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writes:Hi everybody, just a quick question!I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and I love him so much, I went away for a night out with my girls Saturday night and a few men were chatting me up I think I must of said "sorry, I've got a boyfriend" about a dozen times! Anyway later on this one guy was chatting to me at the bar whilst all my friends were dancing, I was fairly sober in comparison to them as I wasn't really enjoying myself because my friends are single and we're just hooking up with men, so anyway I was at the bar with this guy and we were just chatting normally then he leaned in to kissed me I quickly turned my face so he kissed me half on my lips and half on my cheek!Do I tell my boyfriend about this? I feel awful, I know I never cheated on him or anything but its making me feel bad that I haven't told him even though its not really that much of a big deal (I don't think?!) but if I bring it up it might be making an issue out of nothing.It may sound silly, it's just I never keep anything from him and it's the first time I've been so open with anyone i've been with. Reply to this Question
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (5 September 2012):
 If I were you, I wouldn't mention it now, after all this time, because it would make you look guilty though you've done nothing wrong. If you'd told him immediately, it would have been different. Anyway it's a very small issue, you didn't kiss anyone, you didn't cheat on him so it's not your fault. Why complicate things by coming out with a 'confession'? It would only create trouble. Forget the issue. There are many creeps in this world. Next time something like this happens, give the guy a good, tight slap or ram your knee into his privates. That ought to teach him a lesson about respecting women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2012): I honestly think you should tell him.First if he's a good boyfriend, he'd support you since you were kissed without premission, but secondly because if you don't tell him, and say someone else did who saw it from a different angle your boyfriend may think you were willing to kiss this man, and why wouldn't he? he'd think that because you didn't tell him you were bein secretive. You need to be 100% honest with the man you love.
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reader, Hennessy1989 +, writes (4 September 2012):
 I personally wouldn't mention it, unless there is a chance that your boyfriend will find out from someone else then it's not worth bringing up, if it's really an issue then tell him, but you have done nothing wrong and telling him will probably cause more problems than it solves
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (4 September 2012):
You don’t need to tell him, you’ve done nothing wrong at all and have nothing to feel guilty over, so you could just take a no harm done view of this and move on. But if it’s going to play on your mind and grow in to a big issue for you if you keep it from him, tell him. Unfortunately where there’s drink, there are silly people doing silly things. It sounds like this guy got the wrong idea but you did nothing to encourage this and you pulled away as soon as you could. Don’t let this become a problem between you. He will probably see this for what it is: an unfortunate situation you could do nothing about.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Nats44 +, writes (4 September 2012):
It' IS sexual assualt. this happend to me once. I never forgot it. It;s really bad. polease do not balme yourslef. You have doen nothing wrong. The man hat did that is SICK, Dangerous and Nasty.If you feel bad telling your BF don;t tell him. Share it with a freind, or tell him. he wont; blame you. xxx I hope you get over this . x
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (4 September 2012):
 If you feel like you should tell him then do so. You've done nothing wrong here. Your boyfriend will trust you more if he knows you're open with him.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (4 September 2012):
 I would because it's keeping this secret that is tearing you up. Reason being, relationships foundation are built by the honest and trust they hold. I don't think you did the wrong thing. In fact, you tried turning your head. The guy, who I'm sure you mentioned you have a boyfriend, is the one in the wrong here. Be honest with him. You'll feel better, and this tearing you up inside will stop.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (4 September 2012):
 Well legally speaking, if someone kisses you without your consent it's sexual assault. Why are you to blame for some jackass touching you against your will?
Sure you can tell your boyfriend, just tell him what you told us here. That some guy kissed you against your will and you're really upset that it happened. Because again, legally that's sexual assault. Would you blame yourself if someone groped you?
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