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writes:I know this is going to sound petty but I'm pretty upset so it means alot to me :)My ex and I ( dated 6 mos) recently ended things but care fir each other and decided to stay friends. Well, then we realized seeing each other would lead to more then that, which it did. I guess I assumed we were going to continue these rendezvous. I know I deserve better but I still want to be with himThe wierd thing though is that we were in contact after our last "encounter" on Thursdsy. Up until last Saturday a few texts. But Sunday I reached out to him and got nothing back. So I waited til Wed and said Hello. Again Nothing!!! I don't want to hound him and I feel like contacting him again makes me a stalker. Is he just trying to shake me loose? What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2012): Op here with update!!
It's only been a week so I don't think he replaced me...could be wrong
I sent a goodbye text for myself for closure. And he kinda tripped out saying he's been busy and was trying to do the right thing etc
He's a big mystery to me still
But I reiterated that I didn't want this and deserved better
Yay for that :)
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reader, jewlstep4174  +, writes (2 June 2012):
 I wouldnt text him anymore. See if he contacts you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2012): FWB is complicated enough at the best of times (for me anyway!) and with the past history of dating together and emotional attachment I think it's a recipe for heartache. It does sound like he's lost interest, and I think you need to put this behind you and move on. I know what you mean about appearing like a stalker - when I've been in similar situation, I have deleted the guys number just in case I get tempted to send that text (especially after a glass of wine or two). You will feel more dignified in the end if you just let it go and as painful as it may feel now, you will be glad of it in the end. You won't feel this upset for very long, I promise. The fact that the two of you split up suggests that you weren't right for one another and I think that both of you know that. Take care, and good luck. x
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reader, iloveblue  +, writes (1 June 2012):
 As everyone has said here, this is a sign that your relationship is indeed over. I experienced exactly the same thing with my ex before. BIG MISTAKE.When we broke up after dating for a year, the respect for each other was still there even though he cheated on me. After 6 months, we began casually seeing each other again on late nights. I was hoping we could get back together considering he broke up with the woman he cheated on me with. However, we started to sleep together again without getting back together. Then he would disappear for days, on the weekends we'd hook up again.I complained to him why he can't be available on this day etc and he said to me, he is not my bf anymore so I have no right to complain. Imagine that? And ofcourse, our "in good-terms" break up was ruined. I ended our friendship after realizing I made a mistake. And even though he'd still call me and ask what went wrong and asked to see me one more time atleast, I never gave in. And that's how I moved on. So for people who think that being FWB with their exes is a good idea, they are sorely mistaken. Just take his behavior as your cue in moving on. The fact that he could afford to ignore you means he is no longer interested to be nice with you....because he doesn't give a damn anymore.Chin up, it's his loss!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (1 June 2012):
 "Sounds" to me like he's found some OTHER girl to put out for him.... so you have become "yesterday's newspaper..."
Look elsewhere and get on with your life.....
Good luck....
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reader, oldbag +, writes (1 June 2012):
 Hi
Its over, he has probably met somebody else so his needs are being met.
Thats why a clean break is always best because sticking around prolongs the agony of break-ups and just hurts more.
I would leave the contact and ignore him if he gets in touch. Time to get over him and have a fresh start
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reader, Sandman +, writes (1 June 2012):
 Move on. The relationship is over. Find a man that wants to be with you. I understand you care for him but unless you guys are willing to start dating again, you should refrain from having sex with him. By staying his FWB, you can potentially miss out on a great guy that is interested in you but you're blinded by being with with your ex and don't see it.
Move on. Hope this helps.
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