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... Send *ensitiveBloke a private message | | | *ensitiveBloke's profile:I am a Christian and my life experiences and advice are shaped by my faith.
I always try to offer advice that lines up with the Bible's teachings on relationships.
I'm a passionate believer in marriage, and will always encourage husbands and wives to do everything they possibly can to make their marriages work.
I'm not here to force my views on anyone, but I hope I can give genuinely helpful advice whenever possible. |
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My cheater boyfriend doesn't trust me even I never cheat..
Q. So..I have been dating with this guy for over one and a half year. He is 30s and I'm 20s. Age is not a problem for me as I love him and used to prefer mature guys. Basically he has quite a lot of affairs - around one every three months..anyways ...
A. 10 August 2012: Why are you with this idiot? Leave this loser so you're free to meet someone who'll treat you with love and respect.... (read in full...)
Are my parents right about it being to late for me to get back into sports?
Q. After watching the olympics I have felt really inspired to get back into sports! When I was younger I used to love sports that I actually was on every sports team at my school and I was really competitive, I remember every year I would always win ...
A. 7 August 2012: Chris Hoy's just won a gold medal today in track cycling aged 36, so no it's not too late. But you can compete at many levels, so get back into sport and enjoy it!... (read in full...)
Is he playing games with me? Likes me? Or just a guy who tells lies?
Q. There is this guy, lets say his name is john. This started the first day I moved to town he when I met him. He asked me a whole bunch of questions and told me fake stories to make him self seem really cool. He flirts with almost every girl i...
A. 6 August 2012: If the guy's told you lies, you should not think about becoming his girlfriend. How would you be able to trust him?... (read in full...)
I think the wedding's off, the relationship is off and where did it all go wrong?
Q. Help me please, Im afraid that a 4 year relationship may be at its end and Im not sure how we got here! Just yesterday I went up to edmonton to pick up my dress! and then today everything went from bad to worse to full out war! Let me explain ho...
A. 22 July 2012: He doesn't sound like a very nice person. You want to spend the rest of your life with a bloke like this? You deserve a lot, lot better.... (read in full...)
How do I make my boyfriend break up with me ?
Q. He is 26. I am 19. We are in a serious relationship and we have gone far in our relation. But he is very much possesive and feels insecure all the time.. He puts alot of restrictions on me.. He is very much bossy.. He decides where to go, where not ...
A. 21 July 2012: His threat to commit suicide is a way of controlling you. You need to end this unhealthy relationship now. You deserve someone who'll love you enough to not want to control you.... (read in full...)
How and where to set up boundaries?
Q. We've been together for a year and half and been living together for almost a year. I met him 2 years ago while he was separating from his ex. We first became great friends before we got together and I also helped him to get through the hard tim...
A. 18 July 2012: When he does things with his kids, it should be with you, not his ex. He needs to understand that you are his family now, not his ex. What he's doing is just not normal. When he understands this, he needs the backbone to say "no" to his ex and to ... (read in full...)
Should I contact a long lost love?
Q. I am thinking about messageing a guy I went out with a long time ago through one of the social networking sites. I think of him often and would love to reconnect with him, the only thing stopping me is the fear that he will reject me or not respond. ...
A. 17 July 2012: If he doesn't reply, take it as a no and move on. At least you'll know how he felt or that he has someone else.... (read in full...)
I am curvy and I want to lose a little weight the right way. Any tips please?
Q. I really really need to lose weight. I have big bones, but i'm curvy. So i'm not hugely out of proportion, but it definately looks like i need to lose some weight Diet is simple for me, cut down, but if you have any day to day diet or meal tips, th...
A. 17 July 2012: Don't go on a diet that ends only for all the weight goes back on again. Instead change your eating habits forever. Eat 3 meals a day. Avoid snacks at all costs! Take up an exercise you enjoy like walking or swimming. Think of it as a long-term ... (read in full...)
Should I listen to my dad or should I just marry this awesome guy and relax?
Q. Hi! I'm getting married next month. My beloved fiancé has just found out that he's gonna have to move abroad for the next 7 months and I'm devastated. I've talked about this to my dad (who never supported this marriage in the first place)and he said ...
A. 17 July 2012: Can your fiance change jobs? That would be the best solution. Marry him and enjoy your life together unless there's a good reason why he's not good enough for you.... (read in full...)
Religious question: is it wrong we are not married?
Q. I am a christian woman however i havent been living my life the way a christian should. I have been with my boyfriend about 3.5 years. We have two children together, live together, and love each other. We both want to get married but we can barely ...
A. 17 July 2012: From a biblical perspective, yes you should marry before doing all these things. If you want to get your spiritual life back on track too, i'd encourage you to find a local church where you all feel comfortable going. They may also help you organise ... (read in full...)
Should I contact a long lost love?
Q. I am thinking about messageing a guy I went out with a long time ago through one of the social networking sites. I think of him often and would love to reconnect with him, the only thing stopping me is the fear that he will reject me or not respond. ...
A. 16 July 2012: Go for it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained!!... (read in full...)
The spark is gone in the bedroom!
Q. Im married for 8 years. The relationship is good we love each other very much. The problem is the spark in the bedroom is not there anymore. How can I fix that. She push me away if I try foreplay. What should I do? I really love my wife so I would ...
A. 16 July 2012: I was in the same situation for many years and nothing i tried had any effect. I don't know what the answer is. I think some women fall out of love with you and sometimes nothing can change it. Sorry i can't be more help.... (read in full...)
How do I know if I've fallen out of love?
Q. Ok. So I met this guy about 9 months ago. Right away it was evident that we had several things in common--committed to school, into music, devoted to our community service (we actually met thru community service) and I thought he was pretty cute so ...
A. 15 July 2012: You can't flick a switch to make yourself fancy someone, so the kindest thing to would be to break up with him. It's only fair to do it face-to-face. It'll be hard, but it's the right thing to do.
The next time someone goes a bit over-the... (read in full...)
I can't deal with negativity but she doesn't want to change!
Q. I met someone 2/12 years ago; she deals with negativity, maybe bi-polar but will not see a doctor. May also suffer from menopause. Always seems to just focus on looking at things from negative perspective which is frustrating, rarely has anything ...
A. 15 July 2012: You've gone the extra mile for this relstionship but it's just not working. There's little more you can do now, so i think it's time to end it as amicably as you can.... (read in full...)
My abusive ex owes me stuff worth up to $3000 which he refused to return and now he wants me to give him another chance
Q. Hey, I'm 20 years old , from France and i go to school in US i met a guy from Ohio , we had been together for 2 years. After he proposed to me last Christmas( We've in distance relationship for 2 years)i moved and transferred co...
A. 13 July 2012: Well for a start do not even consider getting back with this bloke. The easiest thing might be to sell the furniture and take the money, if you can.... (read in full...)
I am worried that a re-organized date could ruin my chances with her.
Q. Hi Guys, I met a girl ( 26 ) online and we emailed and chatted on the phone for 4 weeks before meeting up. The 1 st date was fantastic, market date then extended to a game of pool where she bet a kiss on the result of one game and me cookin...
A. 13 July 2012: You're worrying about nothing. You're spending time with each other, and that's what really matters.... (read in full...)
I'm having some trust issues with my fiancée, please help!
Q. Well, here is my problem, I've been dating this girl for a number of years, and we are engaged and even living together. Things sometimes are smooth, but recently I found out she had been talking to guys on Skype, nothing too bad at first, but then ...
A. 12 July 2012: This doesn't sound at all good. So many alarm bells ringing here. Sit down with her and explain how unhappy you are and why.... (read in full...)
I want sex more than twice a week while my doesn't.
Q. I'm a male that's turning 23 years old this year. My girlfriend with whom I've been with for more than 12 months is the same age as me. I love her, she loves me and we're great for one another except one major thing - sex. I want it more than twice ...
A. 12 July 2012: Many women want sex less frequently than men, and it's likely no amount of effort or complaining to her will change this. The frequency may well decline even more, so if you're not happy about this, you have a difficult decision to make.... (read in full...)
I am confused by my male friend
Q. Hello everyone, I am so grateful for this wonderful site and would really value your advice on a new contact I have made. I will outline my question and then maybe you well meaning folk out there can tell me if I need to be worried or not. I'm a ...
A. 12 July 2012: How can he declare his undying love for you when he's never met you? Very strange! You never know what someone's like until you actually meet them. I think it's probably time for you to move on.... (read in full...)
I'm broke, unattractive, not successful, no education. What can I do?
Q. I'm young but I'm broke, unattractive, not successful, no education. Couldn't secure a scholarship to study in the top college and hence am still at my hometown. I'm unattractive with acne. I am penniless. I'm very upset with where I am now a...
A. 12 July 2012: Sounds like it's time to set some goals. What do you want to be doing in 5 years? What things do you need to put in place to get there? To build your confidence, set yourself small goals every day, things that you know you can do. When you achieve ... (read in full...)
I feel stuck in a loop and I don't know whether it's time to leave or what? I'm stuck and confused!
Q. I'm stuck in a loop and I don't know how it's going to work out!? Is it time to end it? Ok so I'm 14 and he's 15 I know it's young but please please understand and treat me like anybody else. I know relationships at my age aren't like ones for li...
A. 12 July 2012: Just kiss him!!!!!... (read in full...)
Was my boyfriend right to be annoyed about this, or was he wrong?
Q. Was my boyfriend right to be annoyed about this, or was he wrong ?. He was supposed to meet me at my house on Tuesday afternoon and then we were going to go to his house, but he didn't turn up. I was tempted to go round to his house anyway, but i ...
A. 12 July 2012: It will be very hard to be happy in a relationship with someone who's bipolar. My advice would be to just be his friend. His behaviour is not good.... (read in full...)
How broke is too broke in a relationship?
Q. I have asked twice before. I still didn't break up with my long distance boyfriend in spite of aunts and uncles telling me so. Some aunts told me his insecurity would cause problems. One uncle said this is a fantasy relationship. My mom told me t...
A. 12 July 2012: You deserve someone who's open and honest and ready to take responsibility. Someone who'll treat you like a lady.... (read in full...)
I asked her out and she said she was a 'bit taken aback' when I asked her, what do you make of this response?
Q. Hi im 22 male and theres a girl 33, we're both single and both work together on the same shifts so we see each other quite a bit. For the past month or so I've heard from other friends at work she wants to go on a date with me but she hasn't said ...
A. 10 July 2012: It sounds to me like she's just not interested. By all means ask her for a final time, but i think you already know her answer.... (read in full...)
I think that the financial issue is straining our relationship.
Q. My boyfriend is having a financial problem. He's avoiding meeting me, giving me excuses like traffic congestion. He admitted that spending time with me (lunch, tea) makes him spend money. What made me very angry is when he added, "When I stay at ...
A. 9 July 2012: Do you expect him to spend money on you he hasn't got? It's not fair of you to demand something he can't give you. If you want this relationship to work, you need to lower your expectations. If you can't be happy with this, find someone with more ... (read in full...)
Is it stupid that I feel love so early?
Q. Dear cupid I feel so weird because i feel like i'm in love with my current boyfriend. We've only been dating for three months so sometimes i feel stupid for having such strong feelings already but i cant help it. I've never been this way with...
A. 5 July 2012: It's great that you feel this way about him, but your reluctance to tell him suggests you think he may not feel the same about you. Have a heart-to-heart with him but don't put him under any pressure. If in time though he doesn't feel this way too, ... (read in full...)
I'm 24, never had a boyfriend. I don't want to be 30 and still a virgin!
Q. I am 24 and I still haven't had a boyfriend. I went to an all girls school with a mixed sixth form that only had about 5 boys so there weren't really any options there. At univeristy I didn't meet anyone although a couple of my close mates from ...
A. 5 July 2012: Meeting people online is the most common way people now meet. It's how i met my girlfriend, so i know these websites work!
Your comments about the men you came across on the website you were on are very perceptive.
Is it a free site? I wou... (read in full...)
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