Partner drinks and smokes too much and its affecting his health
Q. My partner who is 42, drinks every night 4 -6 six cans or more. Rarely less. We have been together 2 years and he claims that he has reduced his intake. Perhaps he has, as before we got together he was single for many years and lived an alcohol ...
A. 26 April 2011: I think -unless he decides he wants to change- then you need to accept him and his behaviour for how it is, because he isn't going to change. If you keep bringing it up (even though you're doing it for his own good) it is going to cause a wedge ... (read in full...)
She's a vast improvement to my last GF. Am I being paranoid? Worrying that she'll become like my last Gf?
Q. Hello all, and thank you for reading this in advance. I feel like a rather foolish boyfriend. You see, 2 months ago I ended a rather horrible relationship. My girlfriend treated me like garbage. She put me off for her friends, ignored me, and woul...
A. 25 April 2011: You gotta build your own self confidence and belief in yourself. That will stop you being insecure and needy. At the moment you don't think yourself good enough for this great girl to be your girlfriend. If you continue with the needyness, she will ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's buddies now give me the cold shoulder since I made him stop hanging around with his ex!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for a year. Things were going very smoothly until two months ago. I told him how uncomfortable I was with his friendship with his ex from college(who happens to be the center of his social universe). This woman was ...
A. 25 April 2011: Wow that's a big thing you forgave your boyfriend for. (Finding them with only her underwear on) I think your boyfriends friends attitude is largely caused by what youf boyfriend has told them. If he had told them the story as you have told it, hi... (read in full...)
Is masturbation a normal thing??
Q. i have this problem i mustarbate sometimes i have a gf and we have briliant sex but i do and sometimes i feel watching porn and thats against my believe of 10 commandement. Wat i tink is i m too old 2 mustarbate and also tink i m not normal is the ...
A. 23 April 2011: There is nothing in the 10 commandments about masturbating. If you know the 10 commandments then you should this! ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend was on a dating site and he wanted to meet "me"!
Q. I receently had a tip off that my boyfriend has a profile on a dating site. The profile had pictures on it taken a few months ago and we've been together for nearly a year. I pretended to be someone else and got in contact. He replied and agreeed ...
A. 21 April 2011: Look at it this way. If you had showed him this evidence, and he was remorseful, and sat down and told you what was lacking in your relationship, maybe you would have something to work on. You could have perhaps figured something out. But as he has ... (read in full...)
Marry former porn actress?
Q. There is an organisation for former porn actresses called Pink Cross. These women now won´t have sex any more before married. The question is: Would you have married a former porn actress if you knew she had quit porn and now take distance from this ...
A. 21 April 2011: Are you saying that you married a woman who used to be in porn, and now she helps others get out of it? If I were you, I would obviously love my wife.. as otherwise I wouldn't have married her. I would support her, and see her for who is is today. ... (read in full...)
When it comes to intimacy, I'm turned off by my BF who weighs over 300 pounds!!
Q. My boyfriend is over 300 pounds. I don't love him any less because of his weight (I am also 130 pounds), but when it comes to intimacy I am turned off. I feel terrible to think this way but I can't help it. He is trying to lose weight but I am ...
A. 21 April 2011: Reading your follow up post I would say you just have to stick in there, and support and encourage him. If he used to go to work out and it is only due to a death that he has gained weight then you know that he does want himself to look goo... (read in full...)
Ever since she lost her virginity, she has become less interested in sexual activity!
Q. my girlfriend and i have dated for over 2 years now, and in the begginning it was awesome we couldn't keep our hands off each other. the problem is she was "virgin". i enjoyed the stuff we did instead , anal is awesome. but ever since she lost her ...
A. 20 April 2011: No, it's not normal. You need to communicate with her to find out what the problem is. It could be anything to not being into you in the same way she used to be, to something physically or emotionally going on with her. Talk with her.... (read in full...)
Guys: Do you all want a younger woman?
Q. Guys, tell the truth, do you REALLY want a younger woman than the one you are with now? I am in a relationship with a man 15 years my senior. The other day I asked him if he woud date a woman in her 40s he said no, in her 30s he said no (even...
A. 20 April 2011: I am in my 30's and I have found dating a woman around my own age (or a few years older) the best. This is mainly because I have found them to be better at dealing with their emotions, are more mature and know what they want out of life. If y... (read in full...)
He wants me to do a strip tease for him. I feel so self conscious about it. How can I please him and deal with my feelings about my body issues?
Q. My boyfriend and I are going away for a weekend, and he wants me to dress up, and give him a strip tease. I've dressed up for him before, but it makes me feel self conscious, but not overly so, because I pick outfits that cover up the bits I'm ...
A. 19 April 2011: Put your insecurities aside and do it. Your boyfriend loves every bit of your body or he wouldn't want you to do this. By not doing it you are just making him feel like there must be something wrong with the way he sees you. Do it.. you'll find it ... (read in full...)
Should I go see a prostitute?
Q. Recently while i was overseas I had sex (twice) with a prostitute, in an adult venue. She had the looks, body and personality of a porn star. It as the best sex I ever had (and the most expensive!) As I am single and having to 'pay for sex' is...
A. 19 April 2011: Well you've already done it, so why are you trying to seek validation on here by people who don't even know you? You're in your 40's.. old enough to make your own choices in life.... (read in full...)
We went on vacation together but he didn't post any photos of me!
Q. Hi, would like some clarity pls.i went on vacation with my boyfreind,had a lovely time together,but im quite disturbed by the fact that he posted all the photos of our vacation,and he dint include any of me or of him,i also saw other vacations he ...
A. 19 April 2011: If there are photos of you from the holiday but he hasn't posted the ones with you in them, then I would say he is trying to hide you from his vacation? Best thing you can do is ask him why he didn't post any pictures of you.. there must be a ... (read in full...)
Is my wife done with me? Or is having sex just once every 5-6 months normal?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 6 years and we have a 2 year old. We use to have sex quite often, but not anymore. I know that things change when you have a kid, but we used to have sex 5 times a week, now it's once every 5-6 months if we are ...
A. 15 April 2011: How does she treat you, in other ways? It could be that the sex side of things is a problem but she does still love you. Like you say, sex frequency does change, but it does seemed to have changed a bit too much.
The only way you can move on from ... (read in full...)
What is your opinion of someone who has quite a few piercings on their body?
Q. I currently have my first and seconds (lobe piercings), and my helix done (upper ear cartilage piercing) and in my left ear first piercing (lobe), i have a 3mm fleshy (stretcher) And i want: -My thirds -My tongue -My nose -My belly ...
A. 15 April 2011: Personally I don't like them, I don't think they are attractive. I think one or two in each ear is fine, but that's about it. I guess I tend to think "natural beauty" is attractive and you don't need to pierce/tattoo or put loads of makeup all over ... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend but she's too fat. How do I break up?
Q. me and my gf got together about 3 years ago. we both weighed 17 stone. we had a good relationship but in the last 12 months we said we would go on a diet. Now i weight 13 stone. she however weighs 18 and 1/2 stone. i am attracting the attention of ...
A. 14 April 2011: You can either break up with her delicately.. you could either try and not hurt her feelings (lie) or you can tell her it's because you're not physically attracted to her (tell the truth). It will hurt if you be truthful, but maybe she'll do ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend liked sex with her ex better because he was "larger". How do a I deal with this?
Q. I know a lot of people on this board are tired of the never-ending penis size questions, but please bear with me. The answers to most questions are "it's how you use it" and "women don't care about size", etc. But, what if you're in a situation ...
A. 14 April 2011: I had an ex-girlfriend, probably 5 years ago now and I remember she made what she thought was an innocent comment "I hated having sex with my last boyfriend because his dick was so big it hurt" and that comment really stayed with me! I didn't really ... (read in full...)
I love my partner, but I cheated on her with an 18 year old who is now pregnant
Q. I have Just made the biggest mistake of my life. After having my first un-planned child at 17 and then a planned one at 19, I have since seperated with my childrens mother as things were just not working. I'm doing my absolute best to do the writ...
A. 10 April 2011: What a situation you have got yourself in to. Well I would say, openly asking the girl to get an abortion isn't going to work. If I were you, i would try and show this girl that it is not in your best interests to have the baby in terms of having a ... (read in full...)
After 5 years husband confesses addiction to Pornography?
Q. I have been married for 5 yrs. All this time I thoguht my husband was addicted to my body. But,Now my husband tells me that he loves big boobs and that all this time he has been entertained himself with porn videos on Youtube, watching women with ...
A. 8 April 2011: You don't love him anymore, because he looks at porn? I think you are really misunderstanding the male mindset. Whether or not he looks at porn has absolutely no consequence on his feelings for you. If he loves you, and is attracted to you, I don't ... (read in full...)
She's 30 years younger than me, should I not get involved?
Q. I met a woman on holiday who is 30 years younger than me. We both know this is not long term but we enjoyed ourselves. She wants to visit me in my home. My children are grown up and don't live at home. I am separated for 6 years. Is it best to ...
A. 8 April 2011: If you want the same things and are being honest with one another, then who cares about the age difference? I don't think it is necessarily important. I'm presuming you are two consenting adults that want the same thing?... (read in full...)
He was 30 years older than me, but I still can't get over our break-up.
Q. Isn't life ridiculous..... it makes me fall in love with a man 30 years older than me and then it makes us break up because we cant be together properly.... I loved him so much and still do...... How I wish we could get back together..... How ...
A. 8 April 2011: It feels painful now, but you'll start to feel so much better soon, and when you find someone of your own age you'll be glad things didn't work out with that middle aged man. ... (read in full...)
Wife doesn't let me cum on her face. Isn't that something almost all girls do?
Q. My wife won't let me cum on her face, ever! As far as I know, almost all girls let their guys cum on their faces, and enjoy it too! but not mine. This really sucks, I feel really unwanted, how do I make her do it?...
A. 7 April 2011: I agree with the other replies, in my experience no girls like this done to them. They do not find it a turn on and are unwilling to give it a try. ... (read in full...)
I want to marry her, but her friend is exaggerating horrible secrets from my past.
Q. Basically, my girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year, and I'm planning to propose to her soon as we are very much in love, but I have some very horrific and soul destroying secrets that I never ever want anyone to know, but a close ...
A. 7 April 2011:
Tell your girlfriend the secrets. It is much better coming from you, than a friend. You can explain the reasons to why you did what you did. If your girlfriend is very much in love with you, she will know you as a person and will probably be fine... (read in full...)
I want to get married, but she had 1 minute intercourse with a man while we were on a three month separation...Should I let this bother me?
Q. I been with my girlfriend for a very long time and we both are thinking about marriage. We have everything we want in one another. I just have question if everything you and your girlfriend did sexually was both of your guys first besides a a ...
A. 7 April 2011: So this girl had sex with someone else whilst you were on a break which you had asked for because you stopped speaking to her?
Of course this is going to bother you, she slept with someone else! You wouldn't have emotions if it didn't.
If you ... (read in full...)
My girfriend may be dying, why don't I care?
Q. Im really stuck here. My girlfriend was recently diagnosed with viral encephalitis which is irritation and swelling of the brain. She had it before and nearly died from it but recovered. I have felt that the relationship has been over for a ...
A. 5 April 2011: Sounds like you should have had the guts to break up with this girl ages ago. You should stop prolonging the inevitable and just break up with her. You'll feel much better about moving on, and so will she. In my opinion, if she has cheated on y... (read in full...)
I have fallen for my priest! What should I do?
Q. hullo out there i just need some advice or an ear on this, i have met this wonderful priest who is like my friend, counsellor and my pillar of strenght. he has helped me so much when i had lost my job he supported me and gave me a reason to go on ...
A. 1 April 2011: Oh dear.. I can't see how if when you walk out of the confession box with more sins than you had before you went in as being such a good thing.
Some people find themselves attracted to people who are helping them. Whether it be a priest, teacher,... (read in full...)
Is dry sex illegal?
Q. Hi I'm 15 born in 95 and my Girlfriend born in 97, We've just discovered the joys of dry sex, The legal age is 16 in the UK but as we are under 16, Dry sex as some of you might know doesn't involve intercourse, Is it illegal? Just wan...
A. 30 March 2011: What on earth is the previous anonymous reply going on about?
If a 15 and 17 year old are having a sexual relationship there is not going to be any issue of prosecution. Best to talk to a charity such as http://w... (read in full...)
Intense urge to have extra-marital affairs!!
Q. I don't have a great history with females. I have lacked confidence and have only had a sexual relationship with one woman. So far, I feel like I have missed out on this aspect of life. However, for the first time in my life, I feel more confident ...
A. 9 March 2011: The thing is, what is more important to you, being a good husband and dad, or endulging in some lustful sex (in the kind of way you can't with your wife) I think unless you're exceptionally deceiving, you will suffer from serious guilt and p... (read in full...)
I used my partners email to set up a Facebook account, now I have no privacy..
Q. hi i have no privacy when i first set up facebook account i did so useing my partners email add,it was his idea.an also i did,nt have email add cus i only recently started useing a computer.unknown to me i did,nt know everytime i got contacted on ...
A. 8 March 2011: Set up a new email address, and change your address in Facebook. Do not tell your boyfriend the password. It seems easily solved, but it sounds to me his trust issues in your relationship are a far wider problem than the one you have described. Are ... (read in full...)
After everything he's done, now he wants me back..I don't know what to do!
Q. so we broke up a little bit after our 5th anniversary because he said he doesn't want to ever hurt me. after TWO MONTHS of practically no contact (we did speak two times on the phone 4 a little while) he sends me a message saying he regrets breaking ...
A. 8 March 2011: I can only say if I were in your position and I lost my virginity with my girlfriend, who lost hers to mine and she broke up with me for 2 months to sleep "at least" 9 people there would be no way I could have any kind of relationship with her.
... (read in full...)
My husand used to abuse me, but has stopped...Is this real change?
Q. Its been 7 months since my husband has been verbally or physically abusive to me or anyone else. He says he is changing,and has been on meds for the last 7 months. we have been together for almost 6 years. At the 4 1/2 yr mark is when he bacame ...
A. 2 March 2011: Remember that anti-depressants are not going to stop him being violent, but they are going to help him deal with negative feelings in his head.
He will need to do more than take these drugs. He needs therapy to uncover why he can't control ... (read in full...)
Is grinding with other guys considered as cheating?
Q. I have a boyfriend and I have girls night out sometimes. So here's my question: Grinding/dancing with other guys considered as cheating? I mean, i wouldn't want my bf to be upset if i dance with other guys but my gfs tell me it's fine... what are ...
A. 1 March 2011: Would you be comfortable seeing your boyfriend out with his mates and "grinding" with another girl? I think that should answer your question.... (read in full...)
My husband asked for my sister's phone number!!!
Q. My husband and I have been married for over 13 years now. We have 3 kids together. My sister and I are best friends. She used to be living with us for 3 years and my husband never crossed the line with her. She is single and lives on own now. My ...
A. 1 March 2011: "For few years now our sex life and partnership seems to be going down"
He probably thinks the same, which is why his sexual attention turned to someone else.
You guys need to work on your relationship foremost and this particular issue... (read in full...)
How do we draw a line under this?
Q. I found out my fiancé had been going to massage parlours for massages and 'hand relief'. This is what he told me at first. I found out as he hadn't deleted messages from his sent box, arranging time and what address he had to go to and what he ...
A. 28 February 2011: I think if you want to move forward in your relationship then you need address why he felt the need to see escorts. You don't just 'accidentally' do this, it was most likely planned very well and with a lot of forethought. What is it, he feels, that ... (read in full...)
External genital abnormalities in females
Q. I have recently married a woman who is 50. I have noticed that she is nearly missing all of her labia majora (outer lips of vaginal opening), and other parts that are usually located within the labia majora. Additionally, her clitoris and its hood ...
A. 24 February 2011: I think I prejudged you - you didn't mention you were unable to have sex and I presumed wrongly. Do you know about the condition vaginimus? Search for it on Google, maybe this may apply?... (read in full...)
External genital abnormalities in females
Q. I have recently married a woman who is 50. I have noticed that she is nearly missing all of her labia majora (outer lips of vaginal opening), and other parts that are usually located within the labia majora. Additionally, her clitoris and its hood ...
A. 23 February 2011: You are really going to hurt your wife if you continue with this obsession. You haven't described anything that is wrong. In fact, i've seen a few women on here worried that their lips are too big and want surgery to have them removed because their ... (read in full...)
A not so jolly holiday. I don't think he is right. Any opinions?
Q. My boyfriend of 1 year has 2 children from his previous marriage. I invited them to to our family Christmas dinner. He came along with his children, but didn't accept the invitation for certain until a few days before Christmas. He was very ups...
A. 22 February 2011: Is this an argument that has been going on since Christmas? I wonder what your boyfriends side of it is. From your perspective, it seems like you're "in the right" but then again, rarely in relationships is it about who is right and who is wrong. ... (read in full...)
Why did my wife get upset when I saw a topless sunbather on a beach?
Q. This may be a funny question to ask but my wife got so mad on a trip we took to Mexico when we saw a woman laying out topless. Why is that? I am not the guy who makes comments about other women or takes long stares at them; I have always been very ...
A. 22 February 2011: You don't need help. You just need to remember that women (and men) no matter how secure their relationship will always appreciate a heartfelt comment at certain times. When you saw that woman, and saw your wife was looking affected, you could have ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend says she can't perform oral sex because she has a sore throat! For 12 months???
Q. Hi - I have been with my girlfriend for about 2 yrs. However, during foreplay (or anytime) she will not perform oral sex on me. She has done on a handful of occasions in the past, and I perform oral sex on her regularly because she enjoys it, just ...
A. 22 February 2011: If she used to do it, but doesn't anymore, then maybe along the way in your relationship she realised she doesn't have to do it to keep you happy and interested in her. You need to show her otherwise. If she knew this was a part of sex that was ... (read in full...)
Addicted to running but injured and having to watch my partner train, can we survive this?
Q. Hi. I'm currently seeing a psychiatrist for an addiction to running. Sounds silly I know but it's a huge problem for me. I'm injured at the moment and can't run for about 3 months more, it's been 2 already. Problem is that my partner is a runner too ...
A. 22 February 2011: It sounds like the injury could be a blessing in disguise. Why aren't you working with your psychiatrist to get over this addiction, rather than obsessing with watching your partner run? If you were two alcoholics and one of you had stopped drinking ... (read in full...)
What do you do when a guy only wants you for sex?
Q. hi this is my first time on here, what do you do when a guy only wants you for sex, and leads you on and plays games with your head. idk i think there should be an explanation for this, but im not sure any ideas or opinions???...
A. 22 February 2011:
It depends on whether or not you want to be used or not. But casual sex like this will only cheapen you, and make you feel like crap. It sounds like you want a love to love you, and be in a relationship with you. If so, leave this guy as he will... (read in full...)
Do guys always have a back up girl if they can't get with you?
Q. Do guys always have a back up girl if they can't get with you? I met this guy at a cafe and we talked and we hit it off real good, we kind of dated but we were never in a relationship. However, the last month he's met another girl at the same cafe. ...
A. 22 February 2011: He she a backup girl, or is she just "another" girl? It sounds like he is keeping his options open, and has not yet met someone who he feels he loves and wants to be exclusive with.... (read in full...)
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