Do guys always have a back up girl if they can't get with you?
Q. Do guys always have a back up girl if they can't get with you? I met this guy at a cafe and we talked and we hit it off real good, we kind of dated but we were never in a relationship. However, the last month he's met another girl at the same cafe. ...
A. 22 February 2011: He she a backup girl, or is she just "another" girl? It sounds like he is keeping his options open, and has not yet met someone who he feels he loves and wants to be exclusive with.... (read in full...)
He's quite shy and I prefer the man to make the first move?
Q. I've started seeing a boy, but we're not going out... yet. He's quite shy and I always prefer to let the man make the first move, which means that our relationship isn't really progressing. I do want to be with him but I'm not too sure what to do ...
A. 22 February 2011: If you really like this guy then give him the time and opportunities to grow some confidence. Just because he is shy now, and doesn't make the first move, doesn't mean he will always be this way. He might be the perfect guy for you behind his ... (read in full...)
How do I tell them I prefer small boobs?
Q. My friends are very into watching porn all the time, girls in my year with double d's and wanting tto have sex as soon as possible. To fit in I have to be the same and go along with it. However I don't agree with huge breasts if you girls who read ...
A. 21 February 2011:
Telling these girls that their breast size is a turn of for you, would be inappropriate and rude. They have a right to live their life, how they want, and it is not for you to give them the high and mighty that what they are doing is wrong.
You... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend I had a miscarriage? I don't want to stress him out...
Q. I just found out I had a miscarriage,I didn't know I was pregnant so you can imagine I'm still a bit shaken, my question is about my boyfriend. We have a long distance relationship, things have been a bit rough lately and he's really stressed out ...
A. 21 February 2011: Yes, you should. You can then support each other through what happened. That's a benefit of being in a relationship, you don't have to go through difficult times alone. I hope things improve for you.... (read in full...)
Are there honestly guys who're immune to the media's crap and who honestly prefer A cups over DDs?
Q. I have small breasts and I'm sick of just having to put up with men prefering big. I've been teased my whole life, and I doubt they'll grow, I'm way past puberty. Even ex boyfriends have been jerks about it, but of course they all come up with "oh ...
A. 20 February 2011: I think it's a great shame this is such a big issue for you. In my experience the size of girls breasts is not that important, and i speak for all my friends too. Don't get hung up on school experiences, breast size is just one of dozens of things ... (read in full...)
Now that I'm older, I have no idea what he saw in me at that age. How can I process this?
Q. When I was 18, I began dating a man who was 25. At first my friends and family were wary of the age gap, but we clicked and he turned out to be the love of my life. I'm 23 now, he's 30, and we're still together. Throughout our relationship, I ...
A. 18 February 2011: Yes, you're worrying about nothing. He'd be a creep if you were much younger but I'm sure at 18 you looked a "young woman" rather than a child! See it as a good thing that you're younger than him, you'll always have youth on him and that aint a b... (read in full...)
Porn video sent to me, how will g/f react?
Q. ive been with my girlfriend for over 1 year and 6 months and she wanted me to give up p*rn after we first had intercourse which i understand but i failed about 4 times breaking her heart which made me relise what a twat ive been about it and for ...
A. 17 February 2011: Maybe your girlfriend sent you the porn to test you. Tell her you got the porn and why not watch it together.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend avoids kissing me because I have yellow teeth.
Q. my teeth is all colored by a shade of yellow which was caused by the type of drugs my mum took while carryin me iin the womb bt the 2 front teeth are more affected.i tried doing something abt them bt all the dentists i went to told me dt the ...
A. 17 February 2011: You could have dental veneers. They are similar to "fake nails" in that they are extremely thin layers that go over the actual teeth. They are quite expensive, but IMO worth the money if you have very stained teeth. Look up veneers on googl... (read in full...)
Why would he say he's "a bit jealous?"
Q. I was talking to a guy who i used to kind of be FWB with and he asked how my date went last night. I told him it went very well and that i was going on another date at the weekend. He said "wish i could see you that often :P" "i'm pleased for you ...
A. 11 February 2011: He's jealous because he wants to have his hands in all the pies (figurately speaking)
He doesn't like you enough for you to be his girlfriend, but he is jealous enough to not want to think of you with someone else. Bit of a emotional coward, ... (read in full...)
Why won't he accept that it is over?
Q. Nine months ago, my married man left his wife of 3 years. He said he did it for me, which I never asked of him and I don't believe he did, I think I was just an excuse. He moved in with me for 2 months and moved out again and now shares a house ...
A. 9 February 2011: Sounds like he wants a more relaxed and casual relationship, whereas you want a more commited relationship. Don't know why you can't be living together and he can still see his friends, and his daughter? Does he feel you stop him from doing this?... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is rude to me. Is it because he's comfortable with me now?
Q. so me and my bf have been together for about 4 months and since then things have really changed. I feel like he doesnt like me as much and hes recently become kind of ruder to me. not exactly rude but he has gained a lot of attitude and i feel like ...
A. 9 February 2011: Have you spoken to him about it? Coz you don't mention that in your question. I think it is quite common for people to fall in to bad patterns in relationships. What you need to do is talk to him and show him that what he says is rude and is causing ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't trust me... I can't even go for a beer with friends!
Q. Hey guys i need some advice. I have been with my gf for about 3 years now. We have a 2 year old together. Life is tough. We used to fight ALOT! I used to have to call my mom and dad and tell them to come over to our place and referee it it got so b...
A. 7 February 2011:
I would say sit down and calmly try to reason with her, but as you have said, she flips out.
Well I don't think you are doing anything wrong by keeping in contact with your friends.
Maybe you could plan something that is very "minor" (suc... (read in full...)
Boyfriend expects me to go to bed in bra and g string every night
Q. Hi, I've been with my bf for four years now. He expects me to go to bed in a g string and push up bra everynight at least. He also becomes angry and frustrated if you doesn't either get a hand job or hand job at least. My libido is very low as there ...
A. 5 February 2011: See if you can come to a compromise. For example, save the underwear wearing in bed until weekends (sticking to presumably pj's during the week) or even just on occasions when you go out, or do something together that puts you more in the mood for ... (read in full...)
Why do I attract men, but always end up getting dumped?
Q. My last two relationships have been disasters,in each case the relationships started off wonderful, but as time passed and we became closer, the men seem to become afraid. I don't know what's the problem. I am never outright dumped, they just ...
A. 5 February 2011: Are you able to ask any past guys honestly what went wrong? Ask them for honesty just because you are looking to improve yourself. Maybe if time has passed and they have moved on then they would be happy to do this? Otherwise, what about friends? ... (read in full...)
She said she didn't fancy me because I wasn't Asian?
Q. I started dating this woman a few weeks ago. I found her very attractive and we seemed to sizzle together. We went out 6 times and I thought we were like 2 peas in a pod. On the last occasion we had a very long intimate session. We had planned a ...
A. 4 February 2011: As of yet it is not racist to not be sexually attracted to someone of a different race to your own.
It's a bit brutally honest of her to say it was down to your race, she could have just said she didn't feel any chemistry! Put this one down to ... (read in full...)
Is it worth continuing our facebook romance?
Q. This guy is a leo male, 17 and i'm an aries girl, 18. he says he loves me. ever since i first met him, he has been showing signs that he is attracted to me. i've known him for ten months now. we are very close. we don't meet because of parent ...
A. 4 February 2011: How can you really love each other when you've never even met? Why can't you meet? 10 months is a long time to spend chatting on the internet, without taking things further.
Surely you can make arrangements to meet? if you can't, then perhaps ... (read in full...)
I'm acting on my fetish with other women -- should I keep it a secret?
Q. I am a male in my 40,s with a foot fetish. I am becoming more obsessed with this and now even pay local ladies to enjoy their feet. I do this even though i have an understanding fiance who lets me enjoy and play with her feet. It is somewhat ...
A. 2 February 2011: Are you asking us if you should continue cheating on your fiance? Isn't she your sole mate in that you want to be faithful to her? Surely you're not that much feet apart that you can't work this out together? If you don't stand together in this, she ... (read in full...)
He wants a blowjob but I don't like doing it, what can I do?
Q. i have been in a sort of relationship with a boy, we are both same age(17). at the start we were just good friends he would come up for a drink, then things started to change we would kiss at weekends and then i saw him during the week and we would ...
A. 1 February 2011: Yes, say no. You seem too young and not ready for this kind of thing yet. Wait until you're in a proper relationship and have the love and trust there so that you can feel right about being sexual together.... (read in full...)
I've been so lonely since my boyfriend has been away I had phone sex with another guy!
Q. What have I done? My boyfriend has now been away since October and I miss him so much, and there's still 2 months left to go. I can't imagine being with anyone else but him. But I've done something horrific... I was on the phone to a very close ...
A. 1 February 2011: You're not an evil person.
What you do is learn from this. It could have been a lot worse, you could have physically cheated on your boyfriend.
Learn this about yourself: when you are lonely you have the potential to look for the loss you're ... (read in full...)
Was it reasonable for me to ask her to remove the guys she had a threesome with from her facebook?
Q. I have been with my fiance for the last 11 months, she has many of her ex-boy freinds on her facebook account which she claims to be good freinds with, This also includes 2 guys who have had a threesome with her, it is a bit confronting and hard ...
A. 1 February 2011: It's not a case of being right or wrong, obviously this is bothering you intensely or you wouldn't be posting on here. You've told her how you feel, and now you haven't been able to come to an understanding.
I would look at it this way, if she w... (read in full...)
Both virgins, on birth control pills.... do I REALLY need a condom?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are both virgins but we are planning on having sex in a couple of weeks. She's started taking birth control pills so there is no chance of her getting pregnant. We havent had sex so STI's are also out of the equation so do i ...
A. 31 January 2011: You don't need to, but it is a good idea, at least to begin with. Personally, if I'm in a relationship that is going steady then I've not used condoms as well as birth control pills. Mainly because I feel they really make sex feel less intimate.
... (read in full...)
Penis size insecurity...Why is size such a big deal??
Q. ok well id like to know why guys worry so much about the size of their penis? why is it such a big concern for them? why is it a competition? i dont hear girls comparing the size of their vagina. what is it about it that makes them feel such varity ...
A. 31 January 2011: Some women are insecure about the size of their vagina, questions come up on here all the time. I think the insecurity is mainly that if your penis is too small then you won't be able to satisfy a woman. Not all women would "tease" them abo... (read in full...)
Married 5 years, still virgins, help!
Q. This year I will celebrate my 5 year wedding anniversary. Unfortunately, my wife and I are still virgins. I love her with all of my heart. People that know us think we have the most wonderful, romantic relationship. Love letters every morning before ...
A. 29 January 2011: Wow you are an epitome of the "nice" guy! Surely the question of sex has come up, in the time that you have known her? Surely you know her views towards sex, and why she won't participate? Have you never, ever, tried to make a move on her? You don't ... (read in full...)
Will I pass the security vetting for this new job. Please advise me!
Q. Hi guys, this is not a romantic question, but i need help please. Oh my goodness, I need advice. There's a job at my work, but it says I have to pass security vetting! I know it won't be high level, but I'm panicking because I had to do an IVA b...
A. 29 January 2011: It depends on what the job position is. If it is for the Police Force then you will not be employed if you have had a IVA in the last 3 years. If your new job if related to accounting and/or money then it is likely to be an issue. If your job is... (read in full...)
My lesbian friend suggested we have sex before I can be her gf. Is this how it operates?
Q. I'm a virgin and a lesbian. There's this girl who goes to the same college as me and she's also a lesbian. We met in our history lecture and have become tight. She's been out for 6 years and has had lots of girlfriends. She keeps telling me that...
A. 29 January 2011: I agree with the other advice, I suspect this girl is going to hurt you if you allow her to. She's thinking of herself, and not you. Someone who genuinely wants to care about you would never say such a thing. ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to handle my 'Grumpy Old Man'?
Q. I see my boyfriend at week-ends, as he lives an hour's drive away. It annoys me because he likes to stay up until 2-3 am during the week and by Saturday is not up to much. He likes to sleep in until mid day. I like to be up and about and not to...
A. 29 January 2011: Yeah I was going to say, I was expecting this question to come from a 16 - 19yr old. Isn't he a bit old to be this way now? It comes across to me like he really isn't making much of an effort to have a relationship with you. Is he happy with ho... (read in full...)
Baring my soul here after my life changed drastically. How do I salvage my marriage?
Q. Hi - I'm very curious to hear people's responses please. My husband and I have been together 14 years (Im now early 30s -he's mid 30's). I realize now that I met him at a very vulnerable time in my life. I needed a lot of attention and I was just...
A. 27 January 2011: Hi, well I read your whole post and I have to say what a great writer and communicator you are. As I was reading through your account I was thinking to myself "please don't let it end in an affair" and was rather pleased that it didn't :)
It so... (read in full...)
Why are man always so concerned about there performance and not about what porn actually can do to their brains and judgement?
Q. Porn is a big topic in a lot of relationships. For my own opinion, it is quite sad to see so many guys using porn to get satisfaction,despite having willing and loving partners. The argument is often just to have a quick gratification and not to ...
A. 27 January 2011: I don't know if I totally agree in all cases. I've used a number of moves I've seen in porn films on my girlfriend during particularly savage encounters with her and she seems to be pretty blown away by it. Sometimes sex is about loving tenderness ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 3 years got a random chick pregnant!
Q. My boyfriend and I were together for 3 years. and In October before halloween we had broke up. For a while he made me believe that he wanted to be single and have fun with his friends, but comes to find out he got someone at his work that he works ...
A. 27 January 2011: Hey I'm sorry to hear about your situation. You've been treated REALLY badly and quite rightly you are hurt and upset by it.
Let me promise you this though, you WILL move on and you WILL find someone else. Someone who is actually a million ... (read in full...)
Social disorders prevented me from dating
Q. I am in a very abnormal situation and I would appreiciate Your advice. I am a 22 year old man with social disorders and it wasn't until four or five years ago that I was just able to approache someone and talk to them comfortably without being ...
A. 21 January 2011: What does "social disorders" supposed to mean? Your writing skills seem fine. Are you being too hard and critical on yourself? You're only 22. There are plenty of people who have very little or no dating experience at that age.
Maybe going ou... (read in full...)
I can't get a new guy because I'm too fat. I lost my ex over it. Best dieting tips please?
Q. I want to diet but if I don't satisfy my hunger, I get migranes! Also, if I'm nervous or bored my stomach growls so loud, it's embarrasing!. I want to diet because my ex refuses to say I'm hot, or sexy because I'm so fat. And I can't get an...
A. 20 January 2011: Maybe a bit of a revolutionary idea but If you want to be a normal healthy weight then live a balanced life where you eat normal portions of food and do daily exercise. ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to think of my girlfriend when masturbating?
Q. should i masterbate thinking about my girlfriend? i have just started dating her but i had a crush on her for years? i kind of feel bad thinking of her in such a way ?help please........
A. 20 January 2011:
If you think you are disrespecting her by thinking of your girlfriend then think of someone else!... (read in full...)
I lost my girlfriend and my baby boy because of World of Warcraft!
Q. hi could someone help me, my life is a mess because of WOW - i lost my gf and my baby boy.. i never use to be like this i changed a lot .. all this started 3 years ago my life was fine i used to go out do everything work a lot like 13 hours a day ...
A. 20 January 2011: So you've deleted WOW off your computer now then right?
Well you could try getting her back, now you no longer play it. I'm sure she may give you another try. Personally if I was going to mess my life up so spectacularly I'd take up crack or devel... (read in full...)
How do I improve the appearance of my breasts?
Q. I am so embarrassed by my breasts. All my girlfriends have nice ones with smaller areolas, but I'd describe mine as fat man boobs. They're pointy, with big aereolas and they sAg to the sides :( is there anyway to make them look better, and no I'm ...
A. 19 January 2011: I totally agree with dirtball.... (read in full...)
My wife told me how much she liked having sex with her ex!
Q. Before my wife and I were together, she had a boyfriend that she lost her virginity to (at 16). She really liked him. She had a relationship with him that included regular sex, then after breaking up got back together after a couple of months ...
A. 19 January 2011: I would recommend on working on your physical health to develop your stamina and then buy some viagra.. take your wife away for a night or two away and I think the experience will replace that painful feeling inside you that feels inferior. ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my girlfriend want to tell me if she's a virgin or not?
Q. Hello. I have been dating this girl for almost a month already. I usually spend at least 1 day a week with her because we both go to different schools. I can tell she feels the same way I feel about her. She has told me before that she has had ...
A. 18 January 2011:
It sounds like she might not be a virgin. Why would you want to "keep asking her"? That's an incredably personal question to try and get out of someone. She obviously doesn't feel comfortable talking about it so I think you should go easy on her,... (read in full...)
She wouldn't remove this ex from her facebook!
Q. my fiance has had a threesome about 10 years ago, the guys is still on her facebook, i feel terrible to look at his pics, when i asked her to remove him, she said that it would not solve the problem, all i wanted to hear is yes, right now this is ...
A. 18 January 2011:
It depends what the problem is. If the problem is that you feel upset seeing his picture then deleting him WILL solve the problem. I don't see why your fiance won't delete this guy if it means so much to you. I'm sure you would do the same for her,... (read in full...)
Should I trust him after seeing the picture of another girl on his phone?
Q. so me and my boyfriend had a little break up cause i wasnt treating him good enough. well we was texting today and he didnt txt me back for 5 hours. then he text me and ask if i wanna go to the movies i said yea sure. so we was on our way to the m...
A. 14 January 2011: What, so your boyfriend made a picture of a girl his background picture on his phone so he could show it to his cousin? That sounds a bit strange to me. Maybe he got with this girl when you two broke up? You say you didn't treat him good enough so ... (read in full...)
Do women enjoy it?
Q. Do women enjoy anal? I expect that it differs from person to person, but on average? Or is it only something a girl would let a guy do as something special for him? ...
A. 12 January 2011: Personally I have found that most girls do not like it and won't do it. Of the rest left, most do it more to please the man. I've met a couple of girls that do seem to like it and have instigated it. Biggest turn on about anal is that it is still a ... (read in full...)
He's trying to change me on so many levels. When will these changes be 'enough' for him?
Q. Hi, i really need some advice!! Iv been with my boyfriend for almost a year. Im 22, he's nearly 30 and he's a christian. Iv never felt like this about anyone before and i really really love him. When we first met everything was great! He was just as ...
A. 12 January 2011: I can see you are totally loved up with this guy. Which is great. If he felt the same way. I've seen too many girls willing to give up too much and they loose their own identities and happiness in the process of trying to feel approved and loved by ... (read in full...)
He's trying to change me on so many levels. When will these changes be 'enough' for him?
Q. Hi, i really need some advice!! Iv been with my boyfriend for almost a year. Im 22, he's nearly 30 and he's a christian. Iv never felt like this about anyone before and i really really love him. When we first met everything was great! He was just as ...
A. 12 January 2011: I think the first answer is spot on. You're 22 - perfect age to go find someone right for you and have an amazing relationship. Don't waste your time on this guy. You'll end up in an unhappy relationship indefinately and you'll just continue to grow ... (read in full...)
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