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writes:I am a 51 white male and I met a 51 black female on a sex site. We hit off great and with in 3 months we had fallen in love and were almost inseparable during that time. She had a sales job set up before we met that was to last 6 months. I live in Tx and her job is in Fl. She drove down and quickly found out that she was not being paid what she was told. I paid her way there and Im still paying her way after her being there 3 months. She has had 3 different jobs, was homeless for a wk. put in jail for pot possession. Here is what I need help understanding. I've paid for everything. She has not received a ck from anyone, After getting put in jail i said that's it ill get you a plane ticket back and she said no because her mind is made up and she is staying and is going to find a way to do what she had planned on going there to do. I said if it's a pride thing don't worry about it. She can do the same jobs here for the same money. We talked 1-2 times a day and now, she will go 3-4 days and not call. I told that I love and miss her and it's not right 2 not communicate everyday specially since all the problems she's been through. She said she forgets to call me. She thinks its ok for doing what she is doing, not making any money, using my money to live on, and not call me until she needs some more money. I cut her money off, She says she loves me but i don't see or feel anything from her since she has been in FL. What i did for her was it wrong? I did it because I love and care for her, or what she is doing to me Im not seeing any love or she wouldn't be putting me through hell.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (7 July 2012):
 She's flighty and unstable. You should let her go and move on. There's only pain in your future if you stick it out with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2012): Wait a minute. Why would u began ur post with race? I read through to give u the benefit of the doubt but race is irrelevant to ur post. It's almost a subliminal message. I'm white and she's black and this is the grimmy things she's done. A more appropriate post should have read a female I pursued on a dating site caught my eye off the back. Moderators you should have edited his sentence. In any event, your being used by this woman.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 July 2012):
 she's using you hon.
do not call her
do not send her money
if you offered to bring her to you and she has nothing to keep her in FL then she's not interested in a full time real relationship.
you said you met on a sex site.. that sounds like she wanted sex but no relationship.
if you want to talk to her you can but DO NOT SEND HER MONEY
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2012): As a woman I can tell you she is obviously using you. Honestly , she seems like a problematic and dramatic person and no self respecting women would live off a guy's money in exchange for something there is a name for that and you know what it is. I think you are not being form with her and she knows this and sees you as her sugar daddy that she can wrap aroun her finger. How do you know how she feels? Cut communication with her if she is really interested she will call for another reason that is NOT money. Also STOP with the money , don't send her a penny or she will keep using you. I am being sincere with you. Think to yourself : if she really cared about you would she do this? Do you deserve to be treate that way? I dot think so. So man up and stop being clingy and needy and cut her off and her reaction will tell you how she feels though I am sure that she won't call for another reason that is not money.Good luck
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (6 July 2012):
 This is sad. It sounds like she does not even have a home in Florida. It does not mean you keep helping her though. It's not your fault that she moved to Texas to be with you. She should have weighed in the pros and cons before taking the risk and move. It's not your fault that she had pot and got in jail. You did the best you can and figured she's not the kind of woman you want to be associated with. I think it's fair to move on and not answer any calls because you know it will be about money.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2012): I'd honestly hate to say it, but it sounds like she's using you. From what you've said, it seems like she doesn't care for you nearly as much as she does your money. My advice is to cut her off and cease contact. If you keep at it, you're only going to hurt yourself more in the end.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2012): I am sorry, but I think she is scamming you for your money.
If she loves you she would be with you, especially as she is not doing very well where she is now. Nothing would keep me from the man I love. You deserve better. Please don't send any more Money.
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