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writes:Hi, I recently turned 18 and not long after I found myself liking a guy that is a bit older than me. We first met at work and he thought I was older. But then he found out I'm only 18. I have no problem with the age gap and at first I thought he didn't either because we started hanging out and going out on dates. I even kissed him and everything seemed ok. But then something about the way he acted started to bother me and I started thinking he had a problem with our age gap and it turned out I was right. I explained to him that the last guy I was into was 24 and he hurt me pretty bad. I asked him if I was just wasting my time pursuing him and he said no. But a part of me is worried. I'm not sure what to do to make him realize that our age gap doesn't matter. He is the sweetest guy I've ever met and I don't think I'm willing to give this up yet. So does anyone have some advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2007): A guy at work wouldnt ask me out because he thought I was too young, I was 17 him 27. It really does depend on the guy, this other guy asked me out and he was 24 so thats 7yr age gap but it didn't seem that big too me but my older sister called him a perve. It all depends on the guy really, if he's not secure with it then you might as well give up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): I liked a guy who was 35 when I was 25. I felt a little insecure about the age difference at first, but I was just real confident and cool and we turned out getting along great. We fell in love he even told me he had never felt this way before about anybody. But then again I was interesting and "mature" for my age. I had done A LOT of stuff by the time I was 25. Intellectually I had read a lot. I had lived in nyc for six years. I had hung out with celebrities. I had travelled to many different places. I had friends from all walks of life. I knew about so many different things. I was fully capable and comfortable of having champagne at a ball as I was being barefoot under the stars in an island. I had just seen alot and had a lot of cool experiences. And I knew who I was. That just made me an interesting person. The more you develop yourself as an individual with a great mind and just very interesting, AGE no longer matters. People of ALL ages will like you. So think about how cool you are and how much you have to offer. And if he still has an issue with your age, then maybe he is not the one. So now all you got to do is START your life. Make your mark on the world and on yourself. That way, next time, no matter what the age gap, they are the ones who are going to be intimidated by you because you are so fascinating, and not the other way around.
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reader, katwell +, writes (27 August 2007):
katwell is verified as being by the original poster of the question to respond to the first post he is 25. and i've always been told that i act much more mature than most my age. we get along perfectly he's just having trouble dealing with such a big difference or at least it is in his eyes
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reader, somewhat_anonymous +, writes (27 August 2007):
How old is older? He might be thinking you two are not on the same maturity level. If that is so, you are just going to have to show him you're on the same mental level.
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reader, katwell +, writes (27 August 2007):
katwell is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsorry I forgot to add that he is actually 25.
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