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21 January 2011: I don't know about you guys but there are some questions I see time and time again. How 'bout we answer some of those questions right here and hope that anyone about to post the same question has a quick look at the articles first? 1. Why won't h...
All I want for christmas...
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16 December 2010: I hold my hands up to usually being quite shallow at christmas. Yes, I know it should all be about spending time with the people you love and while that's something i enjoy and look forward to, I'm sure I'm not the only one guilty of failing to ...
Think before you jump, because there might be a good reason
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23 February 2010: Okay so this valentines was the first one for my bf and I. I've known him for years but we only got together 10 months ago and I was determined to make it special. So valentines week comes around and he's having serious money problems (as was I to...
Why are women labelled as "shallow" if they voice their opinions on their partners appearance yet men can judge women entirely on their looks?
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24 November 2009: So my bf knew I didn't like facial hair on guys and found it unattractive. He grew a beard. I had to admit though that with his messy mop of dark hair it actually really suited him and he looks great. My bf knows I hate long hair on guys. So he an...
Becoming more than FWB
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15 September 2009: I see a lot of questions on here about people who are stuck in the FWB situation and often they want to know if there's a chance of becoming more. Most of the answers tell them that no, there isn't so I wanted to share my story. When I was in my la...
The reality of being a teen mum
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20 August 2009: I see a lot of young girls on here who want to become mothers so I thought I'd share a few thoughts on the reality of becoming a teenage mum. I was 16 when I fell pregnant, my boyfriend 18. I'd just finished my GCSE's and planned to go back to schoo...
Being yourself :)
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6 July 2009: I only wrote an article a little while ago but I like sharing little bits of life so here we go with another one! And by the way, I'm talking about men but obviously the same applies with women :) I often ask my male friends for advice. Every so...
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Think before you jump, because there might be a good reason
Q. Okay so this valentines was the first one for my bf and I. I've known him for years but we only got together 10 months ago and I was determined to make it special. So valentines week comes around and he's having serious money problems (as was I to...
A. 25 October 2010: well kittenpaws you certainly gave me something to think about! I honestly didn't see it that way and you make an excellant point!... (read in full...)
He wants to "catch" me with another woman, but I don't want any part of it! will I lose him?
Q. I have a bit of a problem at the moment. Me and my partner have been together for thirteen years or so now and we have a really good relationship. I mean sex is not always regular due to having three children and both or us working, but he has a ...
A. 24 October 2010: I think you've probably been giving this way too much thought and worked yourself up into believhat if it doesn't happen your husband will lose interest, I doubt this is the case at all.
As you said, it's always been a fantasy and you're only assu... (read in full...)
I cannot orgasm through sex alone... Is there something wrong with me?
Q. I cannot orgasm through sex, I have never done it. Is there something wrong with me or have I not met the right person yet?...
A. 24 October 2010: well you're not alone. Many many women have never achieved orgasm through intercourse. It doesn't mean you should stop trying though! knowing your body and what works for you really maximises your chances. ... (read in full...)
A Glimpse into Love
Q. I'm the kind of girl who goes around barefoot, fights pessimism daily, and has thoughts wild enough to graze with antelope. I've heard love on the radio- songs that sigh heartbreak or gush with joy at finding someone who truly grasped their he...
A. 21 October 2010: Really beautiful. You're a very talented writer and I hope you intend to share more articles with us!... (read in full...)
Am I able to have a successful relationship with a man?
Q. I am a female age 18 - 24 and I have absolutely no interest in sex what so ever! For some reason unknown to me, I find it one of the most disgusting and repelling acts known to mankind right underneath killing someone! Anyway, as emotionally jaded ...
A. 13 September 2010: Well I would've thought it was something you had been raised to believe until you said your mother was quite open. I'm not going to tell you that you should definitly seek help and try to get through this because that's your choice but I just feel ... (read in full...)
He is married and wont break up with me, Now I think I'm in love!
Q. Hi,i just want to ask some help about my turkish boyfriend now,he is married to a filipina like me ,,,they have two kids now,,i dont know if he really loves me,,how many many times i told him to break up with me ...
A. 13 September 2010: You told him to break up with you and he won't? Surely the answer is obvious...you break up with him! He will never leave his wife for you and I can't believe you'd want to be with a man like this anyway! Walk away now and find a real man. ... (read in full...)
Why won't he say 'I Love You'?
Q. My boyfriend won't say "I love you". We've been together almost 2 years now. He's 20 and I'm 18. We're even planning on moving in together next summer. When we started going out he just got out of a long relationship about a year ago. ...
A. 11 September 2010: Do you say it to him? If not then make the first move but remember you should never say I love you just to be expecting to hear it back, it should just be you expressing your emotions.
Sometimes though it's not the words that matter it's the acti... (read in full...)
Kids having sex!
Q. OK lately I see a lot of questions here where children from the age of 14-16,17 years think that they are old enough to have sex. They don't understand anything about it. They think that they are ready. There are even parents who agree with the idea ...
A. 10 September 2010: I totally get what you're saying and respect your point of view but I have to say I disagree. Yes, there are some 16 year olds who don't have the maturity to be having sex and there's no way they can understand the emotions involved and therefor... (read in full...)
Her boyfriend mistreats her, and I want her to be with me
Q. There is this girl I like, but she has a boyfriend. I'm always there for her when he hurts her and when she is upset with him or he isn't in the picture, my relationship with her is really close... but it seems like at the end of the day it's always ...
A. 10 September 2010: You've become her safety net. Yes, she's in a destructive relationship but for some crazy reason she loves him. She knows that you'll be there for her whenever she needs you and that's great that you are such a good friend to her but maybe sometimes ... (read in full...)
How do I convince him that taking a break for few months is not a really good idea?
Q. Hi My and me bf are together for an year. We are in LDR for a month and my bf says we need to take a break for couple of months and see what happens after that. i.e no Phone, Email, or IM chat anything. totally cut from each other for 2 months. I ...
A. 10 September 2010: You're right to be concerned, I think it's a terrible idea! One of the most important things in any relationship is to keep the lines of communication open at all times. This is especially important considering the two of you are apart at the ... (read in full...)
Am I overthinking this friend request?
Q. I am married and I'm a model.Recently i did a phoshoot with a guy for one of my jobs.We had a few hours together on the set so we chatted and hungout, we talked about our families, home countries etc etc.He seemed like a nice family guy and his girl ...
A. 10 September 2010: No you didn't do anything wrong. Maybe he hasn't been online? Even if he has and didn't respond, so what? Don't stress about it, theres plenty more people out there to meet!... (read in full...)
Giving my g/f the best orgasm?
Q. how can i give my girlfriend the best orgasim...
A. 10 September 2010: Every woman is so different, nobody can answer that except your gf! Get her to talk about what she really likes, what turns her on and what works for her when she's alone.
If shes too shy to speak about this then play around with different thin... (read in full...)
He wants to let things go "day by day". Do I wait?
Q. I'm single female w/no children. I have been dating this guy with 7 children for 4 months now. When we 1St started dating he stated he don't trust women and how his relationships never seem to last b/c of his job (bodyguard) and his children. I ...
A. 31 August 2010: four months isn't really that long and I don't necissarily think it's a bad idea to be taking things one day at a time at this stage of your relationship.
He's obviously been hurt before so it's no surprise he's reluctant to jump in feet first and ... (read in full...)
Ladies what do you think of male virgins?
Q. This is a prespective question for women. Ladies, what do you think of male virgins over the age of 20? We can break this up into differnent cateogories too. What's your opinion on these scenarios, and what can they do? The guy whos...
A. 30 August 2010: I don't think there are many women who would mind if a guy was a virgin or not. It's really not the first thing we consider!
Obviously if you met a guy who's waiting for marriage then you would have to be wanting the same thing or that could be kind... (read in full...)
I just don't trust her, I hate her past, I am miserble all day long and cant stop thinking about it.
Q. (im sorry im not the best story teller) My girlfriend and I have been dating for 1 1/2 years now. Im having trouble trust her and also cant stop thinking about her past! Its in my head all day long it drives me nuts. We are both 20 we have a 3 month ...
A. 30 August 2010: This sounds like a very destructive relationship. There are things that both of you need to change.
You say you treat her like a princess and yet you don't like her seeing her friends? and that she gets her 'little bitch attitude' that's no way to b... (read in full...)
Would an amusment park be a good first date?
Q. hello i just need ur opinions about something, is it a good idea to take a girl to an amusement park in your first date ? i mean some games might be scary and the girls might not like getting that feeling in a first date lol but im just wonderin...
A. 30 August 2010: I think it's a great idea! it's different which almost any girl will love rather than the usual dinner, drinks etc. Also no matter how much you like someone, nerves can take over on a first date and this way you have a chance to chat and get to know ... (read in full...)
Freaked out BF in bed and he left!
Q. ok -- this is going to take a second so I will do a TL;DR. first, this is a throwaway account b/c... so, here's the deal: tonight I totally freaked out my boyfriend. I had hidden a piece of a hot dog (about 2 inches) which I had broken off before ...
A. 30 August 2010: well it's a strange one! It was just a joke so I don't see why he's so freaked out unless he has some kind of phobia about hot dogs...! anyway, let him cool off and when he comes round (which he will) ask him what it was that freaked him so much.
M... (read in full...)
Unique gift ideas :)
Q. OK here are some unique gift ideas you can use to spice up you and your partners life. Last year my bf turned 27 and I wanted to make the day special for him and to keep him busy with excitement: 1) Since he turned 27 I took a marker and drew ...
A. 3 August 2010: great ideas :) exactly the kinda stuff i do as it means so much more than just handing over money for something. Really like the idea of drawing hearts on you and getting him to undress you, might try that on my bf! ... (read in full...)
I need the things that money cant buy! How do I get him to make me feel like a woman again?
Q. hi, here's what i'd like to know. i been with this man for going on three years,when we first go with one another this man made me feel good about myself he told me how nice i looked when id dress up and put make up on ,he made me feel like he ...
A. 14 May 2010: have you spoken to him about this? You certainly can't go on the way you are now so I think it's time for an honest chat.
Maybe he doesn't even realise how bad things have got, you say he works seven days a week so it could be that he's blind to w... (read in full...)
My gf doesn't want a lot of contact with me and ignores me! What's her game?
Q. I'm in a relationship which is a year and six month,recently everything seems to be coming to an end.My girl friend is acting so strange,she wouldn't come to see me the way she always do.Whenever i call her to come,she would promise,but will not ...
A. 14 May 2010: Can you think of anything you might have done to upset her? Have you shown any less interest in her yourself? If so she might be trying to give you a bit of space.
There's obviously something playing on her mind if this is unusual behaviour for her.... (read in full...)
Now that we're broken up I wonder... did I focus too much on superficial things?
Q. Should I listen to my gut, or listen to my heart? When my boyfriend and I were together, I had some worries. We had a difficult time having deep conversations... most of our conversations were about each other's day, that kind of thing. but we re...
A. 14 May 2010: You could ask this man to change things but even then he can't change who he actually is and you sound like 2 very different prople.
It's always easy to look back when a relationship ends and think 'maybe I was too much of this' or 'maybe I didn... (read in full...)
Should I interfere in my daughter's relationship after the way he behaved or should I leave it alone?
Q. Hi, I need some advice re my daughter. She is 21 and a student doing well at college. Unfortunately she got involved with a guy who although he seems quite sweet etc etc, is not working and not at college but after some pressure from her, is now ...
A. 26 February 2010: I wouldn't mention the things he said in the waiting room to his parents. I don't think that would achieve anything, what are they going to do about it? The way he's behaved is completely unacceptable but has he ever spoken to her that way before? ... (read in full...)
Without a boyfriend but the urges are strong.
Q. I am 13 and want to make out (or have sex) with a guy. i am afraid if i have sex i will get pregnant. besides i dont have a boyfriend so I can not satisfy my craving to make out. what should I do?...
A. 26 February 2010: Well it's quite natural to be thinking about this but even when you do get a bf I think you're still quite young to handle the emotional responsibility of a sexual relationship. I agree with the realist, get a sex toy or something. That said, if you ... (read in full...)
How much time should I give myself before dating again?
Q. when you break up with your partner to allow yourself enough time to get over the person a good time line to follow is: for every year you were together add one month i.e 1 year 1 month 2 years 2 months. Add another two months onto the tota...
A. 26 February 2010: Good advice! I was with my ex for 7yrs and although I went on a few casual dates, it was exactly a year before I got into another relationship. I know I definitly needed that time and I don't know how anybody can come out of a serious relationship ... (read in full...)
How do I get through the break up process? Should I get revenge or get over him?
Q. My boyfriend (ex, actually) and I were together for 3 and a half years. He has a huge issue with my past, because when I was 15 I had a huge, unrequited crush on my then best guy friend. This guy was a little older, and he liked me a lot, but just ...
A. 26 February 2010: Wow he is incredibly immature! You have done nothing wrong, everybody has a history. How can he justify breaking up with you for something that happened before you even knew him?!
I know it's not what you want to hear but if I were you I'd focu... (read in full...)
Since I had sex with him he seems uninterested.
Q. I had sex with this boy, i really liked him but knew we wernt ever gonna be together, cuz i just knew basically... just whenever i see him in school now he holds my hand in a way of sayin 'you kool' sorta thing, like im just any girl to him, it ...
A. 26 February 2010: You're not dumb, stop beating yourself up about this so much. This is so common at your age, girls mature a lot faster and while you may have been holding out hope of a relationship, he was just after the sex. I know it's painful but you can tell ... (read in full...)
Will my boobs ever grow?
Q. Hey ppl, i'm 14 years old and i'm still a 32A. It's so depressing and i keep crying about it. Do you think it will EVER grow?? What age does a girl stop developing?? and If there's ANYTHING to help it to grow quicker?? Thankyou for your reply ...
A. 25 February 2010: You've still got plenty of time to develop. I can't tell you that you definitly will but most girls are not at their full adult breast size at your age. Do you know what size your mum is? You'll usually end up being something similar. Even if you d... (read in full...)
My boyfriend complains and accuses me of cheating
Q. My boyfriend is STILL complaining about me being too loose down there and accusing me of cheating. I have tried desperately to no end to tighten my vaginal muscles; ben wa balls, smart balls, china shrink cream, tighten her uo sure grip gel, ...
A. 25 February 2010: Being loose is not your problem. He is! I promise you that even if you did tighten up he wouldn't treat you any better and you'd still be feeling depressed. Stop trying to do everything you can to please him, including putting up with this abuse. ... (read in full...)
Has shaving given me a rash or have I caught an STD from his pre-cum?
Q. I recently decided to shave my vagina to see how it would work, especially since my bf and I became sexually active. The first time I shaved it was all good, when I shaved it again and rash has started to form and its really itchy. My boyfriend and ...
A. 25 February 2010: This won't happen after a while. Always use an extra sensitive gel, a new razor every time and luke warm water. Apply a litttle cream afterwards like sudocream or something similar. Oh and I'd mention the whole unprotected sex issue as well of cours... (read in full...)
Can you get anything longer lasting for your nails other than nail varnish?
Q. I have long natural nails, the length of your typical false nail. I more often than not wear a 'french manicure' style varnish with the white tips.. My problem is that the nail varnish doesn't last long and often chips or flakes off, so i'm ...
A. 25 February 2010: There's this gel stuff you can have put on. It's like a nail varnish but because it's gel it last ages and properly coats the nails. I was reading about it, it's available at larger salons.... (read in full...)
How do I reconcile with a life of at least 30 more years of not being in a mutually loving relationship?
Q. I feel doomed for life. Except for short periods of time, I don't believe I've ever been with someone where both people felt mutually and enduringly in love with one another. I know people who never fall out of love, and I too have gone through long ...
A. 25 February 2010: I understand what you're saying. I'm 24 and I've yet to be in a relationship where both the man and I are equal in our feelings! It's not nice in either situation, being the one that's more in love OR being well aware that your partner loves you ... (read in full...)
It bothers me when my girlfriend masturbates. Can you help me understand why?
Q. Preface: My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. We've been sexually active for slightly longer than we've dated. That aside. My problem: It bothers me when she masturbates. But the problem is, I can't pin point why. Its the "hear...
A. 25 February 2010: I'm not surprised it bothers you if she's getting the job done herself and losing interest in sex with you! In one way it's a good thing, the more she knows her own body and learns what she likes and what she doesn't, the better her sex life wil... (read in full...)
Fight I thought was over is resurfacing...
Q. This isn't funny to me, but maybe it will be hilarous to you. My boyfriend and I have been going out for over a year. I love him to bits, but he's not a boyfriend. He doesn't kiss me in public, he doesn't put his arm around my shoulders... It's like ...
A. 24 February 2010: returningthefavor said it so well, in fact I'm not sure there's much I can add to that so I hope you take his advice! Did you actually say outright that he needs to be a better bf? If you did his pride is probably hurt and you'll quickly learn that ... (read in full...)
Just A Statement.....
Q. I just wanted to wish each and every person who visits this site a Very Happy Valentines Day! Whether you are with someone or not, here's wishing you all happiness, good health, and prosperity! ~Brooklyngirl~...
A. 24 February 2010: Well I'm probably a little late answering this but I can't believe you didn't get any replies to that! Hope you had a fantastic valentines :)... (read in full...)
Oh, And Another Thing...
Q. Pinkee here~I just thought of another one that you guys seem to be spending waaaay too much time worrying about (see last week’s post, “It’s All Good, Guys”)- your height. As an exotic dancer, I know this because I wear high heels. I try not to ...
A. 24 February 2010: Great article :) You're right, we spend too much time worrying over height issues...and I'm so guilty of it lol. When I was single and dating I was very picky and refused to consider guys that weren't taller than myself. Then I got with my partner ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend that I keep having moments where I really want to get pregnant?
Q. ok i have been having some moments where out of the clear blue sky i want to get pregnant and then i snap back to normal. should i tell my boyfriend about this or should i let it go and forget about it?...
A. 24 February 2010: I wouldn't mention this to your bf. You say you think about and then 'snap back to normal' and it's not unusual for girls your age to start thinking about becoming a mother. You're a young woman now so it's quite normal to have these maternal urges, ... (read in full...)
Should cheaters get a second chance?
Q. I found out my boyfriend cheated on me because I checked his email. He has since then apologized, said he really wants to be with me, and has treated me much better like when we first started dating. (I knew something was different when he was with ...
A. 24 February 2010: Everybody's different. We can't tell you wheather or not your bf will cheat again. My partner of 7yrs cheated on me so I know the pain you're going through. I didn't forgive him and from what I can gather he's still the same with the women he dates ... (read in full...)
She wants to talk tonight....what should I say to her?
Q. My girlfriend and i have been on a break for a week and a half. She is the one who wanted to break up for a while. I havent been texting her or calling her lately and today she said it feels like i fell off the face of the earth. She said that she ...
A. 24 February 2010: It sounds like she has a problem with the fact you haven't called or texted her so make it clear that although you would've loved to speak with her, you thought she wanted some space and you were just trying to offer her that.
All you can do is b... (read in full...)
My girlfriend told me I would be a terrible person to have around during childbirth! Why does she have something against me?
Q. Just a quick one cos i am completely clueless... My gf and I were watching a delivery program tonight following various women through their labours and births. During the show she remarked that I would be a terrible person to have around and i pro...
A. 24 February 2010: I think this has really been blown out of all proportion, it's not like she's even pregnant and how could something as small as this make her question your whole relationship? I think there must be an underlying problem, it just seems this has ... (read in full...)
Why are men so cruel when it comes to dating us curvier women?
Q. Ok..I previously posted a question...I went on a blind date with a gentlement who I was talking to for 2 weeks..we were constantly on the phone and texting galore..It felt fantastic, he learned about me and I of him... I'm not big, but I'm not a ...
A. 23 February 2010: What an complete ass! He is not worth worrying over hun, you sound like a lovely person so don't sell yourself short with guys like this, you deserve someone as special as you are.
Size 10 is not chubby! and it doesn't matter wheather you're a 10 o... (read in full...)
I don't get on with my mum, how do I tell my parents I am pregnant?
Q. I'm 15 years old. Yesterday i found out im pregnant. The father is not my boyfriend and never was. I have never been more scared in my life. My parents are divorced and I live with my dad because me and my mom don't get along. My mom is re-married ...
A. 23 February 2010: I've been checking this question regularly as it's very close to home for me and I wanted to see what advice you were getting.
I have to say i strongly disagree with Denise32. I understand her thoughts and opinions, it's the way many people feel... (read in full...)
I don't get on with my mum, how do I tell my parents I am pregnant?
Q. I'm 15 years old. Yesterday i found out im pregnant. The father is not my boyfriend and never was. I have never been more scared in my life. My parents are divorced and I live with my dad because me and my mom don't get along. My mom is re-married ...
A. 23 February 2010: I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this hun, I know pretty much how you're feeling, I was pregnant at 16 and also didn't get on with my mum. We had a terrible relationship and she'd thrown me out of the house several times, but she was the ... (read in full...)
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