My girlfriend wants me to have multiple orgasms
Q. My GF seems to have some concerns over my semen volume and my orgasms lately. She says I sometimes do not cum very much, while other times I cum a LOT. I think she is being a little naive, as many of the times she says I dont cum a lot it is the ...
A. 7 December 2010:
Just tell her she's misunderstood a man's anatomy and what she's saying is ridiculous. Stop allowing yourself to feel inadequate.... (read in full...)
Why would he want me to smoke when I clearly don't want to???
Q. hey, im 16 and my boyfriend is 19. so he smokes pot and something else called buddha bud a lot. he says he doesnt do it that much but ive noticed that its a lot. he knows i dont like it. so last night we were texting and here is our ...
A. 5 December 2010: Good one for sticking up for yourself. If you ever want to get stoned it's better to try when you're a bit older because getting high will affect your studies. He is also wrong in that it won't "bring you closer" in fact, his smoking is likely to ... (read in full...)
When I don't give b/f money for drugs he tells me I don't belong in this country
Q. Iam Chinese but I grew up here! I have a American boyfriend. who iam datinG for one year! I love him. He doesn't work since I met him. He uses drugs and drinks every night and when I tell him to stop using drugs and drinking he tells me you have no ...
A. 4 December 2010: Wow you have found yourself a really great boyfriend there, you must be so proud. But seriously, you ask what you should do. Find yourself a decent human being as a boyfriend.... (read in full...)
Another Cheating Horror story
Q. Hey everyone. I figure I might as well share one of the many heaps of cheating stories out there. I've been going with this girl for 3 months. We seem to click and really like each other. She stays a few hours away from me and she comes to vis...
A. 1 December 2010: You've been cheated on by 8 girls? I think you need to think about that for a moment. That's not bad luck - that's you making seriously bad choices of who you want to be your girlfriend.
I really feel for you that you are heart broken over thi... (read in full...)
I have fallen for my FWB! What should I do now?
Q. If a guy could help me, I would be very thankful! Basically, I have been seeing a guy for 6 months (friends with benefits thing (fwb)) and I had a boyfriend (bad, I know but I am no longer with him) and am still seeing the fwb. Now, I have fall...
A. 1 December 2010:
In my experience it's near impossible for a guy to see you as good girlfriend material once you've gone FWB with him. The only thing you can do is tell him how you feel and hope it will work out. If it doesn't work out, you'll know for next time... (read in full...)
How bad is the occasional kiss when you are married?
Q. My situation.... I have been in a committed relationship for four years, married for the past two. I adore my husband - he is everything that I could possibly ask for in a partner, but I cannot seem to keep myself in check when it comes to othe...
A. 30 November 2010: It sounds to me like you've got married too young as you don't seem to be ready to settle down with one person yet.
You say "I adore my husband" and "I love my husband" but in the next breath you say you don't feel any guilt for what you've d... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my future husband finding out I'm not a virgin. Can you fake virginity?
Q. I was in love with a boy since my high-school days...we wanted to get married o.ce we grow up with our parents consent. we even made love many times..we were so much in love. but things didn't turn up as we had expected. he met an accident and is no ...
A. 29 November 2010:
It is a shame you can't be honest about your past but if you do want to keep it a secret then just don't tell anyone about your past.
There is no real way a man is going to know you're not a virgin.
When you first have sex just pretend to ... (read in full...)
My friend's in a LDR but she had anal sex with a stranger!
Q. hello everyone. a friend of mine has a question. she is in a long distance relationship. she didn't want to go out and have vaginal sex with a stranger so instead she had anal sex with a condom. it didn't mean anything so she is wondering if she ...
A. 26 November 2010: Your friend says it didn't mean anything, but imagine if your friends boyfriend told her that he picked up a woman and had anal sex with her.. I'm sure that would mean a hell of a lot to her. This is blatant cheating. Your friend should end it, the ... (read in full...)
Fiance has had 10 plus sex partners but will not have sex with me
Q. Well, like many others I have been subject to the condition of retrograde jealousy. The background is this: My girlfriend has had more than 10 sexual partners. I did not know this when I agreed that sex would not be part of our relationship. She is ...
A. 25 November 2010:
You can look at this two ways:
One, your girlfriend is a slag and is no longer good wife material. You will always feel inadequate about her past and your 2 against her "more than 10" guys will always hurt you more than anything else in the ... (read in full...)
I am having a problem accepting her sexual past, please help me??
Q. I got divorced ten years ago and thought my world had come to an end,however,after a year of trying to find a new life partner i met a fantastic woman who had also been divorced around the same time as me.To cut a long story short we have been ...
A. 25 November 2010: You can't get rid of them, you just have to learn to deal with them and accept them for what they are. They are a product of your own insecurities. Do you temporarily feel better when she reassures you? If you do then this proves it an insecurity, ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my first love and I am so scared that I will lose him! What should I do?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for 1 year and 8 months. from the begginning i really liked him and and we started seeing eachother every weekend. one weekend got really intimate and had sex with him. after a while i saw that he layed back about ...
A. 24 November 2010: It sounds to me it is best left in the past. You made this mistake before you had completely developed feelings for your boyfriend and it was very early on in the relationship. NO good will come from telling him. He will almost certainly break up... (read in full...)
I've cheated and totally ashamed of myself, do I tell my partner?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 and half years, for the last two years since my best friend passed away I have been terrible depressed and thinking about life so much. I have lived with my boyfriend for quite a number of years, he is a l...
A. 24 November 2010: I think you should tell your boyfriend too. Not because of any moral reasons but because first, there's a good chance that one day, he will find out but second, because you're relationship seemed as good as finished any way, and perhaps this is just ... (read in full...)
I'm itching all over after unprotected sex!
Q. hi,i had an unprotected sex,then on next day i got my second period on 21st now my whole body is itching,1st period i got on 6th. Why is this?...
A. 24 November 2010: It could be a coincidence but you could have contracted a Sexually Transmitted Infection. You should seek medical help to have an examination. Until you do, you should NOT have sex again as you could infect someone else. You should also get checked ... (read in full...)
I want kids but I'm scared to have sex
Q. Im scared to have sex but i want kids and im scared to lose me virginity beacuse i dont want to go there the pain of getting my cherry popped. can someone give me advice???...
A. 24 November 2010: Sounds like you have had a damaged and difficult childhood. Whilst having children will give you a feeling of being loved, and feel significant in the world, they are human beings that are entirely dependent on you for their survival and ... (read in full...)
He freaks out about little things
Q. So i have my own apartment and my boyfriend keeps telling me he wants to move in with me. i love that he wants to and honestly cannot wait considering we have been together for 3 1/2 years. but the second i didnt pick him up (he doesnt have a car) ...
A. 24 November 2010: Is he insecure about something. My guess is that he me knows you really want him to move in with you and when something happens where he is feeling rejected, he uses the living situation as a way to gain power over you. You need to talk to him about ... (read in full...)
She says I'm not a man because I'm sensitive!
Q. hello guys i need help with my gf now for the past year and 4 months i've always been lovey dovey with my gf and she was happy that i was i know i never smothered her but just recently she says she wants a "MAN" and being lovey dovey and ...
A. 23 November 2010:
If you are saying I love you, and she is not responding back with the same, and you are trying to kiss her, and she doesn't kiss back then you ARE being too needy. Like I have already suggested, you need to take a step back somewhat and conc... (read in full...)
Is she marriage quality?
Q. I have been going out with this girl for 1.5 years now. We are both in our forties. She has had many many relationships in the past. I discovered that she falls in love very quickly (like she did with me) and she started many of her relationships ...
A. 22 November 2010: 1.5 years together I think you already know if she is wife material, and the answer to that is yes. It sounds like you are insecure about her past, and also scared of getting hurt. If she has been a good girlfriend so far then that is evidence ... (read in full...)
She says I'm not a man because I'm sensitive!
Q. hello guys i need help with my gf now for the past year and 4 months i've always been lovey dovey with my gf and she was happy that i was i know i never smothered her but just recently she says she wants a "MAN" and being lovey dovey and ...
A. 22 November 2010: I agree totally with Cerberus. I've found the same in relationships. I tend to be "sensitive" but have equalled it out with "masculine" traits. I maintain a strong identity outside of my relationship - for example, I am constantly working at ... (read in full...)
How do I stop this retroactive jealousy? Help!
Q. I went out with my current girlfriend for about a year, then broke up with her for about three years, then got back together about 9 months ago. I love her, and she says she loves me and wants to get married to me. But, I've been struggling with ...
A. 19 November 2010:
Maybe her vagina seems less tight now because she is more relaxed with you. That seems more likely than it being loose due to her having sex previously with someone with a huge penis.
I feel your massive insecurity and whilst you aren't going... (read in full...)
He wants a second chance after cheating on me but all he talks about is sex, is he just using me?
Q. Me and my boyfriend had a little problem, he went really weird with me and he didnt speak to me for a while, i'd never usually speak first but i started making more of an effort with him and he then began ignoring me, i then caught him cheating and ...
A. 19 November 2010: Yes I agree.
As difficult as it is, you need to try to move on from this.
This guy also needs to learn that it is unacceptable to treat a girl in this way and the only way he can do this if he realises that the consequences to his actions is t... (read in full...)
He made a joke about fancying my daughter and now I don't want him near her!
Q. I started a relationship with a 35 year old guy last year who doesnt have much experience with women. He is close to his mum and sister and her children but apart from that has always lived alone, has never been pubbing or clubbing and only has a ...
A. 18 November 2010: He was being honest, and he said he was relieved he did not find her attractive. So why are you suddenly worried and keeping them apart?
It sounds like you are being too harsh on this guy.
If your daughter is attractive then clearly he COULD... (read in full...)
She gets mad at me when I tell the truth so I have to lie just for us to stay together!
Q. i really need help! recently me and my gf had a fight and she said i cheated on her when i never did. she believes all the lies she says to herself i had a female friend whom i'd talk to quite often but feelings were only mutual. my gf told me if i ...
A. 17 November 2010: Listen to what you're saying - you're saying you can't afford to loose a jealous, insecure crazy girl. This relationship obviously has no future - and if you man-up and grow some balls you'll have enough respect for yourself that you won't put up ... (read in full...)
Do single men really think all women want to trap them with a baby?
Q. ok, so about 6 weeks ago I fooled around with a guy 10 years younger than me. It was just for fun and we did not have sex. I just needed a little something to make me feel alive since my life has been chaos and tragedy since March (husband killed ...
A. 17 November 2010: It is not typical behaviour for men. Sure it might be a worry for a man (just as it is for a woman) but what this guy did shows he is pretty immature (or at least way too anxious)
It sounds like either he is inexperienced with relation... (read in full...)
If he don't please me, should I have to please him?
Q. my boyfriend admitted that he only cares about his sexual plessure and that he isnt worried about me getting mine. witch explains why all this trying to convience him that i want more forplay isnt working. i tried to explain to him that the type of ...
A. 8 November 2010: "The moment a relationship starts down the tit-for-tat route, it's done."
That's so true. Men AND women so often (often, without realising the consequences) use sex as a means of power and control in a relationship.
I remember the first few mo... (read in full...)
Am I going to get a huge bill from this porn site?
Q. So let me explain a few things I was really horny one day and I decided to buy on of those pre-paid credit cards for 50bucks and get a membership to one of those porno site and I filled out everything and got the membership for one month and spen...
A. 8 November 2010:
Oh dear!
You COULD phone the credit card provider and swear blind that you know nothing about the porn website and say you DEFINATELY didn't sign up to any adult material. They will be obligated to cancel your card and give you a full refund.... (read in full...)
Telling him about a drunken mistake could cost our future together
Q. I am 27 years old and been with my partner for nearly 7 years. Last year we were going through a really bad patch and arguing a lot. One night we went out with a few friends and we had all had some drugs and acholol. We have now distanced ourselves ...
A. 8 November 2010: I can feel you are genuinely remorseful.. I know you would never do it again. But I agree with LazyGuy.. Can you really ever live a happy life together whilst you have this big secret? If your boyfriend had done the same... had sex with another ... (read in full...)
I never thought it would feel so horrible to go along with sex when you don't really feel like it!
Q. Female age 20 here, dating a male age 21. Been dating for over a year now, living together for 8 months. Lost our virginity to each other, relatively healthy and active sex life. Had a bit of a mistake today and I'm having trouble dealing with it ...
A. 3 November 2010: Wow what a great and thoughtful reply from Fatherly Advice. Very well said I agree 100%... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is refusing to come to my Grad.
Q. I moved away this year to do a postgrad and my boyfriend stayed behind and we're doing long-distance. I'm going home tomorrow for my graduation from my undergrad college and my boyfriend is refusing to come. He says he can't believe I'm giving my ...
A. 2 November 2010:
Sounds like your boyfriend is being stubborn. I know it is difficult to talk long-distance but you need to try and relay how you are feeling and explain that they are your parents, even though he may have helped you more than they did, they are ... (read in full...)
Cheating but its not all about sex
Q. i'm married and so is he but we have been seeing each other for 4yrs i dont think its all about sex cause a lot of time we can stay together and do nothing i just want to know can this man have feelings for me and do he even care about me but we ...
A. 2 November 2010: I'm a bit confused. You're married so presumably you've made a promise to be with your husband, yet you have broken that promise and are living a lie for 4 years. Sex or no sex, what you're doing is unquestionably wrong. Shouldn't you deal with this ... (read in full...)
My husband has fantasies of sexual experiences he had with ex girlfriends, when he is pleasuring himself.
Q. My husband has fantasies of sexual experiences he had with ex girlfriends, when he is pleasuring himself. He says that every guy does. I have a problem with this. I have fantasies too, but mine are geared towards things that I know would turn him ...
A. 2 November 2010: With you response I would say that I think I would react pretty badly if my partner had photos of their exe's and used them to masturbate to. I don't think it would be unreasonable for you to ask for him to get rid of them - if it makes you feel ... (read in full...)
My husband has fantasies of sexual experiences he had with ex girlfriends, when he is pleasuring himself.
Q. My husband has fantasies of sexual experiences he had with ex girlfriends, when he is pleasuring himself. He says that every guy does. I have a problem with this. I have fantasies too, but mine are geared towards things that I know would turn him ...
A. 2 November 2010:
I think it's probably more common than you think. Why did you even find out about this? If he told you specifically then he was being really out of line.. if you kept on probing him then consider this a lesson learnt that sometimes it is best not ... (read in full...)
2 years, and we don't have good sex anymore. What can I do to improve the situation?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a few days short of 2 years. We live in seperate cities, and both have fairly busy lives between work and social lives, so we only usually see each other on weekends and occasional public holidays. We skype ...
A. 30 October 2010:
In answering your final question.. could you show him this webpage? You seem to have explained yourself well.
Other than that I would say you need to try and make sure you have "couple" time as a priority, i.e. make the time for it. You coul... (read in full...)
How do you get somebody OFF your mind?
Q. I understand this might be a bit of a strange question and hard to answer so any types of responses will be appreciated :) I was just wondering how you stop thinking about someone. I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago and we don't have an...
A. 30 October 2010: Don't think of an elephant, don't think of an elephant, don't think of an elephant. What are you thinking of?
My point is - If you try not to think about something, you will think about it.
The way to get over someone and stop thinking about t... (read in full...)
Boyfriend just grabbed me and "did it". He didn't see anything wrong with that!
Q. Hi All - I need some insight on this. So yesterday I went to see my bf and we both knew we were hooking for sex before he leaves for the weekend to see his mother. Anyway, when i got there he was just uninterested. I touched him, he didnt touch m...
A. 29 October 2010:
Your boyfriend has some serious issues. You must have felt like crap when he did that, you sure you want to be in a relationship where he is using you so unemotionally?
carra your comment about muslims - idiot!... (read in full...)
Airports new "feel you up" measure is crossing the lines!
Q. ok. who was watching cnn this morning? airports are bringing in some new security measures and its getting personal. i watched (on cnn) an employee run her hand between and right under a female passengers breasts. they touch your butt and quickly ...
A. 29 October 2010: Being felt up aint so bad, just close your eyes and use your imagination. You could end up wishing it lasted more than a second.... (read in full...)
I am not thrilled about the wild boy's night out before out wedding!
Q. Heyy guys I have a big problem on my hands that i really need some advice on. Me and my other half who have been together for quite a while have decided to get married, the wedding isnt until 2012 but its already being planned however all of h...
A. 29 October 2010:
Is it his friends you don't trust, or him? If you don't trust him then you have some serious issues with your relationship and maybe you need to deal with that rather than this problem of the stag do.0
But if it is his friends you don't trust ... (read in full...)
I don't like my gf's guy friend, but I don't want to overreact . Help!
Q. I'm feeling jealous. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half, and for the past 3 months our relationship has been long distance. I will be visiting her in about a month. When we weren't apart, it was obvious that one of her male ...
A. 28 October 2010: In addition to your follow up.. if you feel it is inappropriate (which I probably would) then say that. But like I say, don't make a big deal of it. This guy obviously would make a move on your gf if he could. And if your girlfriend is in to you, ... (read in full...)
I don't like my gf's guy friend, but I don't want to overreact . Help!
Q. I'm feeling jealous. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half, and for the past 3 months our relationship has been long distance. I will be visiting her in about a month. When we weren't apart, it was obvious that one of her male ...
A. 28 October 2010:
Hmm, quite a situation.
In a perfect outcome, you don't say anything, they have a good time being friends.. she misses you and looks forward to when you come over and that's the end of the story.
But actually this situation is somewha... (read in full...)
How can I ever be her special guy when she was a prostitute who slept with 300-400 men?
Q. Hi All - this is a follow up question from one of my previous ones - How do I cope with my girlfirends past - those that read my last message will remember that she used to be a bargirl in both the Philippines and Singapore and has admitted to ...
A. 28 October 2010: Wow mate, what a situation I feel for you! Well in most likely hood, she DOES love you, DOES feel it's special being with you intimately and DOES look only to the future and want to be with only you. But. None of that is really helping with the ... (read in full...)
We have huge arguments about my husband's best friend!
Q. Hi there, I would love to get opinions. I am recently married to a wonderful man, and we are very happy except one thing - we have huge arguments about his best friend. I dont want to get into too much detail about his friend,but I think i have t...
A. 28 October 2010: Is there no way you can just make it so that he is not part of your life? I do feel your husband has a right to be friends with whoever he wants.. and whilst he should listen to your opinion, you guys shouldn't be having huge arguments over it!
... (read in full...)
He's proposed, but where is the ring?
Q. My boyfriend proposed to me a few weeks ago...Kind of. Basically, the subject has come up once or twice, in passing. He knew I would say yes if he asked. We were lying in bed, drifting off to sleep, and he started to speak, being very hesitant ...
A. 27 October 2010: You asked "What goes on inside a guys brain?!" so, as a guy, I gave you my opinion. If you only wanted "nice" answers that made you feel better, you should have said. Either way, my original answer still stands. He just ain't in to you.... (read in full...)
He's proposed, but where is the ring?
Q. My boyfriend proposed to me a few weeks ago...Kind of. Basically, the subject has come up once or twice, in passing. He knew I would say yes if he asked. We were lying in bed, drifting off to sleep, and he started to speak, being very hesitant ...
A. 27 October 2010:
Could he have asked you because he is a jealous / possessive type? Some men don't really want to get married they just want other guys to see the girl as engaged as in some fucked up way they think that makes them more out of bounds.
My guess ... (read in full...)
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