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Is she loyal or disrespectful?
Q. Hi, I have been dating my gf for more than 2 years now and we are deeply in love. We have a great sense of understanding. Recently her job took her to another city. We do keep in touch daily. Now, the problem is her colleague is really inter...
A. 10 September 2014: She should not be accepting gifts from this man. She needs to send him a clear signal that his behaviour is unacceptable, but it seems she doesn't mind it which is not good.... (read in full...)
I can't be myself in front of my long term boyfriend
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together around 8 years and are both in our early twenties. We get on great, and we are building our future together. There is a problem I have though, and thats we are complete opposites, I am more quiet and he is ...
A. 10 September 2014: He sounds controlling. Not a good sign. You need to have a serious talk with him. If he can't accept you the way you are, this relationship should end here and now.... (read in full...)
Is this normal in a relationship?
Q. Hi, this is not really a personal question but I'd like to hear some opinions. It is regarding the recent celebrity nude pictures scandal. After seeing the pics I find myself questioning what is normal and acceptable in relationships(I've never had ...
A. 4 September 2014: Different people like different things. Some might like that kind of thing, others hate it.... (read in full...)
The consequences of whatever's happened have left me feeling completely unsexy, undesired, unwanted and second best to the girls on the internet who my boyfriend masturbates to!
Q. Problems in a relationship, i moved a year ago to another country to live with the guy ive been with for 2 years now, we were long distance friends for 7 years before getting into a relationship, he was the most trustworthy, kind and understanding ...
A. 3 September 2014: If he suggested couples therapy, try that and see how it goes.... (read in full...)
Should I walk away from the impending wedding or just give him another chance? My life is a total mess!
Q. My fiance and I been arguing a lot lately. We normally argue over the same things over and over again. Such as bills, wedding preps, punctuality and etc. Yesterday, he started to argue with me over my whatapp last seen and accuses me of ch...
A. 3 September 2014: You know exactly what you need to do - leave him. It's not too late. Do it without delay, and get back to your studies and your friends and start to rebuild your life.... (read in full...)
Are soulmates even real?
Q. Hi everyone, my mind has been all over the place lately and i just wanted to ask you some questions about soulmates. Does anyone out there believe they have found their soulmate? Maybe you thought you did but then realised afterwards that they cudnt ...
A. 2 September 2014: Definition 1: A soulmate is a person with whom one has a feeling of deep or natural affinity. This may involve similarity, love, romance, friendship, intimacy, sexuality, sexual activity, spirituality, or compatibility and trust. Definition 2... (read in full...)
My recovering drug addicted boyfriend has gone AWOL .... again!
Q. Hi everyone I come here in despair, hoping to gain some insight from objective people. I have been dating a guy who is a recovering drug addict. We have been together for just over three months. At the beginning of our relationship, h...
A. 18 August 2014: If you want to help him, be his friend but don't date him. You have needs too, and you need someone who loves you enough to be reliable.... (read in full...)
What's the point of my existence?
Q. Hi all, I've been very down in myself lately. I've been wondering wat was the point in putting me on this earth? I live alone and I've no kids. I'm not in a relationship. The world could do without me. I really dont make a difference to anyone's ...
A. 14 August 2014: As a Christian, I would say our purpose is to serve God and that's the true way to find happiness and feel complete. Going to church is also a great way of meeting people. Biologically, three things make us happy: the anticipation of ... (read in full...)
I want to explore this new girl but don't want to lose something I already have
Q. Hello readers. I hope you can give me some insight in the hope that I would understand my feelings and know what to do. Firstly I have a gf, been together for 1.5yrs. I don't know if I love her or if I am emotionally attached. She says she loves m...
A. 13 August 2014: If you don't love your girlfriend, break up with her. You shouldn't have let it go on for so long.... (read in full...)
How late is too late for guys to enter the dating game and start looking for a relationship
Q. How late is too late for guys to enter the dating game and start looking for a relationship. 25? 30? 35? I mean, to really just START! Never had a girlfriend, never been on a date before, maybe never even kissed a girl. This could all be due ...
A. 23 July 2014: My dad has just started a new relationship at 78! It's never too late!... (read in full...)
We are engaged and I'm worried about his lack of ambition.
Q. I am concerned over his apparent lack of ambition. I am engaged to be married next Fall. My fiance has a lot of wonderful qualities, and I love him very much. However, I am very concerned about how well he and I will fare financially and ...
A. 10 July 2014: How many people can live off one salary nowadays? Very few. You are setting an expectation that hardly anyone can fulfil.
He's going to take his exams, so let him take them when he's ready. I work in IT, and I can tell you that IT certific... (read in full...)
My inlaws have out stayed their welcome and my husband doesn't get it!
Q. My husbands parents live in canada, weve been together 10 years and they've only come to England once in that time (for our wedding). After the birth of our 1st child they said they were coming to see their grand daughter. They kept changing their ...
A. 8 July 2014: They should have checked with you first whether it was OK to stay 6 weeks. Having said that, it's only 1 week to go so I would just stick it out.
Be sure to speak to your husband to ensure he never allows this situation to happen again.... (read in full...)
Is it better to date a person you really like, or a person who really likes you?
Q. Hello My question is more about experiences readers had about " dating a girl you like or date a girl who likes you" What's better/more fruitful? Details : You either persue a person if you have crush on them or you are perused by ...
A. 18 March 2014: Love needs to go both ways or it won't work. If one person doesn't love the other, the relationship won't work.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend got rough and said I made him do it! Am I being used?
Q. Help!!! Boyfriend got a little violet i make him do it. Will men please answer did i? Ok this day was bad i messed up so much. First good sex n blow job so i was thinking we gonna have great day. But right he texted a friend saying he board. Hurt my ...
A. 17 March 2014: There is no excuse for violence.
End the relationship. You deserve so much better.... (read in full...)
Why is the ex back in touch? Is he just playing games or is he for real?
Q. Dear Cupid... Its me again.... its been over a month now and I have not talked to my ex, he started calling me back about a week ago and he is still calling and sending me text messages.I have not responded to him at all. I mean he said that he did ...
A. 26 February 2014: He thinks it's better to be in a relationship he's not sure about than to be single. He's wrong of course.
It's not very nice to ignore his text messages, so message him back and ask him to explain himself.... (read in full...)
Why do all women judge me by my weight and looks?
Q. Why do all women immediately judge me by how overweight and ugly I am and give me disgusted looks? No matter where I go in public women look down upon me. The constant glares female strangers give me is really becoming bothersome. I try and smil...
A. 5 February 2014: In my year at school, the boy who'd been out with the most girls was one of the ugliest in the year. But he was probably the most confident and outgoing, and this is what girls found attractive.
Looks play their part, but more important is wheth... (read in full...)
Should I put sex on hold?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have an amazing relationship and I love him with all my heart but the issue lies with our sex life. The thing is, Are love is so strong, but at the same time so is the sexual chemistry. I am A Christian so for me, I feel as th...
A. 30 January 2014: It is possible to wait. I've done it myself, so I know. And I've been married twice, and waited both times. Yes the temptation is there, but if you're both committed to it, it is possible.... (read in full...)
Should I put sex on hold?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have an amazing relationship and I love him with all my heart but the issue lies with our sex life. The thing is, Are love is so strong, but at the same time so is the sexual chemistry. I am A Christian so for me, I feel as th...
A. 29 January 2014: The way to stop is to stop this from being a secret between the two of you. If you attended a church, there would be people there you could confide in who could pray with you about it and encourage you and help you.
This is one of many reasons ... (read in full...)
Should I put sex on hold?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have an amazing relationship and I love him with all my heart but the issue lies with our sex life. The thing is, Are love is so strong, but at the same time so is the sexual chemistry. I am A Christian so for me, I feel as th...
A. 27 January 2014: If you want to follow your Christian faith and do what is right in the eyes of God, then yes you should stop.
Is your boyfriend a Christian too? According to the Bible, you should only marry someone who is also a Christian. If he is, then he ... (read in full...)
What can I do to finally meet my valentine after eleven years of no dating?
Q. Dear Cupid ,I really want a valentine I haven"t been in a relationship for 11 years now my kids are grown and my son is about to graduate and is going off to a higher education I can't really get out cause I am a caregiver for my mom who is an ...
A. 24 January 2014: Try a dating website. It's an easy way to meet people. Go for a site where you have to pay a small subscription as you won't meet so many time-wasters.... (read in full...)
Even though he insults me I still go back to him
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years act like a jerk these days, always humiliates me, belittles me, never hears me out, taking me for granted, i was not able to share my joys, sorrows nothing with him, whenever i try to share something he insults me with ...
A. 16 January 2014: Maybe something inside you thinks a bad relationship is better than no relationship, but that's not true. Better to be single by far.
Maybe your dad was like this guy and you grew up thinking this sort of behaviour was normal. Well it's not norm... (read in full...)
Am I silly that I don't want to settle for a man I don't love/he doesn't love me but we get along well?
Q. Hi agony aunts and uncles. hope can get your opinion or help with this problem. I am with my boyfriend for 8 years now, he is my first relationship, only man I've ever been with. I feel I stayed with him a few years too long. He is not from m...
A. 21 November 2013: OP, you say being in love is not meant to last and gradually grows into just being comfortable with each other. I don't agree with you. Yes, the fiery hormone-driven excitement doesn't last more than a year or so, but being in love and fancyin... (read in full...)
Am I silly that I don't want to settle for a man I don't love/he doesn't love me but we get along well?
Q. Hi agony aunts and uncles. hope can get your opinion or help with this problem. I am with my boyfriend for 8 years now, he is my first relationship, only man I've ever been with. I feel I stayed with him a few years too long. He is not from m...
A. 20 November 2013: You're not being silly at all. It's important you love as well as like someone if you plan on spending your entire future together.
Love can change over time, but it is not something that automatically wears off over time. People can drift ap... (read in full...)
How can I fix this big mess I caused?
Q. Please read this before you jump into conclusions that anyone is over reacting thank you http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-really-like-her-but-i-messed-up.html So I messed up again. I saw someone come down my street with what looked like he...
A. 20 November 2013: Reading this post and your previous one, this girl seems like a drama queen who overreacts to everything.
Yes, you did something very stupid here, but she has not handled it well at all.
It's time you broke off contact with her for good.... (read in full...)
My partner is very good looking but I have no sexual attraction to him
Q. My partner is the male version of me. Before I met him, I was fully convinced there was no one else like me out there, and that I was doomed to spend my life alone. I'm "different", always have been. I'm extremely introverted, to the point where ...
A. 15 November 2013: There is no formula to why you might find someone attractive and someone else not. You cannot make yourself fancy someone - you either do or you don't.
I think you should seriously consider ending your relationship so you can both find people y... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to listen to me when I need to talk to him seriously?
Q. I am so unhappy with my long distance boyfriend of 3 years but every time I try to initiate a talk he starts shouting or tells me I'm a nag or puts the phone down on me. I can't even tell him I want to break up with him because if I manage to say ...
A. 15 November 2013: You could email him if he won't listen over the phone. He can't talk over the top of you then.... (read in full...)
How do I get the guy I'm dating to tone it down a little? He's too playful!
Q. I've just started seeing a new guy. We aren't "boyfriend/girlfriend" yet, but it is definitely heading that way. I'm 20 and he is 19. I really like him and I know he likes me too, but he is all over me! He will come over to watch a film and just ...
A. 15 November 2013: He sounds very immature.
Do you want a relationship? It sounds like he just wants to get his leg over.... (read in full...)
All I want is someone to love me! I need some advice!
Q. Here we go, I am going to try and do this without breaking down into tears . I have only been divorced since May of 2012 however my husband left in 2008 I met this man and started seeing him and at the time i didnt know he was married because he ...
A. 11 November 2013: This guy is dragging you down. End the relationship now. You deserve so much better - someone who'll love and respect you.... (read in full...)
Help me decode what he meant after the first date.
Q. Just been on a first date, with a nice guy. He said things during the evening about 'if we do get to know each other' making me think he possibly wants to. Then the way it ended was he walked me to my car and said, 'I'll let you stew on it and ...
A. 6 November 2013: He doesn't sound like a very polite person. If he wants to go on another date, he needs to work a bit harder and show some manners!... (read in full...)
When Will the Rose Colored Glasses Come Off?
Q. About 2 weeks ago I posted a question about my son cutting his friends and family out of his life because of a new gf. The verdict was just to give it time and he would come around. Now, here we are, with something that is even more perplexing ...
A. 29 October 2013: You have to cut the apron strings and allow him to be an adult and make his own decisions.
He's not you. He will do things his own way. He will make right and wrong decisions (as we all do).
Offer advice only if he asks for it, and be there... (read in full...)
The spark is gone with my b/f, and there's this other guy ...
Q. I guess I will start by saying that I have a boyfriend for 2 years. We are in a very good terms with him and I care deeply for him and so does he. I guess it's love. My boyfriend and I have been on many adventures. I love him still, but I think I am ...
A. 25 October 2013: You do not have two choices here: you have three.
1 You stay with your current boyfriend - not a good idea as your feelings for him have changed and you are no longer in love with him
2 You go out with this doctor - not a good idea as he'... (read in full...)
He didn't celebrate my birthday. Am I overreacting if I break things off?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about a month now. As far as I know, we have been seeing each other exclusively. Things have been going well this far until my birthday yesterday. I had a birthday dinner with friends scheduled for the day before my ...
A. 23 September 2013: Yes, you're overreacting.... (read in full...)
What's the deal with ALWAYS making dates and then not going through with them?
Q. Okay, so about 2 weeks ago I'm in the grocery store and this girl is checking me out. It occurs to me to hit on her, but I ultimately don't. On my walk home, the same girl pulls up beside me and starts chatting me up. She tells me I'm perfect, cute ...
A. 23 September 2013: This woman has only met you briefly once and is already inviting you to burlesque shows? She sounds nuts. Nothing about her behaviour seems normal.... (read in full...)
Normal or potential abusive boyfriend?
Q. Hello, Ive been dating my boyfriend lets call him ''bob'' for three years. During the time we've dated i've noticed he can be very possessive and controlling. He is this way about my best friends, what i eat, make up, decisions about our relati...
A. 23 September 2013: You said it yourself: he's possessive and controlling in pretty much every aspect of your life. This is not normal.
Get out of this relationship now.... (read in full...)
Two guys. Which date to cancel? Considering the circumstances?
Q. Hey, I seem to have gotten myself caught up in a very odd situation. So, let me start off by saying that I had my boyfriend for 4 months, then we broke up, except it wasn't a clean break up. We decided to stay friends, although I only agreed to that ...
A. 18 September 2013: Sort your relationship and your feelings out with your boyfriend first before you start seeing other people.
If you still had feelings for him, you weren't ready to start dating other people.... (read in full...)
What's up with him only wanting sex with me from behind?
Q. My boyfriend wants to have sex with me only from behind… what is that all about? ... It is comming on the fift year we are together and for last couple of years it is just that one position. From behind. I am bored, I love him very much and I can ...
A. 18 September 2013: You need to address this and other issues with him and he must acknowledge he has a problem. Otherwise you'll never be able to improve your unhappy relationship.... (read in full...)
What's up with him only wanting sex with me from behind?
Q. My boyfriend wants to have sex with me only from behind… what is that all about? ... It is comming on the fift year we are together and for last couple of years it is just that one position. From behind. I am bored, I love him very much and I can ...
A. 17 September 2013: He is being selfish and not trying to please you. Is he like this in other areas of your relationship too?... (read in full...)
Should I date this older woman?
Q. Dear all, I am really torn about this and need some objective advice (besides I am too ashamed to ask any of my friends). I will start with a quick summary about myself: I am 30 years old and had only had one relationship in my whole life. I...
A. 17 September 2013: If you want to find someone to one day settle down with, then don't contact her and find someone who does fit the bill.... (read in full...)
How do I give up on finding love and meeting someone.
Q. Hi everyone, have you got any advice for me to give up on finding love and meeting someone because I couldn't care if I ever met anyone. I know that sounds stupid being I'm only 23 but it just upset me and destroys my confidence thinking about it. ...
A. 16 September 2013: Stop feeling sorry for yourself and join a dating website (not a free one). Take up a new hobby. Enjoy life. Set yourself a couple of new goals. Be happy in your own skin. It WILL happen for you.... (read in full...)
Why is she so quiet and boring?
Q. I recently met a beautiful girl that's 10 years younger. Physically, she's perfect but she is extremely quiet on dates. It's very awkward as we never engage in conversations. We can go 2-3 hours without saying much to eachother. I try to sometimes ...
A. 16 September 2013: Explain to her that you think you'd be better suited to someone who's more extrovert.
She may be perfect for someone, but she's not for you.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend believes a threesome will bring us closer but I've heard horror stories about them
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for the past year and recently he's asked me about having a threesome. I'm secure with myself and my sexuality. I'm also confident in our relationship. I've just heard alot of horror stories that follow a threesome ...
A. 13 September 2013: Let us know how it goes.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend believes a threesome will bring us closer but I've heard horror stories about them
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for the past year and recently he's asked me about having a threesome. I'm secure with myself and my sexuality. I'm also confident in our relationship. I've just heard alot of horror stories that follow a threesome ...
A. 12 September 2013: This would probably basically end up as him having sex with another woman and you watching and then feeling like he's cheated on you.
Bad idea!... (read in full...)
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