I have tried my best and now feel I am just being taken for an idiot
Q. Before i start this post I would like to just say that i dont actually have problem with potential partners having children etc when you meet them but the problem is this.. when i met my partner he told me he had a child.. the mother of the ch...
A. 13 April 2009: I think there could very well be more to their exclusive visits than just patting the baby and giving him a bottle. It seems like in their divorce settlement, there would have been some sort of visitation rights in regards to his son. Now I ... (read in full...)
His lack of intimacy makes me think he might be gay! Your thoughts?
Q. Why my boyfriend is not interested in itimacy? I have been dating a guy I met for a couple of months. He was in a long marriage and his wife left him. I would say this guy has some feminine characteristics even in his walk. His house has no clu...
A. 25 March 2009: You didn't say how long it's been since his marriage broke up. He may just be "gun shy". It's also possible, that while you are an attractive woman, he may not be attracted to you. Maybe he's just not sure about his feelings for you just yet; it's ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend too much to handle
Q. I need help...I'm 33 and my girlfriend and soon to be fiance is 27.We love each other very much and we both know that we want to spend the rest of our lives with each other, but I have several problems with her and I need to know if its me, is it ...
A. 8 February 2009: I suggest you postpone your wedding plans unless you want to spend the rest of your life exactly like this. Your girlfriend has total control in this relationship, you are the puppet and do not delude yourself into thinking things are just going to ... (read in full...)
Go to Singapore w b/f? Or stay for friends/family
Q. Hey everyone, i have a dilemma!! I have been with my boyfriend 6 years and he might be going to uni to study in singapore! it wont be before summer, but im trying to figure out whether to go with him or not. Its hard coz my sister is pregnant and ...
A. 18 January 2009: You have to ask yourself if your relationship is strong enough to endure the whole, long distance thing. Can he be trusted on campus far, far away, where there are lots of other single, college girls looking for guys to party with and hang out? ... (read in full...)
It just seems like he doesn't care
Q. Me and my boyfriend are having problems at the minute. We keep arguing about stupid little things, and I always get upset and start crying. When I do this, it's like he doesn't care. He won't hug me, or anything like that, he just blanks it out. It ...
A. 18 January 2009: It sounds like he's just not that into you. It doesn't mean he won't eventually be there, you just arrived there first. Men usually take longer to develop lasting feelings for a woman, whereas we tend to develop them rather quickly. I would try ... (read in full...)
Has trust been broken? Can I love her agian? Lies?????
Q. I am a married man of 10 years. Recently I discovered my wife has been deceiving me over the amount of contact with an EX of hers. I was cool with the level of contact I was lead to believe was going on..... but it is about 4 times the amount I...
A. 19 October 2008: So I guess what you're saying is, that you're wife has been "friendly" with her ex for your entire marriage of 10 years. Did they have kids together? Because if they were previously married and had kids, I'd think they are remaining friends for ... (read in full...)
I feel as if I don't get a lot of his attention any more...
Q. This is kinda long, but I feel as though I need to explain. I have been with my boyfriend since december 2007. He is now 24, I am now 19. We became really close really fast. Everything has always been great. My dad loves him, my mom loves him, his ...
A. 19 October 2008: Your b/f has probably never had to deal with death before, much less someone so close and dear to him. He is also wrestling with his own immortality, even though he may not say it in so many words. When we lose someone close to us, we can't help ... (read in full...)
NEUTRAL? What on Earth Is That supposed to Mean?????
Q. I met this man on holiday and we didnt sleep together -i liked him and he was trying but i didnt-we e mailed a few times but I think he has found someone close to him and in his last e mail he said he wasnt attracted to me (so why keep on trying ...
A. 19 October 2008: What I interpret his comment to mean is this; He's not into you but he'd have sex with you because most men will screw any woman that says yes. Since you weren't interested in being used, and he wasn't interested in anything else, saying that he's ... (read in full...)
Tell me how I can pick up pretty women - I need advice!
Q. How do you pick up pretty women????...
A. 19 October 2008: Be sincere. Be genuine. And above all be yourself. Women love a man who's comfortable in his own skin, can make her laugh and truly apprecates her for who she is. Once you stop playing all those other games, you'll realize it's not so hard to ... (read in full...)
It's A Shame Am I Am Wasting My Life Away?
Q. What chance does a woman over 50 and divorced have of ever meeting a nice man when there are so many pretty young attractive girls around and many willing to give sex very easily? I have never been easy meat even when I was younger although...
A. 19 October 2008: Take heart, I see women in your age bracket and much older marrying for the 2nd (or 3rd) time (usually because they are widowed) and I think to myself, if they can find and attract a man, any woman can. Take a look around your nearest Walmart and ... (read in full...)
Ex and I broke up and I slept with someone else...
Q. Basically my girlfriend split up with me coming up to 5 months ago now. I believe it was she wasn't sure of what she wanted but she didn't want to be with me because of how I had become she had sat me down numerous times, wrote letters etc etc ...
A. 16 October 2008: She is simply playing by your rules, and she's punishing you for having sex with someone else so quickly. This is something women will never understand about the men who claim to "love them" but so quickly find someone else to bang in their absence. ... (read in full...)
We broke up but he said we can still be sex buddies!!!
Q. Hi guys on Sunday I split with my boyfriend of 8 months, the reason was he wasnt over his ex of four years and the mother of his child, he says he likes me but doesn't love me like he still loves her, anyway he said I can still ring him and go out ...
A. 16 October 2008: Why one earth would you allow him to voluntarily use you for sex (I don't care how amazing it is) when you already know he doesn't love you and is still hung up on his ex? Don't confuse sex with love. And don't make the mistake of thinking that ... (read in full...)
We broke up but he said we can still be sex buddies!!!
Q. Hi guys on Sunday I split with my boyfriend of 8 months, the reason was he wasnt over his ex of four years and the mother of his child, he says he likes me but doesn't love me like he still loves her, anyway he said I can still ring him and go out ...
A. 16 October 2008: Why one earth would you allow him to voluntarily use you for sex (I don't care how amazing it is) when you already know he doesn't love you and is still hung up on his ex? Don't confuse sex with love. And don't make the mistake of thinking that ... (read in full...)
We broke up but he said we can still be sex buddies!!!
Q. Hi guys on Sunday I split with my boyfriend of 8 months, the reason was he wasnt over his ex of four years and the mother of his child, he says he likes me but doesn't love me like he still loves her, anyway he said I can still ring him and go out ...
A. 16 October 2008: Why one earth would you allow him to voluntarily use you for sex (I don't care how amazing it is) when you already know he doesn't love you and is still hung up on his ex? Don't confuse sex with love. And don't make the mistake of thinking that ... (read in full...)
Although she treated me badly, I miss being with her! How do you get over someone that was bad news for you?
Q. I have just come out a relationship with someone i always knew was capable of being quite vindictive and nasty towards me. When we broke up my fears came true and she treated me terribly. Now the dust has settled and I have had time to see exactly ...
A. 11 October 2008: I think it's hard for men to admit they sometimes have poor judgement. I'd be willing to bet, most of your friends and family knew she was bad for you. You just couldn't see it until it was too late. I think some men also have a tendency to think ... (read in full...)
Is it a bad thing for a girl to take a while to orgasm?
Q. Okay, Well i take forever to orgasm.... Is it a bad thing? Any advice? ...
A. 30 September 2008: No. Girls take longer. If she even knows how. She may be too young to be in touch with her body just yet. ... (read in full...)
Husband want anal sex but it's too painful for me! What should I do?
Q. My husband seems to like painful anal sex. I do it and he knows it hurts me. He likes to watch porn about it too. Any ideas? ...
A. 30 September 2008: If you don't enjoy it, don't do it. It's your body and your right to say no. He'll get over it.... (read in full...)
Is it normal after a 12 hr love making session to get up, switch on the pc and start going at it to porn??
Q. Can anyone tell me, is it normal for a man, after a 12 hour love-making session the day before and a night spent together, to wake up the next morning, switch on the computer in the bedroom, and start wanking to porn while his girlfriend (me) is in ...
A. 30 September 2008: I think you should retrieve yourself from this relationship because it's never going to be anything but sex-thing for him and a woman needs more of an emotional connection. It will be hard to let go since the sex is amazing with this guy, but ... (read in full...)
How do I build my confidence back up so I don't always feel like I'm competing with the "hot babes"?
Q. my boyfriend knows i have an issue with porn, but i am working on becoming more open to it. he knows it has greatly affected my self-esteem and i feel very insecure and even jealous when a "hot blonde with huge boobs and a tiny waist" comes on TV ...
A. 30 September 2008: Your boyfriend is young and immature and lacks self control. This may later translate into fidelity issues because I seriously doubt he would say "No" to a woman if she came on to him nad he thought he could "get away with it"....
But you may ... (read in full...)
Is it normal after a 12 hr love making session to get up, switch on the pc and start going at it to porn??
Q. Can anyone tell me, is it normal for a man, after a 12 hour love-making session the day before and a night spent together, to wake up the next morning, switch on the computer in the bedroom, and start wanking to porn while his girlfriend (me) is in ...
A. 17 September 2008: Holy cow, I don't think switching on the porn is the only abnormal thing you guys have going on. Who in the world has time for a 12 hour sex session? Not that it's a bad thing, it's just not that common. I'm sort of wondering if your'e dealing ... (read in full...)
He started having sex with his ex and then stopped....can he be trusted?
Q. my boyfriend and i had been together for about ten months when he was at work and his ex was meeting him there to drop the kids off with him. he went over to her truck to get his daughters backpack and she was playing with herself. he stopped to ...
A. 13 September 2008: Your b/f has a weak character. When he's faced with temptation he doesn't know how to say "no". Regardless of the fact that he supposedly stopped. It still went too far and that shows he has no restraint. Plus the only way you actually found out ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my wife I don't want her to get a boob job?
Q. My wife wants a boob job. She really thought bigger is better. I don't like the idea, because they look so fake. How can I tell her I dont want her to get a boob job?...
A. 13 September 2008: Say, "honey I love your breasts just the way they are right now, don't change a thing!".....She'd be a fool to put her health at risk for a pair of boobs when you're happy with what she has. ... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and have this thing for women much older than me, how would I go about dating one?
Q. Hi i am 18 and have found I have a thing for older women in there 50s and 60s. They just appear so sexy to me and would love to date one, but dont have a clue how to go about getting an older woman that age. Thanks, Jack...
A. 13 September 2008: This will be difficult because most women who are 40+ will probably think you are just looking for a fling and if they are attracted to you, (the guy who is actually the same age or younger than their own sons), they may enjoy the ride, but I doubt ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 3 years has responded to multiple ads on Craigslist looking for no strings sex! This is so out of character, what do I do?
Q. I have clam down quite a bit, and now I am trying to put every thing in to perspective. What should be my next step ? I have just came home, and wanted to cheek my email. When I open hotmail it seem like my boyfriend was still singed in . He come ...
A. 13 September 2008: My guess is, you don't know him as well as you think you do. He's got a dark side and one that can't be trusted. Beware.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend turns off her phone when she goes clubbing with her friends. Should I be worried?
Q. This is a question for the girls... My g/f likes to go out clubbing with friends. When she does she usually sends me a text message saying that she'll not be home until the morning. Not a problem, but then she switches off her phone... and tha...
A. 13 September 2008: You are probably not being paranoid. But how often does she go out clubbing without you? Once every six months? Then it's probably not so much of a concern. But once a week? That could be something entirely different.... (read in full...)
Is he just not that into me or am I being overly sensitive?
Q. Hi, want to know what this guy is thinking. Is he interested in me, or he's just not that into me? Firstly, a bit of background on myself. I'm 28, and just broke up with my ex-bf after almost a year together. I know this guy A for almost a year no...
A. 2 August 2008: I think you have bounced back from your painful break up quicker than he has. I also think he is looking for a more mature woman and he may see your behavior as slightly young and immature. You are neither one in high school anymore. If you're ... (read in full...)
Please help me find something that is comfortable, that won't ITCH ME!!
Q. I have a problem wearing bra's and I'm so frustrated. Everything I wear seems to itch, even the softest cotton. I've tried every kind that I know of...the only kind that worked for me was a 100% cotton sport type bra from venus I think, and now ...
A. 15 July 2008: Just try locating other brands that are made with 100% cotton. Alot of bras are made with Lycra and this material can make you itch. Read the labels and be careful to stay away from brands that have materials you are allergic to. Good luck.... (read in full...)
What can I do to stop his bold comments towards my "attractive" friend - without sounding jealous?
Q. My boyfriend tells me that my best friend is super hot all the time.We have been dating for over a year and he always treats me good. He tells me I am hot too. While on a dinner date alone with him we talked about the night we all met the first ...
A. 9 July 2008: If I were you, I'd plan my time with this woman when he's not around. You don't have to stop hanging out with her, just make yourself less available to her when your man is around. No one has to know there's a strategy to what you're doing and you ... (read in full...)
I feel unloved in my relationship; I am beginning to feel depressed and doubt that things could change.
Q. I have been in a vicious cycle for over 2 years. I feel completely unappreciated 50% of the time and I don’t know what to do. I do everything, care about everything and try so hard to make our lives beautiful. Not only does he not appreciate half ...
A. 9 July 2008: I think this guy is ill-suited for you emotionally and this is what is causing your pain. Some men (and women too) are just not that ceremonious about their relationships. They don't give a damn about remembering special dates or anniversaries, they ... (read in full...)
Do some girls object to receiving oral sex
Q. is it true that some girls dont like being eaten out?...
A. 9 July 2008: Yes some women have hang ups about it. It feels dirty, or they are embarrassed, or worried about how they smell or taste. The list goes on. ... (read in full...)
Fortune teller predicted an early pregnancy ... and the condom broke.
Q. my mother has recently had her tarrot read. It says about me going to have a baby when im really young. I had sex with my boyfriend and the condom broke. What should i do?...
A. 9 July 2008: There's an old belief that we tend to attract certain things into our lives by the way we think. Our thoughts put things into motion. If you believe what this dime-store fortune teller has spoken over your life, it could very well come true. But if ... (read in full...)
My relationship ended because of jealousy, arguments and mistrust. Am I crazy to not let this go?
Q. My ex and I were in a relationship for 3 years, ended b/c of jealousy, arguments and mistrust. we reconnected after 7 months of not communicating and it seemed as though everything was going well(even though he would constantly bring up the nega...
A. 28 June 2008: You seem to want to "prove" him wrong over and over again. Unfortunately there's never an end to his paranoid accusations and this will eventually get old and exhausting. You seem far too intelligent to waste your time with someone like this. I ... (read in full...)
Ugly girls don't make guys feel insecure? Is there any truth in that?
Q. Is this true what they say...as my friends said it last night, that a guy will only go out with ugly girls because he`s insecure, and he wont feel like that if she is ugly as no other guys will fancy her? Surley that ain't true....
A. 28 June 2008: This is true of some men, yes. I've known a few really cute guys who ended up with really ugly women and everyone was asking WTF is that all about? So yes, it is true for some men, but not for all. There are some men who only want to be seen with ... (read in full...)
Please help me save my relationship!
Q. how do you say "im sorry and i will never do it again" to a man I cheated on twice? I really really regret it and I love him to death. I am so mad at myself for ruining this relationship. He left me after 6 months of finding out. I tried EVER...
A. 28 June 2008: Instead of trying to un-do the damage your affairs have created to your relationship, I think you should really look at why you were so easily lured away by another man. Could it be that there were things lacking in your current relationship? ... (read in full...)
I miss my ex girlfriend, I miss my kids' mom and feel terrible. My boys have never seen me cry and I fear they might hear me at night...
Q. Hello. This is somewhat difficult for me to talk about but here it goes. I am a 36yr old single father of twins. I have raised them since they were born. Their mother is in prison and is out of the picture. I have no regrets about raising my ...
A. 28 June 2008: I have no idea why your g/f broke things off so suddenly and without a reason. That seems odd to me, so I suspect there's more to the story than you are telling us. Could it be that she realized you're not over your other "ex" and she didn't want ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mom I caught dad having sex with my best friend?
Q. Hi, i dont know what to do, i caught my dad and my best friend having sex in the kitchen. they did not see me (or so i thought)...what am i going to do????? My friend is 16, she is very flirty with men and wears very revealing clothes and al...
A. 26 June 2008: YES!! By all means, please tell her. Don't let her continue to be fooled, thinking her husband is an honorable, loving man!! Put yourself in her shoes. If you had a boyfriend (or husband) wouldn't YOU want to know if he was screwing someone else? ... (read in full...)
Why do I always seem to fall for the unattainable guys?
Q. Help! I always fall for the unattainable guys. I've had minor/severe crushes on the following; Karate instructor, teacher, best friends brother, cousin and great cousin. None of which i've been able to have relationships with! It's so unfair!!! I ...
A. 26 June 2008: Because if you get rejected by an unattainable guy, it hurts less than being rejected by someone who's single and available. It's a protection mechanism but one that will always end in heartache and dead-ends. ... (read in full...)
I met a boy online, and he likes me way more than I like him - What do I do?
Q. There's this lad on msn and he's apparently 'into me' yet we've never met in person nor even spoke on the phone. Anyway, he wants to meet me (we've only spoken on msn about 2/3 times - long convo's though!) but i aren't sure whether to, he seems a ...
A. 26 June 2008: Word of caution, just because he's posing as a boy your age, he could be anyone -- even a 45 yr old rapist who's due to get out of prison any day and he's looking for his victim. The worst types of deception comes from on-line relationships because ... (read in full...)
He's been flirting with his ex via e-mail, what do I do?
Q. i dont know what to say to my boyfriend.he is flirting with his ex-gilfriend.this what he said to her over an email. "Y is it always so hard 4 u to believe me, am i dat a lie?? Anyways, am feeling bad 4 ya hornyness, where is ur man, if u aint get...
A. 26 June 2008: Yeah, he's a worthless cheater. Move your stuff out of the house and leave him the proof of his two-timing emails so he'll know just how badly he f***ed up. ... (read in full...)
My 'best friend' keeps flirting with my boyfriend!
Q. Ok, i have a big problem with my bestfriend! Recentley ive started dating this guy that i REALLY like and he really likes me. Well Today at break my boyfriend came to meet me like he usually does, and we were in the middle of a conversa...
A. 26 June 2008: Find a new best friend. A true best friend wouldn't be doing this.... (read in full...)
Am I an odd girl for not trying girl on girl sex at least once?
Q. Am I odd? I`m a 28 year old girl and never experimented with girls. 80% of the straight girls I grew up with and girls in school and even married girls I know tried this at least once. I mean more than just kissing. Is this common for girls to try ...
A. 26 June 2008: No you are not odd. If it's not your thing, don't worry about it. I think it's mostly hype, the ultimate bad girl behavior and for some reason it drives men wild. God only knows why, it doesn't do a thing for us girls when we see two men making ... (read in full...)
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