What could be the ...
A. 28 September 2010: Stress can zap a man's sex drive; worries over health issues; taking certain medications (like high blood pressure pills). Maybe it's time for your husband to visit his physican and you guys can discuss the problem together. Some men do notice a ... (read in full...)
Svelt fast weight loss pill
Q. Does anyone knows about a weight loss pill called Svelt fast? :)...
A. 28 September 2010: Fordyboy is right! Diet pills of any kind are bad for your heart; they cause you to lose valuable fluids from your body (with excessive peeing) which depletes your heart muscle. They are dangerous also if they speed up your heart rate because you ... (read in full...)
Why wont he give me oral sex?
Q. Well, here's the problem. I have been with the same guy for 8 years...he's my first. we have literally done everything together and lately he hasnt been recipricating the favor....I give him oral sex regularly without question and he asks for it. I ...
A. 28 September 2010: Maybe he doesn't know how to do it correctly and he's embarrassed, so rather than admit it to you, he just says he doesn't like it. By all means if he does go down on him, don't be all militant (Not so hard; No harder; Move faster; Do this, do that) ... (read in full...)
My asian girlfriend hides me from her family
Q. I have a problem with my girlfriend and its really making me frustrated and confused. We have been together for four months now, i'm white and shes asian. I have brought her around my entire family and introduced her to all of my closest friends. ...
A. 28 September 2010: I think you should bag this relationship. You're too young to work this hard at something that's probably going to fizzle out in 6 months anyhow. There's plenty of other girls to date who have families that will accept you.... (read in full...)
Which person is the most insecure?
Q. This is a question for all to answer male/female young/old,single/married.who would you say is the most insecure person the female because she has realised that after 7yrs together,45yrs old and a child the man she loves and wants to spend her life ...
A. 28 September 2010: I don't know about insecure, but it does seem you're both incompatible. In a nutshell, you two don't want the same things out of this relationship or in life. You clearly want to take this relationship to the next level and get married. He does ... (read in full...)
I have two sexual fantasies that people seem to find disgusting and a turn off.
Q. I have two sexual fantasies that people seem to find disgusting and a turn off. I see loads of evidence of them on the internet but have never met anyone who admits to liking them. Firstly I have a real love for Feet, i find them very sexually ...
A. 28 September 2010: Because truthfully most people, regardles of their own kinky fantasies cannot handle hearing about yours. It changes things. It makes people judge you or mis-judge you based on something you should probably just keep to yourself. If you like shoes, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend died 2 months ago and I cry every night
Q. My boyfriend died about 2 months ago. I have had terrible relationships before he came along. he treated me like I was literally a princess and the only one in this world. I know it has just been a little over 2 months but I still cry every night. I ...
A. 26 September 2010: You should considering going to grief counseling. You are too young to go through this much pain alone. This is a huge thing to have to deal with at any age, much less your age. Please talk to someone and allow yourself plenty of time to grieve for ... (read in full...)
Second life is real life to my boyfriend
Q. I have been involved with a man for 7 years. In that 7 years I have found that he lies to me many times, changing his stories and says that I am remembering things incorrectly (which I know is bull). Because we live apart and neither of us ma...
A. 23 September 2010: He's addicted to that game! And like any addict he finds ways to feed the addiction, lies to the people he loves in order to feed the pleasure he gets from it (whatever that may be) and seems to be losing touch with reality because of it. It may ... (read in full...)
Am I the only one who hates the smell and taste or sperm?
Q. This may be strange or maybe this is common...You tell me. I can not stand the smell or taste of sperm! I freely give my husband (of 25 yrs) BJ when he wants, let him cum on my chest and he has even rubbed it on my face BUT it makes me gag! ...
A. 23 September 2010: I think the taste of a man's sperm has alot to do with his diet. My first husband had horrible tasting sperm, it was bitter and smelly and I only swallowed it once. After that I would never go down on him if I thought he was going to erupt in my ... (read in full...)
How do I change her demands to see me every single day without her going crazy?
Q. I have a gf of 10 months who i meet daily because she wants me to. If i dont then she starts those "i know u gettin bored of me" lines. The thing is its just not possible meetin every day in her house for more than 6 hours. its almost a live in ...
A. 23 September 2010: I think you are just leading her on, pretending you want to be in a relationship with her, when in fact you don't. Sooner or later you're gonna have to come clean and cut the tie. She's fallen for you, and you do not feel the same way about her. ... (read in full...)
He is talking to ladies online and won't stop!
Q. Hi, My boyfriend of four years spends all his free time in chat rooms I have discovered 1o5 contacts all females . I read numerous sexual conversations he has initiated, denies he has a girlfriend , I've confronted him several times he tells me he's ...
A. 23 September 2010: I'd find someone else and quick. ... (read in full...)
Should I send him pics, or should he be respectful of my decisions?
Q. My boyfriend of almost a month wants pics but im not that comfortable about it. He is sorta mad about it because I said idk. Its also a semi long distant relationship. I really like him! Should I do it or should he be repectful of my decisions? ...
A. 23 September 2010: Whatever you do; do NOT send him any pictures of yourself in suggestive clothing, (no clothing) seductive poses, bikinis, lingerie, half nude. Things like this never have a good ending and your pictures will end up plaster on Facebook for everyone ... (read in full...)
My husband is trying to make out I'm crazy!
Q. dear cupid... my husband lies in every single thing and makes me feel that I'm going crazy that he never said things or never does anything. i think he is cheating on me and i know he never loved me but i do love him so much. I dont know what to ...
A. 21 September 2010: I wouldn't hesitate to ditch his ass. You cannot have a good marriage unless both of you are in love with each other. He's playing mind games with you and let me tell you, that not only wears you out emotionally, but it's a mental mind f*** that ... (read in full...)
Flirty boyfriend!
Q. ok well heres the deal. My boyfriend and i have been dating for about 3 months. He's not the best with showing his feelings or pda or really anything. Then there is my "best friend" who he also dated like a year ago. They dated for about 7 months. ...
A. 21 September 2010: Stop hanging out where your friend is bound to show up. There must be other people, other places you guys can go where she won't show up and work her "magic". It probably wouldn't hurt to simply tell him he's being played and you're getting a ... (read in full...)
How do I achieve being a one man woman?
Q. I am what you call a "real life Samantha Jones". I'm a 47 year old woman who lost her virginity when she was 12. Throughout my teen years after that, I had seven sex partners. One of which was my first love who I lost my virginity to (we were ...
A. 14 September 2010: Is it possible you are a sex addict? If so you may need to start therapy to break the cycle. But then again I don't have to tell you that...If you truly want to be with just one man, by all means don't tell him how many men you've been with. It'll ... (read in full...)
My wife wants another man and ok'd it. I think she may fall in love with him. What do I do?
Q. I need advice. My wife wants to have a real relationship with another man and I have sanctioned it. Am I crazy or a great husband? We have been married for over 20 years. I want her to have it all. I have not been perfect. Far from it. She st...
A. 14 September 2010: I think this whole idea was a dumb, dumb idea. But you asked for it, and now you may have gotten exactly what you wanted. You hand your wife willingly over to another man for sex, and then wonder why the outcome became unfavorable to your marriage? ... (read in full...)
My sister in law doesn't mind being naked with me!
Q. My sister-in-law (single and attractive) graduated college and recently took a job near where my wife and I live. My wife told her to stay with us in the spare bedroom until she found a place of her own. Initially, she wore a robe over her ni...
A. 14 September 2010: Kinda weird if you ask me. Maybe they were both raised in a "naked house". If you're uncomfortable (which I doubt) you could talk with your wife and tell her it feels inappropriate to see her sister naked. I'm sure she'll ask her sister to use more ... (read in full...)
My heart says not to end this buy my head says I should? interracial relationship
Q. I am a white male, live and have lived in a mainly white suburb all my life, and most of my associations have been with others of my race. We are a pretty liberal family and I have always been raised that everyone is equal, but that being said our ...
A. 14 September 2010: You should always follow your heart. It's liberating not to allow yourself to live in a box. By loving someone of a different race you open yourself up for a much richer life and not just become another predictable person who's afraid of someone ... (read in full...)
Why the need for so many lovers?
Q. My daughter is 19. She has had at least 10 sexual partners that I know of. Am I out of touch for feeling that this is excessive? We have good communication, what is going on?...
A. 14 September 2010: Maybe she's a sex addict. Either that, or she's extremely insecure which means she readily suggests sex from guys she barely knows, and afterwards they want nothing to do with someone they don't have to work to get. Can you talk to her about her ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about my ex's insecure girlfriend?
Q. I have remained friends with my ex who sees our girls every second weekend. He has begun dating someone who is very insecure. He says she's just insecure about me (although I have remarried and have another child, and as I said, he and I ended on ...
A. 13 September 2010: Are your girls old enough to understand the truth about women and their insecurities? If so, just be honest with them and tell them what you've told us. If they're too young to get caught up in the drama, then have them be the one to communicate ... (read in full...)
I was going to propose, but not if her "friend" is gonna keep this up
Q. My girlfriend of one year has a guy best friend. They've been friends for years but ever since she and I started the flirting phase (about a week before we got together), he's been a real d-bag to me. Of course, I know he wants her himself but she's ...
A. 13 September 2010: Your girlfriend needs to chose which one of you she really wants to be with, and stop hiding behind the whole "friend thing". This guy is sabotaging her romantic relationships and not only is she letting him, but she doesn't seem to see how ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend got some single guys number at the bar
Q. Is it ok for my girlfriend to get some single dudes phone number at a bar? My GF went out with her single girlfriend last night an they were approached by two single guys. Apparently, these guys sat there and hung out with them until close. My...
A. 13 September 2010: Normally I would say it's not appropriate for a woman to take a guy's number or keep it but maybe she was worried enough about her friend, and thought it might be a link she could pass to the police if her friend turned up missing. I agree her story ... (read in full...)
Is it ok for a teen to take a multivitamin?
Q. Is it okay for a teen to take a multivitamin? I've heard with women it can cause all sorts of things such as breast cancer etc. But I feel weak and I might not be getting enough vitamins/minerals. So is it safe for me to take one? (I'm 16) I've ...
A. 13 September 2010: Depends on your eating habits. Do you eat fruits, veggies, fish, chicken and drink your milk? If so you probably don't need a vitamin you probably need some exercise that builds strong bones and muscles. If you are a picky eater, and rarely eat much ... (read in full...)
How can I remind myself to take my birth control pill?
Q. What are some ways to remind your self to take your birthcontrol? so far I have an alarm on my laptop and an alarm on my phone and my Ipod dock and Ipod it's self and sometimes I STILL forget. What are some other ways incase I am not around a...
A. 13 September 2010: Put it next to your toothbrush; or your contact case and then when you reach for one, you'll see the other. Problem solved.... (read in full...)
Should I love this man who is 30 years older?
Q. ok hi everyone im just so confused at the moment i feel in love with an american man over the internet he is sweet funny and kind and has always said the right thing he offered to take me and my baby which i am expecting at moment he has told me a ...
A. 13 September 2010: I would not enourage any young woman to hook up with a man based on anything he's told her from an internet connection. Men in prisons often pose as viable dating partners, when in fact they're not. You have to be extremely careful. You would be ... (read in full...)
Feeling used and betrayed!
Q. Hello, A long time ago there was a guy in my life, and we liked each other, but he had a long term long distance girlfriend, and I was leaving town to go to uni and to escape a violent family. So, we came close, but never actually made anything ha...
A. 24 August 2010: I think he was married.... (read in full...)
Having trouble getting into the dating scene!
Q. I put forward a question here awile back and received excellent suggestions/opinions/advice. I thought I'd do it again. I'm a 55-year old male. For whatever reason, I've inherited the "youthful gene". No complaints about that. When people gues...
A. 24 August 2010: Too bad you don't live in my neighborhood, I would love to meet up with a guy (in my age zone) with that much energy! And P.S. I'm not in my 20's or my 30's. I think you should keep looking, afterall a woman in her 20's who dates you is looking ... (read in full...)
Feeling used and betrayed!
Q. Hello, A long time ago there was a guy in my life, and we liked each other, but he had a long term long distance girlfriend, and I was leaving town to go to uni and to escape a violent family. So, we came close, but never actually made anything ha...
A. 24 August 2010: I think he was married. The whole thing was a game and when it started look like it might come knocking on his door, he couldn't get away fast enough. Afterall, he didn't want his wife finding out.... (read in full...)
Should I love this man who is 30 years older?
Q. ok hi everyone im just so confused at the moment i feel in love with an american man over the internet he is sweet funny and kind and has always said the right thing he offered to take me and my baby which i am expecting at moment he has told me a ...
A. 24 August 2010: I think you'd be better off to find a guy closer to your own age. The age difference of 30 years is going to get in the way at some point. He's made you a nice offer, but you can always remain friends and not take it further.... (read in full...)
I'm upset how my friend disciplined her children, wondering if I should call children's services?
Q. It’s a bit of a strange one this but the yesterday my friend walloped her two children right in front of me, now I’m wondering whether to call children’s’ services. She’s got two girls, one 11 and other 13. She’s a single mom and each can be a bit...
A. 24 August 2010: Your friend did nothing wrong. She simply disciplined her unruly kids. Had she flown into a rage and began walloping them in the face or on their heads, I would be alarmed. But a swat on the behind was well deserved. Perhaps they'll think twice ... (read in full...)
Caught him with a man! I don't know how I can trust him!
Q. My name is Thelma. My boyfriend and I met a few years ago, we were friends for months before we ended up dating. We've been dating for over 2 years. He and I have never had sex, as of right now I am almost 26 and he was 2 years older than me. We ...
A. 24 August 2010: What he did was a "deal breaker" in my opinion. Any way you slice it, he cheated on you, whether it was with another man, or another woman; he lied, he deceived you; he was basically living a double life behind your back. He probably had planned to ... (read in full...)
A black guy asked me to home coming but my stepfather is racist!
Q. I am 15, and this guy I really like just asked me out and suggested we go to homecoming together, there's only one problem...he's black. He's a really great guy, and I'd love to go with him. I don't think my Mom would mind, but it's my step-dad and ...
A. 24 August 2010: It's your date, not your Dad's. Afterall it's just a dance. Maybe after they meet him, they'll realize what a nice guy he is, and his skin color will stop being the focus. Have fun.Be safe.... (read in full...)
Is it bad for a woman to date someone 3 years younger?
Q. I am 20 years old, fixing to be 21 in a few weeks.. and I really like this guy who is 17 years old. He can act pretty mature for his age but i'm not sure what others would think? Is it bad for a girl to date someone who is 3 years younger? ...
A. 24 August 2010: The only problem I see is, you could be charged with statutory rape because he's under age (17) and you over 18 and if his parents decided to press charges you could be facing jail time. The law would not be on your side. It woudl be better to wait ... (read in full...)
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