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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:My partner who is 42, drinks every night 4 -6 six cans or more. Rarely less. We have been together 2 years and he claims that he has reduced his intake. Perhaps he has, as before we got together he was single for many years and lived an alcohol fuelled bachelor lifestyle along with his peers who all smoke and drink to excess. Unfortunately, it seems to be a cultural problem in this area, but is perceived as 'normal'. He isn't aggressive, but I am increasingly concerned as although he did cut down a few months ago, this seems to have crept up again. He had a liver function test when he was ill last year which revealed some function problems. He admitted lying to the GP as 'everyone does' about what he actually drinks and said the GP was OK about the amount (as he would be). He's in denial about the problem and If I try to talk to him, gets very irritable and will not discuss. I'm worried about his health as he also smokes. Can anyone suggest a way to approach this?
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reader, serenity80 +, writes (26 April 2011):
I think -unless he decides he wants to change- then you need to accept him and his behaviour for how it is, because he isn't going to change. If you keep bringing it up (even though you're doing it for his own good) it is going to cause a wedge between you.
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