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writes:i need help! i recently gave my boyfriend oral for the first time and i couldn't get him to cum! i asked him what i could do and he just said don't worry its not your fault. and i said well why couldnt i? what was different? and he just said it depends on the girl... what do i do?!?!?! Reply to this Question
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reader, doublejack +, writes (6 June 2012):
Sandman gave excellent advice. I happen to be one of those guys who doesn't cum from oral. It has only ever happened one time, and once a girl tried for two hours - no exaggeration - and couldn't make me orgasm.
So it could be the way your boyfriend is, or it could be your technique. If it's the former then there's nothing you can do. If it's technique, then all you need to do is refine it. Communicate with him and find out what's feeling good for him.
Best of luck!
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reader, N91  +, writes (6 June 2012):
 He may of been telling the truth, he may not of been. It's happened to me before and it's not been because it felt bad, but then again, only he will know the answer to this one.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (6 June 2012):
 It does depend on the technique, the girl and the guy. My husband wasn't able til we met. And he still isn't able every time to get off that way. Doesn't mean he doesn't enjoy it.
Don't give up, try using your hands more, don't forget the scrotum, stimulate the perineum. And if you don't get him off that way, be creative. Use BJ as foreplay.
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reader, SOShelp +, writes (6 June 2012):
 Maybe it wasn't your fault! He may just have not been in the mood in which case it is definantly not your fault. If you got some reaction then good, and if you didn't then try again next time.
One tip is fiddle gently with his balls whilst you're giving him oral.
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reader, Sandman +, writes (6 June 2012):
 This is a good question and I'll try to help you.
First, it is important to know that some men have difficulty reaching orgasm from oral sex. It's nothing that the woman is or isn't doing, it's just how that particular guy "works". For those guys, there isn't much the woman can do but just stimulate him orally until they begin doing something else. Don't take it personal with this type of male, it isn't your fault.
Then there is technique. Some men like certain things while receiving oral sex that you as the woman need to know. He should be able to communicate to you what he likes and what feels good to HIM. I don't (and won't) want to get into graphic details about technique, I'll let you do some research on the topic to find a technique that works for you. There are many videos out there showing a good technique that women can glean from. However, learning how to use both your mouth and your hand while giving him oral sex is a good beginning to giving him a good session.
Send me a private message if you'd like more information.
Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): I hate to say this, but he was politely saying it wasnt as good as others. He doesnt want to hurt your feelings, it doesnt mean he doesnt love you. Besides you can always get better, just practice on him. You will probably have to build up the muscles in your jaw and sometimes it can take awhile so stamina during oral is a great attribute. Take your time, try not to get frusterated, and it can happen.
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