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I always try to offer advice that lines up with the Bible's teachings on relationships.
I'm a passionate believer in marriage, and will always encourage husbands and wives to do everything they possibly can to make their marriages work.
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How do couples handle arguments, fights and disagreements?
Q. I am curious to know how couples handle it when they have an argument, fight, disagreement etc. Do you just go off seperately into another room to calm down afterwards? I ask because my bf and i had a argument. It was about something small ...
A. 23 September 2012: His reaction is immature but quite common. The problem with it is that you will end up not discussing important things with him for fear of him doing a runner and issues will end up being swept under the carpet where they'll fester. And if he does ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 2 months creeps me out!
Q. My boyfriend and I have only been going out for about two months. Lately, though, it seems as if every little thing he does annoys me or creeps me out. He's constantly making fun of me and he brings the gift I gave him (a stuffed monkey) weeks ago ...
A. 22 September 2012: You're not seriously suggesting that you now need to spend the rest of your life with this idiot? It's his responsibility what he does after you break up with him. If he can't handle break ups, he shouldn't get into a relationship in the first ... (read in full...)
Why do guys always read into things too much?
Q. I have got some guy friends.I see most of them in a strict platonic way.I'm always friendly to them but NOT flirty.We talk,hang out and laugh together. However,when I start talking to them more often(especially if we're good friends/close fr...
A. 21 September 2012: I'm sure you are and i'm sure it's just how you are. But this problem will keep happening unless you change the way you talk to guys cos thy will keep getting the wrong idea! ... (read in full...)
Can I expect some kind of commitment from him?
Q. I have dated this guy for 2 months. It was a mess at first. Basically he dated me and my friend at the same time. I didn't know about this until my friend told me after a week. I talked to him and he said because we were not BF and GF yet so he...
A. 21 September 2012: You wanna be with someone who's cheating on you? Get a grip, seriously, and get shot of him immediately!... (read in full...)
I don't know if my boyfriend is the one for me
Q. I have never written in any love advice sites before, but have been enjoying reading this site, so I decided to give it a try. Thanks for reading. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 11 months. From the beginning, I thought he was not the r...
A. 21 September 2012: He is not the right man for you or else you would be happy with him. It's time to be strong and leave him for good this time. There are plenty of other people out there and probably one that's just right for you.... (read in full...)
How can I make him understand that he is not the type of man I want, without hurting him?
Q. I am a 30 year old woman, dating a 33 year old man. We have been together for four months now. My fear is that when we met I told him that "The stay together thing is not part of the relationship" as we are both christians and go to the same church. ...
A. 20 September 2012: Just tell him how you feel. What else can you do?... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting to the constant texts and calls
Q. Boyfriend constantly texting and calling another woman.... Please help, i have been with my partner for 4years and to be honest it hasnt been easy, after the 1st year he dumped me as he had feelings for a female friend. we got back together a...
A. 19 September 2012: You need to tell him he must stop contact with this person altogether. Their friendship is too close now and because if their history would be too close at any level. It's as simple as that.... (read in full...)
What colour scheme for a room of a 20 year old would look nice?
Q. this isn't a relationship question, just more so of a question. I'm decorating my room and I wondered what colour scheme is nicest to have, it's a plain room with cream walls. I don't know whether red, dark gold and some black or green would look ...
A. 19 September 2012: Try looking in magazines for inspiration. Also if you have any online estate agents websites you can look at pics of real people's rooms there. In the uk, we have a site called www.rightmove.co.uk.
It's entirely down to personal taste. If you stil... (read in full...)
Is this the way? I want to make him jealous. In retaliation for how he has treated me.
Q. i want to make my ex jealous. do you have any ideas on how to do this? He has always told me that i need him and we are meant to be together, but I am done. I think he wants me back, then dump me. Every two months he comes crawling back to me. I w...
A. 18 September 2012: The best way to move forward is not by playing childish games. This shows you've not moved on at all. You'll only cause more agro for both of you. If you've decided you don't want to be with him, then you don't want to be with him. You've pres... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to take responsibility for what he did?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend a couple of days ago because he got violent and went for me repeatadly. now hes claiming that i attacked him....i was sober as a judge and remember everything, he was drunk and admits it though says if i fight like a man ...
A. 17 September 2012: The only way he can learn is the hard way, and that's by losing you. He has treated you appaulingly. Alcohol removes people's inhibitions, and this has shown his true nature. DO NOT GET BACK TOGETHER WITH HIM UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES.... (read in full...)
Is she playing hard to get, or is she not interested? Should I ask her out again anyway?
Q. I met a girl (a friend of a friend) on a night out the other day. We got talking and things got intimate pretty quickly. To cut a long story short we spent the whole night together and it was probably one of the best nights I've ever had. I don't ...
A. 17 September 2012: She's already given you her answer, but a text would be fine if it helps set your mind at rest. If you get no reply, take that as another "no".... (read in full...)
He makes constant demands for sex but due to my health and busy lifestyle we can't do it so often.
Q. I am generaly a happy go lucky kind of girl. In a great relationship with a man i love and cherish and have for near enough 7 years, our sex life is amazing but recently i have run into some problems with my health. Chronic fatigue and i also have ...
A. 15 September 2012: Can you come to an agreement about how often you will do it? He will know where he stands then, as will you, then he won't need to keep pestering you about it.... (read in full...)
I hate going away on holiday with my fiance! Should I be marrying her?
Q. HI,I live with my girl friend 3 years.we get on fine most of the time.We are engaged and due to get married.But every time we go away I dont really enjoy been with her.I can count 6 or 7 holidays that we have gone on that im just ready to run away ...
A. 14 September 2012: Don't do it!!!!! You need to be completely certain, both of you. Look at the reasons why you're not happy and talk to you fiancee about them. Be honest with her. See whether you can work through them. Don't even consider marriage until you're ... (read in full...)
I thought she was interested but now I haven't heard from her in days. What now?
Q. So I met this girl and got her number. I called her up a few days later and left her a voicemail about getting together. Almost two days passed and I didn't hear from her and then she texted me. We set up a date for the next week. It went extremely ...
A. 13 September 2012: She'd contact you if she was interested, so don't contact her again.... (read in full...)
His jealousy is starting to put a damper on our physical relationship. And now a new guy is showing interest. What should I do?
Q. Hi, I really really need some advice... I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. When we first met I lived in a different city. After I finished my degree we decided to be together, so I moved to be with him (I do have family here as well)In ...
A. 13 September 2012: If you're not happy with your boyfriend, then deal with this first before you start looking for someone else.
Do you really want to get together with someone who pursues other people's girlfriends?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he wouldn't go out of his way to protect me! Should I get rid of him?
Q. this is probably really stupid but i was talking to my bf and before we hit the city, was joking about getting mugged and asked if he'd protect me. he said he wasn't going to go out of his way if it'd put himself in danger. i was like, so you'd ...
A. 12 September 2012: If you were being attacked, it would not be good for your boyfriend to just stand there and do nothing. Is that the situation you asked him about? I would expect him to do something to help you, and if it needed him to fight and he wasn't prepared ... (read in full...)
Am I really unloveable?
Q. I’m 27 and have never had a girlfriend or any kind of relationship for that matter. I just can’t understand the why of it all. No woman has ever wanted me. My love just isn’t good enough for some reason. I’ve gone so far as to ask my friends f...
A. 12 September 2012: I would suggest you try dating websites again, but not free the ones. Get a good photo and write some interesting info about yourself.... (read in full...)
My Co-worker has a Gf but keeps on winking at me. I'm interested, but how should I indicate that? Or could I be mistaking his intentions?
Q. I have a coworker that has been winking at me for sometime. I didnt really pay it any attention at first because I thought that he was just friendly. However,I really noticed it this last time when he winked really slow and pointed his finger at me ...
A. 12 September 2012: He has a girlfriend so what's he doing flirting with you? Do you want to start a relationship with someone who can't be trusted?... (read in full...)
This guy cancelled a date at the last moment, twice, to me. Why do guys do this?
Q. Any advice as to why he kept blowing me out. Me and this guy used to work together we got on really well, there was chemistry between us from day one, we arranged to got out but he cancelled on me on the day (this was when we worked together)...
A. 12 September 2012: He's a loser. Not all men are like this, but avoid the ones that are.... (read in full...)
Why do guys always read into things too much?
Q. I have got some guy friends.I see most of them in a strict platonic way.I'm always friendly to them but NOT flirty.We talk,hang out and laugh together. However,when I start talking to them more often(especially if we're good friends/close fr...
A. 11 September 2012: I knew a lady once who had at least half a dozen people think on different occasions that she was interested in them whereas she was just being friendly. Men do get the impression that a woman really likes them if the woman is particularly friendly.... (read in full...)
If this is friendzone, then hell must be better
Q. Dear aunt agony, There's a guy I met last year and I still have a big crush on him. I am friends with his family so I really don't want to make things awkward between us. When we met we became interested in each other and we talked everyday and he a...
A. 10 September 2012: Maybe the time has come for you to ask him outright where things are at.... (read in full...)
Our different views on religion are driving us apart, we both love each other but I cant stop thinking about an affair! Help!
Q. Hi, looking for some advise. Ok where to start.. Well I have been married for 22 years, have five kids, I love my wife, she's a good person, but she has issues, she shouts a lot at the kids and is very moody, She is not a natural mum and the kids ...
A. 10 September 2012: Which religion does she follow?
Everyone's entited to a bit of happiness and somehow you need to rebuild your relationship with you wife. Have you considered marriage counselling?... (read in full...)
If this is friendzone, then hell must be better
Q. Dear aunt agony, There's a guy I met last year and I still have a big crush on him. I am friends with his family so I really don't want to make things awkward between us. When we met we became interested in each other and we talked everyday and he a...
A. 9 September 2012: If he's not your boyfriend, he has no right to tell you who you can and can't see, so tell him it's none of his business. ... (read in full...)
I threw my husband out due to our arguing disturbing my very sick mother. Is there a way to make things right again? Or move on?
Q. hi guys im in need of some advice and would love some help with this situation . going back 6 months ago i found out that my mum had breast cancer which was a major shock to the system however my two sisters and I have helped her through her ops ...
A. 7 September 2012: You've been through a lot and still are. You will need to keep reassuring your husband and just give him time. Get all the support you can from anyone who can stand with you in this difficult time. You both love each other, but life's circumstances ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I have different opinions on working, who is in the wrong here? How do I motivate him?
Q. Hi everyone. Please help with this question. My bofriend is 8 years older than me but we have a huge difference of opinion on working. I work for a salary and almost everyonee in muy company as well as friends and family have the approach that we ...
A. 7 September 2012: He sounds lazy by nature, so i doubt any nagging on your part will change his attitude. It's just how he is. It's not right.... (read in full...)
Guy I've started dating said he'd hidden his on-line dating profile but I've found out that he hasn't.
Q. I’m 50 and been on Match for almost a year. I met quite a few guys, most of them were just a first and last time date and a couple of them lasted a few dates, but nothing serious. In mid-July I met this guy online. He is 52; he is a widow (his wife ...
A. 6 September 2012: You have every right to be upset. He's lied to you. Do you want to be with someone like this? Of course you don't, so you need to end it and explain why to him.... (read in full...)
Who is right for me, my ex who calls me a big sh**t or the lovely new guy?
Q. I need a litle help... this is a complex story and my head heart and body mind all torn! Well, I met my boyfriend november 2009 we were so happy both dairy farmers and so much in common going everywher together, now I had personal problems at home...
A. 6 September 2012: Your ex is an idiot. How could you still possibly entertain being with him? Forget him and move on with your life. If you don't love your new man, that doesn't mean going back to your ex, it just means you'll be single for a bit until you find ... (read in full...)
What do you guys think of the situation?
Q. I met a guy online and we've been out on three dates. But he hasn't really tried to kiss me so I'm finding it hard to decide if he's even all that into me. We've held hands the during the last two dates but that has been the extent of the touching. ...
A. 6 September 2012: Well if he's texting you a lot and been holding your hand, i would suggest he's just shy. Maybe you're his first relationship and he's not sure what to do?... (read in full...)
15 year old pupil is hitting on me - her teacher. Should I report this?
Q. I am in a terribly difficult situation. I have been teaching for 20 years and this is the first I’ve ever had this particular problem. There is a girl in one of my classes; she is very young, 14/15 years old, a child. Now I have had students have ...
A. 5 September 2012: You need to get professional advice from someone who understands the teaching profession. Do you have a union rep or someone like that you can talk to in confidence? ... (read in full...)
How do I cancel the date I have planned now I am exclusive with my partner, but still keep this other man as a friend in case this one doesn't work out?
Q. I have been single for about 14 months, dating casually here and there, I've been seeing a guy that I've known for years the last couple of months casually and also been seeing and texting other people. (as he has as well)This guy and I have ...
A. 4 September 2012: Whatever happened to honesty?!!!!! Tell your friend you'll have to cancel and if the situation changes you'll be in touch again.... (read in full...)
Guy at a bar leant in for a kiss and got my lips before I could turn away, do I tell my boyfriend about this?
Q. Hi everybody, just a quick question! I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and I love him so much, I went away for a night out with my girls Saturday night and a few men were chatting me up I think I must of said "sorry, I've got a bo...
A. 4 September 2012: If you feel like you should tell him then do so. You've done nothing wrong here. Your boyfriend will trust you more if he knows you're open with him.... (read in full...)
Should my boyfriend pay something if he moves into my house?
Q. My bf and i will soon be moving in together - he will be moving into my house. We have already agreed on that we will split the utilities bills and food. However he doesnt think he should pay anything weekly. Obviously i am not looking to make any ...
A. 4 September 2012: He should be offering money towards the mortgage and rates if he's living there. Why should you pay for everything? His attitude is all wrong.... (read in full...)
I love her but I think our relationship is dead, what should I do?
Q. Hello everybody, Me and my girlfriend, we have been together for more than a year now, but recently she started to act like she does not want to see me anymore. We used to have fun together almost every single day, but now I haven't seen her ...
A. 4 September 2012: Sounds like she wants to break up. From how you've described her, it might be for the best anyway if she's often moody without good reason. It's gonna be tough for you, but it's for the best in the long run believe me.... (read in full...)
Why does my Ex talk about coming home, but he can't make his own mind up to do so?
Q. I talked to my ex today for a long time . We laughed about old and new events in our lives even though we live so far apart we still have feeling for one another.We went our own way I moved and he stayed. So now he is giving little hints on coming ...
A. 4 September 2012: It's way too soon to be talking about marriage. Why did you split up? Have you good reason to think the same issues won't be a problem second time round?... (read in full...)
Was I just a customer to them? Unrequitted friendships? Do I go back or let them go?
Q. i'm going to try and make this as short as possible. ok, so here's the deal I met a group of people during an abusive relationship, and they were really nice and supportive and helped me whenever i needed it. Four years later my friend died (su...
A. 4 September 2012: Whatever they were to you, they weren't true friends who stand with you and support you when you need them. Why go back? Make some real friends.... (read in full...)
I want a better, happier and non-abusive relationship. So who should I be considering? These are my current options.
Q. Let me begin by saying Im a 46 yo female, Was married for 12 years, Divorced 3 years ago, Was in another abusive realtionship for 2 years, Been single for 6 months, I have dated alot, Recently I meet a man (50). We both are looking for the same thi...
A. 4 September 2012: Whoa, slow down a minute!! You have three fellas on the go here. Let's concentrate on the one you're with first! If he's broke by spending his money on something he couldn't afford and didn't need to buy, that suggests he won't be reliable with ... (read in full...)
We have been dating for 3 years but he still won't commit!
Q. Okay I've been seeing this guy for 3 years. We both told eachother we love one another. We don't have a "title". He told me he sees himself being with me, sometimes I feel like he doesn't want to commit and I've told him how i felt.. He says I'm ...
A. 3 September 2012: You want different things from this relationship: you want commitment and security whereas he wants to keep his options open. If after three years together he's still not sure you're the one for him, he probably never will be. Explain this t... (read in full...)
Does his behavior mean he is interested in me more than just a friend?
Q. are these signs of physical attraction on my guy friend's behalf? sorry if it's a long post but I'm so confused! -we were standing facing each other, talking and I realized that he was holding my hand, I haven't even noticed when he grabbed it. it m...
A. 3 September 2012: Sounds like he's attracted to you.... (read in full...)
I'm beginning to lose interest in my boyfriend
Q. I think I am starting to become uninterested in my boyfriend. I was afraid this would happen if our relationship did not take off. Some things may have changed, but not enough to say this is who I want to spend the rest of my life with. When i...
A. 1 September 2012: If you're gonna have a future with someone, you need to fancy them, worts and all. This isn't the case for you with this guy. None of us are perfect, but if that basic fancying isn't there despite your best efforts, this guy probably isn't the one ... (read in full...)
Regarding her expenses, what should I do?
Q. I really need all the advice I can get regarding my relationship. First off I'm lesbian, and my girlfriend and I have been together a little over two years. I love her and am in love with her. My love language is being there emotionally, physically, ...
A. 31 August 2012: Her actions have nothing to do with her love language. She's a selfish 'taker'.... (read in full...)
I want to call off the engagement! I'm freaking out!
Q. I am freaking out! I am getting married next month and... I don't want to!! I want to call this engagement off! It's not that I don't love my bf, it's just that this whole marriage thing is scaring the hell out of me. So many things can go wrong in...
A. 31 August 2012: If you're not sure about getting married then don't. I know this will cause inconvenience for many people, but it's such an important decision. You must both be 100% sure you wanna do this. You must be completely open with your partner and explain ... (read in full...)
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