He's proposed, but where is the ring?
Q. My boyfriend proposed to me a few weeks ago...Kind of. Basically, the subject has come up once or twice, in passing. He knew I would say yes if he asked. We were lying in bed, drifting off to sleep, and he started to speak, being very hesitant ...
A. 27 October 2010: You asked "What goes on inside a guys brain?!" so, as a guy, I gave you my opinion. If you only wanted "nice" answers that made you feel better, you should have said. Either way, my original answer still stands. He just ain't in to you.... (read in full...)
Do men really get afraid?
Q. My boss and I have been fooling around for about 6 months, no sex, no kissing, just fondling. We haven't gone further as he is very afraid of my husband finding out and hurting him. We are both married with children. Yet we continue to fool around. ...
A. 27 October 2010: Have you not thought that what you are doing is selfish and wrong? If I was your child and I found out my mum was having an affair with her boss, i'd never see her as anything more than a cheap slut. That sounds harsh, but it's true! The right... (read in full...)
He's proposed, but where is the ring?
Q. My boyfriend proposed to me a few weeks ago...Kind of. Basically, the subject has come up once or twice, in passing. He knew I would say yes if he asked. We were lying in bed, drifting off to sleep, and he started to speak, being very hesitant ...
A. 27 October 2010:
Could he have asked you because he is a jealous / possessive type? Some men don't really want to get married they just want other guys to see the girl as engaged as in some fucked up way they think that makes them more out of bounds.
My guess ... (read in full...)
Is he just acting shy or does he want to have sex with me?
Q. Hey friends.. I am a 19 yrs. Old girl. Recently, i found myself in a great dilemma.. and want to ask your opinion on the same. There is a guy with whom, i am going around from the last 2 yrs. We have hugged and kissed each other but since we...
A. 27 October 2010:
Any guy (unless he is gay) is going to find themselves looking at a girls breast if she has her cleavage showing from her top exposing it.
I don't think you should tell him that you saw him looking at your breasts. That would just be embarrass... (read in full...)
Do we make enough money to have a baby?
Q. My boyfriend and I feel we are ready to try to start a family in the next few months. We have just paid off some debt from my uni days and are looking now to rent a place (we currently live with his family). Our combined salaries are £40,000 a ...
A. 26 October 2010:
It sounds like you do to me, also remember as you get older at least one of you is going to become more experienced and likely to earn higher.
Just think of the amount of people on state benefits and manage to bring up kids!... (read in full...)
What can I do to forgive and forget?
Q. I found out about a month ago that my significant other cheated on me about six months ago. We are not married, but we have been living together for 5 years and have two little boys. About a year ago she decided to go back to school. I told her to ...
A. 26 October 2010:
Does she want to you to forgive and forget? Is she happy in the relationship now? People don't generally cheat for no reason. Unless you really feel like she had addressed why she cheated on you, and you feel she is committed to your rela... (read in full...)
Guys! What can a girl do/wear to make your head turn?
Q. What really impresses a guy? What will grab his attention (in a good way) and make him return that attention to you? I'm asking this to use on my boyfriend for a spark, and for future reference should I ever need it. Thanks =]...
A. 26 October 2010: Well it would totally depend on the guy. If he is romantic at heart then do something romantic for him, like plan a surprise of some kind for him. Or you could do something more sexual and out of the blue, like send him a really unexpected sexual ... (read in full...)
All he does is lie lie lie
Q. So right now been on a break wit my ex and we still see each other and all but I m tired of the lies and all and he just lies lies and lies and I keep coming back like a dummy I love him a lot but now I know It must end even though it will hurt me ...
A. 26 October 2010:
If all he does is lie, and you stay with him, you are shwoing him that lying is ok.
As impossible as it may seem right now, the only way to get past this is to get him out of your life - for good. You will get over him and later fall in love... (read in full...)
What does it mean when your boyfriend calls you sexy?
Q. My boyfriend says that i am sexy and he love my eyes....i want him to call me beautiful,cute why doesn't he? my friends say that when a boyfriend calls you sexy its because he just want you to get in your pants and he don't love you?..is it true? ...
A. 26 October 2010:
Different words for different times.
Just because he called you sexy, doesn't mean he doesn't think you are beautiful too.
Don't assume he just wants to have sex with you because he called you sexy.
If he is a good guy then take being cal... (read in full...)
Iv been cheated upon in previous relationships and its making me insecure about my present one!
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for a year and he's my bestfriend but im very inscure because previouse boyfriends have cheated on me i keep thinking everytime he's not with me hes with other girls and it makes us argue alot, i don't know what to do ...
A. 25 October 2010:
Sounds like you haven't got over your ex.
It isn't fair to treat people you don't even know based on previous people. You need more time out to learn from the past and get over it. Once you have got over the part you won't be acting "very insecu... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can't marry me because of my past.
Q. In the beginning of our relationship I told my boyfriend about my past sexual relationships. I have slept with more guys than he has girls and have had a few friends with benefits type situations. I wanted to be honest and upfront with him because I ...
A. 21 October 2010: He's being honest with you.. and that;s him saying that he can't see you as wife or mother material. Now either he is wrong about this, and he will get over your past, or you need to be strong and move on. Otherwise you're always just going... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated with one of my close friends and I can't get over it!
Q. Hello,im hoping someone can give me some advice..so ive been w/my boyfriend a little over 5yrs we have 2 children together absolutely almost perfect that is because when about 5yrs ago he slept w/1 of my closest friends.shes my friend but shes a ...
A. 21 October 2010: So it happened 5 years ago, but you only just found out about it?
It's natural for it to be a shock but is something that happened 5 years ago worth ending your relationship over?
Because if you can't get over it and stop holding it again... (read in full...)
Should I accept my boyfriend's mother's facebook friends request?
Q. I'm not sure what to do. My boyfriend's mum has sent me a friend request on facebook, and i dont know whether to add her or not. We get on pretty well, but i had a look at her profile without confirming the friend request, and she sometimes writes ...
A. 15 October 2010: Leave it pending until someone says something. In all likelyhood, nobody will.
And if you and your boyfriend grow as a couple, and stop arguing etc, you can then accept her then. ... (read in full...)
I fell in love and then found she works as an escort
Q. Hi all, I just want to write something what is going on in my life and hope to have some feedback from you readers. I'm a 32 year old Dutch guy who is single for a few years now, i have been dating in these years, but i just cant find a gi...
A. 15 October 2010: If she had been showing shes wants to be your girlfriend then I would say work through the escort issues - but seeing as she isn't ready for that level of commitment with you, I'd pass this relationship opportunity by.... (read in full...)
Living with very obsessive much older man & scared to go on a secret free weeked trip with my ex
Q. I'm in urgent need of 100% honest advice. I don't have much time so this is why I'm reaching out. Just for the sake of imagination I'm blond, female in mid 30s slim build, cute, look much younger than I am. Here's my situation.. I've been living ...
A. 15 October 2010: Your question seems like a very dressed up story on whether or not you should cheat on your fiance.
Stop making excuses for yourself and Barry. You're obviously not right for each other and give him some more credit - i'm sure he will eventual... (read in full...)
Stretch marks everywhere! What works on them?
Q. Hi. I weigh around 105 lbs and im around 34C-D. But I have stretchmarks everywhere on my breasts, and I can feel them and see them and I dont like it, is there anything I can do? I have tried Bio-Oil and I stopped using it because I forget to put it ...
A. 10 October 2010: A lot of people have stretch marks, it's perfectly normal.. and no matter what people say, they will almost certainly never go.. they will just fade over the years.... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend was going to cheat on me!
Q. I have a boyfriend of 1 year and 8 months, i love him and i do think he loves me were generally very happy, we brokme up for a month in summer and got back together in august, the problem is while we were getting back together he'd been talking to ...
A. 9 October 2010:
If he wanted to be with you, he would have decided himself to delete all contact with this girl and totally move on and do anything he could to make things right. You shouldn't have had to keep asking him to do it.
Sometimes people can be tempt... (read in full...)
I almost caught my b/f having a "crafty tug", how do I tell him I'm not freaked out about it?
Q. This question could be a bit long and I apologise for that. The situation is, today I came home from work early and when I let myself in the hall I noticed my partner jumped up and switched off the telly really quickly and sat back down again....
A. 8 October 2010: Tell him, and tell him it's because you trust him so know it isn't the same as what happened to you before. ... (read in full...)
I Love Him, But Can He Forgive My Past?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two months now (not long huh?) and everything was fine last night. we were out with some friends having a meal and we had an arguement on the way home (i've been staying at his for the best part of a ...
A. 8 October 2010:
At your young age especially, I don't see how this relationship is going to work out. You both simply have very different experiences and views towards sex. There is very little chance he is going to suddenly ever be OK with you having had a thre... (read in full...)
Why do I always ruin my relationships through paranoid jealousy?
Q. Why do i always ruin my relationships through paranoid jealousy? I have recently entered into a new relationship and as soon as i saw love forming i started to mistrust my partner. I have an insane paranoia and do not trust her whenever she is out. ...
A. 8 October 2010:
Be careful not to give her an ultimatum "it's stay with me and show you support my problem or go with your mates and show you don't care about me"
If her friends arn't that great, she'll come back and tell you she had a rubbish weekend.
... (read in full...)
I almost raped my girlfiend. HELP!!
Q. ok so me and my girl have talked about sex. i'm ready she's not. i'm happy with that. she's happy with that. right? so then, we're happily making out when i feel i'm starting to lose control. i'm starting to go further automatically. so we stop and ...
A. 7 October 2010: Are you saying you think you might force her to have sex, even if she tells you no?
Just trying to establish that you really know what rape means. It's not a word you can use lightly. If you genuinely think you are going to end up raping your gir... (read in full...)
Why do I always ruin my relationships through paranoid jealousy?
Q. Why do i always ruin my relationships through paranoid jealousy? I have recently entered into a new relationship and as soon as i saw love forming i started to mistrust my partner. I have an insane paranoia and do not trust her whenever she is out. ...
A. 6 October 2010: You obviously love this woman or at least have deep feelings of wanting to be with her, or you wouldn't feel this jealousy.
Personally I think your first step should be to sit down and tell her your problem. Be VERY careful to explain it in such ... (read in full...)
The relationship changed after we slept together
Q. Hello all, I used to be the greatest girl ever. The one who was cute, sweet, sexy, smart and funny. He was contacting me on a daily basis and every time we went out together it was clear that we liked each other very much. I am not the kind of ...
A. 4 October 2010:
I think you will have to accept that things aren't going to be like they used to be.
I'm trying to be understanding from the guys perspective here, like I don't think he necessarily just used you for sex. He could have been confused, fo... (read in full...)
Have not been introduced to his family after 2 years, should I be concerned?
Q. Hi, all I need your advice. I have been more than 2 years together with him. My boyfriend seems no intention to introduce me to his family or friends. I have no idea how to deal with this situation. He is living far from his hometown at t...
A. 1 October 2010:
Have you told him you would like to meet his family and home town?... (read in full...)
How do I talk about new things to try?
Q. Hey everyone I'm 19 and my boyfriend and I have engaged in everything besides the obvious. One of which is sex and we are waiting for the right time. The other one was the one I had a question about. Is there a specific name for when the guys slides ...
A. 24 September 2010: The next time he has his dick out, say to him "hey come rub your cock in between my tits" and say it in a dirty way, he'll love it.... (read in full...)
I found hidden in the closet sex video with wife and her boyfriends...
Q. Please help! So my wife told me I needed to do more around the house. Help her clean mostly. I had never really done it and I felt I should help...wish I never had. I started cleaning out our bedroom. Under the bed, behind dressers, etc......
A. 24 September 2010: Wow.. that is quite a bombshell and it's going to take time for it to sink in. Nothing is ever going to be able to change the fact that you will have to know this information for the rest of your life. How you deal with it is whether or not y... (read in full...)
Should I stay in contact with him, even though he's married?
Q. I'm a 21 y.o who recently met this gorgeous 41 y.o guy in a band when they played live, after we briefly met, i got in touch with him through myspace and he replied saying that he really liked me though he was married. Anyway, a few weeks passed and ...
A. 16 September 2010: How would you feel if you were this guys wife? I'm sure she would want to punch your face out. Treat others as you would like to be treated. It's quite that simple really.... (read in full...)
Hubby has his ex on facebook and I don't like it!
Q. Ive always had issues w my hubby and computers. If i am overeacting on any of this please tell me. Last month, he got a facebook and didnt tell me. The only way i found out about it was he was suggested to be one of my friends. No big deal. until ...
A. 15 September 2010:
It's impossible to say without knowing your husband but you do seem paranoid and distrusting towards him. Have you always been like this? It sounds like you should address this insecurity as whole, rather than concentrate on this specific issu... (read in full...)
G/f lied to me and was used as a sex toy for 2 years
Q. When I met my girlfriend, she told me she hadn't had a boyfriend in 4 years. While "technically," this was true, it turns out she had had a "casual relationship" with a man for two years. And she continued having sex with him for a short time even ...
A. 10 September 2010:
If you think she is a slut then surely you need to end the relationship? Otherwise your loss of respect for her will eventually start to really show in the way you treat her and it will all end badly.
I'm not saying you're wrong for feeling the ... (read in full...)
Magic Number - 5 too many?
Q. I told a close (male) friend of mine my magic number the other day (5). He seemed to think it was pretty high. I can account for these: 1. first time 2. 3 yr relationship 3. short relationship 4. 1 night stand 5. current relationship. I hav...
A. 7 September 2010: Why on earth would you tell a male friend how many people you have slept with? 5 seems like a good number to me. You do know this guy you told is obviously in to you. Otherwise he wouldn't have told you the number was high.... (read in full...)
Do I need to move on from this guy or wait for him, patiently?
Q. My boyfriend of one year and I found each other on a dating web site. He really is not my type but he seemed to be one of the only "normal" guys I had met thus far. Our first date was a concert out of town and it was okay. When we got to my house ...
A. 7 September 2010: You do seem a bit needy and insecure. I mean what's with all the questions, and isn't it a bit emotionally manipulative to move all your stuff out and then the next day ask him how he slept? Don't do such drastic actions unless you want to follow t... (read in full...)
Playing hard to get--how do you do that?
Q. theres this guy i have a little crush on and i know the key to a guys heart is to be yourself.. but how are some ways to play a little hard to get? you know keep him guessing... ...
A. 7 September 2010:
The problem with playing hard to get is that you might not actually be all that as it is, and by making it difficult for them, they will simply not even notice you. ... (read in full...)
Stressed by peoples' reaction to our inter-racial relationship
Q. Hey everyone, some insight on this please....? I'm black and my boyfriend is Hispanic. He looks extremely Caucasian though without a tan. Anyway we have that difference and a 15yr age gap, he looks 28 :p. Grocery shopping today, we ran into friends ...
A. 5 September 2010:
My girlfriend is Asian (i am white) and race issues have never come up, ever. Perhaps we are lucky. Perhaps it is because we live in a city (London) where difference in skin colour is not a problem to 99.9% of people.
You shouldn't allow yourse... (read in full...)
Evidence that he's looked at escort sites and had a Craiglist ad
Q. Hi everyone. Have been reading the site because I'm just so lost right now. I ended things with my boyfriend of 10 months earlier this week. There have been some trust issues in the past which I guess is what led up to this. This past Tues...
A. 5 September 2010:
If it was just the one thing, you could have put it to you being "nuts" but from what you say.. seems like he is really bad news. When some people cheat (or are trying to cheat) if they are confronted about it, at least they confess! Not only is y... (read in full...)
He initiated the relationship, and now he's telling me he updated his dating profile. wtf?
Q. I signed up for eHarmony just over a month ago and about two weeks in, went on my first date. It went well, and we've been seeing each other ever since. It seemed to me like he was moving really, really, really fast but I figured "to hell with ...
A. 13 August 2010:
He's obviously still looking for who else is still out there. How unfair on you!
If you are able to play it cool, maybe you should find some great photos of yourself and update your profile too. Tell him casually that you've done it, and say ... (read in full...)
What is important love or sex?
Q. [OP's own title] I love my bf so much and we have a blast together but when it comes down to sex he has a hard time satisfying me. He always ends up finishing before i do.What should i do?i dont want to leave him but like every woman i want to ...
A. 3 August 2010:
Look out for a film called "Love and Sex" It's a few years old now, but it's a romantic comedy about love and sex in relationships.
Sounds like you are a bit young to be suited to the kind of relationship you're in. Maybe get out and experien... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend just the sluttiest girl on the planet???
Q. Do girls ever like "having a train pulled on them?". My girlfriend has had a very lurid sexual past, as have all her close friends. She unveiled all this to me soon after we had said, "I love you.". I have been dealing with some jealousy/maybe a ...
A. 3 August 2010: To be honest I don't think I could be with a girl who had done something like that.
But likewise, I'm not a who wants to do it to a girl either, so that would explain I would see it as way slutty.
For many people it's important to hav... (read in full...)
Why do nice guys end up last?
Q. Hello ladies, I have a really deep question which I'm having trouble getting the answers. I'm currently 26, and I've had over 30 Relationships failed, I never gave up but I keep asking myself why. My friend (who is a gal) says that I'm "Too Nice", ...
A. 15 July 2010: Maybe you're nice, but maybe you're also weak, boring and not seen as exciting and adventurous?
You should go back to your female friend and ask her for the blunt honest truth, I think you'd be surprised by what you hear.
I'd say I'm a... (read in full...)
Is she lying about her sexual past?
Q. So I need a bit of help playing detective to determine if my GF is a bit more promiscuous than she lets on. First off, she did not start having sex till she was 30. I have proof that is true. She is now 40, and claims to have had sex with 4 g...
A. 3 July 2010: sorry if it sounds harsh but you either need to put all that stuff behind you, or you need to leave the relationship. Why on earth did you find so much stuff out about her any way? You sound like you have insecurity issues, this girl is not the one ... (read in full...)
He cheated because he was drunk and I cant get over it!
Q. Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been going out for 9 months...we started going out sept.7, 2009 and its now June.30, 2010... Back in Feburary he decided to throw a small party when his mother was away and get drunk...( one girl and 4 guys) well ...
A. 1 July 2010: When I read answers like the ones below, I thank DearCupid for being on the Internet. To the poster, you should listen carefully to what everyone has said. This guy you are seeing is seriously bad news and you should stay well away if you care... (read in full...)
Question to all those who workout regularly
Q. Hello everyone, I am a 23 year old guy and weigh 62Kg (136lb). I have been going to the gym for the past 2 months. I follow the following routine: (1) Cardio on elliptical for 30 mins every alternate day. In this, I take the interval traini...
A. 28 June 2010: If you read on some of the many bodybuilding forums and if necessary post a question on there, you will get much more detailed and accurate information.... (read in full...)
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