I kissed another man. How do I tell my husband, who has been away for work reasons. Should I tell my husband?
Q. I kissed a man at a conference a week ago... I've been married for 7 years. My sex drive is WAY higher than my husband and this has been a struggle our whole marriage. Every four to eight weeks on average... And nothing while I was pregnant. I ...
A. 30 September 2011: You say it felt amazing to felt wanted... You feel unwanted, because your husband has a lower sex drive than you. The way you deal with this is better communication. I don't think it means you are not compatible. It means you need to... (read in full...)
He deleted some girls off Facebook when I said I don't like them, but then a few months later they are back! What can I do?
Q. MY Bf live in US and i live in greece so we just talk and chat everyday,before i told him that i hate those bit*** on his facebook friendlist and he removed them,later because of studying i deactived my facebook profile and then after 2 or 3 month ...
A. 30 September 2011: You sound very controlling to me. If you are getting upset over the fact you don't like girls on his facebook then you are going to be in for a very unhappy life of relationships.
You can not expect him to delete girls from his facebook. You need... (read in full...)
If men want their women to look like porn stars, why don't us women care that our men don't look like porn stars??
Q. I'm 25, and I'm here to discuss pornography and men. Some but not all men complain their women don't look like porn stars/models etc. but how come women don't do the opposite and ask for 6-packs/chiselled bodies / big penises etc? Or if they do,...
A. 30 September 2011: I have not, at any time in my past, ever come across either a man who has wanted his girlfriend to look like a porn star, or a girl who has said that her boyfriend wants her to look like a porn star.
I suspect you are drawing on your own personal... (read in full...)
Crushing on the prostitute I lost it with
Q. Basically, i lost my virginity to a prostitute in Berlin this summer, I dont regret it or have any moral problems with it whatsoever, I dont care that it wasn't with someone 'special' or that she didn't having any 'feelings' for me or any bullsh*t ...
A. 30 September 2011: You are suffering from a crush.
You lost your virginity to her so she obviously has some kind of meaning to you, even though you say it wasn't someone 'special.
Sex brings with it a new depth of emotions and feelings that you have to understa... (read in full...)
I'm totally unlike anyone my boyfriend's been with.
Q. I made a huge no-no. As a little preface, I'm currently dating a guy who is far more experienced than me. Part of it comes from an age difference (nearly a decade) and another part comes from the way he's lived his life up until now (he's done a...
A. 29 September 2011: It sounds like you are just being insecure. I mean, it would be weird to end a relationship because he and his friends are more confident than you, and you think his ex is more prettier than you. Work on your own confidence. There are obviously many ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that no woman will ever be interested in me because of my financial problems
Q. I need some encouragment. I am 26 years old and just going to college. I am having some money problems with school loans so I may have to drop out, but I will pursue my education none the less. I am worried that no quality woman I would want to be ...
A. 26 September 2011: If you are going to college then it is normal to not have much money. Maybe you will find a girl at college who is in the same boat as you?
It is true that women are turned off by men who have financial problems or who can't support themselv... (read in full...)
Should I take 'Plan B' as there was no protection?
Q. Yesterday I attempted to have sex for the first time with a stranger and while drunk. The thing is he didn't have a condom on and I'm not quite sure if we actually had sex or not since I was inebriated and inexperienced. I remember that it hurt a lo...
A. 26 September 2011: You said it hurt a lot, if there was no penetration then what was hurting?
Seems you should speak to this guy to see if you can get a better idea of what happened, and if you can't do that, go talk to a professional and get advice.
Don't f... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong for not doing it more often or when he asks for oral sex?
Q. hi, my boyfriend and i are both 26 and have been together for four years. We seem to have the same repetitive arguement all the time regarding performing oral sex on him. The thing is i really dont like doing it, so i dont do it often. maybe lik...
A. 26 September 2011: Your boyfriend is being really childish about it.
He shouldn't need to ask for sex, but also, if you don't like something then he should respect that and not bring it up again.
Trouble is, if you've been doing it once-a-month for four years s... (read in full...)
My FWB: I'm starting to like him and I want to know how or if I should let him know?
Q. Hello everyone I'm new to this and hopefully will get some advice ... I've been sleeping with this guy for about a year and half I guess we are friends with benefits. Even though he has said he likes me, and one time after sex he told me I was going ...
A. 26 September 2011: I think now that you have been sleeping with him whilst not in a relationship I doubt that he will see you as girlfriend material. Why would he want to be in a relationship with you, when is already able to have sex with you with no commitment? FWB ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him exactly what I think? Or just completely ignore him! Hes hurt me so much! Please help!
Q. Im after some good honest opinions as im going out of my mind with frustration. I was seeing this guy for 9 months but he treats me like crap. No matter what he does though i still wanna be with him. Im in love with him. He always blows hot and cold ...
A. 21 September 2011: Listen, I know this will hurt but this guy just isn't in to you. You want him to love you, and every time he treats you bad, you feel compelled to want him more. You actually have a very good quality that works well in a relationship BUT ONLY ... (read in full...)
The old "love of my life" wants to catch up and talk, do I tell my BF?
Q. The old "love of my life" wants to catch up and talk, do I tell my BF? I know I'd want to know if my BF was meeting his ex. But I'm thinking guys don't care that much. What's the proper way to deal with this?...
A. 21 September 2011: How comes you don't think that guys don't care that much? You should ask him and see.... (read in full...)
She says she loves me. But what should I do about this relationship? She puts me down, insults me and belittles me.
Q. hey ..i am a 21 yr old guy madly in love with a 23 yr old girl...she might be older but is totally like a kid. she loves me tooo. its been 1 yr to our realtion and eversince we fell in love things started changing. she became very very nagging ...
A. 21 September 2011: She is not girlfriend material, it seems like she needs to grow up and learn a lot before having a proper relationship.
Dump her. If you don't, it says a lot about you. For example, why you are allowing yourself to be treated so badly by someone.... (read in full...)
She slept with my friend on the day we met
Q. Hi...This is my first post here.. I'm a 21 year old male and I met the girl of my dreams 1 month ago.. However, there are complications. I met her at a ''party'' at my friends house where she was the only girl... I chatted with her for a while ...
A. 21 September 2011: Sadly it looks like this relationship aint meant to be. I don't think there is anything wrong with you feeling uncomfortable about this girl sleeping with your friend, and sleeping with someone a few days before starting your relationship - but at ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant by my fwb, and I'm terrified to tell him!
Q. Hiya everyone I posted a question a few days ago saying I think I could be pregnant by my fwb I have today just done a pregnancy test and it has came back positive I have done three diffrent brand tests how do I tell my fwb I'm terrified I'm 25 and ...
A. 20 September 2011: I guess you can either have an abortion, and not tell him. Or you can go through with the pregnancy and do tell him. ... (read in full...)
I told him it wasn't working out and now he's all psycho
Q. Hi, this might drag on but ill try not to ramble! So i have just split up with somone because he didnt want a relationship he now has a new girlfriend and im finding it hard to get over it. Anyway just after we broke up a new boy came to our scho...
A. 20 September 2011: Tell him in no uncertain terms that there is no chance of you ever having a relationship with him, and tell him you don't want to be friends and to stop contacting you (explain that the reason is that what he has said to you and treated you is ... (read in full...)
Financial crisis! Do you think things will get better?
Q. I have been in a relationship for about 9 years and newly married 1 year. No children. My husband is 27 Recently, I have been questioning my marriage due to financial concerns. My husband currently does not have a job (he quit the last one in July). ...
A. 19 September 2011: You've known this guy for 9 years! You decided to marry him - for richer or poorer - so what's changed?
He seems a bit of a deadbeat loser to me. At his age, I would have expected him to have achieved more in his life. But more importan... (read in full...)
He says he's only staying until their child goes off to university
Q. The man I love has married his cousin. He says he is only staying with her until their child leaves home for university. Once she has left home he says we can then start to make plans for our future and tell our respective partners, with the ...
A. 19 September 2011: No of course you don't believe him. If he wanted to be with you, he would have chosen you.
Any man of any decency would not lead you on in this way. He would want you to be happy, and in this case, with someone else.... (read in full...)
I cheated on my wife. Should I tell her?
Q. I cheated on my wife 14 years ago. I didn't have an affair. It was just one day in a motel room with an ex-girlfriend. I felt terrible about it even as it was happening. My wife does suspect something may have happened. In fact, I think she susp...
A. 18 September 2011: 14 years is a long time to hold on to this. As your wife suspects something went on, you know that she can not be fully open with you in her trust for you. You're relationship at the moment is only superficial, it's based on a lie.
For you two ... (read in full...)
Should I have a baby with this married man?
Q. I have a serious question that I know will ruffle A LOT of feathers but I'm sorry, I really need advice, I've been seeing a married man for a while and were very close, best friends more than lovers. Recently I have been getting urges to have a ...
A. 18 September 2011: "Do I wait and possibly give up on having a baby by risking meeting someone else" This is the core of the issue, you, like all mistresses, have the same core fundamental issue within yourself. You do not feel that you are worthy of being in a ma... (read in full...)
BF wants us to watch porn together but I'm worried that witnessing my partner getting turned on by someone much better looking than myself will damage my self esteem
Q. Yesterday, my boyfriend of 2 and a half years brought up the subject of watching porn together and said it was something he would like to try. Personally, I have never watched porn before as I have always thought of it as being degrading. I have no ...
A. 18 September 2011: I would say this: specify to him what kind you are and aren't willing to look at.
If you think you'll feel insecure at skinny, huge breasted professional porn stars for example, then ask him to find some more amateur porn, taken by people around y... (read in full...)
Online dating..men who say they don't want children
Q. Hi All I have a bit of a silly question..... Recently I decided to take the plunge into the scary world of online dating. I didn't know what I would find or if it would work for me (at present, it hasnt - mainly old men, people who are uneducat...
A. 18 September 2011: Hey, I was going to reply to your message about the unnecessary stigma you have towards online dating, but then I read this from you: "I feel I have run out of options, and the need to lower my expectations and then perhaps I will be attractive to... (read in full...)
Online dating..men who say they don't want children
Q. Hi All I have a bit of a silly question..... Recently I decided to take the plunge into the scary world of online dating. I didn't know what I would find or if it would work for me (at present, it hasnt - mainly old men, people who are uneducat...
A. 17 September 2011: Chat to him over the website, he might not even like you in return, but if he does, pick him up on it and see if he has strong views on it.... (read in full...)
He promised we'd get married by the end of the year, but won't set a date
Q. Six months ago my partner of 2.5 years promised we would get married by end of year.I had never been comfortable living together but somehow it just happened as after a ended 30 year marriage I fancied myself madly in love and was love starved. My ...
A. 15 September 2011: "I feel like I bought a man who has taken everything I gave but he does not want to commit to being a husband. "
There is something very wrong in this statement. Almost, that you expect him to marry you, because you have financially helped h... (read in full...)
How to get partner to get on with my parents after a disagreement?
Q. I have been with my partner for 9 months, we have a great relationship until recently we went on holiday with my parents. We got on well all of us, or so we thought till we got home and mum started complaining how my partner had changed on holiday ...
A. 15 September 2011: Carmly say to him "please be the better man in all of this, I know that you can, I really need you to, I want us two to be on the same side". If you can squeeze out a few tears, I'm sure he will lower his defences (his stubbornness) and he will ... (read in full...)
Everything's great except ...
Q. Hello all. My boyfriend and I have a great sex life, it's exciting and always fun. The only "problem" is that he can't cum through me giving him a blowjob. I've had him close several times, but it's like he can't let go enough to actually cum. It...
A. 15 September 2011: Lots of guys can't cum with a blowjob. Has he received oral sex from previous partners where he has been able to cum? ... (read in full...)
I'm a reformed player and I'm completely in love with my ex, who has moved on with her life..
Q. I am absolutely still in love with my ex girlfriend. We have been broken up for a year and 9 months. We havent spoken in about 4 months and our last conversation (by email) was civil at the begining, but grew very tense very quickly. This will pr...
A. 15 September 2011: Has she told you categorically that she has moved on with her life and that you are not to be in it?
If not, it sounds like you need to give it one big last shot and tell her how much you love her and feel like she is your soul mate. You were tog... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if I'm destined to be alone forever
Q. Ok I am an Aunt on here, but chose to publish anon (I dunno why really?) I have been split up from an ex about 5mths (about as long as we were together) (He was the first sexual relatinship I had in a long long errr long time!) I am struggling...
A. 15 September 2011: No you're not destined to be alone. The few that end up alone, do so because they give up on love, and relationships.
After a break up your confidence gets a battering, and you do really evaulate your life and see things much more negative... (read in full...)
Girfriend acting distant
Q. Hello, My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year. Everything has been fine pretty much the whole time. But she has been acting a little weird/distant for the past week. This is the third time she has been this way in the past 4 months. ...
A. 15 September 2011: See if you can arrange something fun to do. Say to her "hey, do you remember when we used to do x, y and z? I've looked up "this" to go and see/do - let's do it this weekend"
If you go and have fun, relax, have a good time, she is more likely t... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose my wife, but I am having a hard time forgiving and forgetting her cheating
Q. I was a virgin when I met my wife. She wasn't. She had had about 6-10 other lovers before me. I have never been with anyone else, but I found out recently that she has not been faithful. She didn't have any emotional attachment to anyone, but she ...
A. 15 September 2011: She has hurt you in the most worse way! What kind of wife is she, to disregard your feelings and your marriage so much that she can so casually get drunk, and do that kind of thing.
She is begging for forgiveness, but are you tackling WHY she chea... (read in full...)
He did something he made promise I wouldn't do (after I did it), should I be upset?, and, little things should bother me?
Q. Hi!! I need advice, as always. Yesterday my boyfriend and I had a fight, we usually text or mail each other very early every day, yesterday I had some things to do and couldn't answer any of his mails until afternoon, he hates this and has tol...
A. 15 September 2011: It sounds like you are both being childish, and playing games with each other instead of being true about your real feelings about each other.
Nothing wrong with being busy to not sometimes be able to text/email/call in the morning. He should u... (read in full...)
It hurts that she said she cared for me so much over the past 6 months then threw it away over one bump in the road...
Q. I've been dating this girl (she's 29, I'm 30) for about six months now and everything has been going absolutely great. About a week ago we got into an argument, our first, at work and i yelled at her a little bit. the whole thing lasted about 20 ...
A. 14 September 2011: It sounds like she still has issues about the ex, and when you got angry at her, it brought up those feelings and she wasn't been able to deal with it, so has left the relationship. I'm guessing this is her way of keeping control. If she has ended ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend resents my choice of college. What do I do?
Q. I'm a sophomore at one of the best liberal arts colleges in the US. I'm here for a major that's not so widely offered (and that's getting slashed increasingly often in budget cuts at other schools) and our open curriculum. The general atmosphere ...
A. 14 September 2011: You don't paint a very good or promising picture of your relationship. You would be absolutely CRAZY to significantly change your education choices based on this guy. A guy who loves you should be supporting you, and wherever possible, help y... (read in full...)
I'm currently seeing two guys at the same time. Should I break it off with one of them?
Q. I'm in such a mess. I recently broke up with my ex of 2 years, and I met a guy on vacation who I'm sleeping with currently. I still love my ex, but I tried to cut contact with him so that I can move on. However, he wanted to talk a couple of times, ...
A. 14 September 2011: Whatever you decide to do, work out a way to stop the lying. That is the thing that is causing you to feel in a mess. Someone once said to me, if you don't lie to anyone then no one can touch you.
You say you are "having fun and getting the best... (read in full...)
Lads... honestly, how likely would you be to cheat on your gf on a 'lads holiday'?
Q. So my bf ( of 3 years ) has just said he wants to go to magaluf on a lads holiday. i know everyones going to be like if u have been with him 3 years and u dont trust him ur weird bla bla bla but its not so much i dont trust him its the fact that ...
A. 14 September 2011: I went to Magaluf this year on a lads holiday, and I have to say some pretty crazy things went on. Some guys in my group did cheat, and get up to all sorts. But a couple of guys did not and the reason for this is that they are in long term ... (read in full...)
She slept with my friend on the day we met
Q. Hi...This is my first post here.. I'm a 21 year old male and I met the girl of my dreams 1 month ago.. However, there are complications. I met her at a ''party'' at my friends house where she was the only girl... I chatted with her for a while ...
A. 14 September 2011: We all make mistakes and I bet this girl has told you enough times that if she could change the past, she would. You need to watch out. At the moment she is crying and upset, because, naturally, she wants to be the best for you and she feels li... (read in full...)
My g/f doesn't have good legs and I'm not sexually attracted to her!
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for 5 years. Unfortunately, try as I might, I haven't found her sexually attractive for some time. We have marriage plans, and I'm sure she would be a good life partner, mother, etc., but I don't know if this can work ...
A. 12 September 2011: You're not going to wake up one day and suddenly find her attractive, being attracted to your partner is one of the most important parts of having a healthy, long-term relationship. It would be easy to ignore this problem and continue your marriage ... (read in full...)
My horrible first time experience haunts me!
Q. So me and my gf has been dating for 9 months now...we have intercourse a while back...it was my first time but not hers...when we did it we didn't use a condom i came in 3 seconds...yes i have a horrible premature ejaculation...luckily i pulled ...
A. 12 September 2011: Mate you need to lighten up and learn how to laugh at yourself. Every guy has some kind of story like this. It doesn't define you as a person, or mean that you are not good enough. Just see the funny side of it. I remember when I was about 16... (read in full...)
How do I confront him about the texts I found on his phone?
Q. please can you help me, i checked my partner of 2 years phone and found a lot of girls numbers and some very sexy texts, which he has replied to, i am heartbroken ,how can cofront him when i had to put his pin number in to get in his phone ,i feel ...
A. 10 September 2011: "have i been wrong to let the texting upset me so much that now i have lost him." No you haven't been wrong. He was cheating on - and as you didn't talk about this issue, you'll never really know how far it went and what went on. Of course... (read in full...)
Is being a slut the way to mend a broken heart???
Q. Hi again Aunt/ uncle agonies. Thanks in advance for taking the time to read. I am going through an awful breakup, and all i wanna do is move on. I've been getting advice from all my friend on how to achieve this, but for some odd reason every sug...
A. 9 September 2011: Do whatever you feel will help you get over it, but stay true to yourself and your morals. If you go around acting like a slut, it's probably going to mess you up more.
Is this ex-boyfriend really worth you ruining your reputation and self-res... (read in full...)
Boyfriend won't let me dump him!
Q. What do you do when your bf wont LET you dump him ? I mean honestly... Its really hard on me because i really DO care about him so much, and if i knew a way id make it work if I could... But he tends to put his own needs first and put mine asi...
A. 9 September 2011: He doesn't have a choice if you want to end it. Tell him it is over, and do not give him mixed messages. Get him out of your life, he can not be a friend. Give both of you space so you can both get over the relationship and the breakup. Ever... (read in full...)
We're "Facebook married" but I want him as a legit b/f
Q. So I'm "Facebook married" to my legit crush..one night i was at his house and he proposed to me and gave me a ring and everything..the next day he sent me a facebook marriage request and of course I said yes! we've been really close for over a y...
A. 9 September 2011: Why isn't he your "legit" boyfriend? Either he is shy about asking you out, or he is gay.... (read in full...)
How do I confront him about the texts I found on his phone?
Q. please can you help me, i checked my partner of 2 years phone and found a lot of girls numbers and some very sexy texts, which he has replied to, i am heartbroken ,how can cofront him when i had to put his pin number in to get in his phone ,i feel ...
A. 7 September 2011: What do you want to happen when you tell him?
There are two issues here, the first that he has been going behind your back with other women, and second, that you have gone through his private things.
You're just going to have to be direct and... (read in full...)
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