Paid online jobs to help people with their problems?
Q. Does anyone know if there are any paid jobs where you can help people with their problems online, or would it be voluntary ?. I have been thinking recently that i'd like to have a job where i can help people, and, of course, being on dear cupid made ...
A. 26 July 2011: If you really want to help people (rather than just giving your advice) then your best place is start is to do a introductory course in counselling. Many local colleges offer such courses. Until you are actually 'qualified' to help people, I don't ... (read in full...)
Best Friend Slept with my BF. Now What???
Q. A year ago I found out my boyfriend of one year slept with someone I considered a good friend behind my back multiple times. Obviously I was devastated, but I gave him a second chance and accepted him back into my life. During the past year I have ...
A. 25 July 2011: I think you did the right thing about your (ex?) boyfriend.
About your friend, people do make mistakes which they hopefully learn from. Friendships get tested, and this is one of those times. If you value her friendship, and think she is sincere ... (read in full...)
Would you remain friends with an ex who was unfaithful and disrespectful towards you?
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend about 3 months ago because I felt she was not loyal to me. She wanted to spend a lot of time with her three times ex boyfriend whom she claimed they are just friends. She was also spending a lot of time with another ...
A. 22 July 2011: When I read this, I thought it was coming from a young teen. That's because it sounded like she was acting one, and that you were writing with no experience in life and relationships. Personally I think people throw the word 'friend' around far too ... (read in full...)
Can being nervous mean a man can't keep an erection?
Q. I recently went home with a man I've had a crush on for the past year or so. He is twice my age and we've known each other in a strictly professional capacity, so it was quite unusual and exciting to have the chance to sleep with him. When we got to ...
A. 18 July 2011: Aw that poor man, bet he is really beating himself up over not being able to perform. Men can lose their erections if the smallest amount of anxiety creeps in. I'm sure it has happened to nearly all men at least once in their life. Definitely wasn't ... (read in full...)
Problems with our adopted daughter.....
Q. Hello everybody, I'm much troubled with my baby's behaviour and i want to know if the things r normal? Or what i should do to improve the things? At the age of 34 i adopted a 3 1/2 months girl child from an orphanage. Since the beginning i foun...
A. 14 July 2011: How close is your relationship with her? It sounds like she is going through some difficult times (triggered by starting to become adolescent) Does she feel love and supported by you, and the family? Are you sure? It sounds like you need to address ... (read in full...)
Feel worthless over Boyfriends cruel comment.
Q. My boyfriend said to me while drunk tonight "you cant even have children what good are you??" Now I am in tears, it hurt me so bad. I feel like giving up now. He made me feel more worthless then I already do...
A. 7 July 2011: Wake up, he is not a nice guy, if when he gets drunk, he becomes abusive. Your boyfriends behaviour is showing signs of how he actually really is and it can only get worse if you've already fallen in to the pattern when you have accepted it. Do y... (read in full...)
Feel worthless over Boyfriends cruel comment.
Q. My boyfriend said to me while drunk tonight "you cant even have children what good are you??" Now I am in tears, it hurt me so bad. I feel like giving up now. He made me feel more worthless then I already do...
A. 7 July 2011: That's a pretty harsh comment to say to someone. Does he usually say cruel and hurtful things to you? I know sometimes people can lose their temper and say something in the moment which they later regret, but in your case I get the feeling that... (read in full...)
My fiance is demanding I have a DNA test, even though I only cheated once back in 2010!
Q. Dear cupid, Me and my fiance are expecting our 1st baby. He wants a DNA test, just because I messed around just 1 time and that was last year (2010)! IT'S A NEW YEAR! I mean, he's actually "insisting" that i get a DNA test... I just got pregnant...
A. 7 July 2011: If my girlfriend had cheated on me, and I stayed with her (unlikely) and went on to have a baby, I would always wonder in the back of my mind if it was my child or not. You should get the DNA test, it's what you must do to reassure him.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my boyfriend to check out his sisters?
Q. I am 19 years old and my boyfriend is 22. We have been dating for four years he has younger sisters one is my age and the other is 17. Anyway when me and my boyfriend first started going out we would always go out with them and i would notice him ...
A. 7 July 2011: You're overthinking all this. If a girl is exposing the more intimate areas of her body then any straight guy is going to be attracted to look, sister or not. It does not mean that he is interested in her, just that he noticed her. ... (read in full...)
How do I end a 7 month relationship?
Q. How do I ditch my boyfriend? We've been together 7 months, but he's recently started acting different and I think there is another girl but dont want to jump to conlcusions. He hasnt been acting like a boyfriend, he never has time for me, he's alw...
A. 4 July 2011: Meet up with him, and tell him that you want to break up. Tell him the reasons, be honest with him.
Be prepared that he may try and get you to change your mind.
So unless you are willing to give things another try, you should be firm and not ... (read in full...)
Guy I like broke up with me after seeing blood from my period during sex. What can I do??
Q. I had a huge crush on somebody that I met 3 years ago. He was so cute and from another state. From the first time we met, we knew exactly that we were attracted to each other. He stayed at the hotel and we exchanged our cell phone numbers. The sex ...
A. 30 June 2011: This guy was only interested in you for sex, but you had feeling for him as well. I know it hurts but the best thing you can do is to stop trying to call and email him, and move on. He obviously doesn't want to speak to you.
It sounds like you... (read in full...)
Ex and I slept together, but I feel insecure because she's blonder, and smarter than I am
Q. my ex boyfriend and I broke up about eight months ago and I still can't get over it, we dated for two years, I was twenty and he was thirty-two, first my family was against it because of the age difference, they said he was just using me but that ...
A. 30 June 2011: Listen, it's not this other woman that has affected your confidence, it is this poor excuse of a man that has caused all of this. Firstly, I can see that you are totally in to this guy. So much so, that you are not seeing things for how they rea... (read in full...)
It seems she is looser, could she be cheating?
Q. i have this curious question about a vagina fart,I know that its caused by air being pushed from the penis,but is it mostly cause by a bigger penis,for example-I've been with the mother of my kids for 18yrs. And I don't know if because she gave ...
A. 29 June 2011: I wanted to add to all the female answers that I agree with them. I hope you haven't been giving her a bad time over this.... (read in full...)
My GF is spending time with her ex, how should I handle it?
Q. My girlfriend met up with her ex at Glastonbury! I am having a really hard time getting my head round this and am wondering if this is the beginning of the end. My girlfriend of nearly 5 months has an ex who she finished with in Sep 10 who ...
A. 29 June 2011: I agree with caringguy. Listen man, there is a line between being a confident, cool guy and knowing when to give your partner freedom to do whatever she wants, which shows that you trust her and allow her to make her own choices. But on the other ... (read in full...)
Why did he have to push me away while filling out his personal details in the form?
Q. Today I went shopping with the guy that I have been seeing. We were at a department store where if you apply for their credit card, you get 15% discount on your purchases. So he applied for the card. But 2 things stood out to me. First, he's a ...
A. 29 June 2011: I don't think he is weird at all, he probably just values his privacy a little more, whereas you are more comfortable to be very open. You say you refuse to be with someone who is that closed so I think you have your solution. But remember ... (read in full...)
Should I confront my former friend about the comments he made about me online?
Q. My friend at least I thought they were and I got into a huge fight. We kind of had crushes on each other but things got really bad between us. I really made him mad. I tried apologizing and giving him space. The thing that hurt me is that after I ...
A. 28 June 2011: If you ignore someone like this, it will more than likely come across that you have better things to be doing than reading facebook so to them you probably didn't even read it. You'll have basically risen above their level. They posted to get a ... (read in full...)
Why can't I get a girlfriend?
Q. I have been single now for about 2 years (I'm 22 years old). I would love to get a girlfriend but I just don't have any friends who know any girls and I am not in school anymore so I can't meet girls in school. I don't really like to go out and ...
A. 28 June 2011: I would also suggest dating sites, but I want to pick you up on something you said about women not wanting to be approached. This is "nice guy" mentality and a sign that you have low confidence in yourself.
Of course a woman (or man) would no... (read in full...)
Is it reasonable that my boyfriend wants me to cut contact with my abusive ex?
Q. Ok so i've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 months and everything is wonderful. The only problem is he doesn't want me to have anything to do with my ex because of what happened in mine and my exs past. It was an semi abusive relationship. he ...
A. 28 June 2011: Good lord. Your boyfriend probably thinks the world of you, and there you are thinking it is acceptable to stay friendly with someone that has abused you. You need to take a good look at yourself, and why you think it's fine to accept such bad ... (read in full...)
How should I ask a girl out?
Q. After going out on a few informal dates with a girl I met a couple of months ago now, I’ve decided I want to ask her out as (stating the obvious) I like her, and I’m pretty sure she likes me! Anyhow, my last relationship was over four years ago and ...
A. 28 June 2011: Keep on going out on dates and spending fun times together.
You should be able to judge how interested she is in you by how much time she wants to spend with you, and how much she misses you when she's not with you.
I don't think you need t... (read in full...)
Help needed with my sex phobia!
Q. hi please can you all help me, as much as avice as poss. im a lesbian but a virgin and im scared of having anything inside me but my girlfriend wants us to use sex toys. she does know how scared i am but this is something shes happy to wait until im ...
A. 24 June 2011: Have you thought about getting some counselling? It seems there is most likely some kind of issue that you've not dealt with from your past.
Take a look at this: http://www.relate.org.uk/home/index.html you can find help and support.... (read in full...)
He has been cheating the entire time with a girl online! Should I break up with him? Or forgive him and trust that he wants me, not her?
Q. Totally shattered. Please read - I have been with my boyfriend since one year. All the relationships I've been in before, the guys cheated on me. I was emotionally vulnerable when I met my present boyfriend, we had common friends. Both of us a...
A. 24 June 2011: Dump him. It should have only taken him a few weeks, a month at best at the beginning of your relationship to figure out which one of you he wanted to be with.
To lie to you for a whole year shows this guy to be incredibly deceptive. Let's be... (read in full...)
My girlfriend will not have anything to do with my second ex!
Q. I need a question answered but first i will try to tell you the history I have been with a girl now for 1.5 years she is great and we get along so well. However there is one issue that i can't resolve and it will break us up! I have been in two ...
A. 24 June 2011: What was the reason why she has a problem with being around your ex? I think you need to describe what her reasoning is. Is it because she is insecure, but hasn't admitted that. Maybe with encouragement and support, you can get her to see how ... (read in full...)
Parasite Girlfriend is running me dry. What can I do?
Q. HELP!!!!! I am in a relationship with a girl I live with and have been dating for 2 years. Ever since I met her I have been paying all her bills. You name it I pay for everything...cell phone, car payment, rent, clothing, food, child support ...
A. 24 June 2011: Er, man up? And by that I mean, stand up for yourself. If you don't want to be in a relationship with her, break up with her. You sounds like you are really unhappy, so why stay with her, are you afraid of not finding someone else?... (read in full...)
Worried about saying racial slurs accidentally
Q. I am a student and when I'm away from home, there aren't many people of african origin. When I came back to the city it became a sudden culture shock to be back, and now I have a job working and I've suddenly got this paranoia that I'm going to say ...
A. 22 June 2011: I think you're getting confused between being racist, and not being politically correct. You're not accidentally going to say something racist, unless you are a racist. But I take your point, that you are afraid of saying something that might be ... (read in full...)
Confronted my girlfriend about her sexual past and found out she was raped, and now she wont speak to me! How can I get her back?
Q. Ok so i finally convinced this beautiful girl to go out with me that took forever,Shs shy and awkward but very smart an ambitious works and goes to school. I really think im falling in love with her well I think it was really love at first site whe...
A. 22 June 2011:
Why were you pestering her to find out how many guys she has slept with? Why do guys do this? If you really want to show a girl you love her, don't pester her to find out how many people she has slept with it will just make her feel obje... (read in full...)
He expects me to wait until he is back from the pub to cook his dinner!
Q. My boyfriend has recently started to go to the pub every Friday after work with his new work colleagues. I wait until he gets home from work all week before I start cooking dinner. He can get home after 6pm and he likes to chill out for a bit before ...
A. 22 June 2011: You are talking like you are a servant to him.
Cook dinner at a time that is convenient to you, he is lucky to have someone who wants to cook for him.
Presumably he has two hands to go with that primitive brain of his? Can't he just reheat y... (read in full...)
My girlfriend cheated on me twice within our seven year relationship, I'm disgusted and hurt, but I love her so much. Should I forgive her?
Q. I recently proposed to my girlfriend of seven years. After we got engaged she started acting weird and then finally about a week ago, she confessed something to me. She admitted on to having an affair four years ago that lasted for more than a year. ...
A. 22 June 2011: Well done for staying strong. Stick with it and you will start to see things in a better way, one day you'll be glad you did this.. you deserve more, remember that.... (read in full...)
I'm going crazy thinking that my boyfriend is cheating on me. Is he??
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over 2.5 years and we live together. There has been no change in his behaviour or mood towards me which would make me suspect anything is wrong. Just a few weeks ago, he was showing me an email from a family member ...
A. 20 June 2011: I think your guy mates are right, as long as it doesn't go any further than it has. He is probably doing it for the attention. You should bring it up with him because at the moment you are snooping, and over a long period of time, it will en... (read in full...)
What to wear at a foam party?
Q. Hey. I am going to a foam party soon with a mixed group. I'm 18 and bisexual. What do I wear? Can guys go shirtless? What do the girls normally wear?...
A. 15 June 2011: From my experience, in a regular club you'd wear the same clothes as you normally do when clubbing. If you were to take your top off, you will be asked to put it back on by staff.
The only exception is if you're going to a club that's part of ... (read in full...)
He wants "vivid" photos of me!
Q. He's sweet and always really nice, but ever since we got deeper into getting to know each other, he been asking me to give him pictures of me, like "vivid" pictures. I know I would never do it, but I want him to like me still and I know he likes me ...
A. 14 June 2011: Are you crazy? this guy isn't even your boyfriend. If you send him pictures, sooner or later, they will be spread around all his mates, and put on the internet.
Only ever give pictures to someone you are in a very commited relationship with. Re... (read in full...)
Any advice for getting rid of stretch marks?
Q. Hi there! Well last August I had an accident, in which I fell off my horse at full gallop and landed on my back. I didn't break anything, but my lower back and hips, and upper thighs were all scraped and bruised, and all swelled up. Almost a year ...
A. 10 June 2011:
People will tell you all sorts of rubbish about how you can get rid of stretch marks. The fact is, you can't. They will simply fade over the years but most likely, never go away entirely.
I don't want to sound harsh but you should just accept ... (read in full...)
I can't get over his sexual past and I'm still worired that he wasnt telling me truth
Q. Hello, the problem has been making me quite uncomfortable with my bf. We met online back in dec 2010 and met IRL by end of April 2011. The thing is that we had unprotected sex ( he didn't really penetrated in me) but I read that it's high risk ...
A. 10 June 2011:
Your constant pestering of his past must be damaging your relationship, I don't think I would be able to put up with you for very long. You are probably coming across as quite needy and insecure.
Best thing you can do is get your tests done a... (read in full...)
B/f asked for a threesome but now he wants one every weekend!
Q. i have been in a relationship for 7 years and my boyfriend asked if we can have a threesome i said ok but now he just wants a threesome every weekend. he says it really turns him on seeing me with someone else but to be honest i am not into it and ...
A. 9 June 2011: He'll notice if you say no and leave him. Seriously, it sounds like you're nothing more than his sex toy at the moment.. does he still care for you and respect you?... (read in full...)
He used to check my Facebook, but now I want to check his he says this is wrong! What is with the double standard?
Q. my boyfriend has gotten on my facebook before and checked out guys he thought I might have had something to do with. I didn't care because I wasn't doing anything. He even talked to one of the guys as if he was me. After doing this for a bit he ...
A. 9 June 2011: You should have seen his behaviour has a huge red flag. He has massive trust issues, which you should you not have gone along with. From my experience, people who are so insecure and untrusting have a reason for it: they themselves cheat, and so ... (read in full...)
Guys, would a girl's past FWB relationship put you off her?
Q. I'm currently in somewhat of a friends with benefits situation with a guy I know. What I want is opinions on how this may make future potential guys look at me in the future. Guys, would you keep yourself away from a girl who had previous...
A. 9 June 2011: Honestly, yes. If it was more of a one off, and in the past so there was no contact between them then I would put it down to experience and judge her more on how she is today.
But, if the FWB was indicative of other past behaviour, or if she thou... (read in full...)
My girlfriend cheated on me twice within our seven year relationship, I'm disgusted and hurt, but I love her so much. Should I forgive her?
Q. I recently proposed to my girlfriend of seven years. After we got engaged she started acting weird and then finally about a week ago, she confessed something to me. She admitted on to having an affair four years ago that lasted for more than a year. ...
A. 8 June 2011: You seem like a genuine and decent guy to me.
No doubt this girl has betrayed you in the worst possible way.
The first cheating, I would say it would have been possible to forgive and move on. But not the second time. She didn't learn any... (read in full...)
How can I tell if my FWB is ever going to turn into something more?
Q. I have known this wonderful guy for four years. He always was so nice and made me laugh, both were in relationships at the time. But for the last four n half months we have been making hot passionate sex with kissing and cuddling and spending the ...
A. 8 June 2011: You should tell him how you feel. You've been "seeing each other" for 4 and a half months so either you're in a relationship and it's not become official, or you're just FWB. If you are FWB then this isn't going to go anywhere and you are wasting ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend signing up for the Army? Little comfort?
Q. Hi , A few weeks ago i found out my boyfriend had a passion for joining Infrantry with the Army. At first i didn't believe he'd make a go for it but yesterday we went shopping and he walked into BA centre + collected some forms. They took his weight ...
A. 7 June 2011: It sounds like you would be signing up to a life of being very alone, and very lonely.
Life is short, you should enjoy every opportunity you can have so why start a life with someone you know you're going to barely see? You will always be secon... (read in full...)
Will he leave his wife and get a divorce?
Q. I really need your advice! I have been with a guy going on 5 years but the problem is he is married. It all started when he came up to me one day at work becuase he said I looked sad and when I told him I had just broken up with my past bf, he ...
A. 7 June 2011: TBH I am left confused by this recent update.
This man has now given up everything to show you that he made a mistake and wants to be with you, and you say "I think I have found a little strength now to get away from him"
Fact, this guy made so... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't return the favor?
Q. Hey, So basically what is happening is that my girlfriend won't return the favour. I go down on her to please her whenever he asks, but when I ask her to return the goods she says, I don't feel like it, or, when it's dark. I know penises aren't t...
A. 6 June 2011: To me you have a bad attitute towards sex, just because you want to perform oral on her, does not mean she should have to do it back.
If you don't like it, then you shoudn't be doing it to her. Neither should she feel under pressure to do it to... (read in full...)
I asked my friend out and he refused, now he's lying about dating a model off of facebook. Why is he doing this?
Q. im close friends with a guy, we've nown each other 2 years and ive helped him out of loads of difficulties. i like him a lot and recently mentioned to him the possibility of dating. he said he would date me but the friendship would be ruined if it ...
A. 6 June 2011: Sounds like it would be good for your friendship if you create a bit of distance and spend your time on other people, perhaps seeing if you can date someone else. Maybe your friendship with this guy can then go back to the way it was before you ... (read in full...)
Will he leave his wife and get a divorce?
Q. I really need your advice! I have been with a guy going on 5 years but the problem is he is married. It all started when he came up to me one day at work becuase he said I looked sad and when I told him I had just broken up with my past bf, he ...
A. 5 June 2011: You did know he was going to react this way, because you said whenever you've done it before, or he has sensed distance from you, that he says and does what you want to hear. I would say let his actions do the talking. And speak to his wife. Se... (read in full...)
Will he leave his wife and get a divorce?
Q. I really need your advice! I have been with a guy going on 5 years but the problem is he is married. It all started when he came up to me one day at work becuase he said I looked sad and when I told him I had just broken up with my past bf, he ...
A. 2 June 2011: Yes, call his wife and see what she has to say. I bet you will be extremely surprised by what you hear and it will go some way to understanding what the truth is in all this.
You know, I don't get it with you kind of women that get led on by marri... (read in full...)
Will he leave his wife and get a divorce?
Q. I really need your advice! I have been with a guy going on 5 years but the problem is he is married. It all started when he came up to me one day at work becuase he said I looked sad and when I told him I had just broken up with my past bf, he ...
A. 2 June 2011: This guy, what a loser! He's trying to say you should change before he gets a divorce!? That's unbelievable. Listen.. this guy is a master at deception. He may like being with you, when it suits him, but he does not want to be married to you. If he ... (read in full...)
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