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Is it bad for a woman to date someone 3 years younger?

Q.   I am 20 years old, fixing to be 21 in a few weeks.. and I really like this guy who is 17 years old. He can act pretty mature for his age but i'm not sure what others would think? Is it bad for a girl to date someone who is 3 years younger? ...

A.   24 August 2010: The only problem I see is, you could be charged with statutory rape because he's under age (17) and you over 18 and if his parents decided to press charges you could be facing jail time. The law would not be on your side. It woudl be better to wait ... (read in full...)

Do most marriages becomes sexless when people are in their 50's?

Q.   Do most marriages becomes sexless, when people are in their 50 es,due to boredom ,or biological changes? I really need to know that. Mine is like that , and my husband is off sex. And the doctor doesn't know why,but he says dont worry, it is very ...

A.   17 August 2010: People in their 50's still have plenty of sex. Trust me on this one....... (read in full...)

Is she scared of a new relationship?

Q.   Hi i need some advice, i have been seperated from my wife for over 2 years now and never wanted a girlfriend...... until now! i got talking to someone over e mail through work and we are both the same age similar interests and both in the same ...

A.   17 August 2010: If you're both in the same situation, that implies neither of you are yet divorced and therefore free to pursue whom you want. She is clearly having second thoughts about getting involved with someone (she works with no less) while still married. ... (read in full...)

My father loves my mother more than he loves me

Q.   My parents aren't divorced,I have always lived with them but I was raised by my grandmother therefore I don't have a good relationship with my parents,I'm not close to them.I know my mother loves me but I think my father doesn't love me because he ...

A.   12 April 2010: When a man and woman fall in love, their love to each other always comes first. The children are always secondary in a sense, meaning they must stay true to each other first in order to form the kind of parenting bond child-rearing requires. Your ... (read in full...)

G/f tells me she hates her ex so why do I find emails from her to him?

Q.   So, i am stuck between a rock and a hard place. My girlfriend keeps telling me how much she hates her ex, But just a few minutes ago i got on the computer to check my email and her email was still on the screen (for the second time this month)so i ...

A.   12 April 2010: She is either lying to you, or to herself about her feelings for her ex. She could simply "block" his messages permanently then there would be no more contact. There's no way to approach this problem without creatiing some drama. But if it solves ... (read in full...)

Chronic Unemployment

Q.   My boyfriend of 7 years is chronically unemployed. He is well educated, and has some good skills, but has been on a consulting gravy train that has allowed him to live, albeit meagerly, on very little actual work. With this has come the leisurely ...

A.   28 March 2010: Sounds like my ex-boyfriend. He was the exact same way! Of course we were only 20 at the time....But he was very flightly like that. And fickle. Couldn't make up his mind which woman he wanted to stick with either. He had the annoying habit of ... (read in full...)

If the porn is better than me should I go ahead and leave?

Q.   so.. my boyfriend and i have been together for two years, we have a son and everything is great besides the fact that he isn't attracted to me sexually. he didn't tell me this i found it on his computer. so now that i found that i find myself ...

A.   20 March 2010: I would leave him. He is being disrespectful and showing you that he clearly has no sexual interest in you anymore. It's only a matter of time before he cheats on you. Leave now.... (read in full...)

Worries before we wed!

Q.   Is it wrong to chat online "face book" or send txts via cell phone to friends and exs whom you'd hooked up with? esp, when your in a committed relationship or officially engaged? we've been together more than 2.5 years, and everythings going really ...

A.   20 March 2010: Facebook is just another way to hook up with people and mascarade it as "keeping in touch" with friends. It wrecks havoc in most committed relationships because you are putting yourself out there, I don't care how you want to sugar-coat it, and ... (read in full...)

I had a dream last night...

Q.   Hi, I had a dream last night that upset my whole day the next day. I dreamt I was in a petrol filling station and filling my car up with fuel, I noticed a lovely sporty car pull up opposite the pump i was using, the driver was my ex boyfrien...

A.   20 March 2010: YeIah, and I had a dream last night where I caught my boyfriend sneaking around with a woman he works with. You can't read too much into your dreams, they are just our insecure thoughts working themselves out. It's not reality so don't beat ... (read in full...)

I love him so much and want to fight for my marriage... Help!

Q.   I am so lost and hurting so bad.. My husband and I have been together 18 years we have two boys one is 14 and the other is 4. When my oldest was little I cheated on my husband 3 different times which I know I was wrong, god knows I do, I wish I ...

A.   20 March 2010: You can't make someone love you or want to be with you. Go through with the separation. I personally think he's involved with someone else and just wants to see where it will go with her before he makes his move. If I'm wrong, he may be willing to ... (read in full...)

Husband cheated and got girl pregnant!

Q.   what to do? i'm a christian, but am so confused. married 12 years and he cheated on me and got this young girl pregnant. he wants to stay with me, but how am i supposed to deal with him being involved in another child's life that isn't mine!!? we ...

A.   20 March 2010: You may be a Christian, but your husband is not. You should divorce him and move on. God does not send anyone to hell over a divorce and p.s. it's perfectly legit even in christian circles when adultery has violated the bond. Let him go, it's not ... (read in full...)

Chronic Unemployment

Q.   My boyfriend of 7 years is chronically unemployed. He is well educated, and has some good skills, but has been on a consulting gravy train that has allowed him to live, albeit meagerly, on very little actual work. With this has come the leisurely ...

A.   20 March 2010: Has he ever held a good job for any length of time? It could be one of two things; he's the type of guy who's always found a woman to support him because he may be educated (looks good on paper) but doesn't apply himself for reasons ranging from ... (read in full...)

What do men think about "scruffy" women?

Q.   What do men think about "scruffy" women? Hi - I am a bit of a hippy chic who goes to a lot of gigs/festivals with other hippyish friends. I have never been particularly smart (eg glossy hair/perfect nails) and even if I wanted to I'm never good wit...

A.   20 March 2010: What by definition do you mean by "scruffy"?....I've only heard that term used to describe a dog, i.e. canine. Not a human being.... (read in full...)

My wife is getting a better deal with a group of swingers

Q.   hi a few months back my wife and i went on an oversea holiday with 2 other couple. one we knew (well thought we knew well) and the other we had been out with a few time. Both the other couples at som 5 to 8 years older that us too. whilst o...

A.   20 March 2010: Well next time, you should be the one to pick the couple and maybe you should select a couple that has an attractive wife.It was probably no accident that your wife picked a couple that stuck you with a dumpy, frumpy somewhat heavy set wife. Could ... (read in full...)

Impotent man who has completely lost his sex drive.

Q.   My husband is impotent. The doctors don't know anything wrong with his health. He does not know why. He never wants sex,and he gets limp,when finally we have some. I don't know what to do anymore. It goes on like this 5 years ago. I can't...

A.   15 March 2010: Maybe he's obsessing in his head so much he's doing it to himself. Worry, fear, panic, obsession can kill little willy. Either that or he's not attracted to you any longer. Could he maybe be depressed? Or is he taking medications that affect his ... (read in full...)

Why do guys look at other girls?

Q.   why do boys when going out with girls look at other girls? does this mean that they do not truly love their girlfriend?...

A.   15 March 2010: Men with a roving eye usually have difficulty staying faithful. Tell him how you feel and see if he can control his urges. It's all about self discipline and respect.... (read in full...)

Good morning babe!!!

Q.   I am in a long distance relationship .We have been together for 6 months. We fly to see each other every 4 weeks but talk and text almost every day. My problem is... usually we text each other good morning. Lately I have been recieveing 2 or 3 good ...

A.   15 March 2010: Sometimes a guilty man reacts harshly when his dirty little double-life has just been discovered. Don't say another word but the next time he's in the shower, check his phone for text messages to and from other women or strange messages you know he ... (read in full...)

My wife is getting a better deal with a group of swingers

Q.   hi a few months back my wife and i went on an oversea holiday with 2 other couple. one we knew (well thought we knew well) and the other we had been out with a few time. Both the other couples at som 5 to 8 years older that us too. whilst o...

A.   15 March 2010: It seems like it would be easier to swap when you are on vacation and not in your hometown, where you'll have to bump into those same people at the grocery store, PTA meeting etc. Kind of awkward if you ask me, plus since you wife liked it she may ... (read in full...)

Could this pain have to do with an abortion?

Q.   i had really bad charlie horse like pain in my pelvic area after sex last night. today my cramp are not as bad but they still hurt a little .I did have an abortion in january please help me what could it be ...

A.   26 February 2010: It wouldn't hurt to go see your physician. You can develop complications after an abortion.... (read in full...)

Should I go out on a date with my friend in spite of being married?

Q.   i am married but i want to be with my friend and he wants to be with me but i don't think it will lead to sex should i go out on a date with him or not? I mean i am not saying I don't want have sex with him I do but we are both a bit more mature ...

A.   26 February 2010: Where is your husband? Is he okay with the idea of yo udating someone else? I thought the whole point of getting married was to be with that one person and no one else. Am I missing something here? If you want to date this guy, then file for ... (read in full...)

Should I go out on a date with my friend in spite of being married?

Q.   i am married but i want to be with my friend and he wants to be with me but i don't think it will lead to sex should i go out on a date with him or not? I mean i am not saying I don't want have sex with him I do but we are both a bit more mature ...

A.   26 February 2010: Where is your husband? Is he okay with the idea of yo udating someone else? I thought the whole point of getting married was to be with that one person and no one else. Am I missing something here? If you want to date this guy, then file for ... (read in full...)

Should I go out on a date with my friend in spite of being married?

Q.   i am married but i want to be with my friend and he wants to be with me but i don't think it will lead to sex should i go out on a date with him or not? I mean i am not saying I don't want have sex with him I do but we are both a bit more mature ...

A.   26 February 2010: Where is your husband? Is he okay with the idea of yo udating someone else? I thought the whole point of getting married was to be with that one person and no one else. Am I missing something here? If you want to date this guy, then file for ... (read in full...)

Is sex under 15 a good idea?

Q.   Hi there, I have been wondering if sex is a good idea under 15. I have been really curious after a sex ed lesson earlier this week and as such am fairly confused on what to do! My boyfriend is lovely, as always, but I can tell just by looking ...

A.   4 February 2010: No. It's not a good idea. Wait several more years. It's okay to be curious, but don't act on it. You actually increase your chance for cervical cancer by having sex too young.... (read in full...)

He has me so down and depressed I feel trapped!

Q.   My husband has always seemed to find slightly twisted ways of running me down on a semi-regular basis but last week has really made me want to leave. In an argument in which he told me I was taking too long to study and change my career (I'm doing ...

A.   4 February 2010: Why in the world did you marry this guy? I am hoping he has not always been this insensitive. It's time to give him a heads up. Either he start being more supportive, or you will file for divorce. Then give him some time to change, and if things ... (read in full...)

I want to end the relationship because she has put on too much weight

Q.   I am trying to find a way to end a relationship with a woman who has simply become too obese for me and I don't want to hurt her feelings. Is there anyone who can give me some advice?...

A.   4 February 2010: By all means give her another reason. Overweight women struggle with their self image as it is, and losing weight at that age is extremely hard. Why not tell her that you just feel like you are growing apart, or you aren't ready for a steady ... (read in full...)

Do you think he still loves her and is just too angry to get back with her?

Q.   Dear Agony Aunts and Uncles. I am dating a guy for about 3 months now. He does not want commitment he sayd and he just says 'let's see how it goes'. We usually meet up on a Saturday for a drink or meal and maybe once during the week. My ...

A.   4 February 2010: No he's not over his ex and apparently enjoys having contact with her, otherwise he would've ditched the phone. It's hard to be the "next girl" after a guy has been involved with someone and messy things are still going on between them. On the ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend gave me the same engagement ring he gave his ex!

Q.   Hello, my boyfriend gave me an engagement ring that was previously used by his ex girlfriend. He says that he redid the ring, but the diamond is the same. It makes me feel uncomfortable. There is also a plus, when we started the relation...

A.   4 February 2010: I think you should insist on a new ring. You can always have that one sized as a pinky ring or turn the diamond into a pendant and just use it for something else. But he needs to buy you a ring that YOU picked out. There are no cheap shortcuts on ... (read in full...)

Is my friend telling the truth? Is she pregnant with my BF's baby?

Q.   Hi Iv Got A Big Problem. Im 18 Years Old Iv Been With My Boyfriend For 3 Years Now And We're Engaged And We Were Trying For A Baby. But... I Got A Text From A Old Friend Who I Blamed My Boyfriend For Cheating On Me With Her He Claimed It Was Just A ...

A.   4 February 2010: Sounds like he may be the Dad. Only a paternity test will confirm this, and you'll have to wait until AFTER the child is born before this can be done. Until then, are you prepared to sit quietly for 9 more months (give or take) and wait for the ... (read in full...)

Any advice on how to keep things cool?

Q.   Hi. I was going out with a guy, he was really sweet but suddenly things turned sour. He told me he loved me very much, wanted to spend the rest of his life with me but he was really hurt when I told him we were going to fast, because, as he already ...

A.   4 February 2010: This guy is a MAJOR head game player and he's using these manipulative tactics to MANIPULATE you into the terms he wants and if you fall for it. This guy is truly not worth this much drama. The head games will be endless and he will manipulate your ... (read in full...)

Boy, revenge is sweet...

Q.   Hi, my wife recently cheated on me with a guy who lives in a small town about 10 miles away from me, anyway to cut a long story short I found everything out, confronted my wife and then I confronted the guy in question and gave him the mandotary ...

A.   4 February 2010: While I realize the odds of anyone tracing the offensive flyers back to you and being able to prove you sent them, is highly unlikely I think you'd be better off not to pursue your plan of revenge. Defamation of character can land you in a heap of ... (read in full...)

We were in love and were together for ten years and now it is as I don't exist

Q.   Hi. I'm very distressed because my partner and I split up a few months ago and recently saw each other around Christmas time but didn't sleep together. We have unresolved issues and I wanted to meet to talk to him. We still have feelings for each ...

A.   4 February 2010: Regardless of how compassionate your text messages appear to be, the police will tell you to stop contacting, should he decide to notify them. I think your boyfriend has lost interest in you. I know it will be hard but I think you should ... (read in full...)

Given his ex is on the scene should I even be considering marriage?

Q.   My fiance continues to talk with his ex. I believe it is her that initiates the contact. I've read his emails to find this out. She says things like, I miss you more than ever and I miss you so much I could puke. It has been 3 years since they hav...

A.   31 January 2010: Basschick gives good advice, but also after you've given him plenty of time to handle the situation, and he still doesn't, well then you have access to his e-mail account obviously, why don't YOU e-mail her (posing to be him) and tell her all about ... (read in full...)

I dislike the way my closest friends treats me, what should I do?

Q.   Basically ive been close friends with a women(im female)for a couple of decades!.We would always tell each other our daily news and regulary meet up every few days. But within the past year she got a new boyfriend and all of a sudden become ...

A.   31 January 2010: Friendships should lift you up and make you feel energized. If they are draining you and giving you head games, it is not the type of friendship you should keep hanging on to. Sometimes we outgrow our friends. Your friend sounds very self-centered ... (read in full...)

Am I investing my time for it all to end anyway???

Q.   I am in love beyond what I ever thought possible. I was once married (for almost 10 years), and left that relationship a hollow (cynical) man. I spent a lot of time learning about myself, my needs, and ultimately what I wanted. At about the time...

A.   22 January 2010: Her head is definately screwed on backwards. She needs therapy. Her relationship behavior is destructive; only loves you in the initial romantic phase, loses interest once things move past that phase and become mature. No one lives in the ephoria ... (read in full...)

I went down the affair route as I wanted to feel love, but I don't want to do that any more.

Q.   i am not sure what i am feeling, but here it goes... I have been with my husband for 14 years. We met when we were 18 and got pregnant 9 months later, we have been together ever since, with a few breaks here and there. We have been married now 8 ...

A.   22 January 2010: Before you and your husband agreed to have an open marraige you have to ask yourself if you still loved him at that point, or were so bored/disenchanted and disconnected that you were actually willing to try something so outrageous? You've tried it ... (read in full...)

My wife and he talk all the time, but when I am there he pretends he doesn't know her

Q.   I wrote before about thinking my wife could be cheating on me with my son's coach. It is just driving me crazy. He isn't the coach anymore, but yet he finds reasons to call her still. They were on the phone for an hour the other night and then ...

A.   22 January 2010: Yup. Big red flag. They are having an emotional affair at the very least. And hopefully that's all. Your wife is obviously attracted to him; maybe he's more talkative, or funny. She is telling herself it's nothing more than a "harmless" little ... (read in full...)

She wont do what I want sexually, should I break up with her?

Q.   Hello, I'd appreciate if it were girls who answered my question, it's not that guys don't have good advice to offer me but it's just that I'd prefer a girl's advice on this one. (Although if you're a guy and really think your piece of advice would ...

A.   22 January 2010: Your girlfriend is immature and I honestly think women won't appreciate or enjoy sex until their 30's. Most women in their 20's maybe enjoy the attention, and the power they have over men who are constantly panting after them, but there's nothing ... (read in full...)

I am in a LDR and pregnant and jealous of my b/f's female friends

Q.   Hey everyone, I'm 37 years old, I've been married once before for almost 10 years but am now divorced. In June of last year, I met someone on-line who lives in the States (I live in Canada) and we've been dating ever since. In July, I got preg...

A.   22 January 2010: I think you have reason to be concerned. I have a theory about men and their women friends. Most men who are in committed relationships don't. Not the kind that come over and hang out at ther house, not the kind they buy gifts for at least. Men who ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's best friend is a girl

Q.   My boyfriend has a bestfriend and she's a girl.. I knew about her before me and him became afficial.. the talk every now and then.. and once before my boyfriend gave her my number and she called me saying "you don't ever have to worry about me and ...

A.   22 January 2010: No. It's not possible because the sex thing gets in the way. Trust me one of them wants more from this relationship and is using the "friendship" as a front. Male/female friendships only work when the male/female are both single and or in ... (read in full...)

When my girlfriend is at work she doesn't call me as much, should I be worried

Q.   My girlfriend and I have recently become engaged. Everything has been great. But one thing bothers me. She is an in home care giver to a handicapped man and sometimes when she goes to work for him for a few days she often goes long periods of time ...

A.   22 January 2010: Yes you're being overly sensitive and needy. She's at work! People can get fired for texting, and personal calls while they are working. Let her do her job!! You are over-reacting. Please lighten up.... (read in full...)

He never told me until now that he has a 6 year old!

Q.   So me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and I thoughtwe had a pretty solid relationship. Over the christmas period we didnt see much of each other as we both work in retail and were working silly hours. We managed to find time before ...

A.   12 January 2010: He may have just found out about her himself...? At any rate,I think his answer is acceptable. The worst thing he did was wait 3 years (if he knew about her all that time) and he may have been afraid you'd run the other way if he'd told you sooner.... (read in full...)

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