Question to all those who workout regularly
Q. Hello everyone, I am a 23 year old guy and weigh 62Kg (136lb). I have been going to the gym for the past 2 months. I follow the following routine: (1) Cardio on elliptical for 30 mins every alternate day. In this, I take the interval traini...
A. 28 June 2010: If you read on some of the many bodybuilding forums and if necessary post a question on there, you will get much more detailed and accurate information.... (read in full...)
Online levitra?
Q. I am going through some stressful times right now, and quite frankly, it is affecting my libido and my ability to maintain an erection or just have strong erections. I've gone to the Dr, and he concluded it was phychologically-based. He prescribed ...
A. 24 June 2010: I would recommend trying a source but only buying a few, to check how good they work. If you know you have a reliable source, you can then order more. Generic brands generally cost about $1 per tablet. These would generally come from India, china or ... (read in full...)
My wife was a teenage slut - accepting her promiscuous past
Q. I just wanted to post this due to all the posts re girls with promiscuous pasts. Here is my story. I fell head over heels for my now wife when she was 22 and I 23. Our relationship progressed and soon we both realized we were utterly in love ...
A. 22 June 2010: Thank you for taking the time to write this post. It is an amazing inspiring story. It would seem you are the better man (and likewise, she is the better woman) all the best.... (read in full...)
My b oyfriend has anger towards me for my past.
Q. "OPs Own Title"My boyfriend has anger towards me for my past. Most days are wonderful - we have a great time together, enjoy doing the same things, and want the same things out of life - marriage and children. But, the anger builds up (he says that ...
A. 22 June 2010: Hey, I tend to agree with Yos on this. But about moving forward. If you really love your boyfriend and want to spend your life with him, try and tackle this issue with him but be realistic and set yourself some kind of time period. I mean, ... (read in full...)
Everyone is laughing at me because I was set upon totally unawares...
Q. Me and two girls were playing strip poker in the basement of a party and we were getting down to no clothes. The two of them lost their bras and then they decided I should lose my shorts, cause that is all I had left. So they tackled me and one sat ...
A. 18 June 2010:
Aside from this being sexual assault, you could easily defend your manhood by saying you didn't get an erection because the girls were really ugly.
Sounds like you need to find some better friends though dude. You don't need that kind of shit... (read in full...)
My husband sees nothing wrong with staying touch with his exs but its making me sick!
Q. My husband is very outgoing and caring of others - a fact that attracted me to him in the first place. However, we have a major difference of opinion on what is considered as acceptable behaviour. My husband has had lots of girlfriends and partners ...
A. 11 June 2010: Wow rhythmandblues2, you've really had some bad experiences with guys, haven't you? Don't let your own failed experiences so heavily influence your advice to others when their situation could be entirely different. Miamine comes from a place of ... (read in full...)
One way or the other I'm going to hurt someone, and I'll be hurt too!
Q. please help, i come from a very religious family. we are christians and my family follow the faith to the letter. recently they found out that my best friend is a lesbian through the gossips in our village. they were disgusted. they told me ...
A. 11 June 2010: Your so-called Christian family are despicable. If they followed their faith to the letter, they would not be disgusted by a gay person. Nor would they tell them that they are going to burn in hell. What an absolutely hateful family you have, I feel ... (read in full...)
Is taking a paternity test of my brother's child crossing the line? I have evidence to suggest his girlfriend has been lying for 7yrs!
Q. Okay this is a weird story and question but here it goes. When my brother was 16 he got this girl pregnant and she was 22 at the time (which i find very gross). No one in my family knew the child or even the girl for that matter existed until the ...
A. 11 June 2010: I agree with Yos. Absolutely.... (read in full...)
My husband sees nothing wrong with staying touch with his exs but its making me sick!
Q. My husband is very outgoing and caring of others - a fact that attracted me to him in the first place. However, we have a major difference of opinion on what is considered as acceptable behaviour. My husband has had lots of girlfriends and partners ...
A. 11 June 2010: Interesting sides to this argument.
I guess when someone doesn't like a partner being in contact with ex's it is because they are experiencing fear that they are going to loose something they want to keep.
Essentially there is nothing wrong... (read in full...)
My husband sees nothing wrong with staying touch with his exs but its making me sick!
Q. My husband is very outgoing and caring of others - a fact that attracted me to him in the first place. However, we have a major difference of opinion on what is considered as acceptable behaviour. My husband has had lots of girlfriends and partners ...
A. 11 June 2010: I think you are in a really common situation. But I don't understand why this issue wasn't sorted out before you got married?
The bottom line is, he is going to need to stop talking to the ex's, or you're going to have to become OK with it.
M... (read in full...)
She may have cheated, but it was early in the relationship. What do I do?
Q. I have been with this beautiful woman for 9 months, it started out as an affair and the relationship has grown into a strong love for each other. I have lived with her now for 4 months. We are strongly considering marriage, but I have only one ...
A. 10 June 2010: I think you have to believe her, based on what you've said.
I also think you have found out something important about this woman. She needs to have certainty in a relationship. You know now, if you get to a difficult point in your relation... (read in full...)
My insecurities are bringing me down. Can anyone help?
Q. I have found it very difficult to overcome insecurity. My partner cheated on me in the past once several years ago, and has lied a few times regarding his relationships with other women in the past too. There has also been a lot of problems with ...
A. 10 June 2010: Would you consider showing your partner your question?
It sounds like you have explained how you are feeling really well. You could let them read it, and then talk about it afterwards.... (read in full...)
She initially told me she had a high sex drive! But since moving in together, I've been living like a monk!
Q. Hi there - i'm looking for some advice please... I have been with my girlfriend for roughly a year now, and she recently moved in with me. We have a really good relationship, we're both kind people and considerate and loving to each other. Now we'v...
A. 10 June 2010: Sounds like she is either afraid to give you the real reason why she won't have sex, or she doesn't quite know herself. But the bottom line is she's not sexually attracted to you. If she's attracted to you, it wouldn't matter if she has any medical ... (read in full...)
How do anonymous flings and oral sex differ from having sex with someone you know?
Q. One of the hardest aspects of my being able to accept, get over, and not think about my wife's one night fling (she gave and received oral sex with a total stranger who was much older than her - she didn't, still doesn't know his name) is to ...
A. 8 June 2010: At the end of the day, the only reason it makes any difference that your wife sucked some strangers cock for drugs or sucked the cock of a friend is that you have never been on the receiving end of having a girl do that for you. Sorry if that sounds ... (read in full...)
He looked at porn right after we made love - whats wrong with me?
Q. I recently posted on here as i'd accidently discovered my fiance had been looking at porn on the computer..only one site had come up so i tried not to let it bother me as you all said and put it down to a one off. But earlier curiosity got the ...
A. 8 June 2010: You feel not enough but it doesn't mean you aren't. You should have a calm talk with your partner about how you feel. It might be that you are making what happened worse than what it is. Maybe by talking to him he will be able to reassure you and ... (read in full...)
Why is it that when men don't get their way they always go off in a mood?
Q. Is it just me or when men don't get something to do with sex they go in a mood and blame their partner. My boyfriends likes bum fun, we tried it but it really hurt me. but he doesn't seem too realise that cause of the pain i dont want it. and he ...
A. 8 June 2010: Like the others have said, it's to do with his age and inexperience in relationships and sex. As well as going off in a mood, he has made the mistake of making the whole sex something you should be giving to him. Generally when guys are more ... (read in full...)
Unsure how to support my friend who is potentially very ill?
Q. Hi, I could do with some advice. I have a friend who recently had an eye test which showed up something not veyr nice. My Mum is the dr who saw him, and in her clinical opinion, and that of the other person she asked, the only reason for this ...
A. 8 June 2010: The worst things friends do at a time when they are needed is nothing. It's when they don't call, don't make time for that person, and don't ask if there's anything they can do.
All you need to do for your friend is let them know you are there if... (read in full...)
We have fallen in love but she is pessimistic about our relationship!
Q. Dear cupid, I have met a girl through Orkut and fell in love with her.She also loves me but we havent met yet and she resides in some other city.We usually sms each other or call.I really love her and i think she also does love me the same...
A. 7 June 2010: You don't love her. You can't love someone you haven't even met. But that aside, it is obvious you are really in to her.
Stop thinking marriage and love and be a little more realistic. The first thing you need to do is meet up, and see how you ... (read in full...)
Suddenly , 4months into our relationship, he now lets me know that he has a child!!
Q. Okay Im in a four month relationship. I am 20 years old. I found old yesterday my boyfriend has a five year old child. I am blown away by this and devastated. I feel too young to be with someone who has baggage but I also feel tricked that he waited ...
A. 7 June 2010: End it and go on a holiday with the girls for the summer. Some lying guy with a kid will soon be the distant past.... (read in full...)
I feel like a failure as a parent!
Q. I feel like a failure as a parent. I am a successful business man, volunteer firfighter and little league coach. I have been open with my kids (20 yr old son and 17 yr old twins a son and a daughter). My wife passed away when my twins were 3yr old. ...
A. 7 June 2010: Your kids seem to be handling adolescence really badly - but that isn't necessarily any reflection on your parenting skills. My partner is a social worker and has often mentioned cases involving brilliant parents and the most difficult teenagers. ... (read in full...)
Are there any men in their early 20's who know for a fact they would not cheat on their partners?
Q. Are there any men in their early 20's here that know for a fact you would never cheat on your signifiacant other? How do you know you would never? Do you try to stay out of situations where you may be tempted? (Like going to bars stc without your ...
A. 7 June 2010: Most of whether or not you'll cheat is made up in your own morals and has very little to do with temptation.
I got through my 20's without cheating. I went to plenty of bars, clubs, got really drunk, took drugs, had some really great experien... (read in full...)
Did he join a dating site, or is it just spam?
Q. If your man checks out an online dating website, can they get your email address or addresses without joining this site as a member? My guys says he is just getting spam from this website. But he is getting 5-6 emails a day from this site. I ...
A. 7 June 2010:
He most likely subscribed so something, at some point. This is because any legitimate dating website would not spam people.
If he doesn't want to receive the emails, he could easily unsubscribe. Alternatively he could mark them as spam, so the... (read in full...)
How do I tell my religious family about my abusive ex?
Q. Hi, when I was 13 years old I started dating a guy , he told me he was a christian and that he went to church , so I figured he would be nice. After a few months , he started badmotuhing me and becoming controlling and bullying me.It g...
A. 4 June 2010: You do need to tell someone that you trust and feel safe with. A close family friend of mine, her family is catholic and her niece married a guy who, it turned out, was abusive sexually and physically. This happened about 10 years ago now, ... (read in full...)
How can I be so in love one minute - and have doubts the next?
Q. Hi all. I have a question. I have been dating a fabulous guy for the last few weeks. We have been on some great dates, and he is treating me like a queen. He;s attentive, romantic, kind, thoughtful and bright. However, we do have a language barrier ...
A. 4 June 2010: You're not in love with someone you've only known a few weeks. What you're feeling is an intense attraction to him. It is natural for either person in a relationship in these early stages to withdraw and question their feelings. It's normal. What ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wont do anything in bed for me because he says I am too wet!
Q. im really worried because while in bed with my boyfriend i will play about with him by giving him a handjob and i will give him a blowjob and he wont do anything for me i try to drop hints like saying what do i get and he says sex, i spoke to him ...
A. 3 June 2010: Your boyfriend is so clueless! Being wet is actually a good thing. A very good thing! There are so many women that have problems being turned on enough, which means they aren't wet enough to have sex.
The idea that you want to be less wet is j... (read in full...)
Scars from cutting..will it put guys off?
Q. i have a bad history of sexual abuse as well as physical abuse when i tried to prevent the sexual abuse from taking place.. because of this i started self-harming. ive cut myself pretty badly and deep and have really ugly scars from it on my arms ...
A. 29 May 2010:
Quite simply.. no. It won't put off someone that loves you and wants to be with you. It will however let them see that there are probably going to be some issues relating to intimacy with you.
The best thing you can do is not focus on whe... (read in full...)
He rejected me because I wasn't a virgin, but I don't want to live without him
Q. I was in a relationship for 2 years,but after that we broke up,and i had sex with him,he didn't cheat me but we are not perfect for each other,so we decided to broke up,then after that now i am in a relationship with another boy from last 4-5 ...
A. 28 May 2010:
You're still so young. You are going to meet so many other men and you can choose from many of them who you will fall in love with and want to be with.
Don't let one man cause you pain and upset. You'll find someone who will want to love you for... (read in full...)
I don't know what to think about all this
Q. My current boyfriend has told me previously that he is not a virgin. He had sex in his last relationship that lasted 3 years. He said that he had wanted to save it for marriage and that when she brought it up a year in he said no, only to give in a ...
A. 28 May 2010:
I know it's natural to feel like you might be compared to, but I can say personally, when you're really in to a new person in your life, if you're over any ex's then you don't think about them or compare them to who you're with now.
3 years i... (read in full...)
Should we know each other's password?
Q. my 5 yrs bf and me were really cool abt facebook. he gave me his facebook password and i gave him mine. i never had any prob with that. but he used to surf my profile and got angry with some guy leaving msg.bhe yelled at me. i initialy used to visit ...
A. 27 May 2010:
If I asked for my girlfriends facebook password she would look at me like I was some kind of paranoid freak! Maybe I could ask her to wear a bug and trace, just so I know where she is and what she's doing at all time.
You guys been going out fo... (read in full...)
I want to be happy but am anxious all the time because of my past.
Q. My boyfriend and I have had many issues in the past with him being honest and they have added up to me feeling resentful of him, hurt by him and mistrusting. I've always been trying to get the feelings of happiness back from before he started lying ...
A. 27 May 2010: Have you considered speaking to a relationship therapist or someone similar? I mean if you can't let go of past emotional feelings then you're not going to do too well at any relationship. It sounds to me you should look to see if you can tackle ... (read in full...)
She denies it, but I think she's been cheating
Q. before me and my girlfriend were together there was this boy who was intrested in her and she was saying its nothing etc etc. we have now been together for about 2 months , and last week she walked back to hers to get changed and speak to her mum ...
A. 26 May 2010: Your so-called "friend" don't sound like much of a friend to me mate. Sorry but what sort of a friend would say something like that?
It seems like this girl and guy had something going on before you two met. Do you know for a fact she had sex ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a 27 year old guy to get upset when he doesn't get sex?
Q. Dear cupid... Me and my boyfriend has got a few problems that we can't seem to overcome. This makes us both very frustrated. He obviously think that we not having enough sex. I don't always have that urge to have sex for some reason I don't e...
A. 25 May 2010: it might be normal for the first time it happens, but if you are in a relationship with this guy then you should be able to communicate how you feel (just by telling him what you have written to us) and he should be able to see that he was wrong to... (read in full...)
I recently found out that my wife cheated on me when we were engaged.
Q. I recently found out that my wife cheated on me when we were engaged. We've been married over 10 years and before me she had this boyfriend named Jim. Right after we got married we moved about 3 hours away to another part of the state for my job...
A. 25 May 2010: Dude I feel your pain. What a situation you're in.
It sounds like you're wanting to stay with your wife and be able to deal with the problems you listed, rather than wondering if you should leave. Is that right?
Some of the things you menti... (read in full...)
Is having a few days of no contact helpful for the relationship?
Q. this isnt really a problem its just a curiosity that needs a little advice. a little back ground first... me and my boyfriend have been going out for about a year and a half now and have been living together for the last seven months. over the...
A. 25 May 2010: Hey, I don't think it is a bad thing that your boyfriend suggested this. He probably just wants to have a few days to get some space and gather his thoughts.
I think if you are able to go the few days without keeping in any contact with him then... (read in full...)
Please help! My new sexual partner is keen but is having problems keeping it up!
Q. Hi all, I have been seeing this guy and we both talked about wanting to have sex. We discussed getting tested, past experiences, what we like etc. I told him that it seems like he is more experienced than I am and that he'll have to take charg...
A. 25 May 2010: Hmm, this is just my guess but I would say this isn't the first time it's happened to your boyfriend. You don't just suddenly develop anxiety about sex out of the blue.
I doubt his inability to get it up is a reflection on you. I mean, it isn't... (read in full...)
I feel I'm ruining our relationship because of jealousy
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months. We both work together. Lately, this new girl started working there too. She slept with his best friend (whom also work there), and two other employees. My boyfriend and I have been fine until this ...
A. 24 May 2010: Well, four months in to a relationship, things are still a bit fragile and I can totally see why you might be feeling jealous / insecure about this situation. I think lots of people would.
You gotta remember, you both don't know each other we... (read in full...)
hate the fact that I hurt him.. did I cheat?
Q. hey all. im feeling alot of mixed emotions here so i might jump all over the place, but ill try and keep it simple and to the point. my boyfriend and i decided to go on a break due to the fact that he was always questioning me about everything...
A. 24 May 2010:
I can understand why you feel bad, but there is no need to. You didn't do anything wrong.
You all you can do is move on and concentrate on the relationship. I do think you need to address this issue of your boyfriends insecurity. He should be ma... (read in full...)
He goes out to clubs a lot -- is he cheating?
Q. ok I asked this ? before I registered then decided to make a s/n si I'm asking again.... I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we DO NOT use condoms.. tonight I was looking in his wallet for a ...
A. 21 May 2010: Well if the condom is from when you first started dated, it could be that he simply didn't throw it away. It is still a bit suspicious, but, it's not quite the same as him buying condoms that you don't know about.... (read in full...)
He goes out to clubs a lot -- is he cheating?
Q. ok I asked this ? before I registered then decided to make a s/n si I'm asking again.... I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we DO NOT use condoms.. tonight I was looking in his wallet for a ...
A. 20 May 2010: I agree. He might not have actually cheated, but the condom is there because he knows it's a possibility that he'll be having sex with someone. I can only speak from experience but if I was in a relationship and didn't intend on cheating, i wouldn't ... (read in full...)
Feeling guilty about my past
Q. I've been with my current boyfriend on and off for a few years. We'v been back together and goin strong for five months.and things are better than ever. But lately I've started feelin this guilt about people that I've kissed or may have kissed when ...
A. 16 May 2010: Unless he has any particular problems of being jealous or insecure then telling him how you're feeling isn't going to be such a big deal for him. Whilst the past is the past, in your case, you are suffering so badly that you've got anxiety and ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I might lose my wife due to my erection problems
Q. Im 29 year old, everytime i sex with my wife i loose erection half way i dont know what is going on, im afraid i might loose her for this problem im having please help. ...
A. 12 May 2010:
Are you able to maintain an erection, and ejaculate when you are on your own? If you are then your problem is psychological. This means you need to address whatever it is that is stopping you from relaxing and enjoying being physical with your wife... (read in full...)
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